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I have these pen pals (I'm Korean) on Twitter that are also Korean. I don't have any Korean friends irl because they don't exist in my area.
I was wondering, shouldn't friends; even those in social media, initiate contact to invite me to hang with them in the city at least? I know they all go to the city but not one has invited me to come over and meet up with them and hang. Or is it my responsibility to reach out to them and say, "hey lets go to XYZ my treat so we can finally meet?" I was told by my parent that I need them more than they...
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>>16920085
where do you live?
why can't you make friends? you go to school, friends are easy to make.
do you want to meet these twitter koreans?
>>16920196
NY, I live in a white ass neighborhood
I finished school unfortunately
I do. I'm just wondering what's the right answer. Should have they contacted me by now and invited me to hang with them or should I invite them out at a place to eat/drink so they can get to know me? I feel like I'm in a place of less power so I need them but with the concept of friendship I don't know if that's the case I should be feeling
>>16920246
like, how far from the city? you want korean friends just go to Flushing.
finished school. now what do you do?
>should have contacted me by now and invited me
why are you under the impression that they're meant to make an effort to bring you out rather than you having to be proactive? invite yourself to the shit that they do or make plans and invite them. it's like you're sitting on your hands and waiting for them to drag you out of your room.
also,...
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Hey guys, I just found a slip on my door from UPS saying that they missed me and that I need to pick up a package from an access point. But the thing is I haven't ordered anything.
The slip has my last name but this very same day I received 3 other letters mistakenly sent to me with different addresses but with the same last name and house number. The only thing that makes me think that its for me is because it says second floor on the slip(where I actually live), but the other address don't have it.
So I'm going to the access point tomorrow to see...
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>>16920056
Go pick up your free shit! But first google maps the access point and make sure it's actually a UPS address and not...something else.
Seen this happen before, turned out the persons account was compromised and the scammer ordered something to test if he could charge anything to the card. Go get the package and possibly contact your financial institution.
Do you have a tracking number, reference number or info notice number? You can find out details about the package on their website under tracking.
There was this cute German girl looking at me today, it wasn't the first time either. Sometimes in crowds she'll look at me from across the room, and today when she past me and went out the door she turned around to catch a glance. I know it doesn't mean she wants to fuck me and it may be a coincidence but would it be weird/creepy to throw a quick add over social media? I know her name because my friend introduced us to each other and we just said a simple "hello" and moved on.
Any ideas? Thanks
>>16920036
Talk to her dumbass. In person not on social media if it works out there add her then.
>>16920040
I would but I only see her on campus when class is beginning or when it's over. How would I approach her?
>>16920057
Start with "Hi, I think you're cute want to grab a together coffee sometime?" Some variation is allowed. If you're too much of a pussy to flirt with her just ask her to get coffee.
>dating girl I met in japan
>6 month relationship, we cut it off for a about two days when I returned to US, but immediately go back to dating
>everything is peachy and amazing, despite being long distance
>She tells me I motivate her every day and that she loves me
>I ask if she would like to skype on White Day (day before White Day)
>no response
>White day
>I wish her a happy White Day
>no response
>italian guy friend of hers adds me on FB
>(me)"Hi italian guy. Are you a friend of [girlfriend]?"
>(him)"Hey.Oh whoops I must have added you by accident, my bad"
>(me)"Oh okay, has she mentioned me?"
>(him)"Yeah she mentions a lot of guys lol"
My heart literally shatters
>(me)"I'm her boyfriend... At least I thought I was?"
>(him)"Oh no, I meant she mentions a lot of people. Hard to keep track. I added you by accident, sorry"
>1 day later
>I stitched myself back together, but my nerves are still shot. I had trouble sleeping last night, I'm tired, worried and above all, scared. I'm distracted with work and at the gym. Normally I'm confident and easy going, but not today.
>I recognize a good portion of it (at least) is all in my head
>I talk to one of my friends, he says his last relationship was ruined because he became paranoid around his girlfriend's guy friends
>I talk to another one of my friends (who had a crush on me). She tells me to smile and that I'm almost certainly overthinking it.
How do I stop this internal witchhunt? How do I bring myself back to my stable usual self? Should I even bring this up to her, or should I hold it in?
>>16920020
First ask her why she didn't respond around White Day. Then if she acts sketchy, tell her about the Italian guy. Honestly sounds he like was trying to scope you out, not just "oh lol whoops, accident!"
>>16920101
Shortly after I messaged him, he posted something about boarding a plane from New York back to Italy. I'm not sure what that means.
I'm worried that *maybe* I'm looking into this a bit too much. A huge part of any relationship is trust, isn't it?
She also *just* messaged me saying that she was busy the last few days, and asked if I would like to skype this week with her.
I definitely feel better.
>>260953
Perhaps you have yourself a gaijin (foreigner) addict. Similarly to how over here in America we are addicted (fetishized practically) to attractive foreign girls, especially Asians, you are in a relationship with an Asian with the similar mindset. If that's true she probably has numerous relations with other foreign men. Sorry, this may hurt.
