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my gf when on a trip for china today and i miss her so much and i love her lots! what can i do to help from feeling sad?
>>16892753
Break up with her before she cucks you with some chink scum.
>>16892753
I'll send you a postcard of her sucking my xiang dong
she's going to be a literal pincushion for little Asian dicks
My girlfriend of 8 months could possibility be pregnant(we are both 18) she has the implant but has still missed her period and is suffering many symptoms of an earlier pregnancy as wel.l I love her more than anything and we have previously discussed what would happen if she got pregnant. Which is too get rid of the baby. Do I have any reason to worry as we have both agreed on an abortion or should I be fine?
>>16892739
She didn't lie did she? You don't want a kid, right?
Shit happens man, get a test and talk it out.
>>16892739
>Do I have any reason to worry as we have both agreed on an abortion or should I be fine?
Yes
>>16892739
So you think she may not do good on her promise if it comes to it?
You know her, we don't.
I'm 21 and too terrified to drive and my parents are getting ready to force me to drive despite walking to college almost every day. I just know if I had a car I'd drive myself right off a cliff or slam into a pole/tree with my seatbelt off.
What the fuck do I even do
>>16892731
Ffs, take some lessons.
>>16892754
>take some lessons dude that'll make you less suicidal
thanks bro
>>16892731
Learn to drive.
Pass.
Never drive again.
I didn't want to drive, but because I was afraid but because I just don't enjoy driving at all. I went through it all. Afterwards I was like nah. Not my thing me. Too expensive. I even got a car given to be but insurance was too much and I never took it out anyway and they eventually got the message.
Regarding crashing and shit. Don't worry, it's easy to learn. Boring too, but whatever. Just go with it.
What is a stable job I can get to support myself while I follow my dreams of making art? I'm single and don't mind living in a shitty apartment.
Anything? Work in a bar, work at McDonalds, work in a coffee shop, work in retail, work for your local council/government/whatever. There's a lot of jobs out there.
>>16892736
This, the possibilities are endless. Apply for everything. Even if you are accepted to and interview, you don't have to take the job.
>be me
>Just finished reading a book my teacher recommended (it was The Wild Trees)
>We talk about it
>He sees I'm reading The Fellowship of the Ring
>Asks if I've read it before
>I tell him no
>"Oh." He seems disappointed. Then the bell rings
I don't even know why this is bothering me. I feel like I somehow made a mistake?
He was hoping you were a Tolkein fan and y'all could nerd it up together. You failed him, young padawan.
Thanks this reply made me feel 10x better
I'm a kitchen department manager at a restaurant. A new girl at work has asked me every day this what time I get off. When I ask why, shes says "I was just curious." She also makes physical contact with me (touching my arm or back) or says my name whenever she walks by.
Now all that sounds like typical flirty bullshit and that I should hop on that train, right? But the problem I have is that she apparently told another girl there that she was attracted to a different manager, but that was when she was brand new and probably didn't know what our names...
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She probably is insecure about her sexuality / doesn't know how to express her feelings. Just stay away, and pretend like nothing, that's my advice.
>>16892706
So just don't bother, huh? Alright then.
>>16892684
>Is that a reasonable assumption to make?
No
>should I ask her out?
No
Expect either batshit or a lawsuit, possibly both, if you hook up with her. It's your place of work and one shouldn't shit where he eats. Especially in a restaurant.
wondering if you guys had any suggestions on a job that doesn't drug test and hires at 18 yrs old.
>>16892671
Quit drugs you junkie fuck.
1. Stop doing drugs
2. Mail delivery boy, graveyard worker, park worker.
>>16892691
if you consider me a junkie for smoking cannabis medicinally then go ahead I guess haha.
Hey /adv/
I've been slowly losing interest and happiness in my life.
There's not a single satisfying thing in my life.
I have a girlfriend and I don't love her, I just have her because I don't want to 'be a loser'. I have many friends but our friendships start to burn out. I have a good job and I get a lot of money, but buying stuff makes me happy only for a short time.
