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I could write pages and pages about this, so I'll try to keep it realtively short. A few years ago the closest thing I've had to a relationship ended. She was my housemate's ex-girlfriend and I've always been very private/defensive, so for these reasons I tried to keep my distance from her. But she was so insistent in trying to get to know me, and seemed desperate that I like her. And over time I did - she became my closest friend, the only person I felt I could be completely myself around. We eventually started hooking up, and things were perfect for me....
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That's the thing with closure, she answered all your questions but you still don't feel good about it. You meet so few people that this one had a more significant impact on your life than it normally would. I think she probably told you the truth, she didn't feel the same way and besides she was never your gf. Not to beat a dead horse but if you would of asked her to be your gf you might of known sooner. You still hooked up so you're better off than a lot of posters here. How to forget about her? It's been three years dog, meet some new people, you'll...
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I can relate to your story and here's what i learned
closure is a lie, you can't get closure
understanding women is impossible
in my situation i tried to contact her months later asking dumb questions seeking 'closure' and it did not even help at all. You will not get the answers you want
>>16943582
This.
Also, even if you do get answers, you won't know whether to believe any of it or not.
Later you'll come to a more balanced acceptance. It fades with time.
Pls /adv/ tell me a rly cute way to ask a girl out to prom through text. I'm rly in need of this.
'hey bby wanna go prom? x'
Asking in person is way cuter.
>>16943348
I knoww
But she's leaving for this week and spring break so I won't be able see her and prom is right after.
I got a girl's number on the train earlier after she noticed my top and we started talking
WHAT THE FUCK DO I DO? Do I just say hi? Ask her out for coffee straight away? She was p cute, help me adv
>>16943329
Dude, there are like 1000000 steps, you think we can go through every one?
"Hi, I have to build a car from scratch. Wat do?"
You were given the number for exactly one purpose: to call her with an invitation to do something fun. Coffee can be fun if you have a nice conversation, or you get the cups to-go and walk around together. Or you can invite her to a more structured activity. The point is that the number is meant for making plans. Everything else you could use it for happens while you're enjoying those plans together.
>>16943329
Call her and continue the conversation you were having for a bit and then ask her out.
This goes to anyone who has moved before, and especially anons who've moved to a different state within the US. And maybe I wanted to vent a little. Sorry if jumbled. Will tl;dr at the end
I'm gonna do it someday. Finally gonna do it. Can't stand the distance. LDRs never work. The money I have will never be enough but at least it's something (as of this writing and after a time frame of 6~ months of saving, I have a little over $2000 USD. Dem retail wages). My boyfriend lives in Arizona and I live in Pennsylvania. Can't stand the distance anymore....
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>>16943321
You guys will break up within 2 months of you moving.
Good luck w/that.
Wait, is long distance the only thing your relationship has ever known? If so you're totally fucking retarded for considering this.
>>16943326
If it happens, it happens. My mind isn't focused on a thought like that. We always fix/mend ourselves and we never stay mad at each other for long.
If we fall apart, at least I wouldn't be in my boring rural state anymore. The only good thing about PA is it's beautiful springs, summers, and autumns. I have no close ties with anyone here, not even family.
>be me
>meet 10/10 asian chick
>realize you are way to beta to have a chance
>talk for about a week
>she strait up tells me she likes me
>thrown back af
>start dating for a few months
>gets pretty neat
>she just stops talking to me all of the sudden
>i dont know...
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>>16943288
100% chance she was not 10/10.
And you probably did something, you just don't know what it was.
>>16943288
>10/10
Bullshit. Probably closer to a 4 or a 5.
Did you fuck her? Also, didn't she become progressively colder before dropping you off? It would be too weird if she didn't imo
Is it pathetic to jack off to photos of your ex? We broke up a year and a half ago and I'm still on a dry spell. I broke up with her, but the way I handled it for the first few months was like I was the one who got dumped.
