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I dont know what to do guys, I just dont know.
Im currently a majorless freshman at a community college. I want to be a teacher. I just talked to my counselor, she said, being that Im a guy, I would have the best chance at finding a job if I go into math/science.
The thing is, I hate math and sciences. Ideally, Id want to teach history, but when it comes to secondary education it is apparently better to dual major, I want that secod major to be something that has a good job outlook if teaching doesnt work out.
Right now Im heading down Biology, but Im not sure thats what I want.
I dont know what to do guys, this is my future here, I cant fuck this up.
Your counselor is sexist. You can be whatever kind of teacher you want.
Just try classes all over the board (within reason) and see what you find most interesting. You can't force a long-term interest. It will eat at you if you do.
desperate bump
>>16942516
The worst thing is to study something you hate. Then the odds are against you and even if you finish it, you will hate your work too.
If you want to study history with teaching in mind, combine it with something similar or with something else you like.
> I hate math and sciences
> Im heading down Biology
You gonna hate it after 1 semester.
Try to find online how many jobs for teachers are currently open in your country / location. This can give you clear idea which path can pay off when you finish study.
Don't study something what you hate.
Being with gf for 3 years.
Started contacting scorts like 4 months ago for new experiences.
did it like twice a month until Febr. That last time girl was specially nice and her look 8/10. I really could not took her out of my mind.
Wanted to hired her again but she told me she was not in the business anymore. Sadface.jpeg. kept on with my life. Two weeks ago I found her while walking down the street, She smiled and I smiled back. None of us said anything. That night she whatsapp me "I saw u today :)" (surprised me knowing she had kept my number). We started chatting along and had a date next day. Not necessary to say that gf knows nothing about this. Been knowing the girl more and she's actually not working as a escort anymore. Got a job at a hair salon and is doing fine.
After dating her three times we had sex. It was wonderful, no money involved. She said she liked it and wants to repeat it.
We have fun together and we spend lots of time on the phone.
Guys I think I'm falling in love with this girl. What to do? Pic not related.
>>16942439
>falling in-love with a literal whore
lmao
>>16942444
Can't stop it.
>>16942447
its easy actually
just delete her and you're good to go
fuck your gf hatefully and you'll forget everything
My neighbor has been sun bathing after swimming recently. She so fucking sexy and I've honestly jerked off to her from my window while she sun bathing.
How do I tell she I like her without making myself look creepy. She's 6 years younger than me.
You don't tell people you like them. There's nothing they can do with that information. Instead you give them an opportunity to like you too. Talk to her when you see her around, tell her about some fun stuff you plan on doing and invite her to join you. There's something she can actually do with an invitation.
Wait until you turn 18, then take your birthday confidence and confess your love.
i need to see some ID??
Alright /adv/ it's story time. Got something that's been kinda fucking with me for the last 15 years. Will green text, of course.
>Be me
>9 years old
>Bit of a nerd
>Act a lot like Double D from Ed, Edd, n Eddy
>Little brother is 7
>summer time
>Used to live next to a park with four T-ball diamonds
>Make friends with this 15 year old neighbor girl
>Hang out just about every day
>Mostly playing PS2 or riding bikes
>Little brother has a T-ball game
>Bored because little kids suck at baseball
>Girl suggests we go back to the house and play
>Mom is watching game
>Sneak off to house
>Decide to play truth or dare
>Get dared to show her my dick, which I do
>Dare her to make out, which we do
>Truth time
>Asks me if i would ever fuck her
>Panic while spilling spaghetti all over bedroom floor and say no
>Continue to make out
>Hear a knock at the front door
>Throw girl off of me and run downstairs
>It's my grandma wanting me to go to the game with her to see my brother
>Leave with grandma while girl is still in my room
>Girl sneaks out a few minutes later
>>16942430
Cont.
>Fast forward about a month
>Girl, brother, and I are hanging out at empty T-ball park, trying to break into closed concession stand to get candy
>Can't get in
>Bored
>My fucking 7 year old brother suggests we have sex
>Girl says ok
>Start to spill spaghetti again
>In my best Double D voice, stammer, "If you tell anyone, I'll never speak to you again!"
