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How the fuck do you get a job?
In college, I was a working student. I worked in my campus' safety/security area for two and a half years and started doing menial shit like patrolling the campus. They promoted me pretty quickly to doing employee evaluations and managing the call center and then again to doing HR stuff like interviewing, scheduling, on-boarding and maintaining records, etc. I don't really want to work in security so I've been applying to HR and Administrative roles without luck. I graduated in Aug 2015 and have been looking since without...
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yikes, what major?
Did you quit your job without having one lined up?
>>16896618
I didn't quit because I wanted to. I had to leave because you can only work that job if you're a student and living on campus.
>>16896616
That's probably where I fucked up. I studied Linguistics expecting to go into forensics but i can't afford Grad School right now. I admit it's not an especially in demand BA unless I wanted to teach or to go into Speech pathology but it's the only thing that interested me
How do I cut out my family? What kind of feels am I to expect?
Looking for advice from others that have gone through with it.
family members I'm cutting out:
>mother
>three sisters
>>their children & husbands
I have already cut my father out, but that was a lot easier as he had proved himself worthless from the get-go.
By not talking to them anymore.
Other than that, everything depends on you personally/your situation.
Dont cut out all family. You need a fall back plan somewhere. Who gonna get your ass if u end up in jail. Who gonna give you a place to sleep if you get framed and fired (dont tell me that wont happen because ive done that to someone) u think your friend is gonna have your back? You think your friend will have your back in 5 years? Thatd be a 5th of your life. Alot can cahnge.
>>16896629
How black are you?
How come every single rapper in the "trap/drill" scene have a perfect hairline? Does being a trap nigga make you keep your hair?
>>16896564
They go to the barbershop
Haircuts can be addictive. Just thinking about it makes me want a fresh cut
Yeah but they don't go bald at all
How do I get an Asian gf and which Asian is best Asian? I dated a Filipino and after dating her and numerous other women i've realized Asian is masterrace for women. What's the cut-off income for mail order brides?
Maybe you should try looking further than skin deep.
>>16896573
it's not the skin, it's the culture and personalities. Very traditional and loyal.
>>16896559
just be white and move to california
self-hating asian girls will flock to you in droves
Hi. I should be getting ready for college but I can't get past highschool because I'm failing really hard and I can't study anymore.
Things keep getting worse and worse. I'm a third-worlder, ex-muslim and an autistic(great combo right?).
Year by year it only gets worse, I was turned to homeschooling because of mental health issues that affected learning capabilities, I have no friends, and I'm now extremely introverted, so deeply introverted that I have dangerously low levels of Vitamin D because of it and I can't walk properly. I'm a...
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Have any of you purposefully ended your relationship with your family? (No, I'm not talking murder here.)
My family is toxic. I worry about not having family though, and am afraid I would feel like a shit-human if I went through with it.
I want to tell them what I think of them, but I don't know if explicitly saying, "I no longer want anything to do with you," is wise.
This will probably manifest in the form of a letter.
Any and all advice welcome. (I can tell 'my story' if need be.)
>>16896517
>toxic
First of all: stop using buzzwords. If they're awful people they're awful people, if they're racist they're racist. All the word toxic serves to do is hide overreaction and make stuff sound worse than it is, while not at all being descriptive of the situation.
Second of all: Stop talking to them. If they try to invite you to sonething say you don't want to go. No need to be over dramatic about it. Just stop bending to their whims.
Separate entirely and cut off forms of communication
>>16897137
Stop telling me how to describe something you know nothing about.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h_sC7z2p0Q0
>>16896502
Pretty good video, OP.
I like his brain...whoever he is.
I second Anon's sentiment...thanks a bundle.
I'm not really sure if this is the right place to post this. Hopefully it won't look like bait.
Femanon here, I just found out that my ex slept with another woman before we ended our relationship about a month ago and has apparently begun to spread rumors about me having given him herpes, something I couldn't have possibly done as he was the first person I ever had sexual contact with, and if anything I would have contracted something from him.
I know this will sound childish and petty, but my group of friends suggested we spread rumors about him being...
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Grow the fuck up and walk away from this bull shit, you graduated high school already.
This is going to be a relatively quick thread.
I'm autistic, severe anxiety, the meds help, but basically I have trouble expressing emotions and making facial expressions to match those emotions. Socialization is typically strange, and at times a painful experience.
With this said, I'm a cellist as well. There is one girl who I met who has continued being my friend despite my social short comings and general need for attention. I understand she has no romantic inclination towards me so far, but it would be a lie if I said I did not feel anything towards...
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>>16896476
>Autist in need of normans
Sorry, but this is a saxon board.