>>16943240
nigga there are a million
billion
trillion other things fap-worthy, and you choose your ex?
what the fuck is wrong with you?
>>16943240
Its pretty pathetic to jack off when you are lonely, the fact that they are pictures of your ex makes it worse.
Stop looking at pictures of your ex, delete all of them that you have, stop jacking off to pictures and put some effort into meeting women, you will stop feeling lonely and you will stop your cycle of feeling shit.
The only pictures you should have of your ex are any mega important ones you can't help her being in like a prom photo or at someone else's wedding that you like to see...
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>>16943259
Cause I was in that, but you can't say the same with porn stars
>>16943261
You're right. I'll just have to persevere; I'm pretty autistic so I've had 0 romantic prospects in this whole year and a half
I suffer from ADHD and none of the current FDA approved medicine can treat my condition thus I'm seeking alternatives and my life is at a halt right now. If I were to gets parts of my DNA sequenced by 23 and Me it could allow me to quickly and effectively treat my condition through supplements, meds, and Nootropics. I'm very concerned with what will happen with my data, I.e. being sold to insurance companies, advertising companies, government angencies, etc. Does anybody know of an effective alternative for DNA sequencing to treat my ADHD that won't sell away...
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If you feel like this could be beneficial, what could actually happen if your data got into someone else's hands?
What could they do with it that would impact you? Because I assume the answer is "absolutely nothing"
>>16943220
For example, let's say black women over 40 have an increased risk at developing breast cancer, insurance companies could raise the cost of insurance for all black women over 40 based on this genetic occurrence
>>16943214
As long as you don't mind Jewish lizard people sequencing your DNA to create new neurodegenerative preservatives in your Cheetos and 7 Up, go for it!
I need some quick advice. Snooped through my bf's phone, found some videos and pictures of him having sex with his ex (while they were still in a relationship, I can tell by his facial hair length). Is this dump worthy? Do all guys in relationships hold on to their ex's naked photos/videos? It looks like he recorded it recently from his cellphone off a computer screen.
>>16943210
>why were you snooping
>porn of ex while they were in a relationship
>Should I dump him
Nah, he should dump you.
>>16943210
I hold on to old nudes/videos as trophies and for dry spells. When I'm with someone new, there's no reason for me to go back to those. There's also no reason for me to delete them.
>>16943221
He left it behind and I got curious.
I just started dating for the first time in my late 20's, and I feel anxious all the time. I can't sleep or concentrate from worrying. Is this normal? Does it mean I don't like the other person, or is it just my own mental hangups?
Meeting this person is a terrifying feeling, like falling off a cliff, but with some enjoyable moments. I keep having the urge to run away from dating. I tried asking my one friend, but she said she enjoys seeing her significant other, so I feel abnormal. I can't pinpoint anything wrong with the relationship, but I don't...
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I don't think the anxiety is normal but I had the same thing and it went away with time and experience so yea just push threw it
If you just started dating, of course you're going to be nervous.
It's normal, don't worry about it. With practice it goes away.
>>16943198
>>16943200
How long might it take? It's been about a month. If I don't feel wild about the guy yet, am I wasting his time?
Where do I meet a girl like this?
>>16943182
That gym she's standing in, apparently.
>he said, knowing full well that gyms are kryptonite to 4channers
>>16943187
>didn't he realize that on 4chan the board /fit/ contains full guide how to be obsessed with healthy life style and is full of other fitizens.
>>16943187
Yea that exceeds my limitations.
>be me, male 19
>friend of mine invites all of her friends to sleepover
>invites me, the only one male
>13:1 ratio
>going to a town, 1h away our city, home alone and full of food
>everybody is bringin booze and weed
>18-20 is the age of all grills
>i know 6 of them, really hot college typical rich girls, the homeowner included...
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>>16943176
>>being realistic i can fuck one of them if i want, but don't know how
nah man they think you're gay
>>16943176
>>16943197
This desu. If she invited you to a literally all-girl sleepover she thinks of you as a girl.