I don't have any hobbies, passions or anything. I used to play games, watch movies and read books. I tried parachute jumping, scuba diving, snowboarding,...
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Sounds like the textbook exampled of a man who became estranged by our shallow, materialistic, , pretentious society. Sounds like you have to start from the beginning.
Have you thought about what you want to achieve in life? What kind of person do you wanna be in 20 years?
>>16892648
>Have you thought about what you want to achieve in life? What kind of person do you wanna be in 20 years?
It might sound shallow as fuck but when I was in highschool my biggest dream was to be remembered. I wanted to be famous and I wanted to change the world. I had a drive to change myself, but as you can see it wasn't really a good thing.
Now? I don't know. I can't imagine myself in 20 years. I don't have any idea how I'll be able to survive 20 years...
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>>16892668
The advice i would give you, is to try to think out what you wanna do in the future. For example, me, I want to eventually build my own house. It won't be easy but i'm gonna work hard for several years and save up money to buy a plot and then build my own house there. It's a long term goal that i have, maybe it will take me 20 years, but that's what i'm working towards. I also want to start a family. But now, i'm just working, training at the gym, and reading a lot, basically taking it easy. But I feel comfortable knowing i'm working towards my long term goal. I think everyone should have such a goal to strive towards.
My parents are extremely Christian. They pray before every meal (in restaurants, too), teach Sunday school, and constantly talk about God try to spread his word. God was involved in everything growing up, and they always told me how important it was to find a Christian girl to marry and have God be the center of the marriage.
I'm atheist now, but have never told them because my mom would cry nonstop and honestly have a break down. I just got engaged to my girlfriend (who they love), and she is extremely atheist. She is the type that despises religion.
She...
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Do whatever the hell you want to do. If you love this woman, and want to marry her, then just bloody well do it. No one has a right to tell you what you should/shouldn't do when it comes to love. Especially not your parents. If they disown you or any bullshit like that for doing it then that's their fucking problem. It shouldn't be yours. All that should matter is marrying the woman you love.
Do you want to be married in a church? Do you want your kids to be baptised? Do you want them to be raised in a religious environment?
No?
That's...
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Honestly, stop caring about what your parents think. Live your own life, if your parents decide to have some kind of breakdown over how you're living your life, then let them do that. It doesn't affect you.
Say 'mom, dad, I love you and respect your beliefs, but I'm not religious' which sounds ten times better than 'I dont believe in god'.
I think its good to view religion/church as at least a cultural thing though if not a belief system. You can compromise by bringing your kids to church for xmas or easter for the fun stuff. I'm atheist as well but I still appreciated my parents taking me to church once or twice as a kid even though theyre not religious either. Just so I could see what it was exactly. And people are friendly
Long story short, a slut I used to fuck fell in love with me while she kept being a slut and I just told her to fuck off, but because I'm a good guy I kept in touch with her and now she claims being pregnant (not by me, but her current bf, who is younger than her) and I have the suspicion that it's my child and she knows, but we both kinda go with the flow and the guy gets cucked into raising my child.
She told me to be the godfather of the child and that she also has herpes and I should better get checked too, because, well, kids that shit is like picking cotton...
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>>16892542
>fucks known sluts
>is a slut himself
>types like a redneck retard
>STD
You're both gutter trash.
>>16892542
>because im a good guy
surely this was the most selfless act on your part.
How do I forget about the past and live happy with my gf? Around Christmas time she had an emotional affair with a guy she met in the city. They went on a date, too, although she said "nothing happened." I forgive her and all, but I'm just not as attracted to her anymore. And there's not much she can do besides apologize. We've been together for two years and all of my friends became really good friends with her, and I hang around her family constantly. I feel like if people knew what happened, they wouldn't want me to be with her anymore. It's...
