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I'm having really bad problems with being penetrated. It's so bad that I can barely handle a finger inside me (it feels like a burning sensation or if I'm about to split down there). My BF is super understanding and isn't rushing me but I feel horrible that I can't even handle a finger let alone his penis (because it can't fit inside). Is there any way that I can treat this at home?
>>16929948
get yourself checked, u may be part-dude
>>16929950
>>16929948
>femanon here
oh poor hun. but you're in luck! Vaginismus is very easy to treat.
go here. it gives some great tips:
http://www.webmd.com/women/guide/vaginismus-causes-symptoms-treatments
Ok so
>>Be me
>17
>Mom died from titty cancer
>Sent to live with abusive ass dad
>Start talking to a girl
>She makes everything feel better
>Lose my virginity to her
>We end up breaking up because at one point my dad became so abusive I just kinda shut down and stopped talking to her
>She...
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>>16929947
your idolizing her because she represents, in your mind, the way you felt before this particularly upsetting incident with your father.
if you do get with her, it will be disappointing.
you should try and find a way to get over what has happened to you.
>>16929947
I don't know why you're apologizing when you're the one that had to go through all this shit. Oh, so she talked to you and made you feel better. Not when you were at your worst, she didn't. She gave up on you, and that means that she is not good enough for you.
We talked and came up with the conclusion that we were terrible people back then.
So my gf of half a year just "broke up" with me. The reason for the quotation marks comes from the fact that, I believe, that I don't think she really wants it over and that I can fix whatever the issue is. See the past two years of my life were awful. I constantly had suicidal thoughts, never attempted, and had restrictive anxiety and depression. Some weeks I wouldn't leave the house for four or five days, skipping my classes. Things got slightly better last summer when I met a psychologist and was prescribed with Efexor. I took 150ml a day, and my issues...
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I wasn't trying to kill myself, I'm not sure why I did it honestly. Anyways, my roommate finds me and takes me to the hospital. I felt fine, and texted my closest friend about what happened. She was really worried but promised not to tell anyone. I had to stay at the hospital overnight, and got released today. When I got home I texted my gf about what happened. She apologized, and said it want my fault we broke up, that she didn't know how to explain it. I sent her a huge text explaining everything to her, and how I felt I wa crippling our relationship. She responded...
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I think "gf" is the word you should have put in quotations.
inb4 beta, cuck, etc.
How do I ask a girl out? She's an acquaintance. Can I really just say "Hey do you want to see a movie or something with me?"
Can I take her to a shooting range or is that creepy? I always wanted to shoot a gun but it seems mass murdery to do it alone, so at least if she doesn't like me I can use her to shoot a gun?
>>16929864
just go with the movie
ask her what she thunks of guns, many people dont like that sort of thing
or just hey "hey, we should hang out some time" or go to the beach. movie first dates cant be awkward.
>>16929864
Find a guy to show you around the shooting range some other time. Too complicated and risky for a first date. Do you know if she has any interests?
>>16929864
just Netflix and chills
works every time.
So, to avoid being vague, I'll straight up tell you my issue.
A friend of mine (and myself at times) casually browses FatPeopleHate. Recently, the friend who browses it more regularly alerted me that one of my friends' pictures are getting posted on there. It's happened three times now, all from her Tumblr account. I feel kind of guilty so I stopped going on there, but I don't know whether I should tell her what's going on or not. What should I do /adv/ tell her? Let her live in blissful ignorance while hundreds of shitlords laugh at her?
>>16929857
Post pic pls.. also dont tell her she probably already knows her pics are on 4chan ffs think of all the dumasses who dox people here
>>16929857
Also, this person has expressed that they have been suicidal in the past. Just to factor that in. They're also a female kissless virgin.
>>16929877
I don't think posting pics would be wise...
Hi everyone, I just got my testicular ultrasound back and my doctor didn't want to discuss it with me and advised that I need to speak with an urologist. The only thing I could get out of him is that I have wedge shaped hypoechogenicities on each of my testicles.
>>16929810
It's cancer, I'm sorry.
what advice were you looking for exactly?
I'm not a fucking urologist and even if I were I haven't looked at your ultrasounds so what the fuck is the point of this thread?