>>16943197
That's an interesting point. They see you as completely non threatening, either gay or up to your neck in the friend zone.
Hey /adv/, maybe you have an idea as to what's going on here. Basically about 5 weeks ago I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend (yes I know you're not supposed to and that it's stupid). We used the pull out method. The night after I went out with some friends to a bar and I got spiked and vomited. From the day after I got spiked until now I have been feeling constant random waves of nauseous ness and my stomach hurting. Also an aversion to oily foods.
My breasts are not sore or anything, no other "symptoms". I got my period at the usual time...
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>>16943164
Sounds like you need a doctor.
Pull out method when done correctly is as effective as condoms. As long as you didnt go for round two and he didnt come inside you, or he didnt jack it since after the last time he peed, id say chances are very low.
>>16943201
I thought everything was cool since I got my period, but I don't know if maybe I had sex too soon before my period was supposed to come and that's why I didn't miss it, but I doubt that's the case. I doubt I'm pregnant but there's this niggling feeling that I don't know why I'm so nauseous. Right now I'm feeling sick, but again I read some stuff about spiking and most people said they recovered after a few days not weeks.
>>16943215
Thats why im suggesting a doctor. Could be a million things.
Stress and anxiety. Psychosomatic. A well timed flu. Or something in the drink fucked with you.
Just get it checked out.
I also really doubt youre pregnant if you had a normal period.
can I get some constructive crit on my first vlog?
tinyurl com /jobyh5w
not trying to spam my link I literally want other people's opinion
I know, I am literally a newb
>Your speech is hard to hear.
-> Audacity -> boost voice frequencies
-> get better microphone
-> learn how to speak better
>Why do you show your face
>Why don't you have better background
>Why is half the video ducks?
Anyway if you want to be famous, make your videos longer (10+ minutes?) and talk about interesting things in interesting way.
Build your style and keep to it.
Don't except anything and you...
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>>16943185
>why do you show your face
oh
>>16943185
what do you mean by learn how to speak better?
Hello /adv/, I'm trying to escape my NEET-dom and become a functioning of member of society, and I need your help.
I'm rearranging my references and narrowing them down to 5 individuals. I want to ask:
Should I include the most prestigious/highest ranking references, or the references that I worked more closely with, still are important individuals, but are less prestigious? The lower ranking references would provide a more fiery support for me, but don't look as immediately impressive as the big names.
Should I aim for a combination of both?
Thanks.
If you are talking about references to your older jobs in curriculum vitae (google translator gave me this) than you include 1 person per 1 job. You use the person which was your closes boss who actually knows what have you done.
Also make sure they know you put them as reference persons so they aren't surprised if anybody ever contacts them.
>>16943167
They all know and are comfortable with being my references.
I've only had 1 job and 1 internship.
My issue is that the people who know what I did the best + Are most enthusiastic about me are in so much lower positions than some of other references, who are in drastically higher positions but don't know me as well.
That's my conundrum.
Some jobs ask for 3 some ask for 5..
I typically give my supervisor and their supervisor. If i am limited in the number of references i can include I give the person who knows me better.
It also depends on the job I'm applying for as I've worked for two completely different organizations
My husband (unexpectedly) came inside me last night, so I took the morning-after pill today. Now he's pissed off that I took the pill without discussing it with him first. Thing is, I have made it very clear that I want to wait until at least my late twenties before popping out babies. I didn't think it was a big deal, and in fact, I thought we were on the same page, but apparently not.
Was I wrong to take the pill without telling him first? It's not an "abortion pill," it works similarly to birth control pills in that it will prevent pregnancy...
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>>16943087
>It's not an "abortion pill," it works similarly to birth control pills in that it will prevent pregnancy but will not terminate an existing one.
Actual it prevents implantation, not fertilization. It aborts a pregnancy.
The discussion you guys need to have is about family planning, not medication use.
it's totally a great sign that you two got married before figuring these things out
