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>gorgeous 9/10 girl messages me on tinder
>we start talking
>she's intelligent, kind, kinky
>instantly hit it off right away
>talk throughout the day every day for 6 days
>she sends me nudes on snapchat
>asks me to send some naughty pictures for her "me time"
>i send them, she says she's excited and is gonna wait until she's alone to open then
>opens them the next day
>within 30 seconds i'm unmatched on tinder and blocked on snapchat without a word
feels awful... makes me want to give up on life since a matter out of my control is making it hell
here's a pic, is it really tiny / gross? i dunno. i know i won't be doing porn anytime soon but i didn't think i'd be instantly rejected like that...
http://imgur. com/BYaItVw
>>16893956
>http://imgur. com/BYaItVw
its not bad at all. i wouldnt say its in the top percentage of ratatas, but its not a big deal. how long is it? looks at the very least to be average. who knows what she was doing. the bigger issue is you are chubby. if she was really a 9/10 she might have been a pic collector.
Its an alright cock. Chances are she just wanted a quick thing or just didnt want to keep going with it. Bright side is you got nudes
>>16893963
>>16893970
yeah, I don't know, she was super fit. she knew I was chubby, she even said "don't worry, everyone can improve their bodies". I go to the gym 3x a week and eat a very low amount of calories so I should be losing weight.
I'm just afraid now the next time I go to have sex I'm gonna be laughed at and humiliated. I've slept with one girl who never complained or said anything about it but I've always been super self conscious. it's like 5.75inches hard but a little on the thin side.
what's a pic collector?
Hey /adv/, I'm looking to finally move out of my parents' house, but I have no idea how renting an apartment works. I mean, you obviously pay your landlord rent and whatnot, but how does one pay/hook up utilities like water, hydro, electricity, heat etc.? What if I wanted Internet? Would you have to clear that with your landlord if installation and shit is involved?
Just find a place that advertises that all those utilities are available already. (They typically are, but it simplifies things if it explicitly states it in the ad listing which ones the landlord pays for and which ones the tenant pays.)
Sometimes utilities are included, sometimes not. Sometimes rental properties might come with furnishings or whiteware, and sometimes they won't. It really depends on the place, it'll either say, or you can just ask when you go to see a place. Generally speaking, if it's a higher price than similar properties in the area, it'll probably come with something extra.
>>16894044
though don't assume that, a lot of prices are just arbitrarily higher in my experience
I'm 20, he's 35. He's from Europe, but is here in America on business. We met because I work part time at a hotel. We have been talking and having sex for a few weeks.
I found out that he's technically married but hasn't been with her in a year. She followed him to America and is obsessed with him. She also keeps calling him and somehow she found out about me.
He says they're separated, so it's not a problem. He also gets mad when I refer to her as his wife and not ex.
We had unprotected sex a few times. So that just makes this whole thing even worse. He has two kids.
pic unrelated
So... what's your question
OP that's wrong and you know it.
How do you get over a break up over a girl you really loved
Drink, eat, cry, theres never been a sure fire way of getting over a breakup quick or effectively unless you were just doing it for the poon. Just gotta wait a month or two until you feel better.
>im 21m
>betafag
>furfag
>ponyfag
> I thought my friend was interested me
>she 19
> she was giving me the female signals saying that she liked me
> I asked my other female friends if I was reading the signals right
> 3 are straight
> 2 lesbian
> they told me to go for it
>asked her out
> she said she was not ready for a relationship
> I was fine
> One of the main reasons I asked her out is because I wanted to try actually dating a real woman
> A month later
> she still on my mind a little
> I had a dream last night that we made love
> my feelings for her are flip-flopping I don't know how to feel about her
> I don't know if I should give her time and then see what happens
> or stick with ponies and furry females.
> what do you think I should do /adv/
Clean your teeth with bleach, just pour it all in there until your teeth start to sizzle
>>16893905
You either read the signals wrong, or she's not interested in you.
Credit to you for trying. You can't be that beta if you had the confidence to talk with her.
But put her out of your mind now. She knows you're interested, so if she changes her mind, she will come to you. If you ask her again, she'll just start to get creeped out.
get tinder and be honest with your profile. Keep putting it out there.
