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Even when I can afford to. I feel morally criminal whenever I spend a lot money on indulgences like expensive food, clothes, objects etc. Am I just being a butthurt cheapskate or do most people feel bad about spending their money even when you can afford it? I don't give my money to charity anyway...
I used to, and then I thought "fuck it, it's my money"
Yeah, as an american every time I spend money on a brand new product (as opposed to something used) I feel bad, because usually it's technology that is produced in China, which tends to be produced by workers who live in a way not unlike slavery. I hate the idea that I'm supporting a new-age slavery model but it's really hard to find specific things used.
You shouldn't necessarily feel bad, but I understand why you do.
Were you raised frugal? You'll get over it eventually.
I want to leave this shit city I grew up in a move somewhere else. Probably Florida. Or Washington. Or North Dakota.
How do I find a job somewhere far away?
connections
>>16922043
need them connects nigga.
>>16922043
moving won't solve a thing in your life. You'll bring the same problems there and end up in the same place.
Does anyone have advice about sexual relationships with older women?
When I was 17 years old I met this woman who recently moved closer to my house. I live in the country, and there aren't many people around so we are typically close with our neighbours. I went there one night back in 2012 to ask if she wanted to smoke a joint with me, my girlfriend and brother were away at the time and I was bored. She was divorced, and sold her old house to buy this one, we smoked some of her weed and talked really intimately, I remember it as one of the best nights of my life....
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>>16922015
FWB relationship, yes.
Serious, committed relationship, no.
I could write a diatribe about the reasons, but if you're at all rational, you know the reasons why already.
>>16922034
I'd be interested in the diatribe, I haven't had much life experience.
>>16922015
bump
I need some help coming up with ideas on a wedding. I really want to impress my fiance, and give her a nice lasting experience without draining my bank accounts or going nuts.
My uncle is a professional musician and I'll have him do the music and I do have access to a relatively large event budget 2000-3500 in one of the cheapest parts of my country.
So far the ideas I've had was
- "that one night" from the office, because my fiance loves the office (Any more ideas to go with this? I can't remember the songs that were played at...
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Get a Pinterest account. I am not even joking.
>>16921974
This
Also right now outdoorsy vintage weddings are really big. They can be really affordable if you do a lot of the decorating and stuff diy style.
My moms getting remmaried and she's personally doing a "Glamping" (glam camping???) wedding at a park.
Anyone know of a video of an edited GOP debate where Trump calls some other candidate a "big smelly baby" or something of the like and hits his mic at the end of every sentence? He also interrupts the candidate whenever they try to talk.
>>16921711
doesn't really sound like sharp satire, honestly you're probably better off not finding the video
>>16921718
Please. I'm tired from studying differential equations all day and I just want something mindless to laugh at.
Never mind, I found it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-McIdVuY88
It's not even funny. It just made me sad. But I asked for this. Sadness is what I deserve.
How to send a disappointing text with least amount of disappointment? I have to tell a friend there is no way I'm living with him next year.. this friend has no other friends..
6 days ago I told a friend we would be signing a lease with him.. this has been discussed for the past 6 months with little contact from said friend. It now appears as though there will not be space for this friend to be iving in the house (5 bedroom house not 6) I'm about to text this friend telling him there is not space for him. I know this will affect him greatly (robot) and...
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Selfish bump
>>16921662
Yo bro, hold the phone! I can't sign a lease with ya, I screwed up. Lets go get a beer and discuss.
>>16921662
Man up and do it face to face.
This shit is awkward enough to admit on 4chan, but at least I'm mostly anonymous here.
I have a fetish I want to get rid of. For some reason, I get a hardon for Barbie dolls. I don't cum on them or anything, but I own a couple, and for some reason have spent money on getting new outfits and shit.
I'm a straight male, generally considered very handsome, and I get women. I don't understand why this interests me, and I'd like to get rid of this fetish.
How do I do that? One day, someone's going to open the wrong drawer over at...
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You can't get rid of a fetish. You can avoid the stimuli, that's pretty much it.
You can own Barbies if you want to, anon. It's not that weird.
>>16921545
You can't really get rid of a fetish. You can repress it, or try to, but that never ends well.
>>16921553
yeah you can, what the hell
I'm a Senior in high school, and for our classes the past year up to now, we occasionally have to make videos. One thing that is kinda funny for the class is using a movie studios intro like 20th century fox or paramount as our intro, just to mock our video I guess.
We have the videos posted online, however my dad is angry because he is concerned I could be liable for being sued for including those.
Is he correct in saying that? Is there any danger in having videos that have maybe 230 videos each, unmonetized online with movie intros in them?
>>16921528
nah. i mean chappelle said nigger thousands of times when it was heresy nothing much happened to him.
No, because you're not making any money off of it.
>>16921528
>Is he correct in saying that? Is there any danger in having videos that have maybe 230 videos each, unmonetized online with movie intros in them?
It's possible. Sometimes companies will really throw down on people, to make an example out of them. It's still considered copyright infringement, even if you're not making money.
The way I have learned to deal with my chronic anxiety is to be very dominant and assertive, to take control and lead conversation, and to help the people around me with their issues before talking about myself.
All of this is kind of like an act I have perpetuated for years and years, and now people are starting to really look at me like a leader in many different types of situations, and I don't know if I can handle it. I am very introverted in truth, and I am afraid of letting people down when they put me in the position to make major decisions.
