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My boyfriend has been cheating on me since we got together 6 years ago. He claims he hasn't thought about another woman since his last slip up 6 months ago. Once a cheater always a cheater? Anyone been through this have any advice?
>>16933118
>Since his last slip up
>More than one slip up
>Cheating on you for the past 6 years
Has it honestly not crossed your mind to break up? Save yourself the misery and leave him. What a shitty boyfriend.
>>16933118
Should have split the first time you found out. Yes, people can change, but if they have the maturity to understand what they did was wrong, and make the change needed, they should also have the maturity to understand why you would want to leave.
I have tried to end it. But he turns it around to make me the bad guy.
Need help with a resume. I'm 18 and in my last year of high school. What sort of things should I be looking at putting? And do I need a photo of myself or is that weird? I'm just looking for a part-time job, pretty much anywhere.
>>16933106
>do I need a photo
No
Just put down extra-curriculars and any forms of leadership positions you had in them or in any clubs outside school. Only put a GPA if it's really worth noting (like 3.3 or above).
>>16933106
>And do I need a photo of myself
Don't do that.
Don't overthink it. Literally answer the questions. Name, age, work history, references. It's not hard. The hardest part is finding non-family references at your age. It's okay that you don't have a work history yet, most employers won't care since you're 18. If you have questions, ask your parents to help you.
>>16933117
Also, if you weren't into clubs at school, try to get some volunteer opportunities before a part-time job. They'll accept anyone and will give you good experience.
So I've been speaking to this girl for a good five months, she wanted to get together but I didn't at the time so I delayed it but we kept talking intimately, then she became more and more upset all the time and says that it's only her that can help herself, she still wants to keep talking and that she loves me but in conversation she's blunt. Also she doesn't wanna meet me yet because she's not 'ready'
What do?
I need more info OP
>Do you want to meet her?
>Does her liking you make you not want to be friends with her?
>Does she make you fee uncomfortable now?
I want to meet her desperately!
I want to be her 'lover' not friend.
And yes I feel ill about it.
>>16933075
I want to meet her desperately!
I want to be her 'lover' not friend.
And yes I feel ill about it
In the past year or so, Ive been getting a huge amount of anxiety and get panic attacks nearly every time i go outside. I try to live my life, work and socialize but this is really fucking me up and making me not want to leave the house as i'll randomly get panic attacks in the middle of work or when i occasionally go out with friends. Wtf do i do about this??
>>16933053
Maybe see a doctor?? Is there any reason you can't do this?
>>16933061
I went to a doctor earlier for depression and anxiety, but none of the pills i got ended up working so i kind of stopped going, not sure if its the same for anxiety. Ive been planning on going to a therapist nearby but its like 90$ per visit
How to find a mental health provider: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/in-depth/mental-health-providers/art-20045530
How to find a therapist: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
See a psychiatrist. See a therapist. Get your mental health issues addressed.
I hope it goes well for you, OP!
I got a cold sore for the first time ever at 28 years old a week and a half ago, I did the whole abreva thing and would pick at the scabs.... I read it was best to pop the ulcers to get the virus out and sterilize it. I did not have a needle so I popped a few sores like a pimple and washed it with hand sanitizer. I also had some odd ingrown hairs there and could not shave so I took a tweezer and pulled out about 10 of them in the area.
I woke the next day with a very swollen lip as can be seen in the following photo below.
The area where the cold sore was after...
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Busted top lip after pulling out mustache hairs with tweezers which also spread the sore and gave my a little cyst under the sore, The cyst like ball under sore has now mostly gone away
This was the cold sore after about a week and a half after not really taking care of it and constantly picking scabs
>>16933051
I remember your other thread. It's almost gone. Just keep leaving it alone. You picking at it probably have the area a bacterial infection so that's why it's taking so long.
