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I only like girls who like me.
I feel like, what's the point of pursuing someone to try and convince them to like you, and if you fuck up then all that work is gone. Having said that, only one girl I've ever had a crush on has liked me back naturally, which was just pure coincidence. Statistically, it's dumb to just wait until I come across someone who just happens to like me back, but what else am I supposed to do? everthing else feels so forced and fake
>>16934611
>naturally
Do you mean "immediately"?
What feels forced and fake? Feelings change as you get to know someone more. Sometimes you like them more, sometimes less.
Instant romantic sparks aren't as common as fiction suggests. As long as you are sincere, why would you feel fake?
>>16934619
Yeah i mean immediately.
I don;t know what it is, but I find the most attractive thing a girl can do is be attracted to me.
And it's not me that feels fake, its them. It feels like unless they have feelings for me on their own, I'm just tricking them into liking me.
>>16934611
You have a system you follow that isn't giving you the results you like. What thefuck do you think is the solution?
Or to put it another way, I only work for people that seek me out to hire me. But I don't like not having money. What should I do?
How much more pussy will I get if I change my name to Slash? I'm currently a Peter.
>>16934574
You can realistically slash that number in half
>>16934574
I started calling my self Wordz (short for Edwards) and chicks b digging my dick now
Hey /adv/ so I told my friend a while back how I felt about her and she said she only saw me as a friend, but 2 days later she decided she wanted to give it a shot. It's been 3 weeks now and she says she still sees me as a friend, while I'm over here basically falling in love. We've been talking A LOT every day, I've learned that in all her past relationships every guy has basically fucked her over for another girl. I also learned that she doesn't like yelling, and this is because of her parents, when they went through their divorce she saw them yelling...
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Also another important part, she told me that since every other guy has fucked up and started talking to other girls, she is waiting for me to do the same.... How is she supposed to get feelings for me when just just waiting for me to fuck up?
Also another important part, she told me that since every other guy has fucked up and started talking to other girls, she is waiting for me to do the same.... How is she supposed to get feelings for me when just just waiting for me to fuck up? I really like this girl, do you think it's worth the work/emotional stress?
Didn't mean to post that twice, I thought the first one didn't go though
hi /adv/,
I'm an amateur songwriter and I love music. I want to have more depth and intricacy in the songs I write (instead of verse-chorus-verse-chorus-bridge-verse-etc).
I listen to songs like this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fqOKYOhUYx0 and love how all the instruments are playing different counter-rhythms and melodies but they all fit. When I try to do imitate this I get a train-wreck of a song.
how can I improve on this? I listen to a lot of music like this, but I can't seem to ever write music like this. My "boring" (for lack...
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>>16934416
by having talent ?
An intimate knowledge on music theory helps. Just write some stuff and post on mu, see what they think. Granted most will be shit posts but any criticism should be helpful and most will tell you that practice makes perfect.
>>16934416
Quick question: can you read music?
Tell me if I should give up.
I met this chick on Tinder last october. She lives 30 minutes away. No big deal. We clicked pretty quickly once we figured out we both love pokemans and battled each other.
I was dating this chick. Things were going well, we'd see each other every week or more and constantly message each other throughout the day. She understood my morbid /b/ and street trash raised sense of humor, We would play online together. We were never "officially" together. Things were going great until she started getting distant out of nowhere...
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>>16934386
just cut it off, unless you are comfortable always being her platonic friend to fall back on when her romantic relationships fail.
>>16934393
Unless sex is platonic I don't think it was platonic
>>16934386
>Should I find out what happened and give it another try
Any reason not to do this? You're already in communication. Just ask her about the other guy.
How do I overcome an existential crisis?
By telling us what your actual problem is instead of expecting anybody to read your fucking mind.
God
>>16934355
indifference
Got myself in a bit of a predicament, id appreciate any help
Basically a girl joined my college last week, she's in all my classes. She's kind of a loner, very shy, never speaking to anyone, I know how it feels to be shy and have everyone just ignore you, so after a week I grew the balls to sit with her and talk to her.
