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So I work for a huge grocery chain (whole foods) and recently moved cross country for personal reasons. Long story short I was in a supervisor position back in Ohio and since then I've applied and interviewed 3 times for the next step (associate team leader) which i'm absolutely qualified for but always lost out to others already in that position . After the last interview I was ready to take another supervisor position at a store that's about a 40 minute drive away when I was approached by my store leadership telling me to go for an associate team leader position in my store in another department. I talked with several people including the current team lead and figured it was a good step in a less complicated department and there were no other candidates being considered. I turned down the supervisor position and began prepping for an interview where I figured I was a shoe-in. Today the team lead of that department comes up to me and tells me that at the last minute a guy from another store with 20 years experience in that field applied at the very last minute and that I shouldn't even interview. She still wanted me to come on as a grunt because she wants me to work for her but I can't spend another year of my life wasting away at a base level position. I hate the job I have now and no other jobs are posted. Advice?
>>16928755
I'm sorry to hear that OP. That's life and you'll probably have similar experiences in the future.
Is there anything preventing you from applying for different jobs whilst tending your current job?
>>16928770
Only other base positions and areas I'm not qualified for.
>>16928965
what about other stores, you have retail supervisor experience it doesn't have to be whole foods or even a grocery store
I can get with porn but not with foreplay with real guys. Do I have the female equivalent of erectile dysfunction?
I quit porn but it didn't help.
who knows or even cares
do what makes you feel good
>>16928754
Is that you?
Would you feel comfortable with a guy giving you a massage?
My son has confessed to me that today in school he accidentally hit a girl in the eye with a yoga ball. She had glasses and something happened before in where she had a swollen or hurt eye which caused a purple eye. Furthermore after this my son was sitting in a group partnership and said rude things to a girl where the teacher overheard so she had him sit by himself.
He has had problems in the past but now I lost my good job and have been paying a private fucking school which it's prices are going to raise in June/July. Thereafter I can't afford it anymore. What i want is my son not to be such a fucking loser and get good grades, therefore getting a scholarship.
He has met with his counsellor afterschool and he said that he was really pissed at my son, that it was like wanted to get expelled or suspended.
What do i do?!?!?!
I'm lost here, I tried everything! Please, anybody help me!
>>16928750
Learn how to fucking formulate a sentence, retard.
>>16928750
I'm really sure what you're trying to get at but it seems like your son has an anger problem directed at women. What the relationship with his mother like? Have you considered sending him to therapy?
>>16928750
You sound like an asshole. Maybe your kid is acting like an asshole because he's mimicking you. You shouldn't call your son a loser, you should talk to him and have a heart to heart and figure out what's going on. Talking to a bunch of random people on the internet instead of your son makes you a horrible father.
4 weeks in university and there's a qt who goes to 3/4 of my classes and been looking for a chance to talk to her. Problem is, she has a landwhale of a (I assume) sister who's always around with her. How can I deal with this tightrope of a situation?
Also, any advice for a 21-year-old "loser" who hasn't had a gf would be appreciated.
>>16928733
You need to create a diversion. Get a bag of doritos and open it too quickly so doritos go everywhere. When the landwhale drops onto them like a seagull onto a bit of burger bun you get 5 secs to make eye contact.
If you can't get doritos then anything from the five essential food groups will do: chips, pizza, burgers, cola or cake.
>>16928733
Get a bro. A real good one. You both strike at the same time. He will wrangle the beast while you go in.
>>16929806
idk if i have a bro with that kind of "good" but how can we be subtle?
>>16929782
kek
Post age/gender and your answer to this question:
Imagine you happen to meet somebody and you get along with them great. Your personalities mesh well, you feel comfortable around this person, you're able to make each other laugh and generally feel good.
But you don't know much about this person yet, only that you seem to get along great.
What are some of the things that would be dealbreakers for you (aside from the generally accepted no serial killers/rapists/puppy stranglers/convicted felons/drug addicts, etc)?
Some suggestions to get you thinking:
>unemployed
>college dropout
>highschool dropout
>vidya addict
>likes/dislikes guns
>owns reptiles
>no awareness of politics
>zero pop culture awareness
>no life goals
>has spent time NEET'ing
>is still NEET'ing
Or is having a good personality the ultimate goal for you, regardless of all these other things?
>>16928718
25F
Well the absolute dealbreakers
>current NEET
>no plans to leave the state of NEET
>doesn't like TV or vidya
>doesn't like the outdoors
Problems that we might be able to work out:
>unemployed (if searching for job)
>college dropout (if you have a decent job, this doesn't really matter)
If the point is to find someone that makes you happy, all you really need besides that is financial stability and your life is pretty set IMO.
45 F
- stupidity.
- uninterested in new things
- no intellectual curiosity
- has not a fair knowledge of the main events in the past 60 years.
- musical tastes don't mesh with mine (although this is negotiable)
- is on his fucking cell phone all the time
>>16928718
23M
>Kinda unemployed
(selling mup and tab)
>college dropout
Only because Engineers aren't getting hired anywhere.
