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Sup /adv/
I live with 2 roommates, who are brothers. We moved to a big city one and a half years ago. Naturally, coming from the country, we partied a lot, and did some drugs. Now I was done with that a year ago, and smoke weed maybe once a month, if not less.
Both of my roommates developed an addiction to weed, but one of them just quit cold turkey and didn't smoke since September.
The other one is the reason for me posting. He does not want to quit altogether, and makes plans with his gf (who smokes as much as him) to regulate their consumption. However, these...
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How does he pay rent? How does he buy his weed? When money gets involved use that against him. And make sure he cleans and shit while you and his bro aren't there, he's deadweight
>>16937491
do
you even read
with your eyes
>>16937500
Different anon, but do you? Those questions aren't answered
So I've spent the last few years working 60+ hours a week, but I made the decision to go back to college and finish a 4 year.
I'm not significantly older than my peers, and were I a senior we'd be equal ages (23-ish), so it's not like I'm a balding middle aged man trying to meet people on campus.
But here's the problem: I don't know how to start conversations. Every conversation I've had in the last 4 years has been purely transactional. "Hey we need this done" or "Hey I need you to help with that" or whatever....
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>>16937454
I have a similar problem too, but I'm a few years older than you and back in school for my master's
I guess as you grow older, it steadily gets harder and harder to make friends. I always found it easy to socialize and make friends online when playing the vidya, but I've quit it a few months back
DESU, if you didn't socialize much outside of work, then don't expect things to happen automatically unless you make some changes in your life routine. College isn't high school...
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>>16937454
Look around you. College isn't for 18 year olds anymore, and it is likely that 25-50% of the student body is your age or older. Start looking and you'll notice them everywhere. They're in the same boat as you and will be eager to connect with others.
Hint: most live off-campus or are part-times, so a good place to look is the snackbar or cafeteria around dinnertime, as they're between or before classes. Just get a cup of coffee and sit down near somebody your age and say hello.
>>16937482
Some real downbeat advice.
Yo /adv/, been a while since I was last here. I got a friendship concern/question that I think can only b answered by an objective third party, so here goes:
There's this friend of mine who I'm sort of friends with; she likes all my insta posts and shit, even tho we go to different schools and she's a friend of a friend. We're between acquaintances and friends I'd say. anyway so she has like, this self appointed position as group matchmaker. three weeks ago I asked her if she'd be ok with mayb finding someone 4 me. she said that she'd...
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Wow dude you're a shit friend. Why the fuck would you do that :(
>>16937453
:( oh no
oh no
you think so too? holy fuck I screwed up how can I fix it :(
please help me I'm terrified
Met a girl with Brachymetatarsiarecently, didn't find out she had it until late in the game, I like her that much that I could just ignore it but I'm wondering how much chance there is of her passing it on, there's no way I'd risk giving that to my kids
>>16937423
doesn't seem that terrible as far as disabilities go, honestly if it's just a relatively mild disfigured foot. but i understand, this is something for google search honestly though.
>>16937446
Tried that, surprised me how little info there is about how much chance there is of inheritance. There are just details about what it is and that or can be treated.
>>16937423
>there's no way I'd risk giving that to my kids
Is it really that terrible? Do you also check the medical history of all of your partners and their family? Would you stop dating a girl because she has several cases of diabetes, heart diseases and maybe cancer in her family?
Seems silly to base your personal relationship and happiness on "my kids that I may or may not have in the future will have an X percentage chance of developing Y disease".
How where can I get smart drugs?
Try a library
I use to do ritalin in college it really helped me.
Now i'm washed up, I work at a 7eleven and feel like a shadow of my true potential. I feel slow.
I've made a series of very poor choices and I now find myself terribly depressed.
>B.A. in Music Composition
>2/3s of an MFA in creative writing
>haven't gotten anything published in months
>no job prospects or hope for a better future when this stupid thing is done. there are NO jobs for English professors, which is basically what I wanted to do.
>same GF for 6 years. tired of her, sexually. too lazy or...
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>>16937345
Music major here. Majoring in theory. Is this going to be me?
>>16938173
Yes. Music is a fucking useless degree.
If yo're good at music you don't need the degree. If you think you need a music degree you're obviously not good enough at music.
>>16937345
A music degree is useful if you want to learn how to do it better. Go for the experience and training, not the piece of paper.
Hi /adv/, I have a question for some of you.
I'm now 29 and had been with the same woman for since I was 17. I've never been with anyone but my ex wife but that just ended and I've started dating. This is all pretty new to me since I haven't cheated on my wife in the 12 years we have been together. I met a girl just a few days after my wife and I decided to part ways and she has made it pretty clear she just wants to hook up (She's in an open relationship with her long term partner.) I'm cool with that and I'm in to just fooling around...
