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SO I just realized my entire life is meaningless. I have no use to anyone. I feel like I'm fucking bugging out. If I'm dead, people would mourn for maybe a year or two and then move on, just like we did with my dad. And the meager acquaintances I know will forget me even faster than Bieber's new haircut.
What do I do?
>>16941764
idk, religiously follow a religion?
>>16941764
Whatever you want.
Your life hasn't changed at all.
>>16941767
But to what end anon? I was raised a Hindu. I fell off it sometime around 15. It's just been a steady decline since I stopped believing in a gods. I mean I still pray when stuff gets unbearable. No gods for boredom.
I gave my home address and credit card details to a dealer and now he is saying he is going to come round my house because I cancled the card. Help me. What do I do??
Tell him about the misunderstanding and allow for 5-7 working days to resolve the issue, I'm sure he will understand
Get him picked up by the cops.
real talk you might die, if possible either embrace your impending death or propose to be an alien so that you're protected in a special medical facility
How do I figure out my qualities? My good sides, my strengths, whatever makes me stand out in a positive way?
As far as I know, I have none. For weeks, months even I have been trying to figure this out with no result.
I tried asking others. Friends gave a half-hearted "you're a nice guy" and turned the mood awkward, and my mother broke down apologizing because she literally couldn't think of a good thing about me. That's why I'm asking an anonymous line-worshipping board filled with robots. Asking others only made it worse; for me and for them.
>>16941751
What do you do for fun?
What do you always seem to get stuck with doing?
What do you do in general?
I'm a dull guy but even so I feel loved.
I think its just that i built a network, I am always around.
>>16941854
I'm going through my eleventh year of high school, because I keep failing the damn thing. I can't get a job because I can't figure out and write down why anyone would ever want me.
What I'm stuck with doing? Chasing my friends, asking them to hang out/do X activity and hearing their excuses. Other than that, I play immersive open world vidya, watch films and series, and try to read and learn to play guitar but never get in the mood to. Lift a bit too every now and then.
So im in year 12 and every day i wake up to go to school but before going i look at myself in the mirror and think why am i being part of the norm. i feel as though instead of going out and getting a actual job eg. builder, doctor, teacher
i want to just make things and spread my ideas i couldn't care less about money but i live in a house hold where creative thinking is shunned and looked down upon. How do i go about making my parents understand how i want to move forward in life ?
My parents ruined me too, creative thinking always seems to somewhat taboo because its not seen as a guaranteed way to "succed (make pointless money) but nothing is anyway. I hate my life because creativity isn't encouraged. I wish I knew what to do, until then I will continue being depressed. If I never find out I will be the norm in a office job and still be depressed probably killing my self somewhere along the line.
>>16941735
>i want to just make things and spread my ideas
What do you make? Paintings? Sculpture?
What ideas? Philosophy?
>>16941750
im happy that you get what im trying to say MONEY is a means to a end not the main goal for me i just want to spread a idea that may only changed one or two people outlook on life
I tried to explain this to parents whore 24/7 workaholics and all i got was "dont be stupid and grow up" but im thinking that im still going to do what i want as they will lea
>>16941758
Painting
music
Art from things that are around me
My psychiatrist asked me to think of a list of things I'd like to do in life.
I can't think of anything. What do?
Do you like money? Maybe think about what you'd buy if you had lots of money.
>>16941705
I have 100k in the bank.
>>16941708
Well, I'd say think about satisfying your most primal urges if you don't have anything that comes to mind.
Sex, drugs, food, all great hobbies for the richer person.
I was playing PC games earlier and my roommate and his gf were hanging out with me in my room on my bed while I was playing. They pretended like they snoozed off and then they were making out with each other a bunch. I kept hearing slurping and slobbering noises. Then I turned around and saw my friend grabbing and rubbing her tits, and did not want to look any more. It instantly disturbed me and I think they do this a lot as soon as I turn around and it's gross as fuck. What the hell do you do to make it stop? I thought this kinda crap ended after high school.
Maybe they enjoy being watched
It pissed me off too because it was on my bed, and I'm not very enthusiastic about sleeping there tonight, even though what happened wasn't too extreme.
>>16941702
I think they try to hide it when they think I don't notice and make it look like they aren't doing anything.
whats the minimum height someone would have to fall onto their head for an assured death? onto asphalt explicitly... 20 feet?
There is no assured minimum height. People have survived falls from airplanes: not many, and almost always with severe injuries (though the record for landing uninjured is a whopping 10,000 feet), but the fact remains that it's survivable. If you choose this method, there are levels of risk that you have to be prepared to accept.
>>16941687
Trying to orient yourself in freefall is not an easy task. If you make the tiniest mistake you'll start to tumble, at which point you have to activley fight to regain control, asumming you don't black out. Falling 20' on to your head probably would kill you, but given that the time from jump to impact would be something in the region of 1.12 seconds you'd have no time at all to orient yourself in the first place, let alone recover if something goes wrong, and landing on your feet/chest/back from that height will just turn you in to a vegetable.
could end up wtih a broken neck never know
Just maybe not kill yourself
I need to convince one of my closest friends to not make a dumb decision.