How can I bait this bitch to know if she drugged me?
Last night I was at a MILF's place and had a drink. She told me to go see the apartment while she was mixing our drinks and then after I had a few sips I felt really drunk. I could hardly stand up straight and I got really blurry vision and after I while I went home. When I was trying to sleep I felt like I was hallucinating and had convulsions and was sweating a lot. Today I slept through most of the day and felt really sick despite only having one small drink last night...
I am now thinking I was drugged...
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"I'm still reacting funny to that drink you gave me. I need you to tell me what you put in it. This is important."
No need to be all subtle or baitey or crap like that. If she's freaking out like this, then something happened that wasn't supposed to. She's in unfamiliar territory, and that's to your advantage. Press it: confront her head-on, with an implication that this could be dangerous for you (which it could, since you have no idea what was in it). She'll break down.
>>16919831
tell police? they'll do bloodwork and a toxicology screen at the hospital. something shows up then your story fits with date rape scenarios.
>>16919831
"Hey, what do you mix together to make that drink? I may be having some sort of allergic reaction"
I haven't made a single close friend since high school / freshmen year of college and it's dawning on me that as we all start to graduate and go our separate ways, I'm going to need to make new friends. Is it even possible to form relationships as close as the ones you make in your adolescence as you start to get older? Because I feel like I can't make a connection with anyone these days and I don't know what's wrong.
I've been trying to get somewhere with these two people I met through work but they never have enough time to hang out...
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Accept the fact that even if you make friends in college, they'll always leave you (Unless they choose not to, via internet).
I've had 18 friends already via entering my toxic world of schooling, and only 2, to this day, remember my mug. Of course, we're all cool, but it just shows that it's unusual for that to happen.
Moving onward, you don't exactly force a friendship, it only forges on its' own. One of my new buddies regularly talks to me about his shizz and I talk about my stuff (Oddly enough, we had lots in common. Right down...
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>>16919691
I know you can't force it but that's what's confusing me. I don't remember ever forcing anything between me and the friends I'm closest with now, it just happened over the years. But I have never had that with a single other person since high school. Not one. No matter how many people I talk to.
>>16919672
I don't think you can ever make ac close friends as in your adolescence. Back then you had a lot more free time and you were exposed to more people your age. Everyone wanted friends back then so people just connected in another way.
There's this girl I met from my previous work. We rarely spoke when I was there but I took her number when I was leaving and asked her out. Turns out she was also leaving that company too.
So it's been like 7 months and a few dates. We rarely text but she did send me holiday greetings and will reply to me when I text her.
Only problem I have is we never really got personal. I told her my intentions of a relationship early on and she kind of rejected me at first. But then after a period of no contact she sent me a text so I thought that it was on.
This...
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Please help me guys.. I feel like contacting her so bad for closure but my mind is telling me not to
Can't really be over if there was nothing to begin with. I know it's hard dude, but given the fact that you really had nothing in the first place, you should move on. If she texts you, great, but don't reach out to her. There's really no closure to get other than if you ever had a chance, but from the looks of it, it doesn't really matter. I'd suggest not asking her about anything related to the closure, but that's just me. In any case, you'll do what you think is best for you, so best of luck because I completely understand where you're...
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>>16920194
Thanks man
> Meet girl from another country on okcupid, she answers me back and seems actually genuinely interested
> We speak every day...she will be coming to the US soon
> We meet and sparks fly
> Date her for three years
During this time of dating her I did things I never thought I would do for someone:
> Gave her massages after her work
> Cook for her
> Be...
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Ugh. You had all the red flags. You chose not to listen to any of them. Your own fault man. :(
Genuinely curious
How did it go from
> Gave her massages after her work
> Cook for her
> Be for attentive to her in bed
> Was willing to die for her and stood in front of a group of shady goons making fun of her for being Asian and told them to leave her alone while looking at the man who was much bigger than me in the eyes
> She moved to a new apartment that had a ruined dog piss ruined floor....so I learned how...
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>>16919596
I agree with you. She was my first girlfriend, so I was inexperienced but I still chose to ignore the red flags.
>>16919597
She was always in a bad mood. Never said thank you for all the things I did for her. Shook off my affection and was distant. Would rather be on her phone than sit on my lap and watch a movie. She was an emotionally distant and ungrateful girlfriend. Having sex with her was very demeaning. She would never act like she wanted sex with me....
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What's a good job for an anti-social loser like me? One with very little or no human contact necessary.
a job in a factory.
>>16919522 at The morgue would be perfect
>>16919522
You are not a loser
so , anon, here is that girl, we went out a couple of times, everything went nice, but now she says she is way too busy and can't go out. also answers very late and not open for conversation in social media, even though we were chatting non stop when going out
i kinda don't waste time if everything is lost here and kinda don't want to abandon ship if hope is not lost.
should i just aske her if she is too shy to say "anon, pls leave me alone'?
thanks in advance
you should ask her, that will probably help end anything if it isn't working for her
she might wuss out and say "oh no anon i still want to be with you" and the only real way check that she does is to ask her about spare time that she has, if any. or if she's going through something.
