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I have a girlfriend I lost to weed about 2 months ago. She works at a pizza hut and rides around with some co-workers after the store closes around midnight. Even worse, I've detected hints that she may be cheating on me with the driver. I'm planning to break up with her and I want to get revenge and I'm hoping you guys can help.
My first act of revenge is to tell her about my trust fund that just came in. I'm getting 4500 biweekly for the next 13 years and she has no idea. If she knew she was being dumped by a soon-to-be richfag, it would crush her. She always had an unhealthy love for money.
Second, I want to camp out at a sheetz parking lot they always visit and wait for her ride to pull in. I would call up the local police department and leave an anonymous tip that a car full of adolescents smell like pot and are heading in x direction. I would go on about how I value everyone's life and other bs. I would tail the car and camp out once I saw an officer pull the car over and gloat from afar. I know the driver is a dealer and would be cuffed instantly. I wouldn't mind if the gf got cuffed too.
Thoughts? How would you guys enact revenge?
Revenge is for betas.
>>17251571
....revenge for doing what to you exactly?
what the fuck is wrong with you?
>>17251571
You're a chump
What have I become?
>sexted with a girl on snapchat a week ago
>tried hitting her up again
>she basically declines
>she hits me up last night, sending me snaps of her cleavage and legs and stuff
>I ask her if she wants to see me touch myself
>Doesn't reply
>ask her if she wants to see me cum
>she says yeah cum
>I ask her to send me a pic of her boobs
>no response
>my phone was about to die so I sent her a snap of me cumming
It is like I've become so desperate for a nut that I'll practically embarrass myself. And It isn't like I have any shortage of sex partners. I'm having regular sex with one girl, and there is another girl a couple blocks from me who I fool around with, etc.
>Was what I did pathetic? Am I a cuck? Am I desperate? Was that inherently "wrong?"
I'm just worried about how I perceive myself. I feel gross and guilty.
>>17251567
>Was what I did pathetic? Am I a cuck? Am I desperate? Was that inherently "wrong?"
yes, yes, yes, no.
it was probably a man though.
>>17251567
There was another time I was talking to this girl on Skype and I practically begged her to cam with me.
The most she did was put her hair in pigtails, suck on her fingers, show me cleavage and shake her ass.
And I'm here in my room showing off my dick to her while she is half interested in being sexy for me.
I just mean is this normal male behavior or do I have a problem?
>>17251572
Nah, I know her irl. but she lives a couple hours a way.
When it comes to Relationship versus Education, how do you choose?
I don't want to regret a life altering decision.
What exactly is the dilemma here?
>>17251564
>Currently in LDR
>Applied to attend College A & College B
>Gf plans to work near College A
>Planning to move in together
>Recent changes to College A has made it difficult for me to pursue education route
>College B is the better choice if that's all i'm interested in
>College B means extending the LDR
>If we're both 'Full-Time' and unable to close distance I could lose her
>She is my everything
What do?
>>17251600
Well as someone who once thought of his lover as his everything, I can safely say you should become fiscally secure first and foremost. I'd say you should put your studies first. I shirked my studies, thought everything would be okay, and I was cheated on for several months. The end result was an awful break up that I have still not fully recovered from.
22yo kissless virgin can't have good conversations with girls.
They always prefer other guys.
Have this weird shit that i can't think sexually about girls unless i trust them and i don't. Many girls spread lies white or not and never find it morally wrong. I can never understand what they really mean. They can have boyfriends and lie about it.
I am anxious and don't want to be laughed at.
Help
Complaining about your anxiety on 4chan won't help, go work out or something.
Yeah, no help here. A psychotherapist would help you. All that will really help you is living is and being thoughtful and trying to evaluate your problems. one day it might click, and you'll realize how to be a competent and loving human being worthy of empathy like the original ending to Evangelion. it's what a lot of people go through growing up. just don't murder anyone. that is something you must never do if you want a chance of living a happy life.
>>17251545
Did you just ride off into the sunset?
I have everything I could ever want yet very often I enter these long slumps where i feel really empty and lose interest in all of my hobbies. I don't know how to stop them from happening and I they aren't caused by anything in particular. Please help. How do I stop it?
Meditate or go to church. Or do something spiritual. Sounds like you're getting disconnected from your spirituality.
>>17251500
>my mind races with all my longings but can't keep up with what I've got.
Welcome to the world of ennui. There is nothing you can do to stop it.
Get out in nature and immerse yourself in the physical world. That is what has helped me best.