>been down this road with her many times.
Before everyone jumps the gun here, I am not secretly in love with her or anything like that.
> I've known her since we were like 12 y/o
>that's more then half my life, so I care about her wellbeing.
Anyways to the issue:
>In our early 20's she got together with this guy.
>at first he seemed like a nice person
>we became good friends, me and him even.
>He stayed the good guy for about a year then he slowly started to change into a big asshole.
>she still stayed with him for a pretty long time, hoping he'd change back I guess.
>He never did
>So eventually they split.
Over the next 4 years or something she's been going back to this guy, only to realize he's a giant asshole and breaking up again and again and again and again.
So... It just happened again!
>a few days ago she told me they were back together again "This time it's going better" - Pff, she's said that and similiar things the other 1356654 times too.
I wouldn't care unless she did, she's still madly in love with the guy he was for the first year and instead of moving the fuck on she's trying to force it to work>ends up sad and depressed every time.
>I've tried talking with her about it but it doesn't seem to have any effect.
Any advice on how to get her to listen?
Anyone alive out there?
Is she running back to you to do the emotional labor he won't?
Stop doing that. That would be a good start in all ways incl splitting them up.
The only thing you can do, as she's a grownup, is to remove yourself from the situation.
>don't listen to her bitch about him
>don't participate in her life when he's in it
As above, if you are carrying her emotionally, why wouldn't she go back to him? She gets physical interaction with him and emotional from you.
so I like this girl, she's great
but she's also not as attractive as the girls I'm used to
not sure if it's a sign I should let it go, or if I will warn to her/get into blindfold sex
>>16941628
you like her, that's great, now just put a bag over her head and problem is solved.
>>16941628
At least give her a chance. What if she has a wonderful personality?
>>16941640
>personality
lol
how do I get over her?
>>16941586
you should cry about it a little longer that might make you feel better
or find someone better, both are good options
Learn to rely on yourself.
Go to the gym.
Make goals for your career/study that you only need yourself to achieve, it helps you to focus.
Even though it's hard to do, with enough time and self-belief, you'll start to feel like you don't need her.
Try to be the best representation of the person you can be.
Dress well and groom yourself whenever you go out, as if you're expecting to meet someone who will be important in your life.
have you tried alcohol? nothing helps you forget a girl faster than running over some innocent people.
OK so Saturday night out of no where my brother starts texting me. He is obviously drunk but whatever. Starts off with him threatening to assault me, he then says that my pregnant fiance basically cheated on me and the kid isn't mind (text in the pic, I know 100% that it's mine). And start insulting her looks and everything.
I told my father this and told him that I would not hesitate to have him arrested if he continues texting me or if he shows up here (he sent me like 60 texts, most of those after I stopped replying).
I kept it civil. I didn't bring up his fiance who is a cheating whore and has cheated on him not once but three fucking times and they are still getting married.
My dad said he handled it but refused to talk about it with me. My brother still sent a couple messages today. I told him that I'm done with his bullshit and that I'm cutting him out of my life. He will never be allowed to see my child.
Lile seriously, you have to be an extremely trashy person to say something like that to your sibling when he's expecting to be a father.
Steroids and alcohol don't mix I guess. If there are any questions I'll try to go into more detail. I just think this is the best choice for me.
Ok...but are you asking for advice? You've made your decision and asked no questions.
>>16941573
you should not be fat bro
>>16941645
I guess I'm looking to see if people think I made the right choice. I know it's going to kill my mother but I just can't forgive him for what he said.
>>16941647
I'm 6' 220lbs, I'm a little soft but I'm athletic and train Muay Thai (have fought twice in Thailand). He's just a juice head.
I live about 100 miles south from my friends as I go to university and I am miserable. I have no friends where I am and often spend days in my room alone, hardly eating. I am not doing so well with a 3.0GPA in Economics, a subject that I am now realizing will not get me a job, and I cannot get a part time job because it is a very small town (I have a lot of experience as a waiter).
I'm a junior now, but I am honestly killing myself here. This is not a healthy environment and I feel like this is killing me. I am highly considering moving back into the area where I have established a life and taking a minor in Economics while I major in something that might actually provide a decent life for me.
Am I hyperventilating, or are my concerns real here?
I've went from 152 to 134 in just the span for 3 months due to not eating. I am killing myself like this and need help desperately.
Do that, then. Why not? You've only told us positives to that plan, no negatives.
So leave. You hate it there.
>>16941612
I'd have wasted a lot of time and effort at this school getting my degree here; by far the biggest issue for me. There will be wasted classes, and thus wasted money and time.
I'm not having a good day, /adv/.
I was diagnosed with bowel cancer a while back and the surgeries only stopped last year.
