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I'm 22 and 2 years ago I decided to completely change myself. I have a career, go to the gym every other day, eat clean, sleep well, new clothes, new car, new haircut, take care of my skin, new hobbies but I still feel so empty inside. I can't change myself, barely made any new friends, still no female interaction...what's the point? I feel like such a loser and can't into human interaction even though I tried so fucking hard. I still kinda have oneitis on a girl and she was the motivation of my radical change but I now know that I'll never have a chance with her
>>16932783
Join societies of those hobbies and make friends and mentors. Passionate people join societies of all sorts of shit.
Volunteer a day of your week. You'll meet compassionate people and hear all kinds of great stories.
Google christianity im modern times.
Its all up to You, You have the free will.
>>16932791
My job involves a lot of volunteering and I've went to every possible event. I did crossfit, climbing, shooting, yoga, racing and many more and never bonded with anybody. Plus, it gets fucking expensive.
I'm at a point where I feel like having 2 jobs and getting a dog to love me unconditionally and forget about people
Hey guys. I need some help here...
I graduated 3 years ago with my engineering degree and landed a job far from home shortly after. Moved to a place where I knew no one but with high hopes I would get a new pep in my step after the pain of college. Shortly after starting work, I found and started being included in a workgroup of other newly hired engineers and I became closer friends with 4-5 of them. One is this girl.
I knew I wanted to spend more time with her right away. We are very similar and I am never nervous around her. She is shy but outgoing. Great sense of humor. Patient. Smart. I then find out she began dating another guy within the 4-5 person group. Heart somewhat broken, but I honestly was okay just being around her, even in the group setting, as it was x100 better than sitting home alone. Over the years, I've been slowly breaking down though. I read to try to break away from the group to make things easier. Also read never to tell either him or her what I feel. We have spend solo time together many times and it is some of the best times I've had in a long time. I've sort of converted this frustration into a drive to workout and improve myself in many ways. I will eventually return home and fantasize about telling them both shortly before leaving, dreaming that she will tell me she felt the same. Sorry for the TLDR story. I could go for hours.
Any recommendations on what I should do? How would they react if they knew? Anyone else been in this situation? Thanks.
This exact situation happened in real life to an old friend of mine. I am a life-long knitter and my advice was simple to my friend, who asked me because I'm always happy, was simply to learn to knit.
do it it helped him. then join a knitting society. best girls knit, i swear.
>>16932782
>knitting
Disregard this advice, op.
Cuck that nigga.
>>16932789
I think about that often too. The risk that it would backfire is definitely not worth.
I'm 20 and work a part time job at my college.
Today a coworker tells me "you cannot ignore a customer! I've heard complaints from 2 other staff members about you ignoring customers too and even spoken about it with the boss. You can NOT do that." I didn't mean to. My job is to sit behind a counter, and I sometimes study, so if I accidentally ignored someone, I didn't mean to.
I thought I was on good terms with the boss though and we chat sometimes.
The boss has not brought this up to me at all.
Am I likely to be fired all of a sudden?
I won't do it again. Honest!
I really really need this part time job and am very paranoid about losing it.
>>16932751
If you can't study and pay attention to customers then just don't study at work. Pretty simple fix.
if you're so worried about your job why don't you try actually doing the work they're paying you to do instead of fucking studying or jerking off on facebook.
How do I avoid getting kidney stones? They're scary.
>>16932723
Sell your kidneys on the black market.
>>16932723
>>16932723
smoke crack
drink water in large quantities.
Met her a week ago, talked to her on Facebook for three hours straight. Went with her for a coffee by coincidence, talked a bit more on Facebook. She first told me where she was born (Oman), how much drugs she does, music she listens to, situation at home and so on. Now we ignore the fuck out of eachother. What the hell am I supposed to do?
Message her again???
>>16932708
poop in her mailbox
Same thing pretty much happened to me only I'm the girl in the equation.
And we fucked around a bit.
Now we ignore the fuck out of each other at work. Well he tries to talk to me at work and I ignore him anyway, but I started ignoring him because he wouldn't respond to my texts.
It's all a big mess really.
Should I join the Royal Navy (as an officer)?
>>16932693
Only if you can't get a proper job.
>>16932693
How old are you and do you want a family?
If you like wearing flares and dancing the hornpipe and shouting out "hello sailor" to everyone then yeah, why not.
Look I know you anons don't consider fapping bad, but I'm trying to kick the habit and I'm struggling. Anyone got any tips, maybe a game plan? Any help would be appreciated.
nb4 "Theres nothing wrong with fapping faggot"
I'm not saying it is I just want to stop and it seems fucking IMPOSSIBLE!
hit your balls with a hammer
>>16932683
classic...
>>16932681
I checked my badge on /r/NoFap, haven't checked that recently...
Haven't fapped in 216 days
It started off slow OP. At first, I went for about 3 weeks and 'promised' I would release by then. I went 3 weeks and confirmed my balls did not explode. After then, I had some musings about TRP and other areas and decided to go full monk-mode 90 day NoFap, no pornography, even no contact with women. It was an emotional time in my life growing up as a young man. It was somewhat of a life-changing experience, it certainly was a break from my usual DotA-Porn-Fap routine while drowning myself with Dorito Chips and Mountain Dew
It's been a few years since then and I don't plan on fapping anytime soon. I've managed to pick up my life again and I'm in graduate school at the moment. Many addictions I used to have like video games have dropped away (I still had to fight it though). I'm not perfect now and I still have problems, but I consider myself far better off then few years back. I'm not sure if I would still be here if I kept up with that routine
Going on "nofap" for that long won't kill you or anything, don't listen to their lies. You might get some discomfort, but you'll eventually have to deal with wet dreams, but that's natural and the way it's supposed to be. Indulging yourself in PMO and shortcutting your brain, that isn't natural or healthy for you
You can do it OP, I believe in you
Okay IT fags, I need your inputs.
