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How do I stop being insecure about getting cheated on?
My girlfriend loves me to death and gives off the signs of NOT being a cheater. She hates cheaters, she routinely tlaks about our future, she has my fingerprint on her phone, she doesn't talk to any guys outside of Uni classes, she knows males and females can't just be platonic friends unless someone is gay/family and she would never go out somewhere with another dude 1 on 1. I told her I'm insecure about this because we tell teach other everything and she wrote me a long ass text saying she won't cheat on me, she would never hurt me like that etc etc etc.
But I still feel uneasy. Mainly because she has her ex and previous hookups on Instagram. She's had numerous chances to get back with them but didn't. I don't know why I'm so insecure about this.
Because you're not confident in yourself and is scared of her meeting someone better than you/ potentially slowly losing interest in you. Just be who you are and keep the lines of communication open, after that it's all in the wind. Either it's meant to be or it's not.
Try to focus more on her body language, pick out small signs that tells you she's happy with you.
People are fucked up amd make stupid decisions
Meditate more senpai
I have to change my complete lifestyle. I have anxiety and depression. The only friends I have are stoners and I need to quit smoking weed.
I don't want to be lonely.
How?
>>16933822
Switch to coke. Keep smoking weed and say a big fuck you to status anxiety.
>>16933836
Explain status anxiety I understand I just want to know why you said it
>>16933845
Oh look at them, they're rich, they have a big car, big house, hot girl/boyfriend blah blah blah. Now I feel depressed because I don't have what they have.
Been working at this job for a little under a year. Developed a crush on a coworker who is in a 9year relationship. We worked side by side for about 5-6 months. I decided to go back to uni for the spring semester as a result i had to switch shifts so now we only see each other maybe 2 times a week. On valentines day she texted me pic related and wishing me a happy valentines day.I didn't respond. Chatted maybe once after that. Then i saw her last Saturday and she said that "she feels like we don't see each other anymore" I just said "yeah" because i was slightly hung over and dealing with some personal stuff. Can anyone insight me on whats going through her head? I feel like she just misses the attention
>on whats going through her head
Literally only she knows that.
>>16933801
Wrong question, i get that now. A better question would be what should i do about the situation and if she's worth the effort?
She's in a 9 year relationship, dude. She doesn't want the D. She's got the D. She texted you that pic because it's the kind of stupid thing girls think is funny. It's the equivalent of your uncle emailing you a bad pun that's making its way around the office.
My coworkers are all grouped together chatting and having a good time while im off alone still working. Why am i like this? Is there something wrong with me?
you're just not that social. nothing wrong with that aslong as it doesn't bother you
>>16933701
Do you make an effort to join in?
You're either a shitty person, an unsocial person, just incompatible with these people, or some combination of the three. No amount of talking to internet strangers will be able to give you a definitive answer.
Want to get into a relationship with a girl I like, but ship across country for basic training in 3 months. What do?
go for it. better have a good time for 3 months and have it potentially work out instead of pondering the "what if's" later
>>16933687
Pump n dump dipshit
That's the objective
Marry her, get those military benefits 'n' shit people around here seem to marry for
girlfriend came to my game with another guy who likes her, just broke up with her. I feel like shit, is there any ways to easily get over a break up?
rebounding
>>16933686
is that really fair for the rebound girl? what if my ex comes back in my life?
>>16933685
your ex gf came to your whatever sporting event with another dude?
that has to be the most passive aggressive "i wanna make my ex jealous" move i've ever heard. hopefully you played it like a man and ignored the fuck out of her then entire time, and then chatted up the QT cheerleaders after dropping 50 points and hitting the buzzer beating 3 to win the game
otherwise she won
hey /adv/, I've got a bit of a problem.
I'm nineteen and currently living with my parents while I study at the local junior college. I have some worries about my mental health.
