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My boyfriend has been cheating on me since we got together 6 years ago. He claims he hasn't thought about another woman since his last slip up 6 months ago. Once a cheater always a cheater? Anyone been through this have any advice?
>>16933118
>Since his last slip up
>More than one slip up
>Cheating on you for the past 6 years
Has it honestly not crossed your mind to break up? Save yourself the misery and leave him. What a shitty boyfriend.
>>16933118
Should have split the first time you found out. Yes, people can change, but if they have the maturity to understand what they did was wrong, and make the change needed, they should also have the maturity to understand why you would want to leave.
I have tried to end it. But he turns it around to make me the bad guy.
Need help with a resume. I'm 18 and in my last year of high school. What sort of things should I be looking at putting? And do I need a photo of myself or is that weird? I'm just looking for a part-time job, pretty much anywhere.
>>16933106
>do I need a photo
No
Just put down extra-curriculars and any forms of leadership positions you had in them or in any clubs outside school. Only put a GPA if it's really worth noting (like 3.3 or above).
>>16933106
>And do I need a photo of myself
Don't do that.
Don't overthink it. Literally answer the questions. Name, age, work history, references. It's not hard. The hardest part is finding non-family references at your age. It's okay that you don't have a work history yet, most employers won't care since you're 18. If you have questions, ask your parents to help you.
>>16933117
Also, if you weren't into clubs at school, try to get some volunteer opportunities before a part-time job. They'll accept anyone and will give you good experience.
So I've been speaking to this girl for a good five months, she wanted to get together but I didn't at the time so I delayed it but we kept talking intimately, then she became more and more upset all the time and says that it's only her that can help herself, she still wants to keep talking and that she loves me but in conversation she's blunt. Also she doesn't wanna meet me yet because she's not 'ready'
What do?
I need more info OP
>Do you want to meet her?
>Does her liking you make you not want to be friends with her?
>Does she make you fee uncomfortable now?
I want to meet her desperately!
I want to be her 'lover' not friend.
And yes I feel ill about it.
>>16933075
I want to meet her desperately!
I want to be her 'lover' not friend.
And yes I feel ill about it
In the past year or so, Ive been getting a huge amount of anxiety and get panic attacks nearly every time i go outside. I try to live my life, work and socialize but this is really fucking me up and making me not want to leave the house as i'll randomly get panic attacks in the middle of work or when i occasionally go out with friends. Wtf do i do about this??
>>16933053
Maybe see a doctor?? Is there any reason you can't do this?
>>16933061
I went to a doctor earlier for depression and anxiety, but none of the pills i got ended up working so i kind of stopped going, not sure if its the same for anxiety. Ive been planning on going to a therapist nearby but its like 90$ per visit
How to find a mental health provider: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/in-depth/mental-health-providers/art-20045530
How to find a therapist: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
See a psychiatrist. See a therapist. Get your mental health issues addressed.
I hope it goes well for you, OP!
I got a cold sore for the first time ever at 28 years old a week and a half ago, I did the whole abreva thing and would pick at the scabs.... I read it was best to pop the ulcers to get the virus out and sterilize it. I did not have a needle so I popped a few sores like a pimple and washed it with hand sanitizer. I also had some odd ingrown hairs there and could not shave so I took a tweezer and pulled out about 10 of them in the area.
I woke the next day with a very swollen lip as can be seen in the following photo below.
The area where the cold sore was after tweezing the hairs out was fully numb for 30 hours like it has had a novocaine shot feeling to it all day long. A small squishy like cyst would also appear behind the aggrevated cold sore but it has pretty much gone away.
I also would later on take a needle and pop the little white ulcers to drain it so it would dry out but it would only spread with new smaller sores so I stopped messing with it all together.
If so do i Need to go get meds?
I am 5 years celibate including no kissing so I am guessing I got this touching my face after shaking hands since I work as a journalist. It was very cold the day before this popped up and my lips typically chap in cold weather, the next morning I had that tingling feeling where the sore would appear and my lips were dry.
I also take 40mg ritalin and 20mg Lexapro daily which may have been a factor here.
I am going on nearly 25 days with this now.
Busted top lip after pulling out mustache hairs with tweezers which also spread the sore and gave my a little cyst under the sore, The cyst like ball under sore has now mostly gone away
This was the cold sore after about a week and a half after not really taking care of it and constantly picking scabs
>>16933051
I remember your other thread. It's almost gone. Just keep leaving it alone. You picking at it probably have the area a bacterial infection so that's why it's taking so long.
My friends have been giving me shit lately
I'm really lonely I have nobody to hang out with
It's either join ts and get berated or sit in silence
I have nobody to actually talk to
I used to have someone to talk to every day but she's gone and i'm so lonely ever since
My advice question is, can I make friends online that aren't weird as fuck or something? I want another friend I can talk to every day, who talks to me, like an actual friend
I want someone I can play music for, and talk to, and just.. I don't know help
I'll be your friend
>>16933036
will you?
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1EqkCWTou5A
this is me, it's nuvole bianche
Is it harder to find a girlfriend online or offline? I've been doing online exclusively for about 3 years. I've had a bunch of dates and only 2 fairly short relationships.
