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HEy there is is a guy in my work that is acting like he is a boss. The problem is he isnt, he is the same worker as me but he is telling stuff like "nobody is working here", "there are only lazy people (while he dont do a thing all day)", "Ther are not enough good people" etc. He is even comparing the performance of people in workplace and making a theatre about it. Also when he come to work he is telling stuff like "previous shift dont do anything lazy fucks" (so he is basically complaining that when he comes to work he have to work,...
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Just as him "are you the boss?"
If he says no say "then don't act like one". If he's smart enough, he'll shut up.
As a boss I'd be thinking that workers who are only motivated when the 'boss' is there bringing up easily spotted workplace issues which ultimately screw everyone have a poor working attitude.
>>16926904
op here... also when there is our actual boss he is quiet and would probably suck his dick if he told him to do it. But when he is gone that worker is like CEO.
So I have a crush on my coworker, we talk to each other once and a while during breaks and what not and she seems to like me. How do I go about asking her out or without spilling my spaghetti? I'm 20 and I've struggled with social anxiety for almost my entire life and this is a massive step for me.
Leave your spaghetti at home.
>>16926875
Just ask her to get a coffee.
Start by asking her to go to lunch with you. Don't phrase it as a "date" right away, just see if she's actually interested in spending time with you outside the workplace. Take her to lunch, just chat and bullshit like you usually do at work. If it seems like she had a good time, ask if you can take her out to dinner later in the week.
In my shitty speech 151 class, I did an awesome speech on how to cure hangovers. The teacher loved it, but when I was getting back my graded speech today, 96/100, she said she wanted to hang onto a hardcopy of MY speech only, because she said "it's a popular topic that is often sold"and that she needs to check it for plagiarism.
It's mostly my own work, but had a hard time with the intro and googled it and pretty much copied some of this dude's intro essay that's for sale on some site.
Am I fucked? She's kind of a this old hippie...
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>>16926854
>Is it hard to plagiarize-check a hard copy?
No--very easy.
There are web sites custom made for this.
>>16926854
did she video record your speech? if not, just edit your speech before handing it in
>>16926866
You know that plagiarism isn't just copying someone else's work word for word, right? If you don't paraphrase and acknowledge that you've done so, that's also plagiarism. Changing the speech so that it no longer resembles the original work isn't going to work, she's going to realise that it's nothing like what he actually said when he got up and spoke,
There was a girl from last year that went to the same college as me and we had mutual attraction and things didnt end up working out. We recently reconnected, and we were snapchatting and she said that she still finds me attractive. After this, she has been contacting me less and less. Why the fuck do grils do this?
>>16926838
Validation? just tell her that you really want to see her in person, and not texting/snapchatting
If you try to see her in person multiple times but she doesn't try and make it work, then shes just using you for her self esteem
>>16926849
thats what I thought at first, but that doesn't really make sense cause I dont compliment her? I have met with her in person earlier several times and things escalated a fair bit.
>>16926858
just being the center of attention for every guy out there is all they need
I got over a teacher crush I had back in high school. Now I feel like I wasted so much time fantasizing about him. All the pain and misery is unnecessary. How can I feel better about the time I had wasted dreaming about a teacher crush?
i will make it better for you come ride on my pogostick
>>16926801
You realize it has happened in the past and you can nothing do to change that. Look forward to your future and focus on that. After a while you will ask yourself, why you thought that much about something you haven't control over.
>>16926807
Bullshit, the past present and future are equally important. You do have control.
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I've a got a problem. At home my IP is banned and I don't know why (my entire village i using the same ISP and the same public IP) but i'm banned for posting something illegal. How can I unban myself? I already appealed but got denied. I can lurk but I can't write anything which really annoys me because i want to normally partcipate in threads also I can't avoid this ban because I can't change my IP. Is 4chan pass the only way?
go fuck yourself. should have followed the rules
>>16926787
How did you post this?
>>16926787
Contact whoever does the banning and see if there's a time limit. How long do you have to stay in the wilderness being a good boy until they let you back?
This definitely doesn't deserve it's own thread, but it's a question that I need answered because I can't look at it objectively.
I applied for a contributor position at Clickhole last month and was told I'd hear back from them "by the 15th of March." I got the rejection letter, with no special comment, on the 15th exactly.
Is that a good sign or a bad sign? As on, was I totally forgotten about, was I one of the last to get cut, or did they just keep everyone on hold until the deadline? I need to know just how badly I failed.
>>16926731
>did they just keep everyone on hold until the deadline
yes, this is what companies do
they get nothing from sending out rejections since they may as well keep the option open in case they need it
many companies never send out rejections at all
>>16926735
Ok, wasn't sure. Spent some time on an editorial board and we sent out rejections throughout the process, but thought bigger places did something different. Good to know
>>16926738
the bigger the place the less likely you'll ever even hear back, some job openings get so many applicants that the company wont ever send rejections unless the person calls up, not just email actually calling
I (male) have a best friend (female) who I see at least four times a week (Monday - Thursday) , from 2 - 6 hours a day. Today, we hung out with one of her friends (her brother's friend) for the second time. She and him are Co workers so they see each other often too. To be very clear, she does NOT see him as someone she can get in a relationship with, just as a friend.