I need advice on breaking into the IT field and become a network admin eventually. I'm deciding rather I should go back to cc for an IT diploma or just keep applying to places since I already have have my A+. It's almost year since I got my A+ and I have yet to obtain an entry level IT job. Am I doing something wrong? How did you guys get your first IT job?
>>16932671
>get cs degree
>roll in jobs
In all seriousness if you don't have a college degree then you damn well better have a github/stack overflow account that shows you're active in the community and willing to learn. Being an administrator is going to be really hard starting out, even more so if you have zero experience and no degree. Most places won't be willing to trust you with their systems if that'sthe case
>>16932677
I just want an entry level type of position such as helpdesk/tech support to start off with.
>>16932671
>>16932677
Web dev here (so I don't really know anything about network admin stuff)
I don't even have a CS degree (got a philosophy degree, lol). I just did some CS modules while at uni.
>In all seriousness if you don't have a college degree then you damn well better have a github/stack overflow account that shows you're active in the community and willing to learn.
Pretty sure this is only if you're applying to be a developer
Also I got my web dev job without ever having a github account or showing any examples of my work, trololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololol
Looking for advice from someone who knows how to sarge.
Found this chick on tinder who's DTF. She thinks she's gonna get off work late and not have time to change before coming out to meet me at the bar.
I'm headed out in a few and was wondering if I can or should say anything else to make her less likely to flake or leave the conversation where it's at.
Pic related. End of convo.
>pick up artist
>asking a Haitian sewing forum for advice on talking to girls
You already fucked up
>>16932571
Lmao. I'm not too worried about it. This forum just answers fast. Was gonna see if any sarges were here to pass on their wisdom.
>>16932558
I suggest you not to meet her tonight anyway. She seems like she's not comfortable with meeting you after work. I can understand her because if i was her I wouldn't want to meet up as well. Find some other days when she can prepare for the date and shows up with all her confidence. Good luck anon
I'm 22 and I've recently been seeing a girl who is 19. There's not a huge age difference, but I'm in graduate school and she's a freshman in college. Seems strange to me because freshman year for me seems like it occurred in a different lifetime, and I'd feel as though people would judge me and look down upon me dating a college freshman.
We get a long great though - she's very intelligent and has a lot of the same interests as me. I guess the only thing that's bothering me is what people will think if I end up dating a girl who seems to be at such a different point in life than I am.
Am I just being too paranoid/uptight?
>>16932477
It is only 3 years, go for it.
>Am I just being too paranoid/uptight?
Yes.
Three years is nothing. The older you get, the more you'll agree.
>>16932477
My best friend is 26 and he's dating an 18 year old high school senior.
...at least yours has a diploma.
>start to talk
>conversation dies down
>tell people i feel like i kill conversations when i join them
>people deny it
what am i doing wrong and why am i such an unfriendly person
>>16932451
take it easy man you'll get better in due time.
I have this same problem, only it's because i'm painfully honest, and I don't talk about normie stuff and I have weird (to normal people) interests.
>>16932451
Nice cat OP, is it yours?
How do I stop being so bitter over looks?
I know I shouldn't as bad since I am objectively average but it seems impossible to stop.
I compare myself to almost every better looking woman in a room, despite knowing its pointless.
I keep getting angry about 10/10 beauties, not only about how desirable and perfect they look but also how easy their lives are.
Because of that, I started resent men too.
I never met a guy who I felt was really attracted to me, so get obsessed that they see me as someone to settle for. I became distant and disinterested in any relationship at this point, since every seems fake for me.
What can I do to change my sick mind?
you'll give less fucks when you get older. adolescence and young adulthood are always angsty
>>16932432
I am 22, so although young I thought days of teen angst are behind me.
Also it really gets in the way of enjoying life.
Maybe step up your beauty-game? If you are healthy/fit and groomed to perfection, there's not much room left for mediocre beauty. Some less than perfect features might even be an advantage then cause they make you look less boring and generic.
So I'm applying to a college and I'm planning on sending a cock pic of some 35+ year old I found on 4chan to one of the college admissions officers on "accident." One of my email friends that I was "planning" on sending it to actually has a similar name to one of the members. Would this make me stand out and make me seem more "quirky?" Perhaps, the admissions committee would laugh off the incident if I sent a serious apology letter? but they would now know that I'm slightly homo.
That's actually a really great idea. Mind if I do a similar thing for when I apply?
>>16932376
Personally, I don't think an apology is necessary
Jesus christ you people are retarded.. Don't, just don't. Why would you put yourself at rist just to get 5 or less minutes of negative attention? Nobody cares about you as an individual, it's the work that you do that matters.
I can't really afford to go to any of the colleges that I got into. What do?
Apply to a cheaper school?
>>16932303
Go to community college, get straight A's for 2 years, then reapply to your preferred colleges and enjoy a free or mostly free ride on an academic scholarship.
>>16932303
FAFSA and scholarship applications
>swedish study on autism
>people with autism die 16 years younger
>have autism
How do I deal with this? Knowing that I won't be living a long life? I was born premature and survived. Might as well died at birth.
>>16932282
Is this b8?
>>16932282
M8 if you're able to post coherently like this, I doubt you'll have any problems. The study is probably talking about people with SEVERE autism, who can't even take care of the very basics. They eventually outlive their parents and are often given inadequate care after that, probably leading to bad health.
>>16932305
No. I cannot deal with this, I still haven't been able to accept my mental illness either, I worry a lot already, but reading about this scientific study, just put me in a fasttrack to suicideville.
