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Small problem. Ex keeps popping up in my dreams, when I intent to forget about her. Been 2 years since we broke up after a 3 year relationahip. Have new girlfriend for 1.5 years. I'm happy.
Why do I keep thinking about her. I cut cintact long ago but I still wonder how she's doing. Is it okay for me to ask her some time to answer the question coming up every time, or should I surpress it and ignore the thoughts and dreams?
>>16941488
Anyone care to give some advice? It's become an annoyance and I can't depend on my own judgement right now, i'm afraid I'll choose to meet uo with her to see how she's doing when I probably shouldn't.
Ya, I would. To save your own sanity. I know the feeling, dated a suicidal girl in highschool, all 4 years. Been with my current girlfriend for 5 years now, but it took awhile for me to not worry about her because of her state of mind.
I would tell your current girlfriend that you plan on talking to ex to clear somebody the air, just to be safe. Woman are fucking OK INSANE when their emotions are in jeopardy. And if she freaks out, the bitch doesn't really love you or understand what your going through
>>16941528
Jesus Christ, typing out long post on mobile is cancer
Hey I need people that talk to women to help me. My friend got upset because my other friend would flirt with me and it bothered my buddy that's in love with her. Is touching your arm when she laughs flirting? I remember she got drunk and just held me but idk I'm an idiot
>>16941452
>Is touching your arm when she laughs flirting?
There are probably some cultural differences when it comes to this but where I live touch is something very intimate and generally only shared by couples and close relatives. So I would say that she was showing some clear signs of affection towards you.
>>16941526
Idk we have these moments where it's just us two and we're just giggling at dumb shit and having a good time and I feel something idk if it's just in my head
>>16941542
>My friend got upset because my other friend would flirt with me and it bothered my buddy that's in love with her. Is touching your arm when she laughs flirting?
>Idk we have these moments where it's just us two and we're just giggling at dumb shit and having a good time and I feel something idk if it's just in my head
The fact that you're saying that he's in love with her makes it sound like some sort of childish teenage love triangle.
You'r friend is not in love with her, he has simply developed a crush towards her and finds her very attractive because of this.
To actually be in love with someone you'd need to really know them on a lot more intimate level.
But do understand that stuff like this can break even the strongest friendships, if you start dating the girl your friend might turn very bitter towards you for stealing his girl even if he had no chances with her to begin with. It's probably best to have some man to man talk with him before proceeding further with her if you are interested in her and value your friendship.
My apartment building is being inspected by the city of Los Angeles in about a month. Tomorrow, the landlords are coming in to do a pre-inspection. They told us on friday. My roommate's boyfriend keeps his snake in our apartment and we're not allowed to have pets. Unfortunately they went out of town for the weekend, and despite my roommate's boyfriend telling me someone was going to come to take the snake, no one has. It's almost 2am and they're supposed to come anytime between 9am and 3:30pm. I need to get rid of this snake but I don't know where I can take him. I thought of hiding him in a closet under some dirty laundry but I'm not certain whether or not they'll look there.
What do?
>>16941412
Just put it in your car.
>>16941412
Do you have any friends or family nearby?
Drive it up to them early morn. Bonus points if it's someone you don't really like
>>16941432
Will he be ok in there? I'd have to sneak him in there now because they'll see me in the morning.
So there is this girl i really like but as far as it goes i am pretty sure our realtionship is borderline friendzone already. we are texting on a daily basis and but in reallife we just cant talk to each other in the same way. watched a movie with her but it was fail. i know she likes me but the next date must take it to the next level. any advise?
>>16941371
>but in reallife we just cant talk to each other in the same way
why not?try to figure what's not going well in your conversations and fix it.
>i know she likes me
then you should be more confident and make a move. if you're hesitant the girl will probably lose interest soon.
Become alpha
a lot of virgins around here would kill to be texting a girl daily
wtf do you mean "next date must take it to the next level" this is why you fail. go fap if you think your balls are going to assplode.
forget that friendzone shit. real relationships require friendship. if you can't be her friend, and you just want to use her, go get a hooker instead
So my friend is going to peg me in a few weeks. I'm going full trap. Give me some specific details on what kind of clothes, makeup, panties, toys, etc.
This belongs in the homosexuals section or /soc/
Also sorry that you are a broken human.
>>16941357
>pegging
>homosexuality
Someone here is not understanding the terminology
>>16942064
you asked for advice on crossdressing faggot, not advice on anal sex
I want to start learning Mandarin and all of the schools around me are expensive as shit, are there any good resources any of you have used and had success with?
There's a lot of videos with Chinese audio and subtitles on the net. You might even find some with English audio.
A good source for such content is Tudou but YouTube might also work.