>>16929816
I guess the advice I was after is what is a wedge shaped hypoechogenicities and what do they do about it?
The image I attached isn't my actual one as they won't give them to me.
I broke up with my girl a few weeks ago. She removed me from all social media, so I did the same. No big deal.
Haven't heard a peep from her but she keeps adding me on snapchat every few days, religiously looking at my updates, getting (I assume) frustrated and then deleting me again. She then repeats the process.
Is she just trying to bait me into reaching out or what? Could she just be timid and want me to reach out because she misses me or is this just a power play in her twisted game of "gotcha"?
Obviously I'm going to know this...
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>>16929787
>Is she just trying to bait me into reaching out or what? Could she just be timid and want me to reach out because she misses me or is this just a power play in her twisted game of "gotcha"?
whether its one, the other, both, or neither your actions should be the same, ignore her
you broke up with her for a reason, remember that
>>16929798
That's advice I always give but I miss this girl. There was a lot of great chemistry.
I know you're right. She has come back before though. It's been pretty on/off again. I was really just tired of the back and forth so this last time when she said "I can't meet you emotionally" I just said okay bye. Probably for the best but a large part of me is hoping she's realized her fuckup.
Dude, you need to ask Santa for a pair of balls this Christmas.
This is just being a paranoid faggot.
Move on. This is not stalking. You are in no danger.
And you need to get out more. Really.
After so many years of trying and failing, trying and failing, I've finally found the perfect group of friends who accept me for who I am and enjoy being around me. I thank my lucky stars for them every day.
But something else has been on my mind: romance. I've never had my affections for anyone returned, and sometimes I feel really depressed that I'm romantically alone because I've always wanted intimacy with someone else.
My question is, am I being ungrateful? I love my friends to the ends of the earth and back, I'd never trade them...
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more like impatient, doofus.
what makes you think you coulda handled romance as the person you were anyways?
one thing at a time.
>>16929732
It's not wrong to want more out of life. Don't think you have to settle with being alone forever just because someone hasn't come along yet. It really doesn't have much to do with being content with your friends, unless there's another part of the context I'm unaware of. You being finally happy in a social circle shouldn't be mutually exclusive to being romantically satisfied, so enjoy your time with them and keep searching, friend. They're out there, believe me.
>>16929748
Impatient? No, that's not it...
I guess you don't know me personally but I've been let down relationship-wise quite a number of times. And when media shoves loving couples and kisses and sex in your face it's hard to not want those things yourself. Sometimes all I want is to kiss someone who likes what I like and appreciates my company.
>>16929749
Right, that makes sense. I feel bad for wanting something more when I've finally...
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a 17 year old kid jumped the medium and t boned me. Spent 12 hrs in the ER. Leaving with just a concussion and a stinger. How do I turn this into a nice lawsuit?
>>16929707
>asks 4chan for advice
>>16929707
going to the ER was good but you didn't take it far enough, you have to make sure the EMTs extricate you with a board+collar all the while complaining of severe neck and back pain
just talk to a lawyer, if it was the other guy's fault then you should be good to go
See as many doctors as possible complaining about your pain and build up a good history. You have to show that you are in constant pain for several months for it to be a big lawsuit.
I turn 30 this year. My parents have always been pretty nice to me regarding money. I don't rely on them for money, or count on their money, but they've done things for me in life like help me buy my house (I pay the mortgage but they helped me get it when the economy was bad), pay for my cellphone as part of a family plan, paid for the part of college that my scholarship didn't cover, and helped me buy a new car when I graduated. They buy me at least one expensive gift twice a year, on my birthday, and during Christmas.
I've got a good job though....
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>>16929698
You should go out of your way to thank your parents
>>16929698
Parents feel like they should provide for their kids, it's only natural for them to do so. There is nothing wrong with it, most will gladly do so because they want to continue to contribute to their kids well being after they move out. They want to feel like THEY matter in your life, you may not need them but they still enjoy helping you out by acting like a parent again. I'm sure they understand that you can provide for yourself its just about them wanting to feel needed and not redundant.
I seriously hope you repay this generosity by wiping his ass after he becomes incontinent and combatively senile.
