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I kinda wanna confront my current girlfriend with the idea of an open relationship. We might be living a couple states apart at the end of the summer and might not get to see each other any more than once a month. We're both gonna get lonely, and I mean, we're both in college, maybe we should be trying different things with different people anyway. But I also love her and I don't wanna make her think that what we have isn't important to me.
TL;DR: is an open relationship a good idea? How should I bring it up in a relationship that isn't currently open?
She will fuck Chad while you fap alone. When you live closer together again you will regret it and the relationship will feel like a sham
>>16938326
Let me ask this, why are you two separating this far away from each other?
>>16938342
She may be going to college a couple states away from me. We probably won't be able to see each other more often than once a month.
I've been eating at chipotle everyday.
I'm not fat for my age yet.
I'm going to start going to different chipotles in the area so the workers don't think i'm some weirdo eating the same thing everyday.
Is this normal, if not, Wat do?
>I'm going to start going to different chipotles in the area so the workers don't think i'm some weirdo eating the same thing everyday.
>Is this normal
oh my god no.
What you eat is ultimately what matters, even though its source obviously plays into that. I could go to McDonalds everyday if all I got was a plain salad and I'd probably end up healthier for it.
All of the nutritional information for your orders are available online, albeit as underestimates. Come back with some numbers. As for the social aspect, there's nothing weird about being a regular. Habits and rituals ground people. They also make it easier to live life by taking one or more decisions out of the day to simplify things.
>>16938329
clever post
Somebody I know is using an edited picture of me in an advertisement on their website. I am not affiliated with their website and never agreed to be in this advert. Is there anything I can do to get it taken down? Do they have the right to use my image and edit it to make me look bad? This is in the USA
I don't want to share the image or the name of their website
Have you tried telling them to take it down?
>"take that image down; you have no right to use it!" etc
No they don't. Ask them to remove it. If they don't, have a lawyer send them a letter. That usually does it and it's not that expensive.
>>16938306
We are not on good terms and he will likely not respond well to a request for it to be removed
>>16938313
How much? Is it actually unlawful for them to have it? Or is it like just a threat to spook them into taking it down?
I have a new boyfriend, but somethings up with him?
The guy is a salesman, and I've seen him work, he's all you know, happy, smiles, talking a lot, hand gestures, back slapping.
Mostly, it's the talking.
That's how he was on the first date too.
Since the second date on, everytime I spend time with him and he's not working, he's strange with me.
He speaks once every 15-30 minutes, and when he does, very deliberately, and very cryptic too.
He'll listen to me talk for 30 minutes, and when I ask him what he thinks, it's always a biblical quote, or a saying, or something.
"A fool and his money are soon separated"
"Risk breeds opportunity"
"Early bird gets the worm"
"May he who did not toil the fields not eat"
Stuff like that.
I'm getting kinda tired of it.
It feels sorta like he's some kind of actor or something when he's working, but I'm not sure I like the real him as much as the acting
>>16938281
yeah I'm the same way
at work and on the first date he was "on"
he was doing a job
the quiet listening and not feeling like saying much is his real personality, him being comfortable with you is him not feeling like he has to be "on"
>>16938287
so basically what youre saying is he was pretending to be someone he's not... on me, on the date, like I was an 80 year old lady on the phone he was trying to sell shit too
>>16938281
I'd be so pissed by that, I'd just break up.
If he can't hold a conversation, just don't.
He's like that at work because he has to be. Probably the last thing he wants to do when he's relaxing.
Also, a lot of those responses are supposed to be moral or advice. Are you complaining to him about things? It could be a response to things he doesn't know how to answer.
How do I swallow pills? I have medication to help my anxiety but my anxiety makes me scared I'll choke.
>>16938278
You really won't choke, especially if you swallow with a drink of water. Have you ever swallowed macaroni noodles? It's kinda like that
Maybe try putting it in a spoonful of honey. I had trouble swallowing pills as a kid, and that always made it so I didn't even feel it.
>>16938285
Don't do this OP, my aunt had a tracheotomy after she failed to swallow a noodle.
What do you think, /adv/? Are they a good way for shorter men to get a leg up, so to speak?
I'm thinking of making my next shoe purchase be something like an elevator shoe that is designed to make you look a couple inches taller.
just buy high heels you fag
>>16938234
News flash women find confidence more attractive than height. Use that money to take some public speaking classes.
I want to create things so badly, but I don't know why, and I don't stick with anything.
I've tried drawing, painting, writing, even coding, making games. I don't know what to do.
>>16938194
you tried some ways to create stuff and they didn't fulfill you, next logical step is to try other ways to create stuff
>>16938194
Try your hand at other things besides in-house things. Try woodworking. Woodworking for me was one of the most rewarding hobbies I have ever had. You spend countless hours working on one thing, never overlooking one single detail, and the outcome, regardless of whether or not it came out exactly as planned, will always leave you with a sense of great pride and fulfillment because it is something you created entirely from scratch and saw through to the end. I built a small and intricate vanity chest for my mother for Mother's Day, and spent almost 2 months before building it. She was ecstatic over it, as was I. That's my suggestion.