>Walk over to this big set of bushes behind the park where girl used to go hide so she could smoke
>I'm first
>We get naked
>Start to rub dick on her pussy
>Never stick it in
>Girl says she can't feel anything
>Spaghetti is literally pouring out of me
>Say I can't either
>Get dressed and walk away
>Little brother's turn
>Motherfucker actually fucks her
>Only with her a few minutes
>Comes out from bushes grinning ear to ear
>Tell him let's go back to the house and play PS2
>Girl leaves
>Don't see girl again for three years
>See her at a Ryan's steakhouse
>Lock eyes for a few minutes
>She looks horrified
>Runs out of restaurant
>Never see her again.
So, /b/, that was the day where I almost lost my virginity at age 9, but my alpha as fuck 7 year old brother fucked a 15 year old.
Been thinking about this a lot lately, and I'm starting to wonder if it's the reason why I've always had issues talking to females and why I think I may have a pron addiction. Thoughts?
It takes a lot to muster up the guts to spill something like that. My advice: make sure you get it /all/ out, no matter how embarrassing or disgusting you may feel (remember: you are not expected to feel these feelings, but they are a thing nonetheless).
Perhaps that girl took advantage of you. She was the older one, and was probably (assuming from her age) either going through or already past puberty.
I had been sexually abused as a child (age 3-12) on a regular basis, by the same man (I'm a female, just so you know). When I was 13 I promised myself I would take that secret to the grave. When I was 16 I became more intimate with my boyfriend, and told someone.
I'm in my late 20's now, still picking up the pieces. My current partner knows pretty much all of what happened (though I did not recount each and every 'episode' as there were so many).
I felt 'dirty' for a long time, and 'ruined,' but today I feel like an actual, autonomous person. I've let it go, for the most part.
Holding onto the past, I've found, only keeps you from being in the present.
>>16942460
I'd suggest seeing a therapist...but not longer than you feel is necessary. Just enough time to get it out.
Working with a meditation teacher has helped me process a lot of difficult thoughts and feelings.
Maybe you're suppressing the negative feelings you have about this situation. I'd say, focus on those and feel those (only with intention), and let them pass through your body. Sounds cheesy, but it's worked for me.
Ages 7-13 are quite important for young males.
Maybe try reading "Sex at Dawn" by Christopher Ryan. He talks about that stuff a lot.
I'm addicted to masturbation, like today alone I've done it 4 times, it's 2pm here. what are good ways to not do this? I want to make sure I'm not having sex for 3+ hours with my girlfriend when we do have sex so I need help.
>>16942425
trying to remove a bad habit ends in failure
instead try to grab a good habit that'll take the time
what are you interested in? how do you spend your time?
>>16942425
dont touch your dong
>>16942437
I play video games, work, study for college, and friends.
How do I clear my head?
I have countless doubtful thoughts, view & review things from multiple angles, and think myself in circles...to the point where it's debilitating. I have difficulty making up my mind.
This all started when I was a kid. I was the youngest of four (by a large gap), and was continually ignored. I was also taken advantage of by my stepfather, during which I would remain silent and escape mentally through dissociation. It's almost as if I have learned to think in dualities...as in, I'll be present and perhaps having a conversation, but also analyzing--in the back of my mind--how the words are coming out of my mouth, or thinking about all of the things I have left to do, or wondering what the other person is thinking, or whatever's happening around me.
One of my therapists had said I have 'learned ADD' though she did not suggest how to unlearn it. I'm thinking there's something to this...I have /tried/ meditation, and I have read countless books, essays...watched movies and videos otherwise, as well as listened to lectures on mindfulness.
It's as though I'm capable only of observation. Friends have tried to suggest things to me...telling me not to think and just to do...I always find myself back here, thinking myself in circles...I feel like I just haven't found the right 'key' yet.
how2fokus?
Hoping to get an answer on this as well.
>>16942421
I make it sound so extreme. Truth is, the only times I have been able to calm my mind down is by doing drugs. LSD, MDMA, and marijuana have helped me 'normalize' my brain to the point where I'm thinking singular thoughts...I haven't done a whole lot of the first, two drugs mentioned, but there was a period of about 4 years in my later teens during which I would rarely go a day without smoking weed.
I don't do drugs very often these days--mayyyyybe smoke weed once a month, and the others sparingly, if at all--so that's not the issue.
bump
Hey,
I have a bunch of empty liquor bottles that I've been collecting mostly just because I thought it'd be funny to scatter them around my room and take some pictures. However, after I'm done this, I don't really have a plan for them other than "throw them in the recycle bin".