My friends have been giving me shit lately
I'm really lonely I have nobody to hang out with
It's either join ts and get berated or sit in silence
I have nobody to actually talk to
I used to have someone to talk to every day but she's gone and i'm so lonely ever since
My advice question is, can I make friends online that aren't weird as fuck or something? I want another friend I can talk to every day, who talks to me, like an actual friend
I want someone I can play music for, and talk to, and just.. I don't know help
I'll be your friend
>>16933036
will you?
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1EqkCWTou5A
this is me, it's nuvole bianche
Is it harder to find a girlfriend online or offline? I've been doing online exclusively for about 3 years. I've had a bunch of dates and only 2 fairly short relationships.
I'm a little frustrated because I feel like I'm putting in way too much energy into finding a girl and I feel like it shouldn't take this much work (maybe I'm wrong).
I'm not in school right now. I'm planning to go to college in September. Is that the best way to meet girls?
It wouldn't bother me that much if I wasn't a virgin at almost...
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>>16932991
It depends on your situation OP. College is very easy place to meet girls. I had 2 girlfriends and slept with a few women during my time at college and I'm a fucking socially retarded loser. I've barely interacted with a woman since I graduated, got a job and moved back home.
Both places have their struggles. In person, there are far fewer clues about what you're getting into. Joy (or terror) is in the discovery. Got a better sense of what they look like though, unless you meet them somewhere dark
Online SEEMS easier but you are essentially at the mercy of other people's efforts to market themselves. A lot of people lie or exaggerate, but most people are just not very good at advertising themselves. Online dating requires a little more work honestly, trying to figure out the true person behind the profile.
You should spend your energy on the relationship, not on finding it. It´s the person you will be with you want to focus on, because once you have the relationship, that´s where you need to focus.
It´s hard online and offline, but offline you get a better chance of something real.
In general learn to talk to people, laugh with them, don´t be a jerk, don´t be egotistic or a downer or a killjoy have your own interests and be able to talk about them.
Don´t come onto girls with something only guys find funny or something they may find vulgar or off-putting, don´t...
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How do I ask out my friend who told me they loved me on February. We haven't talked about the February event in person but in text he can be a smooth fuck. In person were good friends . How can I ask him out? Stories and tips are welcome!!
>>16932946
write him a note, ask your bestest friend to pass it on to him.
>>16932953
I dont
>>16932946
Just ask him out!
It's not hard: "hey anon, you know what you told me in February? Yeah, i like you too. Let's go out!"
I mean the hard part of knowing if he likes you is over. He already told you. You just need to give him an answer.
The greentext is optional as I've posted it before with another question.
>Be me, 19
>At concert alone
>Show up like 15 minutes late to show
>Go to merch stand and grab shirt while opening act plays before they run out
>Standing in back next to merch stand because I'm tall and kinda like my personal space at concerts
>7/10 redhead comes up to me
>"Hey,...
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>>16932938
She looks interested but I will warn you. I had a massive crush on a 25 y/o female at the time (I was 20) and I never stood a chance. Women like these are usually looking for long term relationship and you gotta have your shit together like live in your own, have a great job $$$, know how to cook, pay bills, managing money... keep in mind tou are competing against older men that have way more experience than you and yes for a lot of women, being older than you is a major turn off and no matter what you do (unless...
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>>16932972
This is true in the general sense. I do know of one instance where a girl married a guy with no job while she paid all the bills for their apartment, though he probably has an actual job at this point.
>>16932972
Oh and by the way, if she is still single at this age, it is a red flag. Call me paranoid but there's a reason why she is single. In my case, she had anxiety issues and is alpha widowed of her ex. They all have issue the older they get
I think a good friend of mine has finally just snapped. Me, his other friends and his girlfriend don't know what to do about him now. How do you convince someone to get help when all they seem to want to do is destroy themselves.
>caring for anyone but blood family
you don't. let him do what he wants.
>>16932920
I would rather not see another friend of mine self destruct.
Specifically what are they doing? Drug abuse? Suicidal?