We instantly hit off, we both love anime and vidya and we talked for about 2 hours straight. I never really got a good look at her face because she's always looking down, but she looked up at me when we were talking and she's...
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Such is life. I'm in the exact same situation right now. I'm just gonna leave it on the back burner and hope for a rebound when/if she gets dumped.
Yeah I wouldn't try and manipulate anything, it could blow up in your face.
I've found out that friends overall hold more value then a relationship, sure you got burned but if you hit it off and connected build a friendship, and you might like her because you are socially starved and interpreted her social interaction as something more, though could be wrong about that last.
For a long time, I've wanted a simple IT job. Something where I can just sit in a school and keep the servers up and fuck around on the side but I'm starting to think that the chance of getting a job like that is low and I'd probably get bored as fuck. I'm pretty average at maths and programming so I couldn't get a software job and there aren't many programming jobs in Australia anyway.
However, I was thinking about trying out for the police. Careers counsellors suggested that I could study criminology in university, join the police force...
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>>16934299
>Careers counsellors suggested that
Career counsellors are fucking delusional. They know nothing about the job market.
I've no idea what to suggest to you. As far as I can tell younger people are completely fucked, I'm partially fucked, people nearing retirement now are kind of fucked and those who pulled the ladder up on all of us are voting and acting out of complete self interest and just hoping to die before the world inevitably changes too much.
I went to university when it just started to cost money and left with significant debt, but like a third of what it cost my girlfriend a few years later. I've managed to purchase a modest house which I'll have paid off...
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>>16934341
Also here at least jobs seem completely fucked. All 'soft' office shit is basically being consolidated into low wage centralised outsourced businesses using high degrees of automation. Seems like the days of well paid or individual businesses having human resources, accountancy etc are long gone. Built on fucking sand.
Everything else is at threat of automation. Traditionally well paid skilled trades are being replaced by prefabrication and off-site manufacturing and now you just need a few installation...
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My life is in a dump, I´ve been stressed, partially depressed, with horrible load of problems on my back.
My problem is I let too many people (through the time) know I have problems, but I REALLY don´t want them to see me that way at all. It makes me uncomfortable when they see me that way. I can somehow deal with my problems, they can´t help anyway (aside from listening to me ramble), and they have their own problems too.
So my question is: how do you handle/go about showing most of the world the OK/happy/fine side of you even though it´s too much often? (And I´m talking about all social interactions)
Seriously, this is not about being secretly EMO, it´s about appearing to be okay so I would feel more okay myself..
>>16934480
>implying
a good friend doesn't want to see you down, sorry you don't have any. but keeping busy is the best way to fake being ok. don't give yourself time to dwell. forget about the past and always be doing something.
but dealing with your problems will actually make them go away. you gotta put in work and address the issues with yourself breh
I'll go ahead and fall for the bait, what's the problem, anon?
Complain on 4chan so I don't have to complain anywhere else.
Can anyone give me tips on fixing my acne? I've been trying REALLY hard to fix it for a year now. I wash my face with antiseptic and pH neutral face lotion in the morning and before I go to sleep, I never touch my face and make sure to wash my hands at home when I was outside, I have a towel on my pillow I wash every week and I regularly take in magnesium and zinc. I avoid fast and junk food and also anything with lactose because that also gives me zits.
And you know what? My acne really improved. Like it really improved and I was happy at first, but getting used to...
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Try marijuana ointment (optimally homemade)
Go to r/skincareaddiction. Yes it's plebbit but it's good advice. Better than anything you'd get here.
Talk to a dermatologist
Every time I see homeless people or beggers on the street I always feel sympathy towards them, like how either bad luck or poor choices lead them to where they are now, and I think that could be me someday if I ever fuck my life up, my question is how or should I help them, I am compelled to help people for the sake of them being as human as I am, i would want to be helped if i was in their situation, but I don't know when to draw the line, I was thinking of donating, but how can you know for sure that the money you give will help someone in need, once you hand your money...