>vidya addict
I watch entire shows on Netflix?
>likes long arms, dislikes handguns and concealable weapons
>owned reptiles
>Acute awareness of politics
Its not all lost, a bachelors can get you into another country. Fuck USA. Society is fucked and I hate the ignorant people.
>zero pop culture awareness
>life goals
I wanted to become an engineer and get my degree, work and design cutting edge shit to help progress technological advances... Turns out, it's who you know through networking and working with people who are nothing more than empty husks with coffee breath. Work is half done projects that I troubleshoot and make sure pass government regulation, while the lucky shit Manager who is inbred decides direction in where the company goes even though she doesn't know her mouth from her asshole. I fucked her in both holes but she shouldn't be employed because she fucks everything up.
>has spent time NEET'ing
Yes, but I have a 'fuck you' fund from my paid coop.
>is still NEET'ing
Yes... and Drinking and tindering.
Thinking of going to college for a trade and starting my own business. There are so many dumb people running shit, I think I can do better... guess I'll find out if I can.
I'm 18. My cousin is a 25 year old blonde. She has 1 kid. We don't talk to often but are friendly when around each other. She's an overall big girl. Big breasts. Big ass (pretty wide due to child birth). I'd do basically anything to her breasts. I could use advice on how to at least play with them. And if so how I could do so. The kids dad ran off as soon as he found out she was pregnant.
>>16928716
No. You suck
>>16928724
Great advice
>>16928716
Get closer to her. You could just flat out tell her you find her tits nice and ask to play with them. Some girls are totally up for it
How do I become less of a defeatist?
I met this qt that checks out literally everything I look for in a woman but I feel like she is way too good to be speaking to the likes of me, and I'm constantly running ideas in my head of how shes going to reject me, or how i'm reading this all wrong or anything else negative. I really dont like myself so I'm pretty sure thats a major factor in this, and this defeatism goes far beyond this girl, in that I always feel everything bad that has to do with me is automatically my fault and every time something good happens to me I cant accept that and find ways to diminish any good. I'm almost sure its because I'm so familiar with failure I'd rather fail since its something I'm accustomed to than succeeding because it'd be a strange experience. This isnt healthy and its really being detrimental to me right now.
>>16928697
>How do I become less of a defeatist?
You have to man up a little.
>>16928697
Start actually doing shit. Once you start actually succeeding anD getting rejected, you'll see success is worth the risk and rejection or failure isn't that bad.
Being terrified keeps you frozen. It's the worst possible thing to do. You don't get a win unless you play in the game, son.
>>16928697
Are you me?
I think I want to go to graduate school, but don't know where to start.
I want to give a little background of myself so that I can get some advice, please.
I went to a UC and graduated in 2011 with a philosophy degree and a mediocre GPA. I basically wasted my undergrad.
Fast-forward to Spring of 2013, when I started taking computer science classes at a local community college. Over those two years I found that I enjoyed programming and CS. I find it sometimes difficult, but also interesting and rewarding. I *did not* walk through it like a breeze - my success (3.9+ GPA, 17 classes from the CS department) largely comes from hitting my head against metaphorical walls over and over again. There were so many times where I got stuck on problems for hours or days. Not all of this stuff came to me easily, but I liked it enough that I kept trying until I got it.
I volunteered as a teaching assistant for most of those two years and tutored many fellow students. I even got to make lecture materials and give a lecture (multiple times) about boolean operators and conditions to beginning CS students.
I heard that if I want to do grad school, the master's degree comes before the phd. If that's true, then phd aside, how could I set myself up to get into a master's degree program in CS?
There's one more thing I should mention. My math is behind. I took and passed a 3D graphics class without taking Linear Algebra, so I am capable, however my knowledge isn't even up to par with calculus. I'm not afraid of math, just very behind. The more I study CS and programming, the more interested I become in math.
>pic unrelated, taught myself LaTeX today
Made another LaTeX image
>>16928689
Okay so first of all, you need to take the necessary math prereqs, even if it's just at a local community college.
And second, no, it's technically not necessary to get a masters before a PhD, but this is because very qualified students can apply to PhD programs in which you obtain your PhD and your masters along the way (basically by writing a thesis 2 years into the program) or just getting your PhD, no masters.
General info for getting into a master's degree program in CS? Look up prereqs for multiple schools. Also, many good universities offer online masters. I know USC does. The best advice I have, besides searching the prereqs and getting those done, is to meet with an advisor from a nearby university to talk about what you have accomplished and what you still need to accomplish in order to be a valid candidate for a program. A departmental advisor for the university knows the requirements for their programs and can give you a push in the right direction, and might also be a valuable asset if you follow through and then later apply to that particular university.
Good luck, anon. The fact you are a hard worker means much more than being naturally gifted at the subject, especially in an experience-driven field like CS.
So whenever someone dies I have a hard time crying of feeling huge amounts of grief, and I feel so bad about that. It's not like I didn't love the person; I do and I miss them a lot, but I just can never seem to feel as sad about it as other people. It might be because I'm an atheist and find death to be just a normal part of life, but I'm not so sure.