>Is writing a symphony (yes, an entire symphony) for her "over board"?
If you haven't already asked her out, then yes.
Actually, the problem isn't so much in writing the symphony, per se. The problem is hiding your feelings for long enough to write a symphony. Writing a symphony for your girlfriend is awesome. Writing a symphony for someone you're too...
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Chances are it would make her feel odd and alienate her.
On the bright side, it's an amazing footnote for a work of art.
Do it OP, nothing to lose.
>>16896506
Thanks anon, see I don't know what "creepy" would be but its good to know now. Who knows, maybe if I shape up to be a person she is interested in I can tell her in the future.
>>16896521
I'll make it about her but do it for myself. Footnote indeed anon. Thank you.
How do I move to somewhere like nyc or Miami from a shitty small town? I've never seen anyone here even visit Miami like Tampa is the farthest they get. It's like you're not allowed to touch one of the magical cities if you're from a small town unless you get really rich somehow which doesn't happen in small towns
>>16896456
I live in NYC and i can't even find a fucking job to help my parents with the rent or myself with student loans, so I have to question your motives
>>16896465
Want to produce music and live somewhere where there's no hillbillies
>>16896456
>Find out how much everything costs in the city you are planning to move to
>get a job and try to save money
>save enough for all immediate expenses and a couple months rent/bills
>move there and then look for a new job
This is the safe way to do it. I know some people that just packed a bag and found some roommates without anything planned. Much more shit can go wrong with that approach though
I've been trying to get to know this girl I met at a debate tournament for the past couple months but it's been kind of weird. We'll have pretty good conversations about interesting stuff and then all of the sudden she'll
stop texting me. Then a month to
two months later I'll see her again at a debate tournament and she's super friendly and we talk and then later she'll text me and we'll start talking again. This has been an ongoing pattern for the past few months. It would be one thing if she weren't interested, but I see...
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>>16896449
She likes you, and how you make her feel, but after a couple weeks of not seeing you she will be texting some other dudes who actually see her. So then she doesn't need your attention anymore, you're chopped liver
>>16896449
You're a debater, and it shows, you're too analytical, stop citing conversations as fact to a way she feels towards you. Nothing in human nature is that concrete.
When she stops texting you maybe push yourself past the uncomfortable point of resurrecting the conversation by initiating it yourself.
Inviting you to her church is not that odd of a thing. I've had a lot of invites to church from girls that I've taken knowing it was simply an invite to take part in their religion and just check it out.
I would say stop trying to read into her responses so much and don't build such a solid story of her from them.
And again initiate conversation with her more often.
Ask her out in person. Maybe she just dosnt care about texting. I cant begin to tell you how little I care about texting and why its dumb. Next debate just say u think she is neato or something stupid and ask if she would like to meet in person.
Also if u want to get to know her go to her church and chat with her... fuck op how can u say u want to get to know her if she gives you the opportunity and u dont take it.
Subject says It all.
I feel absent whenever I am reading, going backwards most of the times to read and re read simple sentences because I just dont get em.
Not only that, but it takes me a ridiculous amount of time to read a page (5+ mins)
What the fuck is going on?
pls respond
I need the help of the psychologist from ADV
asap
Could be dyslexia, or otherwise concentration issues. Talk to your doctor about this, not here, please.
>>16896468
>not here please
Why not? Would you prefer me to discuss about my gf cheating on me while fucking a bunch of BBCs and asking you if I should forgive her like the rest of /adv/?
I've been thinking about killing myself for a long time.
What should I do before ending my life? Should I leave a note?
>>16896418
You should leave notes, novels, books.
You should empty your head on words, drawings, photographies.
Death is not only the ceasing of life, it's a whole universe, your spirit, wits, imagination, that goes into the grave.
Even in desperate moments like this, your own universe is working.
Make a piece of it real.
Extend this piece to touch other people's mind and heart.
Art is a form of expression for sentiments and feelings, try them.
A dark hour is a bright writing.
Donate a kidney, a lung, etc. give as much back as you can.
Don't fucking kill yourself.
Also, >>16896477 is full of shit. Depression is depressing, not super motivating to help you write fiction.
Recently moved to the Portland, Maine area, anyone have any advice on getting a medical marijuana card?
My thread from yesterday was archived so I'm going to add on to it. It's not the same thing as what I posted yesterday it's just a continuation. anyways here we go
I know of this girl at school. I don't have any classes with her but I see her in the halls sometimes. I find her very attractive. I requested to follow her on insta and she accepted and did the same. how should I go about starting conversation with her? or am I supposed to know the people to do that?
>>16896388
ah shit I used the wrong picture