For content of varying nature news sites like Xinhua have bilingual articles.
If you're of the weebish inclination, there are sites like dm5 that might cater to your tastes.
With regards to dictionaries, MDBG might do the job.
For learning characters try spaced repetition software like Anki.
>>16941292
Look up for the book "Remembering the Hanzi" which introduces the "Heisig method" for learning how to remember complex characters.
It's a great and easy way to memorize how to identify and remember complex Chinese and Japanese characters very quickly.
Trying to memorize the characters through repetition just doesn't work for most of us so the method really helps.
However do understand that learning how to identify and remember character doesn't that you'll learn to read it it just means that you'll at least have a hell of a lot easier time assigning meanings to the characters and learning the actual language when you already know most of the characters.
You can probably download the book off somewhere for free, but it's not all that expensive either.
Anki is a great flash card software to be used with the method
use pen and paper so you'll learn how to write the characters as well.
>>16941292
I don't know. I learned a lot of Spanish in Duolingo but as far as I am concerned Chinese is not available in Duolingo.
Alright guys, so I posted a thread like this a year or so ago and it got mixed answers so I'm trying again.
I would like to sleep more. Particularly, I would like to be asleep almost all the time that I am not required to attend work or college. My plan would be this:
For the rest of the semester, I only need to be awake between 6am-3pm on weekdays. After that, I have no obligations until the next day. On Saturdays and Sundays I only need to be awake from 6am-noon, maybe 1pm. I can manage to get exercise in the times I've alloted as well, or give myself more time on the weekend.
My question is, can this work? I have a hard enough time sleeping as it is. I thought about just using ZZZquil all the time, but I'm not sure the health risks.
Why do you feel the need to sleep so much?
why are people who post here so stupid?
>>16941293
You want the truth? Life sucks and it's legitimately not going to get better for me until about September. I don't want to kill myself, I just don't want to be active where I don't have to be. Just doing work and school and sleeping outside of those would be fine.
>>16941294
Most of us are desperate for a relief to our suffering.
So next Monday I can either start a job as a "logistics coordinator," which essentially amounts to answering emails in a cubicle all day. This would be through a temp agency (contract to hire) and for $16/hr.
Or I can become a cars salesman. I never really considered sales before, but my buddy who works at the local Honda dealership told me i would make bank over there. He's shown me various commission checks (is the last two weeks he made $2200) and claims to have made $40,000 in the past 6 months. It's for commission only though, so no base salary. That's something I've never done before so it makes me a bit uneasy -- I need to pay rent and such so what if i make no money?
$16 an hour is more money than I've ever made (by a dollar) but I hate cubicle work. Maybe office work in general. Nothing makes me feel more like a robot than a lifeless environment like that. I'm a social fun-loving kind of guy so I think I'd enjoy sales much more. So I'm leaning towards car salesman... But it's certainly more risky but by and large I think I'd have much more fun there.
What do you think I should do, even though I've almost certainly made up my mind... Anyone have any sales horror stories? Working for just commission? Is it stressful? Does it make you want to hang yourself in the bathroom with a makeshift noose you crafted from your business casual slacks? Because that's what my last office job (which was essentially glorified data entry) made me want to do.
>>16941281
Don't be a car salesman. Most of your pay is commission based and it's pretty cut-throat. Work isn't meant to be fun or liked. Take the stable job that pays well and is relaxing and easy as hell
>>16941281
>Commission only
Noooooooooooooo. Unless you are really confident in selling to people and can handle potentially swindling people(even the most honest car salesman is still trying to fuck you a bit), you'll hate it AND you won't make any money.
Take the cubicle job.
>>16941281
The cubicle job will destroy your soul. You'll have some officious twat breathing down your neck all the time, timing how long it takes you to go to the toilet, and all sorts of other stupid shit. It'll be an intense psychological sweatshop. For the sake of your sanity, do not do this. Don't even consider it.
If selling cars isn't something you can do then turn them both down.
Is liking anime and video games still cringy if you're secure and confident in it?
>>16941253
No, just don't be obsessed/a dork and have other hobbies. Also be hygenic. I'm a "normie" by 4chan standards and I don't have a problem admitting to liking either of those. They're just things I might pursue in my free time
>>16941253
But by asking this question you have demonstrated that you are not secure and confident in it.
It's only cringy if you're up in people's faces about liking it, if you dress in anime/vidya clothes, play your portables in public, etc. In short, keep it to yourself, unless you're with other people who also like it. At a convention, you'd be more out of place if you didn't, for example.
im feeling like the only way to keep on living is to stab my ex girlfriend to death when i visit her and jump off a three story building because im hurt hows shes sleeping with other ppl now but i know there has to be another way please help me :-(
Date other chicks, treat them like sex objects.