>>16938206
Like what? I'm inclined to digital stuff.
>>16938209
I have zero interest in woodworking unfortunately. My grandfather loves it though.
Need some help! My right ear feels like it's blocked but I tried closing my nose and blowing and it did nothing. It doesn't hurt but I don't feel the balance between the left and right. Any ideas on what is the problem?
Spiders
Too much wax in ur ear m8. Go to a doctor and get your ear "syringed". Blast water into the ear to get the wax out.
>>16938196
Thanks mate. Will get the ear checked by a doctor. It was quite frightening because it suddenly happened after I woke up and it never got better
All my friends have boyfriends and I feel so jealous of them. And inferior to them, like I'm subhuman compared to them. I guess I wouldn't feel as bad if I had a boyfriend in the past but I never have.
How do I stop feeling so jealous of them?
>>16938156
Don't compare yourself to others.
>>16938156
Fuck their boyfriends. Or kill your friends.
>>16938222
How?
nice trips.
I have to declare my major in a couple terms, but I don't know which pigeon hole I'd like to select for myself. There's three I'm primarily interested in, but I'm open to suggestions.
>Chemistry
I've long been interested in synthesizing my own chemicals, and I do sterile lab-like work often and really it, and could see myself loving getting up every morning and going to work in a lab, plus, biochemitry is an extremely interesting post-grad option. The downside to this option is the terrible job market (negative growth, little room for advancement, etc)
>Computer Science
Despite it's meming on /sci/, I think it's a very viable major. I love the flexibility of it (being able to work from home, mainly, but also being able to do a broad array of different teh jobs). It's extremely employable, with interesting post-grad options like AI. Out of interest alone, this would be my second choice, just behind chemistry.
>Mechanical Engineering
This stands out to me because Mechanical Engineers go through very practical, real life education and I just feel like an engineers brain is well suited for a variety of things. It's like being educated on how to think well. Engineers aren't going anywhere anytime soon either, and the job market is ok.
>>16938150
If your interested in chemistry or computer science but insecure about the job then just do Chemical Engineering or Software Engineering.
Just take an entry level chemistry course, an entry level computer science course, a calculus course, and a physics course. Once you have experience with those things you'll be able to decide which of those classes you enjoy most, and so which major you'd be most interested in.
>>16938150
>I love the flexibility of it (being able to work from home, mainly, but also being able to do a broad array of different teh jobs). It's extremely employable, with interesting post-grad options like AI.
This is why CS is a meme now. I swear 90% of them are just doing it because they don't know what else to do and they heard it has good jobs. Mom and dad making them go to college / couldnt get jobs with their first bachelors / afraid of the math if they went for a real engineering degree. But when the actually hard stuff hits you in the spring of your junior year you're going to be hating life.
>after years of tfw no gf finally manage to get a gf
>we have been dating for 4 months
>I live alone, she lives with parents and usually stays with me
>we're both shy and introverted
>she took my virginity
>had our first fight an hour ago
>fight started because I didn't want to go to her step brothers wedding
>her step brother and father have both told me they don't like me on more than one occasion
>one of her ex boyfriends is also going to be there
>this causes me a lot of anxiety
>fight got very heated we were both raising our voices
>told her to just go with her ex boyfriend instead of me
>after a little back and forth she said "he's more of a man than you anyway"
>replied "I know"
>she picked up a pen and slashed my face with it, storming out before I had even looked up
>drop to the ground and start crying
>crawl to room smash my phone and keep crying
Don't know where she went. Now I cant even call her I'm so stupid. What am I meant to do. I really love her and I don't want to break up. She's the best thing in my life whole. I am so confused. It wasnt even that big of a deal it's just a wedding. How can I fix this?
>>16938133
>first half of story
Ok all good
>reply i know
Dude what
>she slashed my face and left
Double wat
>smash my phone and cry
Both of you have massive mentalproblems and issues and should probably not be together
>>16938133
I get that emotional stress can cause you to do crazy things but I think your biggest problem here is not keeping a level head. Women come and go dude but when you smash your own phone you're only hurting yourself. Work on that.
Women are really good at using words as weapons and your gf's worked perfectly. You need to realize that switch when they shift from logical conversation to attacking. Then you know there's something deeper going on in her mind that she's not telling you about. At that point you have to ask her why. Maybe she wants to show you off to her ex so he feels jealous or some b/s. My guess.
Aside from that, she's cray cray man. Move on.
>How can I fix this?
Jesus christ. Your girlfriend just assaulted you and that is not ok, it doesn't matter how much you love her or if she took your virginity you do not stay with an abuser.
It's not going to be easy for you but you have to fucking end it because your relationship isn't going to work no matter how hard you try. She will do it again, no ifs or buts.
Take solace in the fact that you have had a girlfriend, there are plenty of good women out there and you will find one. You dont need this bitch.
I dunno, I just cant anymore. Im almost 21 years old, completed school and finally completed my qualification as an electrician 2 weeks ago. My life is actually going good, I finally have enough money, Im not shy or anything anymore and actually have friends, and a girl fell in love with me.