The shit thing is, having studied human biochemistry at uni, I know my risk for secondary, tertiary, quaternary, etc. cancers is decently above-average now. A secondary cancer is all but certain.
I've been feeling pretty down about it lately for some reason, and today it hit me that this was just the fucking tutorial. The next one I get is going to be in the middle of a career, and the one after that will be even further along in that career. It was fucking hard enough dealing with bowel cancer - one of the easiest cancers to treat - during university. I'm really not feeling great about having to deal with a harder one when I have even more to lose.
Tl;dr things are okay now, but I know they won't be later.
I neglected to mention I was 21 at the initial diagnosis. I'd wager I'll be lucky to make it to 50.
I just can't even right now, I'm not sure if that qualifies as asking for advice or not.
Please don't delete this thread.
I feel kinda weird for replying to this as I feel like I have nothing to say about these matters, having not experienced cancer and all... It may sound stupid, but the only (and I guess best non-medical) advice I can give you is to 'hang on' and don't give up!
I probably don't have to tell you, but cancer is a constant battle, if you don't fight the cancer, it will fight you and you will lose. But if you resist it, you might be able to live your while and get some nice things out of it.
I can give you the example of my grandma:
She was like 80 when my mom discovered she had cancer (there was a huge tumor erupting from her belly). After some scans they found out it was pretty much all over so it was hard to say where it started. Doctors estimated she had been suffering some form of cancer for at least 20 years. Yes... 20 fucking years. Nobody in the family knew she had this, she never spoke about it or showed any kind of pain to anyone. After they found out they started chemo/radiation therapy but of course it was basically useless... the only thing they could do was extend her life. So this went on for a year or 2 and after that she was kinda too weak to continue and returned home. It was evident she would die soon, so one night when she felt extremely bad we all gathered to my grandparents' home. All her children were there, like exchanging their last words, sharing good moments, saying hopeful things. everybody was there, except for my uncle, who was in Romania at the time.
apparently her wish to see everybody before she died was so strong that she managed to survive that night. She even lived on for another half year, until EVERYBODY in the family could be with her and say goodbye. So eventualyl she died in a care-home with her whole family besides her. It's probably the most romantic death I have ever experienced.
So, sorry for the long story... now my comment is too long, get ready for the second one :P
>>16941588
so... my point is:
Set some goals in your life, some things you want/have to do and just go for them. Don't let your health/disease get into your way. Resist it even though it is harsh and get some support (your family/friends) if you feel like you need it.
If you start losing hope/giving up it will get you, so please don't. Now you even don't know what will happen, cherish life as long as you can man! If you let the cancer/fear of cancer rule your life, it will get you. So never give up!
I hope these words helped you a bit. Anyway good luck in your life and I hope you will remain healthy :).
Im 21 and couldn't cum while having sex
I was with a girl 2 year past the last time i was with a girl, we fucked and i couldn't cum
Tonoght we were sexting, I was hard and all but when she ask for a photo I inmediatly lose my boner, then tried to jack off to anything, and I couldn't cum again
The 2 years since my last sexual experience I jcked off like 2, 3 times at day, then I met her and happened this.
Please I need help I'm feeling like shit
Stop masturbaiting for a month
>>16941539
maybe too much pressure in your current life?
is things okay with you? work? college?
desu sex its like a porno, where you need to cum, as long she was satisfied you are ok.
Try having sex at a neutral time, so without alcohol, and obviously dont wank if you are gonna get laid sooo.
>>16941539
Prob performance anxiety op. How's your confidence overall? Are you a socially awkward person?
It's Been a year and a half, and I can't do this anymore.
All I want is for her to initiate sex. Just for once, actually show some interest in doing anything sexual, and be the antagonist.
I've talked to her about it for months, and all she does is act like I'm being an asshole. She never addresses the matter, just tells me I'm being rude, or mean, or that I "don't give her a chance."
I've worded it politely, bluntly, given her an hour, all day, all week, 6 months and still, I basically have to convince her to have sex. What the fuck is the problem here?
>>16941531
She says she enjoys it alot when we do have it, we used to have it a lot more often, but as a result of me not engaging (to give her a chance to do it first,) we don't do it nearly as often.
On top of this she's recently moved back in with her parents, so I only get 1-3 days a week to have sex... and if I don't force it upon us, it simply would never happen.
Even if I straight up ask her "can you be the one to start something later?" She'll make a deal out of it.. and I might get a predictably obvious forced attempt at a blowjob before we go to bed.
By predictably obvious forced attempt, I mean similar to what you'd expect from a child when you say "I'm not gonna ask you again, finish your broccoli" and they pick at it for 5 minutes then decide to miserably take a nibble, then glare at you.
Doesn't exactly put me in the mood, and I'm at a loss. Pic related: tfw I try to address the issue.
>>16941531
She either has a low sex drive or she's not in love with you.
Did you have to convince her before?
>>16941531
I don't think you should be fucking your tv.