My mother is under a huge amount of stress (my father just got a DUI and totaled our car) and is dealing with other incredibly difficult family issues (my sister is very taxing on the family and her mother is struggling with dementia). My father and I have a weird relationship and never talk, so I'd really prefer not to approach him either.
Is there a way for me to ask for therapy sessions? I don't want to stress out my mother, and I'm almost certain she will feel like she has to walk on eggshells whenever we interact if she finds out that I might be mentally ill. She probably would never treat me exactly the same.
I also have no idea when I could fit the therapy sessions into my schedule, I'm taking full days of classes from Monday-Friday and I think that denying myself free time would only worsen my mental health.
Does your college not have a counsellor or therapist?
>>16933674
I believe it does, but my schedule is nigh-identical to a few of my friends. Neither of them know that I fear for my mental health either. I can't really go to the campus therapist without them wondering why I'm not taking the bus home with them.
>>16933679
You should feel comfortable mentioning this to your friends. People don't just go to counsellors and therapists for mental health issues anyway, you could just tell them you're feeling stressed with school work (and perhaps mention your family situation too)
annoying sister in law is coming with her annoying family... 11 people in 1 house.
Steal some of her dirty panties and furiously sniff them. If she gets suspicious burn the house down
And? Relatives can be exhausting. Deal with it
>>16933662
you deal with it.
Alright /adv/. So there's this girl. I adore her. We've been friends for about a year, much closer friends these last 4 months or so. Near not a single day goes by we don't spend time together. Whenever we go out to eat she teases, asking me "Oh, are we going on a date?" We text every night. Just the other day when I'd gone to bed, she sent me this long sprawling text about how sweet she thinks I am, and how much she appreciates how often I think about her. She has a pet name for me. Sometimes we find excuses just to be near each other. Tonight we drove to the park at 2 in the morning and just laid in a field and talked
I want to be with her. And I'm 80% sure she feels the same
But she has a boyfriend. And not justs some guy, but a friend of mine. Someone I work with.
Help. Please.
You're probably just a friend to her. Because you're a friend of her boyfriend, you're 'safe', that's why she's so close to you and open with you
Date another girl, see if she gets jealous.
>>16933574
That's what I'd been assuming for the first few months. But there are things that make me feel otherwise and I'm just not sure. For one, whenever we're all together, she gets mad at him for trying to do 'boyfriend' stuff (Hug, hold her hand etc). Tells him to quit it. Though I can't be certain if it's because I'm around or just a 'in public' issue in general
But the bigger thing, whenever we're going somewhere with a larger group of friends and need to take two cars, He and I drive and she always, always chooses to ride with me, despite his occasional frustration with it. Honestly if not for that I think I'd have given up awhile ago
Or would you say something like that is normal?
I'm turning 24 in 2 weeks,what accomplishments has American society deemed I should have completed by this time?
>>16933557
Studying, have a degree or a job that's actually going somewhere
Driver's licence
Moved out
Dated a bit, perhaps in a relationship and beginning to look to settle down
That's for you to decide.
If you feel you've done enough, then that's that.
If you feel you could've/should've done more, do more.
by 24 you should have a car or at least be banging some milf that lets you drive her while hubby at work.
you should have a lava lamp, that reminds you of how it felt the first time you anal sexed.
you should have outgrown babby toys and be using and android smartphone instead of that iphone
you should have an idea of what you want to do with your life, unless your life got fucked over by STEM and you've already been plugged into a cubicle in the matrix. Morpheus can't even save you from that.
you should know by now that there is no santa, toothfairy, or easterbunny leaving chocolate eggs and presents or sneaking into your house while you sleep. those bumps in the night were really just your mom banging some guy.
you should know how to cook 14 different meals or more.
Is it possible to be really close to an online friend?
It's possible to THINK you are really close to an online friend...
nope. i've been there. you'll never really know that person know matter how much you think you do.