>>16919509
ok, lets do this. I'll post what came of it, if you are interested
if she is too shy to say it, and you make her confess instantly, that's it sadly anon. no real need to further discuss.
if she disagrees with the statement, post it for us. might be able to decipher her real meaning for you. remember to ask her about any personal problems and any free time she may have.
What should you do if you're receiving signals for someone your interested in, but they're in a relationship? And you do you tell if they're just a flirt in general?
Don't bother.
If they can send these signals to someone outside of their current relationship then they're perfectly capable of doing it to you.
A relationship based on a foundation of betrayal never lasts.
Maybe I'm just being cynical but there you go.
>>16919450
this happened to me awhile back:
>be 18 year old kissless virgin
>suffer from oneitis since freshman year of high school
>cute, cheerful, intelligent filipino girl
>close friends, talk on the phone/text often, flirt on occasion
>but she moved from relationship to relationship and i never took a chance (close mutual friend stated that if i had taken a chance...
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They're just toying with you.
People in relationships like to know they're still wanted. The person that is 'giving you signals' is probably doing so for kicks, and simply wants to know they've still got it.
Hello /adv/, I need your help - your opinions on a problem.
I'm a 4th year IT student doing my internship at a company, and they've offered me to stay and work for them after I'm done with it.
But here's the problem..
I have a gf who I see only for summer and winter holidays (basically 4 months a year) because we study in different towns. And if I take this job that means I won't see her for who knows how many months more(on top of 6 months currently). A good job is very hard to come by in my country and this is a great opportunity.
On...
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>>16919426 i wish my life was as shitty as yours. The choice is obv. Take The job and tell The bitch youre working to provide her massice shills
>>16919426
Take the job, as this opportunity may not come to you in the future. If she cares about you and your family's well-being, she'll understand. How much longer will it be until she's done with school? Because if it's less than 5 years, you taking this job will be a great start for your future. It seems like a long time but it'll pass quickly when you're busy.
>>16919483
She's got 2 years left. We've been together for ~2 years
How do I get better tastes or stop being a dweeb who masturbates in his free time mostly.
I want to stop animu/mango and go to better hobbies like /lit/ or painting. I don't even like my current hobbies anyway, anime is gay in general and just there for masturbation purposes.
I just want better hobbies and tastes in general.
>>16919412
Seems you know what you want to do already. Just do it. There is no secret to picking up hobbies, same way as there is no secret to picking up women.
It's not black and white, if you wanna read more books then go to a store and buy some fucking books.
I'm a college guy in a fraternity who enjoys sports, literature, and cooking, as well as anime and manga. You just like what you like, that's it.
>>16919412
You try different things out and decide what you want to get good at. I like bowling and snowboarding.
Why do I keep giving up?
It's been years now. I can't keep a job, I quit hobbies and I lose interest in stuff. I already tried music, language, and drawing classes, as well as sports, but I give up in a year max. What should I fucking do?
>>16919362
some people are just losers who never do anything with their lives anon
Same here, brother. I have no fucking willpower at all. I can't even attend night class a few nights a week without skipping a few. I have a 2015 fender stratocaster sitting on my wall and I can't even pick it up and play. I have all these aspirations in life but can't get off my ass to get shit done. I keep waiting for the day I "snap" and motivation surges through my veins and I take everything I want.... but it seems to be the day that never comes.
>>16919370
>>16919362
I feel the same way guys
The only thing that actually pushes me to be active with my life with rather big doses of adderall.
I would recommend talking to your doctor about it and see what kinda drugs they can give you to help you out.
I just got a new ferret and its the first time owning one. Shes four months, Should I feed her raw meat/meat diet or stick to the pellets? Pros and Cons of it?
>>16919211
>new one
What have you done to previous one ;O
>meat
>raw meat
If it would honestly gladly eat cooked meat, go for it I guess. But raw meat has too much bacteria and parasites, and likely wherever you got this Ferret from doesn't have he Immune System for it due to being fed Storebought food.
Use the pellets. If you're concerned about treating your ferret, there are all kinds of yummy treats, cheese based snacks, and pastes that my Ferrets try to pry the lids off to snack on.
If youre like most people, you're gonna hate the...
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>>16920337
I SERIOUSLY RECOMMEND getting a second Ferret once you get the hang of the first. They are very social animals and depending on how much timr you have in a day to play, they get VERY lonely. The first one I owned stopped eating because I was at work almost 7 hours a day.
Litterboxes can be as simple as shredded newspaper (comes specially cubed and shredded in Pet Stores) or you can go fancy with Scent-Blocking Super Absorbtion Lavender Scented shit.
They usually find corners to poop in if they're...
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