Is there anything I can do to get some cash for these guys? There's probably around 50-ish, but unfortunately some of the latest additions have been cheap, plastic bottles because Vlad is cheaper than Luksusowa. My state doesn't have a bottle bill, and I think I'd lose money overall if I drove to one that did, so I'm just wondering if anyone knows something I could do with these.
Not really, no. Maybe some of the plain glass bottles can be converted into art if you have colorful sand and stones laying around. The rest, especially plastic, are worthless though.
...they're just trash now, OP. Unless you want to do some crazy candle art of course.
Google "Bottle Village"
I have a really weak stomach. Weaker than a little french school girl. I can't eat every much because at a certain point I just start gagging. I can't do exercises because if I do too much (which is not a whole lot) I start gagging.
Also, I like to sing in the car, but if I exert too much force I start gagging. Usually when I wake up early in the morning my stomach is hurting bad, and it takes awhile for it to settle down, I also feel like I should be gagging too.
Is there a way to improve this? I asked /fit/ but they just told me to kill myself.
>>16942363
>I have a really weak stomach. Weaker than a little french school girl.
Most people have weaker stomachs than a little French schoolgirl. Seriously; have you seen some of the things they eat?
Sounds like an issue for your family doctor
>>16942907
Frenchfag here
Our lil girls are much tougher than your tiny stomach
Also check em
What are some good opening line(s) to try sending to girls on dating sites when their profile is completely empty? I'm good at messaging girls with stuff in common, but not the girls with empty profiles.
ayyyy yo bitch u want sum fukk?
all bots bro, dont do it
>>16942361
Hello is usually a good one but anything said with confidence usually works out alright
How do i get better at sex? gf likes it rough, so do i but ive been really vanilla past few years. can never find the perfect middle. either im too rough and its uncomfortable, doing too much or half ass cant really call it rough.
im loss. rough by my standards is typical choking, hair pulling, hard thrust. but too her its too rough. be more gentle but rough. i dont get it
how do into females idea of rough?
>>16942335
Have you asked her what she means by rough? What did she say?
>obvious question is obvious
>>16942335
most people dont ACTUALLY want to be abused, they just want the pleasure with the porno experience.
so you dont actually abuse her, just treat her like you're being rough. grab her by the hair but dont pull it. instead of 'smacking' her, just pat her really hard on the face. hook your fingers in her mouth like shes a little sex toy you're trying to open up.
also, sit down and talk out what she likes and doesnt like.
im lucky enough to be gay. fags love getting abused. ive choked a guy to tears and nearly vomitting and he leaves saying that its 'awesome'. they're always surprised by how brutal i can be.
>>16942347
Typical female things,vague answers. Like just choke but not really. And grab my hips more. But doesn't really know what else
I thinks she's one of those submissive type, that want to be dominated. Typical 50 shades of grey mode. Except with out all the toys
Maybe I got the wrong Idea of rough. I'm going caveman lust on her when she wants a Christian Grey rough? Idk I'm confused
Musicfags, how do you adjust to notes if you have absolute pitch? I'm struggling with all the modifiers like sharps and flats next to key and still find it much easier just to learn by ear.
>>16942295
>has 'absolute' pitch
>cant understand how sharps flats or scales work
buddy youre just bad
I'm envious. I know a few people with what we used to call "perfect" pitch. Go ahead and learn by ear. You can learn the other stuff later or get a teacher to help you.
I had to do the opposite. I was classically trained in piano but I've re-taught myself to arrange by ear. I find it far more enjoyable and I'm a much better player than I was.
In other words it's all good.
>>16942295
The same way everyone else does: learn the system, it's not that hard.
Your pic is either Eflat major or C minor, btw
It's the weirdest thing. I'm a pretty average guy, and I've had good success with normal women, some of whom were pretty attractive. But for some reason, every tumblr girl I know absolutely soaks their panties over me, for like no reason. Does this happen to anyone else?
>>16942294
And I know lots of girls use tumblr-- I'm talking hardcore, fanfic-writing tumblr girls
>>16942294
People usually try to ignore weirdos or are rude towards them. If you are friendly or just neutral towards them, they'll flock around you.