A place were you can sit in a tub a just relax. Hearing the water pour on you or the tub while listening to the mist fog....like a jungle. Except your being attacked by a tiger. Whats better is that the i can pet the tiger :)
Anyhow. Any place that i can go? Im surrounded by endorphins
1520 Summit Ave, Seattle, WA 98122
>coworker sets me up with one of her friends
>start talking, great chemistry and have sex 2 weeks after meeting her
>mfw it's been 2 weeks since that time
>last 3 or 4 times we were supposed to me she either flakes out or doesn't text me back
>I know she works 2 jobs and goes to school so our schedule doesn't really mesh well
>try to tell her that if she doesn't want to see each other anymore then it's fine etc
>get a 3 page response saying that she's just been really busy and we can hang out whenever she gets off of work/school
>was supposed to hang out yesterday
>no response
>was supposed to hang out tonight
>no response
Am I missing something here? She always texts me first thing in the morning and seems genuinely interested in me when we do text or talk on the phone. But whenever it's time to actually go do something she leaves me hanging 100% of the time.
>>16893887
just "friendzone" her mentally, don't expect to hang out anymore
respond to her texts until you get fed up with it
if she starts asking why aren't you responding, just say you're busy or w/e and let it die off, simple as that
>>16893896
If she wasn't so adamant about keeping in touch with me I'd suspect that's what's she's doing to me lmao
But ya I can try that approach and see where it goes from there.
>>16893921
but we really can't say for sure she isn't interested in hanging out with you if she's really as busy as she sounds; maybe she's stringing you along, maybe she likes you, can't tell for sure for now, but you'll find out sooner or later
My father seems very dissapointed in the fact I don't have any friends.
It eats at me when he brings it up. How do I get him to drop it?
>>16893881
move out.
So I recently moved off to college and am making a handful of really meaningful friendships that I value tremendously. Really, I'm having friends for the first time in my life, and I love it. I have never been happier.
But now I'm realizing that... well... what happens after college? When we all move separate ways, get married, move away, never see each other again? What's the point? Why make friends if eventually they're just going to... be gone?
I'm struggling with this idea. Like I mentioned, I've never had any close friends until now, and that's it's own set of insecurities. For instance, I feel like I want these relationships to get too intimate, too fast (not sexually, obviously, but literally intimate - close). I feel like I need to cling to them in fear of losing them. That's neither here nor there though. Another post, another time.
My real concern is this feeling eating away at me that is like "this is so fleeting and not permanent." That depresses me.
Anyone else feel like that?
>>16893877
something isn't beautiful because it lasts.
>why make friends if eventually they're just going to.. be gone?
you are alive now, correct? you can enjoy moments that are happening now? you can enjoy that cake that wont be there in 15 minutes. you can enjoy that show that is being cancelled this year. you can watch a movie that doesn't get a sequel.
you have friends in your life because they are where you are. after this a lot of them are going to go their own way. some might stay close. some might stay closer. some might never even talk to you on facebook after the fact. its life.
but why do they have to be there when you are sixty? why? wont you have new friends then? whats wrong with having new friends then?
nothing lasts forever. you shouldn't have to submit yourself to a friendless life just because they dont either.
>>16893877
I went to five highschools because I was a military kid. should i just not have bothered having friends because they wouldnt be there when i moved away? we enjoy the people in our lives because they happen to be there and we happen to enjoy them. it doesn't matter if they are going to be gone tomorrow if they can make you smile today.
>>16893913
>>16893918
These are excellent points, but it still kind of hurts, I guess. I've been told I love fiercely and completely, and it feels like if I invest my heart into the hearts of others, and life takes them away, the pain is too great. That's why I'm not concerned with, like, dating relationships. When I find the right one, I can fucking marry her and we'll always be together. Male friendships and platonic female friendships, that's a different story.
Am I weird?
In an alarming turn of events I have realised I'm not actually an introvert but an insecure, depressed extrovert with no social skills and no friends.
What do I do now?
Bump because I need help.
Work on it. I dont have social skills either but just uttering a Hi here and there is enough to get someones attention.
Fix the depression
What does /adv/ice think about paternity tests?
There are an estimated 3 to 6 million *married* men in the US raising children they think are theirs but really aren't. Genetic analysis of other countries shows the same 1-2% rate of involuntary cucking.