Yeah this one drives me mad as well. Without purpose how do we define value and meaning? Purpose is often connected with a want or need, but in the absence of either we've got to try and find it as an individual. Previously why did I do something? I just had to do it. Why? Because I was trying to prevent myself going mad through self loathing due to inactivity.
Long story short:
>co-worker fucks around with my wife
>I find out and leave her
>take a sick leave from work to sort out my life
>Return to work in a month from now.
I am nervous about how my other co-worker will perceive me and treat me when I return to work. I know how I would feel if it was one of my co-workers. After all this shit went down the asshole got demoted and is back to being a labourer, So I won't have to interact with him... I don't like talking about the shit that happened and get very heated and over-react before I can think... How should I approach the situation?
>>17251410
>I know how I would feel if it was one of my co-workers
How?
>>17251410
They'll show you pity and look down on you. I hope you have some fine excuses prepare so you can save face.
>>17251440
>excuses
Don't, just don't. Shit happened and there is nothing to make it unhappen.
Excuses mean you haven't moved on; accept things as they are and try to make it a forced opportunity to improve yourself in any way.
Can someone tell me why I should care about the dead gays in Florida?
We don't care when a bomb goes off in Turkey, what makes Florida different?
Why should I care when bad things happen outside of my town?
Hell, why should I care when bad things happen outsude of the 5 or 6 buildings I visit frequently? (My job, my school, my house, the little bar, the gas station, the grocery store)
Somebody explain
No one said you have to.
Ecology.
We're in a closed system.
It's just not good to have shit flung around.
Other than that, I don't care.
I didn't care when Columbine happened.
I didn't care when 911 happened.
However, I get the fact everyone else PRETENDS to care [social climbers].
I'm honest though.
If people don't have their priorities straight, and they don't help each other, but they pretend to care, then they're psychopaths.
People like you and me? We're reactive sociopaths.
We'd care if people cared and there was a system in place where shit mattered.
But it doesn't because people are mindless cunts.
Welcome to Woke World.
>>17251370
To empathize. I wouldn't want that to happen to me, so I feel bad that it happened to you.
However, I don't understand why people overreact and post about it on social media, or say they cried over it and whatever when those people weren't their family or even people they knew.
Honestly, I feel bad, but not enough to do or say anything about it. Definitely not enough to make some boo hoo social media post about it. Honestly just happy it wasn't me or my family.
21M with great facial aesthetics and 6'2". I have no problems getting girls, but sometimes they have bfs and I usually turn them down. The reason I ask is because there is this 4'11" cutie throwing herself at me atm, and wants to meet up at my house tomorrow. When we were drunk and I didn't know about the bf we made out and I sucked on her titties etc. Now the problem is her bf is like 6'3" and jacked af. I don't want to end up in hospital. Also I think my good friend has a beta orbiter thing for her and would be devastated if he found out.
I'm planning on to turn her down, or should I just YOLO and do it?
Yolo and do it
I put myself in the other dude's situation. do I want to find out my gf cheated on me? Probably not.
Hi, I'm the most fucked up guy in the world, and even I wouldn't sleep with someone else's GF.
First of all, it's stupid because it spells drama and conflict.
Secondly, it's also lame and pathetic... get your own GF... if you're too pathetic to win them over to be your GF, then you're no more a man than the loser you're cuckolding.
Also, sluts usually pass on STDs.
Don't do it, find your own girl.
Don't be pathetic. Be a man.
I kissed my girlfriend open-mouthed, and now I don't know what my next move should be? (if i need to do anything). Any suggestions?
Keep doing that until she says otherwise.
You have to be 18 to use this site.
Now that you got her to open her mouth, put your penis in it.
It rains outside, both want to stay in, just watching tv becomes boring sometimes.
>>17251300
Play scrabble
Play chess
Cook a meal
Bake a cake
Clean the house
Have sex
>>17251300
Try doing a tabletop game. Its better with more people but a one player adventure isn't bad if one of you are a good storyteller.
My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years was invited to go abroad for work for just 6 days with our old college. I have always trusted him deeply and so I encouraged him to have fun and make friends, etc. He came back and told me this story:
>worked all day, but partied all night
>made friends with lots of guys
>drank lots of rum and danced at clubs
>his group was approached by prostitutes at a club and some in his group were interested but he wasn't
>the guys knew he had a gf but still encouraged him to see prostitute - he declined by saying he was afraid of herpes (didn't wanna lose face in front of guys)
>still, he danced with one of the prositutes that night and bought her a few beers because she asked
>later that week went to a club with some guys and girls from his group and said while he was dancing with a girl she kissed him
>he said he didn't let it go farther than that
>he admitted he was kinda attracted to her
>said throughout the week he danced with several other girls
>said he felt guilty but also told the story like it was all really exciting
We have a policy to always be honest with each case other and I'm glad he told me. But should I be mad about this? I can't get this out of my head. It makes me feel terrible. I know he didn't really DO much, but maybe because lately I felt our relationship hasn't felt quite right this really bothers me. I'm not sure how to handle this.