This fact has made other people, like my brother, very frustrated with me because I wasn't whaling on the ground for the passing of our grandmother. There was never a moment of sudden realization that she's gone, I just accepted it and went on with my life.
I also don't like going to cemeteries or focusing on death that much, and the idea of my own mortality isn't frightening either.
Is this normal?
>>16928684
People react and process grief differently.
Normal? - Absolutely.
>>16928684
HEYYYY I have that picture!
>>16928699
thanks. that really took some weight off my chest.
>>16928707
google is our friend.
I'm a cs major, currently a freshman in college and I don't feel like I'm really learning anything. I am taking my second computer programming class but the teacher sucks. Is there anything I can do to teach myself or help improve my skills?
Nope, nothing at all....
>>16928674
What are you learning right now? What is your school's CS curriculum?
>>16928674
>Is there anything I can do to teach myself
You do know how to read don't you?
Hey /adv/
I am thinking about removing one of my friends from my life. I have 3 groups of friends - main group, secondary group and uni friends. this guy is part of the secondary group so i could stop talking to him with out any real consequences.
He believes the earth is flat. He is a stereotypical, basement dwelling conspiracy theorist. He depends on his mum for literally everything and he tries to deter other people from getting a decent career. He doesent do anything but play video games and watch youtube videos.
I dont see why i should stay friends with this person. I have tried helping him and he doesent listen. Should i just stop talking or should i remove him from everything? i.e facebook, skype, phone number.
>>16928604
bump
>>16928604
Just stop talking. If after a year or so you feel like cleaning out your contacts list, go ahead.
>>16928633
thanks for the reply. could do this. i rarely speak to him now anyway.
Is it illegal to have a girl sneak me over to fuck while her dad is gone? Like could the dad arrest me for something
Lol dad "arresting" you should be the least of your worries
Probably is illegal, but he'll probably try to kill you if he catches you fucking his daughter, so fuck her and get the fuck out of there
>>16928586
No it's not illegal unless she's underage. But if you're underage too, it's ok. The worst thing that could happen is he'd probably kick your ass. If the police got called, it's unlikely that they could charge you for anything as far as I know. You did not enter the property unlawfully and were invited in as a guest.
>>16928586
You need to work more on your English grammar or on how to give your words a meaning :-)
If the girl won't accuse you of a rape, then the only other thing that matters is her age.
It depends on your country. Some numbers: 15, 17, 18, 21?
Btw in my country the legal age for sex is 15.
But laws won't stop her dad beating some sense into you, so don't be stupid or learn how to run fast :-D
I crave sex, but when I do it, I find it tiring and never satisfying, is there something wrong with me?
Yeah ur a fag
>>16928518
thx
>>16928515
Idk, I think it might be my depression, but I always just get to lethargic to think about sex. My girlfriend knows it, and she's fine with it since I give her good head.
Just 2 cents from my perspective
Any advice for a recently turned 18 year old?
>>16928446
Minimize debt. Learn a trade and get a job. Wear a condom and use Plan B when appropriate.
>>16928446
Buy all the cigarettes, even if you don't smoke.
Stick it to the man.
>>16928446
>Minimize debt.
So much this. OP, for the love of God, DO NOT get a private or unsubsidized loan (sub too, but they are far and away the least of 3 evils). The interest will accrue everyday while in school when you probably can't do shit to stop it. At least for me, it was maddening to watch.
So I did manage to get this qt to get coffee with me. It's doubtful whether she'd ever have interest in me "in that way", but still, no point in not trying
It's been...2 years? since I last went out with a grill that isn't already my friends. I don't have a problem with talking to girls, but I think I should get some opinions on how to steer things in the right direction and not just be friends
I'm horribly curious and I get interested in all kinds of "unsexy" things sometimes. Should I avoid asking too much about her job? I know I shouldn't talk too much about myself, or at least pass the ball so to speak after each bit of personal info I share
But so general advice? The so called pretense so far is that we're meeting to catch up (we barely spoke like more than a year ago at a language class) and because I'll be visiting her country of origin. I mean both of these are true, and she's a nice person, I don't want to force things, but I also don't want to miss the opportunity
So....?
She's a somewhat shy, very smart, decent, stylish girl. Not sure if she has a bf but then again I shouldn't care much at this point, right?
come on where are the pro's that are always swimming in pussy and have all the stale generic vague answers?
>but no seriously
>>16928440
The whole "get coffee" start is not to see if you can not be yourself to get a girlfriend. The while point is to see if you two click. It's a mini date, so just ask questions, tell her what you do, talk about some small topics. It's not that hard to do. And if you feel that it went well, ask her on a date after.
>>16928572
fair enough I s'pose
one thing somehow bothers me
how do I greet her lol
with my friens we sometimes hug and such, but with her that is obviously out of question, and pecks on the cheek prolly wouldn't work, especially given her culture
so I guess a smiley hello or w/e will do
such a freaking bother, but she's a really nice girl ;__; this will feel so bad afterwards when I get rejected