Yes. My 2 online friends are closer than any of my other friends. One of them I've talked to nearly every day for 5 years. I can tell her things I can't tell my own parents, even things I couldn't admit to myself. She can make me laugh for 12 hours straight. I can't count count the number of times I've stayed up until 6 in the morning because neither of us wanted the conversation to end. Wow this story has a lot of numbers in it, sorry.
But online friends can break your heart, too. My second friend disappeared after 4 years, and I have no way to reach her. We were soul mates in our life dreams and harships we'd been through. I think about her every day and have never wished so much for someone else's happiness.
I don't have a gf
I can't have a gf
I don't think I could handle a gf
I don't know if I would really want a gf
Yet my body tells me with everything in its power to get a gf.
Is there any way to stop this? It's killing me.
>>16933509
Oh no you don't have to constantly worry about someone cheating on you or getting raped or just dumping you
Buy a hooker or go to a bar with a stack of cash
>>16933520
I don't disagree with you. But will a hooker do the job? I mean, I still want a gf after fapping. What difference will a hooker make?
I want to stop feeling no gf feels.
>>16933530
Just try going on dates
failed most of my classes in 2nd year of civil engineering.
didn't tell my parents, pretended like i was still studying like a normal student even though i was on academic dismissal.
now i've "graduated".
dad found me a job at a small civil engineering consulting firm (they do work on bridges and highways in large american city).
wtf do i do? i don't kno chit about structural engineering or design.
Wow, find yourself some job or education and talk to your dad afterwards.
>>16933489
Fucking learn.
And quickly, at that.
Your father is busting his ass to provide you with opportunities you don't possess the motivation to seek for yourself. At least do him the courtesy of making an earnest attempt.
If you are given an assignment you don't understand, research as much as possible into the confusing aspects. I mean serious levels of research too not just a quick google search where you give up if you can't find the answer.
Also, don't be afraid to ask your colleagues for help. Don't rely on them unnecessarily or throw your work onto them, but if you make a friend in the office or can offer you the occasion pointer, it will help you.
Don't go in there with the attitude of "FUCK I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING I SHOULDN'T EVEN BE HERE"
Go in with the attitude of "I know much more than average person on this topic and with some experience I'm sure I can become an expert in my field given the proper opportunities."
>>16933489
Are your parents really that fucking stupid that they didn't realize tar you haven't been in school for the last two years? Didn't they want to see your diploma or go to your graduation?
Does 4chan automatically strip exif data or are the /b/tards lying to me?
They're lying. I've seen threads where exif data was used to dox some fool.
In my experience it does. I've sometimes taken pics with my phone and posted them right away. I always check afterwards with an online exif viewer if there's anything and there never is.
>>16933734
Do you have your location disabled on your phone? I think that's what saved me, but need a bit more proof that that's what it was.
How often can you initiate a conversation on Facebook with a friend without annoying that person too much?
>>16933414
Don't always be the one to initiate, and don't make it a routine.
If you hit up on someone on facebook, and you have an enjoyable conversation... great! Feel free to hit them up again, or wait for them to hit you up.
It only gets weird (in my opinion) when someone you don't know terribly well consistently hits you up to talk when you make it apparent you aren't really interested.
I once had a girl named Stacy message me almost every other day on facebook despite most of my responses being as detailed as "Oh, that sucks." or "Haha, I see" etc.
These days I don't really use facebook anymore so it isn't a problem but I never minded getting messages from friends I was interested in talking with.
Comparatively, I had a friend who would hit me up often, but I hit him up just as often to shoot the shit and talk about the day so it never got weird or overbearing.
Just find genuine friends, OP. A genuine friend is going to want to talk to you when you want to talk to them about 8 out of 10 times. A facebook friend is more akin to an acquaintance or class mate so when someone suddenly tries to escalate that into close friendship it comes off as clingy.
>>16933414
>dolphin picture
Oh thank god, I thought you were that dolphin fucker who has been spamming every board today.
>>16933426
This friend of mine lives in another country and I only have her Facebook