>>16942294
>'ve had good success with normal women, some of whom were pretty attractive
lol
So, my current gf confessed me last night she has been with a black guy before me. A black guy i also happen to know, he works as a pilot (so not exactly a trashy hood rat), 5 years older than she is, bald and a big guy. Can't believe i even met that guy during a masked party one month ago, and he seemed so cool and friendly, like he totally didn't bang my girlfriend just 6 months before
I mean, i know it shouldn't be a problem and whatnot, but i just can't wrap my mind about it, and i can't get why she hid such a thing to me. Ofc, we had a big argument about it, things got heated fast, told her to get out of my house, she stormed out and now we are in this sort of "not together" limbo. For now. No phone calls from her so far, no messages, nothing. Just her bald cousin calling me more or less one hr ago to tell me that i am a "Little racist white guy" and yelling various obscenities regarding penis size. I hung up on him after less than 15 seconds btw. I am literally paralyzed, i don't wanna lose her, but now it's obvious we have a trust issue. The whole thing is extremely painful for me since i always expect a lot of loyalty from my relationships.
>Tl;dr: Current gf dated a black guy before me, she told me about all of her exes but not him. I love her so much but i don't know if i can keep her after what she has done. Wat do?
>>16942272
This exact post appears, word-for-word, once a week. Do not bother answering it.
>>16942272
>i don't wanna lose her
Why not? Be grateful you didn't get more deeply involved.
Honestly can't tell if this is a troll, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.
>>16942289
How so?
Hey /adv/,
I’ve been to clubs in the past, but I always end up not doing anything out of fear of looking really stupid or doing anything creepy.
What’s proper club etiquette? How are you supposed to ask a girl to dance? how do you dance at a club? Do you buy girls drinks or not?
>What’s proper club etiquette?
Dress nicely, no flip-flops, take a bath. Just don't overdressed, no one wants to see a guy on a suit & tie dancing around. Unless you're MJ or a male stripper.
>How are you supposed to ask a girl to dance?
Ask nicely? If that doesn't work go look somewhere else. A good pick up line sure helps. If she's dancing, you sort of have to follow her moves and try to get her attention. If she digs it, then you both will start dancing in sync (assuming you're not socially retarded enough to know when she's not interested).
>how do you dance at a club?
You just dance. Others are to busy minding their own business. Just don't go blasting weird moves. If you're not sure, try to feel the beat and move your head or upper part of your body along with it. Try to stay relaxed and don't over do your moves.
Learning some dancing moves would certainly helps. I met a guy whose sole purpose was to own the floor. He always dances at the back, but he have endurance and pretty damn good moves. The guy dance straight for an hour with little break and sips his water bottle. He is owning his space and having fun, so people excused him for that.
>Do you buy girls drinks or not?
It depends. If you really like her & have good pick up line to follow then it would be worth it.
Puh..
Difficult question. If you have to ask I would suggest not going for it at all. The problem is picking up girls is difficult in a straight club ( assuming you are male ). Especially so if you come alone and/or are socially non top tier.
Also it depends highly on other factors like location and time. In my country good clubs are also packed with users which usually aren't interested in being approached. For that reason, say away from any days but friday and saturday and leave when you feel the club suddenly emptying around 2am ( all that is left after that is users ).
>>16942266
just get drunk dude
the rest will come naturally
and dont buy drinks for women
>tfw Finance degree
>tfw I just want to be a fireman
t. Pyromaniac. I'm that weird kid that loves burning stuff and staring at flames (or extinguishing them when they're out of control).
Is it a worthwhile career?
You could look up more information about being a fireman in the Occupational outlook handbook. What would be he problem with volunteering at a fire station while working on your degree? You would have both experience and that degree under your belt. I'm pretty sure you could use that same degree in the occupation you want to work with. Do the research and talk to people who are working in the career you are interested in.
>>16942245
>I'm that weird kid that loves burning stuff and staring at flames (or extinguishing them when they're out of control).
Jesus please don't be a fireman. Firemen that are actually obsessed with fire and putting out fires are the most obnoxious and dangerous firemen there are. They're like the cops that signed on because they are desperate to feel in control by carrying a badge and a gun.
Please light fires in your backyard and put those out, kthxbye
>>16942276
What's wrong with picking a job you'd enjoy? Are the dudes that accidentally ended up in such a position better?