Does wonders for ye olde self-esteem....
>>16941257
i try but whenever im interested with someone new i become *too* attached and scare them off
If you really think you're about to hurt someone, including yourself, then you need to go to the emergency room and tell them exactly what you told us.
Assuming it's not quite THAT urgent, then my first advice is to avoid visiting your ex-girlfriend. Right now, you can't handle it. I don't think she'd be able to handle it either, if she knew.
My second advice is to start getting rid of mementos, physical and digital. Ordinarily I tell people to take mementos they can't bear to part with, put them in a box, and put the box somewhere safe but out of sight. But to be perfectly frank, you sound like you need something more radical. Get rid of EVERYTHING, no matter how much it hurts. Give back things you borrowed, donate what can be salvaged, and throw the rest away. Delete any and all digital files -yes, even those- and sledgehammer the drives if you think you might undelete things. Do this with mementos all of your previous exes as well.
The reason for this is simple: you hurt because you're obsessing. You need to make your headspace and environment into a place where it is possible to think about things that are not your ex.
Once you've done this, my third piece of advice is to flood your brain with new information. Everyone has a backlog of things they thought would be neat to do, but never got around to learning how. It is time to take something off of that list. I do not recommend using artistic pursuits for this purpose -they backfire way too easily- but anything else will do.
And lastly, once you've started this new interest, seek professional help. Order matters: right now you sound like you really could hurt someone, and that has consequences. My advice is not a guaranteed cure, but it is my hope that it could at least pull you back from the brink. If that doesn't work, then you should see someone anyway, tell them what you told us, and brace for impact. I am sorry.
But one way or another, you DO need help.
So my gf is now a month and 1-2 weeks late for her period... If the tests are still negative am I in the clear??
She was on birth control she switched pill types the month she missed her period but stil no period. She said she doesn't have any signs so with the tests being negative am I safe? The test would have to be positive by now right? We've taken at least 10-15 tests all negative
Seriously need some advice I'm losing my mind because of anxiety
>>16941222
Bump,
Check em
Relax, mang....
Bump
hey /adv/
First time posting, but don't know where else to turn.
Here's the deal. Yesterday I was partying with my brother and a buddy of mine. My brother has ADD and gets these concerta drugs in 27mg capsules. I was drunk and during the night I might have taken about three pills in total. I crushed them and snorted them. Felt good like a motherfucker. But this is where it gets scary. I couldn't for the death of me fall asleep and have been awake for 48+ hours now. My heart is beating faster than normal, as if I was startled, but it is not too bad I think. I am sort of getting chills in my entire body every tenth second. My question is, has anyone of you had any experience with amphetamine containing drugs? and any advice on what I should do? I am sort of freaking out and need some help
Don't ever do drugs again, please. Send them all to me, I'll gladly take them off of your hands and dispose of them appropriately.
>>16941216
You'll be fine, mang. It's probably just the residual anxiety that's keeping you up more than anything. Amphetamines fuck with your heart, that's just what they do. You'll fucking live though, relax. Smoke some weed or something, you'll probably crash out sooner.
Drink lots of water to help your kidneys detox naturally. If you fear for your health that much, make sure that someone'e around in case you crash and burn.
It's happening again. I'm falling behind in school.
I can't fucking read a single textbook page without wanting to fall asleep. How do people do this shit?
Various methods.
Your brain is better in the morning. Read then.
Join a study group, teach others.
Exercising the body helps the brain. Especially aerobics.
book learning isn't for everyone.
just 100 years ago 50% of people worked on farms for god sake.
Maybe look into trades or some kind of skilled labour
>>16941209
Close your browser immediately, get off of 4chan and study. School is expensive and you're fucking it off
broke my leg a couple weeks ago falling down the stairs. am 30.
how the FUCK do I apply for disability?
>>16941141
Do some fucking research, dude. You haven't even said what country you are in or the reason you'd merit some kind of disability.
i'm from USA and.. i can't work. my leg is broke.
this is for people that want to feel helpful, go shitpost in someone else's thread
>>16941165
doesnt work like that, only if you broke it on the job and unless youre actually paralyzed so talk with your employer.
Hey /adv/ I have this nasty habit of picking the skin and nails on my fingers constantly. Ive been doing it since elementary school. How can I stop this shit?
Pic-related: my fucked up cuticles
Self bumping because I really want to end this shit
>>16941095
I'll bump because I have the same problem
>>16941095
Look up EEG info
Find someone in your area that offers it. It's super cheap and affective.
I knew a girl who would pull her hair out (which is same kind of problem as biting your nails). She started the EEG and it really helped her hair pulling.
May sound silly but if you're serious about fixing it you should give it some research atleast.