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>>16937339
Depends on how emotional and sentimental you are.
I was once told to be careful who I slept with, as I would always carry with me some connection to them. That's exactly how it's worked in my experience. I've only ever slept with 3 women, and I have some warmth in my heart for all of them, even though I truly despise one. I think of all of them every single day.
At the same time, getting some tail will give you the confidence you might need to get back in the dating game.
BE CAUTIOUS!!! Be so very very cautious!!! This is 99.9% a bad idea for you if you only have your ex-wife/1st-love as something to compare!!! Casual sex is a talent.... sex is easy, sure, but to keep out emotions!? That's a harder thing to do..... don't cuddle. NEVER CUDDLE!
>>16937355
>>16937362
Okay I was more asking about how the sex itself would go compared to sex in a long term relationship but I have another question.
I can keep my distance and not get to attached. I think she is aiming for friends with benefits being that she is already in a commited relationship. She has been telling me some personnel stuff via text though. Stuff about her family and things like that. She told me that we should meet up for "netflix and cuddles"...
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How do i into triple reverse psychology, never getting psyched out(poker face kinesthetically, not having any types of nerve twitches whatsoever), and cross examining people subtly?
>>16937319
I COULD DIE
>>16937319
That's some pretty autistic stuff. Just get comfortable around people. They tend to lie at times.
>>16937367
CÃvic pride?
Anybody else feel like they're fundamentally unattractive to the opposite sex?
Let's talk about it.
>>16937284
I think as an Asian male I rank pretty low on the attractiveness scale.
>>16937288
asian women love white dudes, white women love black dudes, its up to you to complete the cycle
>>16937284
Physical:
>Ginger with a lot of freckles
>Fucked up posture (lordosis and slouched neck.)
>Moles on face
Mental:
>Say inappropriate and "esoteric" things
>Don't have my shit together (getting better though.)
>Clingy as fuck (improving.)
Feels bad man.
Alright /adv/, Califag here
Just got kicked out of my house. What do?
Live on the streets in berkely
how much money do you have? Crash on a friend's couch while you find a job and new place to live.
Go kill yourself.
I'd say get out of cali, but then I realized fucking everybody hates you faggots coming in and ruining their cities.
So kill yourself.
Is there a cure for hæmophobia?
Almost nothing, but maybe a tiny help... in a big bowl of water, add I tiny bit of colouring at a time. The slower you add it, the more your mind can adjust..... Have something safe with you, whatever makes you feel safe.
Same with all fears, you get used to it one little bit at the time.
Hmm.. I might have this. I'm not scared of blood but I get a sick feeling and want to vomit when I imagine blood. Literally only when I imagine it - I can see it in real life, mine or others' blood, in video games, in drawings and I feel fine. But if I read a book that describes blood or think about it or hear a story about it I feel nauseous. Anyone else have the same?
What would I need to successfully apply for a business/small business loan? Specifically to start a sweet shop
I'm 25, have average credit (670), 10k in the bank, work a 35k a year job, and the only liquidatable asset I really own is a fairly cheap car (2009 Honda Civic)
Am I fucked? How do I get to where I need to be?
>>16937236
never start a business on a loan. Your business is far from being guaranteed to succeed, while that loan is a 100% guarantee. You should really look into some entrepreneurial stuff before you jump into starting a business, else you'll just be reinventing the wheel with a 5% success rate.
>>16937236
I have no advice to give you, but that sweet shop looks comfy as fuck.
You'd have to go to a bank and ask I suppose.
At minimum you'd probably need a business plan.
Have you looked into what the costs involved are? you'd need to rent a store and contact candy suppliers and so forth
Long story short I'm 19 and go to a local state college. I still live in my hometown and commute there every day. Last night I went to a party and hooked up with a random girl, today I find out she's only 16 and still in high school. She tried to hit me up to hang out, but I'm kind of torn on pursuing it.
Should I gtfo before Chris Hansen shows up at my door or is it worth going on a few dates? Is it weird that I'm even asking this?
Don't do it. And don't think about it. Not just because of legality. But everyone will destroy and you will get a seriously bad reputation. It will ruin all your chances with other girls on campus. This happened to one of my dude friends. Also 16 year old is going to be hella flakey and will annoy you very quickly.
That's the thing though, none of my friends in my hometown or at this party go to college with me. Most of them go to the local community college. I don't know if I want to date her long term but I'm not sure if that's what she's looking for either. Would it be worth just keeping things on the down low and hanging out or just a clean cut?
Go for it nigga