We met up, and hung out for a while. In this time, she and him were talking for most of the time. Afterwards, we went to eat, and while we were ordering, she sat with me like always. However, we had to wait for our meal, and whilst waiting, she decided to sit with him. The wait took approximately 15 - 20 minutes for our food to get ready. In this time, they both continued to talk and disregard me, she made herself more comfortable (layed on him, was playful and talkative). Once the food was ready, we had it to go and went to eat at a park. She continued to talk to him even more thought that time. Afterwards, we all went our own way and that was it.
What I'm concerned about is if I'm losing a friend. Lately, she hasn't been as 'close' with me. I can't remember the last time she has been as playful or talkative with me as she was with the other guy, or the last time she rested her head (or herself) on my arm, chest, stomach, legs, etc. She referred to him as a younger brother, and the same day she rendered to me as a "good friend". We've been friends for about two years now, but I'm worried were aren't as close as we used to be.
Maybe it's because they haven't hung out together in a while, but I feel like she is becoming closer friends to someone else, and I'm losing that friendship.
What do I do? Do I just talk to her about it, or am I worrying too much? Or is there anything else I should do?
>>16926653
>I (male) have a best friend (female)
already know what the thread would be, didnt read the rest
you need to move on
>>16926653
>TL;DR
> I suspect I may be losing my best friend.
Any questions I'll answer to the best of my ability.
> Yes, I'm aware I may be a bit jealous.
>>16926658
I'm pretty sure it's not what you expect
I'm very socially conscious and very "woke" or whatever. I know a lot of nasty facts about life, society, etc. I think about it a lot, and it makes me miserable. Nothing really alleviates that misery. Not being an annoying advocate online, not being an irl advocate, not spending more than I can afford on good charities, not volunteering, not lifestyle changes or careful consuming, NOTHING.
So I've been trying to just not give a fuck, and doing pretty well. I still have the same opinions, I just prioritize other things, usually bullshit constructs...
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I mean, that's fine. If you do what you can when you can, there's no problem. If you feel guilty, that's because you know what's right. But as long as you take a few seconds every now and then to do it, you should get rid of that feeling eventually.
>>16926480
You have a messiah complex.
The way to live a good life: Live simply. Do good to those around you. Avoid doing bad. Lead others setting an example with your actions, rather than with rhetoric. Let the good be good and the bad be bad. Do not worry about saving the world, and focus on being a good person.
Whenever one form of suffering has been conqured, another will replace it. This is the law of the universe.
Listen to Alan Watts. He's had those same thoughts you are experiencing.
When someome is gigivin..your just going to take advantage?........
If god is giving you...youll take it?
Do you DESERVE IT??
well there is no god, so...
The way you type reminds me of the
HOL UP
*smacks lips*
SO WACHU SAYIN IS
*pulls up sagging pants*
Meme
>>16926455
the OP kind of creeps me out honestly, like its coming from an asylum or something.
What does it mean when someone says they see potential in you?
>>16926295
it means you are underperforming
>>16926313
That was my guess too, but you put it more succinctly
>>16926313
why?
Why am I such a coward when it comes to talking to girls I find attractive?
>>16926213
It's justified by not knowing what to say, most girls will cringe at any man who approaches them without anything to say. Not all but most.
>>16926221
It's either that or I get nervous that I can't finish a sentence or will stutter a little.
>>16926221
are you a girl or guy anon
I can't enjoy anything anymore. I don't know if it's just cynicism or what but I don't do anything because I enjoy them like I used to, I just do them because they pass time faster. How do I have fun again?
feelin fine
Sounds like depression
Has anyone here successfully truly been happy by themselves? Like to the point where, even if you never had another relationship for the rest of your life you'd be okay just being alive and seeing nice sights and stuff?
Kinda struggling with that right now, I think about girls too much even tho I work out a lot, and work really hard and have a fulfilling job and hobbies.
Need some help guys
>>16926102
bump
for thousands of years women have been trading housework and sex for food and shelter.
men hunt and fish and bring food back to the village. smart women want to be with the best provider. that doesn't mean the guy with the most muscles, he just has to be smart enough to catch food and bring it home.
go catch some fish and return to the village
women will throw themselves at you
>>16926102
You are creating a false either-or choice.
It is possible to be happy in yourself AND also with others. It is possible to have a lover enhance and enrich your life without depending on that for all of your happiness.
So, can a ear cleaner puncture the tissue of the rectum? I know its like a stretchy tube but earlier I was pleasuring myself with one and i felt it go too deep and when I pulled it out it was reddish brown instead of just brown. I think im fine because i pooped normally after but should i be worried about anything?
You should be 18 in order to be here.
Get out while you still can dummy
>>16925897
Im 19
Probably can.
But if there isn't more blood you're probably fine.
If you see more red blood, or get a fever, hospital immediately.
Also, you're 19. Buy something designed for anal penetration, retard.