How do I deal with people thinking I'm older than I look
I'm 26 and everyone thinks I'm in my 40s
i m almost 19 years old and people says that i look like a children, my face is too long, i have a large and receding chin, leptorrhine nose and im very skinny but with wide shoulders and 1.77cm
>>16929670
Your hair and clothing choice contributes to how people see you
>>16929670
Looks like someone never wore sunblock and spent too much time outdoors
So I hear/read people making fun of the the whole "it's the motion in the ocean" bit about dick size.... Does the motion count or not??
I get it, bigger dicks are more fun to look at and feel better as long as he's not destroying your cervix or ripping your vagina apart from the inside aliens....
but is there REALLY nothing to this "motion in the ocean" shit? Because literally every girl I've been with has told me:
>No one moves like you.
I used to take pride in it. I'm starting to feel lied to.
>>16929663
It has been actually proven, several times, that a man can please a woman with almost any size dick(almost, if your 2 or 3 inches hard I don't know what to say)
Yes, motion, skill, emotional connection and just straight up passion all factor into it.
Do big dicks help? Somewhat, but it is far from a requirement. Have a little more faith in your Sexual partner(s), usu as lly they will be honest with you
>>16929663
A research proved that women's orgasm is mostly emotional.
There was a case where a barren elderly woman went to the hospital and no one could take her urine sample because they could not locate her urethra.
Turns out her vagina is actually her urethra and below it was an actual vagina with intact hymen. Her husband has been fucking her in the wrong whole for almost a century and she NEVER complained about sex, just that they couldnt have children.
They stayed in a satisfying relationship until...
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>>16929745
>A research proved that women's orgasm is mostly emotional.
then why do so many women orgasm while being raped?
>be with a girl
>while we're chatting she says to get creative with the dirty like name calling
>we talk, we drink, we smoke
>finally things are getting hot and heavy
>while making out she scratches my back
>feelsgoodman.jpg
>about to make my move on the name calling
>as I pin her arms to the bed I say in my best growly...
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>>16929613
>ass kitten
Oh my goodness.
>>16929613
Did she start laughing, push you away, and walk out the door?
What actually happened?
If a girl made me laugh like that it would probably kill the mood but I would love her all the more for it. Other people hate humor during sex.
It all depends on the person she is. Own it. Call her an ass kitten when you ask her out next time.
Okay, so I'm going to make this as short as possible.
-Matched girl on tinder
-I'm a uni student studying biochem
-She works for Jiffy and she's not educated
-She lives on her own
-She sends me a snapchat of her tits after we chat for a while
-I get excited and we sext
-End up calling on the phone to have phone sex
-She claims that she has never came before
-I manage to make her cum for the first time on the phone
-She wants to meet up on Saturday to fuck
-She says she has condoms and lube, etc.. I always bring my own to avoid...
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>>16929540
>sexts and nudes within 1 week
>has "never ever cum and wow you made me just from the phone alone!"
I think she's a slut and you're retarded for letting her bullshit get to you, she's probably said that same line to tons of other guys she tries to hook up with.
I honestly don't buy her bullshit, but do you think it's just too high risk?
And I'm book smart, but sometimes socially retarded.
My mother is bipolar and denies to receive treatment. She's at the stage when she cries for no reason, or starts yelling for almost anything and gets triggered super fast. She can't be rationalized and worse, she now claims everything she says is 100% fact, which is not because she also tends to forget a lot of stuff.
My father agrees with me and my sister but he's pretty submissive and I think part on what made it worse was due to dad just letting her roll, since he would do anything to calm then, and let her do whatever.
Anyhow, is there a way...
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You can't "fix" other people's behavior, ever.
Most I can recommend is getting family therapy even if it doesn't involve her; the rest of you (you, dad, sis) might be able to cope better.
But do NOT, I repeat NOT, expect to ever to change against her will. It will just make her more stubborn, I assure you from personal experience.
>>16929585
But the doctor we inquired about it told us that the best way to fix her behaviour is through an intervention or an indiret approach, but if you're talking from experience I guess we have to think about it.
Thanks.
>>16929597
Well, I'm not a professional. I'm flattered you're going with my opinion, but he has incomparably more experience with these things.
Now, he could be a shitty shrink (and there's tons of those), so at least consider a family therapist without her. You three might be at least able to sort things out between each other and help each other out better. (I think the pro term is "support network".
