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I just tried to have online sex with a really hot girl but couldn't get hard. This is also a general phainomenon, I tend not to be able to get hard with strangers, I need to get to know a person to feel intimate with them until I can engage in sexual intercourse. Is there a way to fight this? I would like to enjoy casual sex, as well. Anybody have any similar problems? thanks for your time.
>>16893059
>a general phainomenon
>>16893063
phenomenon?
anyway I mean it has occured in the past
What to do when ur an fagut that wants to work out but don't own equipment of any kind and hate going tonpublic gym cause ur weak fagit?
You go to the public gym.
To public gym*, my nad with the typos
>>16893057
Go to the gym anyway and you'll soon stop being a weak faggot.
Hey /adv/ Im only posting this because there really is no where else I can say this.
I am extremely uncomfortable with people spending money on me.
I feel extremely guilty. Why did they waste money on me? I told them i didnt want anything. Why do people ALWAYS PUSH IT.
Im a girl too, so a lot of people think im just pulling that 'no means yes' bs.
No
I dont want ppl wasting their money on me
>>16893051
i am the same way. i dont buy shit for others, either (except xmas and bdays, and even then only family or gf).
>>16893051
Just tell the person spending money on you to stop. When they ask why - just say you don't feel comfortable with them spending money on you. When they push the matter - just say that it's a personal issue. The end.
>>16893051
This is more common than you think.
Just INSIST on splitting stuff and refuse gifts unless they shove it in your face for three minutes screaming PLEEAAASE and crying. Don't smile either. Smiling and saying no is an actual mixed message.
Is it possible to be born with chronic depression?
My dad died one month before I was born. I'm not sure if this affected my growth as a fetus. One of my earliest memories is me around 4 years old, with my class on pre-school making father's days gifts. I remember asking the teacher if I could go to the bathroom, closing the stall and crying. After that I cleaned my tears and went back to class like nothing happened.
The same cycle has been repeating itself for the past 24 years, and I was wondering if you can be born with depression as opposed to develop...
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I don't think people normally get born with chronic depression, but I suppose it can happen.
Some people do start depression extremely early though.
Have you been seeing a psychiatrist? What about a therapist? They're really integral parts of the treatment process for depression, and you need to make sure you get access to these things if you don't have them already.
I've had major depression and chronic depression for seven years, and am currently getting ECT done.
>>16893044
sad != depressed
>>16893054
Yes I have and they never helped me. Neither did medication. But I'm sorting things out.
I was just wondering if my mom going through a hard time during her pregnancy might have caused some damage to me as a fetus.
feel bad for the kid
>>16893036
>watching people play videogames
You're worse
So after a suicide attempt last week, I've been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and strung out on Prozac.
I reacted ridiculously negatively to the diagnosis because I know the common stereotype behind it (women with borderline are crazy) and the doctors stopped using it to refer to me. They spoke to my parents and they refuse to say I have it now, everyone keeps telling me I don't have it, but I've been assigned to both a therapist and a psychiatrist, as well as DBT (dialetic behavioural therapy), which I've read was specifically designed...
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Actual diagnosis: extreme autism
Prozac isn't really something you can get strung out on. I've been on Prozac; it's pretty mild.
Dialectic behavioral therapy is in fact great, and can completely reverse the symptoms of BPD.
>>16893037 is full of fucking shit, and should not be listened to.
Doctors and other mental health professionals know what they are doing. Listen to them.
>>16893041
I don't mean strung out, but it's making me anxious as fuck constantly. I've gone on three separate runs today, I guess more wired up than anything...
DBT is really helping only after a few days, though. The doctors do think a lot of it stems from abusive relationships and childhood trauma.
How do I deal with the fact that I always fall intensely for women I can't have? I'm only 20 and I'm on my fourth. It eventually passes but then it happens again. I really don't want to spend my whole life suffering this. Unrequited love is bad enough when it happens once.
Hook up with a guy?
Why can't you have them?
If they're single... Do you try?
Talk to more women. Don't just focus on one.
Hey so my girlfriend has aspergers. Everything seems to be going well so far. Shes's becoming more comfortable and trusting with me. I'd really like for us to have sex but she's really not comfortable with that. Of course I'm not going to force her to have sex but could perhaps anyone tell me how I could maybe persuade her to give it a go? I think over time as she gets more comfortable with me she'll maybe want to have sex but anything to speed up that process would be nice.
Honestly as someone who had a huge problem with touching: The best way to get results is to not push for it. You've built trust with her by not pushing, and changing the formula would probably hurt more than help.
My suggestion would be to not be afraid to be sensual. Keeping mind of her boundaries, touch her in ways that she is comfortable with that also make her feel good. If she initiates anything sexual, respond very positively.
You're doing good, OP. Just stick to what's been working and be patient. If her experience is anything like mine, it'll be worth it in the end.
>>16892981
Ok thanks. I've been reading as much as I can about aspergers so I can understand everything about her more. I'm currently reading the complete guide to aspergers syndrome but I find it a lot easier to understand when people talk to me about it.
Which boards have the least amount of Tumblr, /pol/, and /r9k/ crossposters in it?