NOW comes the weird part. I turned her down, I dont want to do anything anymore and just live everyday with a fake smile.
I dont hate my work. She was actually pretty cute. I enjoy spending time with my friends. But I miss my neet life. When Im in bed at night, I used to watch animes and play jrpgs. Lately I just fall asleep. Or just dont even bother to turn on the console and sleep right then. Or drink.
I dont have a single goal in life anymore. I always just wanted to become someone with an average income and just live till I die. Yeah I know, a great plan. But I just dont have any other dreams.
I dont know anymore. I play with the thought of just traveling around the world, but Im not rich enough for that yet.
Is that just winter depression or rather something else? My life is going actually pretty good, but Im just not happy, and I dont know why. I always wanted this, but... man, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Now, I dont have a pic related, so here´s my waifu.
Continue to be content with what you have and find something to do different.
Personally I'd just ponder the meaning of life until I get an answer I'd never change, and then follow it.
On a side note, good for you. Your life sounds very successful, I envy it.
>>16938101
Good man. These are phases. They will go away, maybe in a long time or maybe short. Keep your mind open and look for something to do until you eventually want to do something. Try throwing yourself into something short and temporary that you might think will help you even though you don't like it or don't want to do it.
You say you're 21 but you sound 16.
Get a fucking grip.
Just a quick story. Need opinions.
Gf turned wife of 10 years has a drinking problem she behaves way too inappropriate and doesn't remember anything the next day. She's even gotten so drunk she's kissed other guys in front of me. Even caused me to fist fight other people. She doesn't remember and nothing I say can fix her.
I stayed with her cuz I was taken care of, living for free with her parents w/ her. But is it worth knowing my gir is a drunken slut? I thought it was. I'm asking myself, where is rock bottom, then do I draw the line, what needs to happen before I leave? Do I need to see her fucking cheat?
She won't change, she would have if she wanted to.
Im leaving her, I don't trust her at all. I can't believe she won't do it again. Wish me luck on my new life. Shit won't be ez. But it's better then living with this
Bump for your thoughts
It sounds like you came to the conclusion you needed to as you were writing this. Though to be perfectly frank, I'd have pushed her towards rehab.
You're only with her so she can take care of you? Do you even care about her at all?
Hey /adv/
Today my mum caught me smoking and told me that I was a massive disappointment and that I have failed her, I'm 19 years old and I realise that smoking is fucking retarded, her birthday is tomorrow and she told me she doesn't even want anything of me and doesn't even want to see me
Please help /adv/
>>16938074
Buy her a pack of fags for her Birthday
tell that bitch to calm her saggy tits. what kind of mother reacts like that? i'd stuff her cake full of cigarettes, pack my shit and leave
My family was incredibly disappointed but I've quit since then. Still, I've never heard of someone reacting like that. That's insane. Ask her why she feels so strongly; tell her you know it's stupid. Open a discourse. Noones dumb enough to excommunicate their kid based on that
Hi. Id like to talk with somebody about this and maybe hear similar stories.
1. Here's the thing. My first really big crush was when I was 16. I was thinking about her nonstop, I felt butterflies in my stomach. But we almost never talked ! Because she was from other class and
we rarely saw each other and well, I was extra shy when close to her and me, being too young and unexperienced I couldnt even put any sentence together. So I actually avoided meeting her irl. We chatted on internet though. This crush had a big impact on my
life, as I started going out, drinking, parties, socializing, meeting new people. Turned my life around. But I didnt get the girl which inspired me to do all this.
2. Fast forward - me, 21 years old, started actually dating one girl. We ended up together for 5 years. This was the real deal, this was actually love and real interaction. Stuff happened, we split up last year.
3. Now, Im 26. One year after leaving my long relationship. And there is a co-worker that is having the same effect on me as the girl I had crush on 10 years ago. I thought this
would never happen to me anymore, but here I am, an adult, having a teenage-like crush. The worst part is, Im feeling the same butterflies and shyness as when I was young. How can this be ?
How does one get rid of this feeling ?
What do you think ?
Have you experienced something similar ?
>>16938012
Just remember that you're not your teenage self anymore.
You don't need to feel that awkwardness and if anything once you get the girl she'll find it sweet and endearing that you felt that way about her :)
Just be yourself and act as if you're just talking to some nice person you just happened to bump into and then get along with
Good luck
1. Stop using the word crush, you're infatuated, which is not love (the kind you had with your 5yr gf). You're in love with your ideal of her, sounds like you haven't really gotten to know her as a just another person. Make your intentions known up front. Bust a move or face the friendzone.
2. You're probably feeling this b/c you're worried about being single again after a solid relationship, like you might be worried you've lost your edge or something. Solution is the same, bust a move before you develop strong feelings, as women are weirded out by guys who suddenly express these longing feelings as if they've been building up (which is what you're doing).
See this anon's post: >>16937591
>>16938421
I didnt mean love by "crush", but Im not native speaker so yeah, I meant being infatuated.
You are right I dont even know her, and thats kinda my point. There is no reason for me to feel like this. And yet I do. No logic to it.
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