To me, this means that every man should get a paternity test for each baby he and his wife have. To me, a little swab and $100 bucks is a cheap price to pay for peace of mind, especially given the state of the law in the country. Under most State laws, a man has *at most* until the kid is 2 years old to get a paternity test. After that, if you signed on the dotted line, you're financially responsible for child support.
A woman can literally defraud you, cheat on you, have you raise a baby that isn't yours... and if you take her to court and show the baby isn't yours? The court will take away your parental custody rights and force you to continue paying child support.
There are cases where a man gets cucked and then has to pay child support while the biological father is *married to the cheating wife and living in the non-biological father's ex-home.*
Every woman I have ever brought this up to has had a violent and negative reaction to the idea of taking paternity tests. Men are expected to enter into a legally binding contract with the government that's totally unnecessary for anything except tax breaks (marriage), but can't take a paternity test?
Am I just never going to be able to get married? Because that seems very selfish to me. Women see it very differently.
You're getting a negative reaction because if the rate is only 1-2%, you are telling the other 99-98% of women, literally millions of women, that you're just going to assume that they are also cheating liars. Most would find that personally insulting.
That's like saying since the majority of rapists are male (with either female or other male victims), that means all males should wear a warning sign or be tracked at all times, right? For peace of mind? Because obviously if there are 6% of men who are rapists, the rest of the male population should consent to GPS tracking at all times, just to make sure they aren't out there raping. You would find that suggestion personally insulting, yes?
Or, you could just not ever get married if you can't get over that 1-2% of women. That's what I recommend.
>>16893867
I have no input to help but just gonna post another oscar meme
>>16893926
> you are telling the other 99-98% of women, literally millions of women, that you're just going to assume that they are also cheating liars. Most would find that personally insulting
Point taken.
As far as the rapist shit, that's just a false analogy. Getting a paternity test is a father's right under the law. The law also offers no protection for men that fall into the 1-2%.
>the rest of the male population should consent to GPS tracking at all times
That's no one's right and the law offers protection to rape victims.
The law does NOT offer protection to defrauded husbands....except paternity testing at birth. It's very different.
Furthermore, all men DO pay for the 6% - it's called stranger danger. Men put up with it all the time even though we're not rapists. I don't find it insulting; I'm tolerant of it even though I'm not a rapist because I want the girl to feel safe. So I change the way I act - I keep my cool, I stay away from large hand gestures, I do not creep, etc. So men DO modify their behavior because of the 6%.
The other day I was talking to someone that I'm trying to become friends with. I was making a bunch of jokes and they were laughing at them, but how can I know that they were laughing for real and that they don't actually think I'm an unfunny dumbass that they just barely tolerate? Did I fuck it all up?
That's like asking how you know if someone is a cheater. You don't.
Put your insecurities aside and let it go.
My classmates are always in a good mood and seem to get along with each-other because of it. I stay quiet and keep to myself because I live with chronic depression and have nothing fun or nice to say. I feel like my classmates don't connect with me well because i'm always visibly in a shit mood.
How can I create an illusion of a well put together person to make other people comfortable with interacting with me?
>>16893850
its not worth it man, you'll just feel worse
I'm planning in getting a new PC. But I don"t know shit about it. Do you guys recommend building one piece by piece or buy a full complete one?
I have a good quantity of money saved, so that's no problem. My objective is to get one PC that can handle the nowaday games on ultra settings.
Just build your own, it's a lot cheaper and really easy.
You can use pchound.com to find compatible parts. Google a guide on how to put it all together.
>>16893855
Oh, you right, I saw a guide on imgur. Thanks
How do I regain my motivation, specifically in school? I'm close to finishing up my senior year in high school, and I'm just not up to it anymore. I understand that as a senior it's probably normal to be tired of high school by now but I'm straight up apathetic in school this semester. I've always been the "lazy, smart, so much potential" kid in school, but I've always passed my classes with at least a C. This semester, I'm straight up failing my AP Chem class, and doing horrible in all my other classes. My problem now is that I flat-out can't focus in class anymore, like I've lost all interest. I want to enjoy and do well in my classes, but I end up either listening to music, daydreaming, or simply dozing off during a lesson. I've tried energy drinks and coffee to stay alert in class, and I've even been regularly taking "FocusFactor" pills my parents picked up from Costco a while back. Nothing works.
Am I just broken as a student?
self bampe