I'm so tired of nutjob internet drama. So very tired...
>>16892938
r/4chan
>>16892938
Go outside
/b/? Basically the anti-tumblr.
About a year ago, I got my first girlfriend. I never thought that I would get a girlfriend. I'm somewhat /r9k/ tier autistic and have trust issues due to being abused and bullied when I was a child and in my early teens .
She really was fantastic, she was also my first kiss and said on multiple occasions that she loved me. It was the first time in my life that I was giddy with happiness. This relationship of ours continued for nearly a year.
Towards the end of the year, I noticed she started to act a bit "off". All of a sudden she texted me out...
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You'll get over it eventually.
>>16892847
to get rid of it anon you need to stop thinking about them and start thinking about yourself and what do you want to do. Just thinking about what they did to you only makes you more sadder than you already are, just move on. Yes, it is normal to feel bitter about it since you've been cucked. no one likes that
Yesterday I got to spend the day with my girlfriend.
We are both 18 and seniors in highschool and total virgins.
Like she had her first kiss from me a few weeks ago.
well she brought her record player and we listened to cage the elephants and we started to make out for a while.
Well it got to this point where i suggested i give her a massage and i did. (great at massages) so i got some lavender lotion that my mom made and rubbed the gf's back with it and one thing lead to another.
Now shes leaning back against me as I have my hand in...
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>>16892844
>well she brought her record player and we listened to cage the elephants
Shit music taste wouldn't bang
>>16892844
>not playing free jazz for your high school sweetheart
Permavirgin
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M11SvDtPBhA this gets all the girls wet
So I've been having a weird problem for 2 years that doctors can't fix. The only "fix" I have is to fap like 4 times in a row daily, which A) leaves me tired B) takes up a lot of time.
I'm a guy who is sexually extremely sensitive unless I rain my balls daily. If I for example don't do this today, tomorrow I will be okay but the day after every minor touch in my genitals will be very pleasurable and sometimes even make me moan. Makes wearing boxer briefs annoying sometimes so I resort to wearing baggy ass pants which makes me look unprofessional...
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theres a new fda approved numbing dick cream, could try that stuff
It's been six months since my ex broke up with me and I still break down sometimes. It's like I don't want to get over her, wherever I am or whatever I'm doing I imagine doing it with her, like if I'm in my car I literally imagine her next to me. I just wish I could talk to her. What's wrong with me? Is this normal? Or have a completely lost my mind?
Give it another 6 months.
>>16892812
If you were together 3 years+ then not being 100% over it after 6 months is understandable, of course. However, constantly mulling it over is not healthy. You need to push through, start dating, get a new s/o, etc.
Do not contact her, and make a conscious effort to push her to the back of your mind. When people break up, it means it's not meant to be - regardless of circumstances. Both people could be amazing individually, but simply incompatible together in the long term. Push on and be happy with yourself - good luck
>>16892812
If you really want to talk to her then find the means to do it. Don't lose yourself when you do this and go into an emotional panic. It's pretty normal to miss your ex like this though.
Recently I got a girl's number and I want her to be comfortable while texting me. Thing is, along with the obvious social awkwardness I am working on, I use proper grammar and spelling, especially when texting.
My "Internet/text laughter" is limited to lol/LOL, maybe kek depending on the person I am talking to, and if I'm desperate, a "heh".
Because of this, I'm come off as serious, when I'm not. Now the even worse problem:
I don't like contracting things the way people do in my country. "porque/por que/porquê/por quê" turned into "pq". "você" becomes "vc". The letter K is spammed to mean laughter("kkkkkkkkkk"), along with other acronyms that are used. I find these repulsive.
The same happens with the girl I'm talking to, but rather than the above, she uses words like "shipping" in that Tumblr/whatever way of saying "I would like these two to be a couple".
I'm not saying I'll stop talking to someone because I don't like the way they text. I just don't want her to think I'm being serious all the time. I avoid using the same kind of Internet vocabulary she does for my own reasons, but want her to know not to need a serious face when talking to me.
Any help other than the obvious "don't act so uptight"/"mimic her manners of speech"/"learn to like and use her words"?
Pic unrelated, but man do I hope I'm ever in the same situation as that guy with said girl.
What you do is that you take 15 mg Zopiclone and a few beers. That will solve all you issues and you won't even remember what you said when you wake up.
Next day you will have a date.
True story from my life.
>>16892796
Sounds fun, but not into alcohol or drugs. I'd like to at least know what I did right so should(definitely will) I fail to progress with this girl I could try it on the next.
>>16892806
Dude, this is like asking "I was playing a guitar without having practiced at all, and people didn't like it, what did i do wrong?".
You have to learn from experience.
I can't belong anywhere, i've just realized that.
Having no family at first, I was never able to fit in a group of friends.
Then come jobs where I don't fit in the group of co workers and i've always tried to avoid doing the same job for more than 3 months.
I tried drama and sports, but I always quit, i'm not used to commitment, to belonging somewhere.
What am I going to do now i've realized that?
Let's suppose for the moment that you did fit in somewhere. How would you know? What would be different?