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Homeless people are people who are homeless, not objects or animals you can decide for. You cannot blame anyone for buying drugs or alcohol if you decide to give them money, it's they choice to do whatever they want with it. That's always important to keep in mind, as some people feel entitled to I don't know what. Now if someone has a sign saying "I am hungry", you can always ask them if you can buy them something to eat or the like, in a friendly way on eye level.
If you want to really help the homeless, become active and/or volunteer, e.g....
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It really depends on where you live, the sort of thing you'll need to do some real research on. Learn what the support system for homeless people is, learn the general reasons people become homeless etc.
Like in America, a lot of perfectly normal people are homeless right now because of financial issues and other bullshit and really need all the help they can get and it's probably fair enough to throw them a few bucks. In countries with thriving economies who take care of the homeless, most of the people who are in that position are pretty much out of your reach...
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>>16934269
best thing is usually to give to or work through an organization that really works with them to change their entire lives.
I give to a lot of charitable causes, but I won't hand a few dollars out the window to the guy that's standing by the stoplight with a sign. That's because I realized a long time ago that they are intentionally picking their location to minimize their interaction with you. I've given to people when I can have a conversation with them about what they need, what their plans are, where they are going, etc.
Streetside people don't want to have that conversation with you. That's why they are targeting people in cars that have to drive away as soon as the light turns green.
Any Brits here with experience using escorts?
Are the websites they have fake, how do i know if its a police sting, if those even exist?
Prostitution is legal in the UK assuming you aren't soliciting services on the street and there is only one girl per property. Brothels are illegal, but going to an independent girls house is perfectly fine.
This site is legit:
http://www.adultwork.com/Home.asp
>>16934261
>how do i know if its a police sting
The police have better things to do.
>>16934261
It won't be a police sting. But it won't be the girl in the photo either.
It will be either a 50 year old ex-streetwalker or a scrawny underage drug-addled illegal immigrant.
For work i've been asked to write a 4-5 minute comedy sketch which has the potential to make it onto TV, however, comedy is not my forte- so I wondered if any of you creative people at /adv/ have any ideas you can throw at me, can be as controversial as you wish, throw it at me
your life
idk but I remember this podcast I listened to had an episode that discussed skit construction, pretty interesting. They fuck around talking about other shit for ages too though, so just a 'if you have a long commute and nothing to listen to, might as well' suggestion, might do better with google.
http://nerdist.com/you-made-it-weird-275-keegan-michael-key/
How did you get saddled with something like this if you don't even write comedy?
>>16934280
I usually edit, however, I have been asked to fill someone's writing position as another writer has unfortunately fallen ill
I think I have avoidant personality disorder. I'm confident in one-to-one and group interaction. I am not afraid to speak or even look a bit foolish at times. I just don't really WANT to be with people most of the time.
I'll actively avoid situations where I might have to get drawn in to conversations. I never bother to see anyone outside of the normal context I see them. Not because I'm afraid or shy or nervous, but because I just don't want to.
My question is, is this a problem? It's called a "disorder" which sounds like...
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>I think
Get properly diagnosed and stop self diagnosing
OP here again. Does anyone have advice/opinions they wish to share?
Stop self diagnosing.
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I've been contemplating applying for disability for years due to my mental illness conditions. Every time I do manage to get a job, I only last a week because my mental conditions make it impossible for me to interact with society. Just going to the store to get groceries is a difficult task for me.
I have felt ashamed all these years about my mental illness conditions, which is why I have never applied for disability, but I'm at a point financially where if I don't at least try to get it, I'll be homeless within 6 months.
>>16934190
i am in the same boat yet on it (at least in my cuntry) sorry but i don't know how burgerland's payment prerequisites, good luck anon.
>>16934190
I recently got awarded disability for mental health stuff. I am in the US so I can speak about that, but idk about other countries. Where do you live?
>>16935266
I'm not OP but also in the US and I feel like I'm about to get fired from work because I've been missing so much due to anxiety. How difficult is it to be on disability for depression/anxiety? I've had it for years but there's no way to prove that since I didn't see any doctor until last year.