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Sounds like you know what you have to do. a emotional affair is still a affair, and she went on a date with another guy. that's fucked up, it'l be hard to distance yourself but if your not attracted to her there is no point in sticking around
>>16892522
I have been in your position, even if I'm a girl.
Do not tell anyone. They'll clearly get mad at her and run things. There's enough stress.
Take time off her. Make it clear that she has no right to even think about someone else during those days.
Take some days for yourself. Think about all you've been through and try to forgive her. Do not talk to her till you're pretty much over it and ready to forgive her. If you can't, leave her.
If you choose to be back to her, do...
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How long should I wait before being concerned that my parcel hasn't arrived yet?
JapanPost.jp says:
02/27/2016 17:00 Dispatch from outward office of exchange TOKYO
Royal Mail tracking site says:
Status: Please try again.
The reference number you have entered may be incorrect. Please check and try again. Find out more about tracking reference numbers.
Information on your International Signed item is not yet available.
It's been almost two weeks and all RM can offer is an error message?
After 3-4 weeks I would be concerned. After 6 weeks I would assume it's not coming at all.
>>16892516
International shipping can take 2+ weeks. I ordered something from a seller from China once and it took a month for the package to show up. Next time try to find something with tracking. The package possibly has to cover a few boarders and go through customs which slows things down more.
If you feel its taking too long try customer service with the tracker or contact the company you bought it from and hope they have customer service.
Hey, /adv/, I need some help on a drug test.
I have a drug test Thursday at 8am (east coast), and I stopped smoking 2 weeks ago. My question is, paired with drinking lots and lots of water leading up to the drug test what can I do to ensure I get the job?
>>16892499
google 'how to pass a drug test' and you'll find some options for flushing your system. i remember in guam it was popular to take a pill that'd flush your system 24 hours before hand
>>16892506
Do you remember the pill name?
>>16892514
no, thats why i suggested google mate.
Simple details,
He's my stepdads close friend, I'm gonna call him Mr.W.
Mr.W is about 23 roughly?
Went to pick stepdad up from work and Mr.W commented how hot I was
A year or two later my step dad and my mum married
Mr.W was there with his new but heavily pregnant girlfriend, we both go out to smoke.
He flirts, touching my leg and apparently his girlfriend is jealous of how he looks at me?
Fast forward a year, Mr?W send me his mobile number randomly.
Suddenly he is flirting non-stop sexually and in a general way.
Now it's a bit...
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Tell him sharply that you are not interested in his advances. That's the only right thing to do.
>>16892498
you already made a decision, that you wont let him cheat with you, and you wont let him leave his wife for you. so say that.
'this flirtationship has got to stop. we can still see each other at family functions and such, but can no longer have contact with each other. how you treat your wife and kid is up to you, but i refuse to take any part of it'.
he will deny he was ever really flirting, that he was only joking but you say 'still, just to be safe!' and block him on all social...
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>>16892498
>there is feelings between us and I'm stuck what to do
He's got a kid and a baby-moma he's still with. On top of that, the baby-moma is friends with your mom.
Don't step in that bear-trap. Don't be an idiot.
I say this fully expecting you to do it anyway.
femanon here, how do i be happy /adv/
>studying a degree i have no interest for anymore
>don't talk to anyone on my course anymore from not being there enough
>studying far from home so can't go back home as I please and see family
>lost contact with most my friends back home as they're all having kids or getting married
>have no hobbies
>girl i was dating & fucking for...
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>>16892493
Oh boo hoo I can get hookups but am so sad guys please make me feel better!
>>16892493
Oh shit you're me but a girl.
Here's what I did.
I dropped out and went home. I got a job.
Now I'm getting in shape for the chair force.
Try those.
What degree?
Please finish college, something, anything. Or you better have something lined up. Dropping/failing out would be a huge mistake
Quit going through the motions, that's why you're apathetic. Realise you want to achieve those goals: good career, love, friends, etc.
YOU want to achieve them. No one else is forcing you to.