If you have a policy of being honest, just go tell him what you just wrote - that you feel hurt by it.
Don't try to use it as leverage or anything, just be clear about how you feel. If he respects how you feel, he will make more of an effort to not let it happen again.
>>17251296
I don't necessarily disagree with this advice, but if a guy told the same story about his girlfriend dancing with a bunch of guys and "one of them kissing her" the chorus of "break up with that whore!" would be universal. Just sayin'.
>>17251302
No it wouldn't. Seen it happen here many times. There will be those people, but they will be reasonably balanced by the "it was just dancing and a kiss and she was honest about it" people.
If it were sex, yes, the pitchforks would be hoisted and the torches would be lit. So lit.
I want to get my friend to sign a contract that she'll pay me back the £500 that loaned her. Can I write one up myself, like just some conditions, and get get her to sign it? And do I need a witness to make it legal?
where I live a verbal agreement is legally binding, if she didn't pay you back you could take her to civil court. Depends where you are I guess.
>>17251287
I doubt I could actually win a case for a verbal agreement since we discussed it in private
>>17251287
Where do you live? I have never heard of a verbal agreement being legally binding. It's completely unenforceable if there's no tangible proof.
I got a girls from my job and texted her a bit for the night before we both fell asleep.
I asked when she would be free next and she still hasn't responded, I'll see her in person this Friday. Do I text her again and ask what's up or do I wait to see her in person and ask?
What do you think will come across as a more confident approach?
>>17251241
Believe it o9r not, even in this age there are some people who have lives and do not spend every second of the day staring at their phones.
>>17251246
Waiting to see her in person sounds like the better way to go, the urge to text ger is pretty strong
I think I might have died in 2009 in a car crash. When I say it out loud, or write it, it does sound ridiculous. But how do I prove to myself I'm alive, in the sense that I am in the same plane of existence that I was then?
The crash should have killed me. The paramedics and policemen were shocked when they saw my car. Everyone kept telling me how lucky I was to be alive. I was taken to the hospital for a bunch of imaging. I was released 5 hours later with literally nothing wrong with me.
Looking back I realize I cannot really remember 2009-2013. Maybe a few still images in my mind, but nothing concrete.
How do I prove I'm still alive?
Do you remember the Berenstein Bears or the Berenstain Bears?
>>17251225
Write a journal of things you do. Take pictures. Literally anything that's shows you did something at one point other than memory.
I'm reading your post, and unless I drowned back in 1998, I'm still alive. Wouldn't that be something if we were both dead, though?
My gf has been LDR for 3 months (due to work). Comes back in a day. She is highly independent and not a big texter.
She went out to get drinks with a girlfriend of hers last night and sent me a nice message before she left. I responded and didn't hear from her the rest of the night.
Around 2am I sent her a text asking if she were still out and I'd figured she'd had texted me throughout the night that I was now going to bed.
About 8 hours later when she awakes she sends me a sarcastic text that no, she was with her friend cheating on me already and then addressed my follow up text prior and said how she is now sick due to the weather there.
I feel like an ass and I got pissed off because I am loaning her $300 today and figured the very least she could do is text me more often. We barely text to begin with.
Additionally, I do SO much shit for her (took care of her house while she was gone) and as little as she text me I always figure she's meeting someone or something.
How do I reply to her last text?
What exactly did your initial follow-up and 2am texts say?
>>17251216
>give her money
>expect constant attention in return
So your girlfriend is a escort?
Forget about responding. You need to come from a place of power and control, if you wish to unfuck your situation.
>do you honestly feel she owes you anything?
>can you value her freedom to be independant whenever you're not spending time together?
>do you trust her to be monogamous, if that's your agreement?
If you can't be happy with this arrangement, either get out or establish more clear principals with her. If you don't feel like giving her money, then don't. Expect her to be upset, but frankly she doesn't seem like she's treating you the way you feel you deserve, so there's that. Don't be a doormat, mate. Give her a soft next if she gives you trouble. Don't apologise, do backtrack on asking her something completely reasonable.