How do...
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>>16921477
I think its time to stop listening to Evanescence
>>16921477
I struggle with the same dilemma. Many do. Many of whom you think are leaders feel just as you do. Remember, you are who you be. Who do you want to be? Why do you consider your inner self to be different, separate? Instead think of it as two faces of the same coin. You can switch to heads or tails as you need to. Don't think of your leadership skills as a facade, but as an actual developed dimension of your personality that you choose to display when necessary. This way you're not using it to hide your...
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>>16921494
But they understand me
My ex-girlfriend did some shitty shit to me before we broke up a month ago, but I never told her how bad she made me feel and we're still theoretically on good terms. I'm meeting up with her next week to exchange some stuff we left at each others' places before the breakup.
Part of me wants to call her out on her shit and part of me just wants to drop it and walk away. I honestly don't know what would make me feel better. At least if I told her about things that she did that made me unhappy she might not do them in future relationships? What do I do /adv/?
bumperini
>>16921297
Move on, I would say. You're no longer involved in her life in that sense, and I guess it would be good for her to learn from the past. But it's not your responsibility anymore, so you shouldn't feel obliged to let her know.
Good luck though.
>>16921363
I guess. To be specific, what she did was meet up (apparently just "as friends") with a couple of dudes from Tinder while I was out of town and not tell me until after the fact. When she told me about this I was so surprised that I didn't react, but honestly it makes me really angry. I just want to tell her that I think that kind of thing is wrong. Ughhhhh
My past two (and only) jobs' uniforms were always fake fabrics like polyester.
For some reason, they always accrue an... off smell, kind of like a musty B.O. kinda smell.
I want to stress that I am absolutely anal about hygiene, I am 100% clean, deodorized, and spic-n-span the second I get into that uniform, dick, balls , and all; but they always get that weird gross smell.
None of my civilian clothes have this problem, it's only my fake-fabric work clothes.
Does this happen to anyone else?
No. Kill yourself.
>>16921242
me too thanks
>>16921180
Yes, synthetics are known for that.
Hey family,
I've got dick problems.
My refractory period is bad to the point where I can only cum one time a day. And it's still a shit orgasm. I'll be lucky if I can even get more than one hard on in a day. When I was young the only way to get myself off was to rub a bunch of blankets against my dick while facing down on the bed. That fucked my dick up a bit by making it crooked and other things (It's pretty straight now). I got off the pills that made it hard to cum, but my balls are pretty sensitive and one of them kind of hurts when I masturbate...
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This is the closest I've felt to being castrated, /adv/
Your testosterone lowers after puberty and so does the sex drive. Start lifting if it bothers you. Also orgasms from masturbating arent as good as real sex ones (both in velocity and mass of the projectile)
>>16921221
>Lift
Is that all I need to do? I thought there would be more I could do
Hey /adv/
I'm trying to figure out if this dude likes me or not. The thing is I really like him and want him to fall heads over heels in love with me but he kind of sends me mixed signals. Being that he's paid for stuff when we hang out (coffee/drinks) and sometimes drives me home but he never contacts me or initiates to hang out first. What's the deal robots? pls help me
My guess, no. You're not on the radar.
I did this shit to a girl in college and she followed me around all the fucking time.
Was probably super into me but I didn't even notice at the time. I was just being polite.
Start calling hang outs DATES and see if he catches on.
Unless they're confident and actively hitting on you pretty hard, signals can seem mixed because you're more sensitive to the possibility of any signals being negative when you really like someone.
Try upping your flirting if you like him and think he likes you, make it easy for him to know if he should make a move.
>but he kind of sends me mixed signals.
Generally, when a guy sends mixed signals, it's a firm "no". The best you might get is a pity fuck, but even though he might stick his dick in you, you likely wouldn't get anywhere.
OTOH if the dude is SUPER shy maybe he's just afraid of you, in which case you should ask him out.
I didn't celebrate my birthday because my unit (army guard) had a field exercise that had me driving in a convoy to the middle of nowhere for several days. I get back to my civilian job the following Monday, and my desk is covered in streamer, confetti, balloons, the works... and I find this gem sitting there.
Turns out the girl I've been crushing on since October planned an elaborate birthday celebration that lasted the whole day, during and after work.
I figure "alright, yes, this is my chance, shes gotta be into me" and ask her out that...
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>>16920925
I know these types, she is leading you on.
You need to figure out how to get over the crush, otherwise this will ruin you.
She likes the way you like her, and the fact that you want to be with her gives her enjoyment. Problem is, she is like this with every guy, whether you see it or not. And its because she is a master manipulator. Trust me.
>>16920925
>Turns out the girl I've been crushing on since October planned an elaborate birthday celebration that lasted the whole day, during and after work.
That's fucking adorable.
You gotta be straight up with her.
So one of my best friends had this chick who would flirt/tease him and turned him into a blabbering betafaggot because he was so into her, he did some real autistic shit around her, he was a totally different man. Fast forward a few months, I told...
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>>16920984
sorry for typos i'm a little tipsy
This entire board is proof of man's inability to simply make a decision, we are always unsure and seeking the approval of others
me too thanks
good thing every human browses and posts this board huh
>>16920718
me too thanks