I'm a little frustrated because I feel like I'm putting in way too much energy into finding a girl and I feel like it shouldn't take this much work (maybe I'm wrong).
I'm not in school right now. I'm planning to go to college in September. Is that the best way to meet girls?
It wouldn't bother me that much if I wasn't a virgin at almost 23- I'm pretty sexually frustrated. I posted my pic here before and nobody said I was ugly or anything.
>>16932991
It depends on your situation OP. College is very easy place to meet girls. I had 2 girlfriends and slept with a few women during my time at college and I'm a fucking socially retarded loser. I've barely interacted with a woman since I graduated, got a job and moved back home.
Both places have their struggles. In person, there are far fewer clues about what you're getting into. Joy (or terror) is in the discovery. Got a better sense of what they look like though, unless you meet them somewhere dark
Online SEEMS easier but you are essentially at the mercy of other people's efforts to market themselves. A lot of people lie or exaggerate, but most people are just not very good at advertising themselves. Online dating requires a little more work honestly, trying to figure out the true person behind the profile.
You should spend your energy on the relationship, not on finding it. It´s the person you will be with you want to focus on, because once you have the relationship, that´s where you need to focus.
It´s hard online and offline, but offline you get a better chance of something real.
In general learn to talk to people, laugh with them, don´t be a jerk, don´t be egotistic or a downer or a killjoy have your own interests and be able to talk about them.
Don´t come onto girls with something only guys find funny or something they may find vulgar or off-putting, don´t push too hard, but don´t ignore them just to spark their interest.
And don´t be nervous, good relationships are hard to find.
How do I ask out my friend who told me they loved me on February. We haven't talked about the February event in person but in text he can be a smooth fuck. In person were good friends . How can I ask him out? Stories and tips are welcome!!
>>16932946
write him a note, ask your bestest friend to pass it on to him.
>>16932953
I dont
>>16932946
Just ask him out!
It's not hard: "hey anon, you know what you told me in February? Yeah, i like you too. Let's go out!"
I mean the hard part of knowing if he likes you is over. He already told you. You just need to give him an answer.
The greentext is optional as I've posted it before with another question.
>Be me, 19
>At concert alone
>Show up like 15 minutes late to show
>Go to merch stand and grab shirt while opening act plays before they run out
>Standing in back next to merch stand because I'm tall and kinda like my personal space at concerts
>7/10 redhead comes up to me
>"Hey, I know this is weird, but if you were a girl, what shirt would you buy?"
>Odd way to start conversation, but k
>Keep chatting throughout opening act
>I'm not shy, just quiet. Not a fan of small talk but I'm trying because damn she's cute. She's pretty eager to keep the conversation going
>Conversation picks up, going really well. Mainly talking about her but whatever works
>She asks how old I am. I tell her, find out she's 25
>"Hey, I know you're 19, but can I buy you a beer?
>Decline with bullshit reason, but really there's staff walking around and I have giant X's on my hands. Didn't wanna get kicked out
>Brushing her arm against mine when talking, and our spot isn't crowded enough to pass it off as accidental
>Chatting for next 15 minutes
>She's gorgeous and a total sweetheart
>She checks her phone and says "So I guess my friends showed up, I'll see you later, alright?"
>She comes back in another 15 "I did come here by myself, so I figured I'd be by myself with you."
>I'm an oblivious fuck but come on I'd have to be fucking Steevo Wunder to not see this
>We're having a blast at concert, but I didn't see her wander off again, because oblivious as shit
>Kept an eye out for her, but couldn't find her after the show
>Bugged me the whole drive home, "How would that night have played out?" thoughts
>Found her in like two seconds on FB and decided I've got nothing to lose
pic related
Normally I'd assume a girl like this is interested, but the thing that's making me skeptical is the age difference. Is it common for a 25 year old to be into someone 6 years younger than them?
>>16932938
She looks interested but I will warn you. I had a massive crush on a 25 y/o female at the time (I was 20) and I never stood a chance. Women like these are usually looking for long term relationship and you gotta have your shit together like live in your own, have a great job $$$, know how to cook, pay bills, managing money... keep in mind tou are competing against older men that have way more experience than you and yes for a lot of women, being older than you is a major turn off and no matter what you do (unless you are a 10/10 chad into modelling or millionaire), she will always see you as inferior.
Unless you have all of those qualities I mentionned beforehand, forget about relationship but try to get that pussy if you can.
Best of luck
>>16932972
This is true in the general sense. I do know of one instance where a girl married a guy with no job while she paid all the bills for their apartment, though he probably has an actual job at this point.
>>16932972
Oh and by the way, if she is still single at this age, it is a red flag. Call me paranoid but there's a reason why she is single. In my case, she had anxiety issues and is alpha widowed of her ex. They all have issue the older they get
I think a good friend of mine has finally just snapped. Me, his other friends and his girlfriend don't know what to do about him now. How do you convince someone to get help when all they seem to want to do is destroy themselves.
>caring for anyone but blood family
you don't. let him do what he wants.
>>16932920
I would rather not see another friend of mine self destruct.
Specifically what are they doing? Drug abuse? Suicidal?
I'm freaking out
>be me 18
>first job only been working there a month
>not sure if a lot of people like me there because I fucked up a lot one night. I've Been getting better
>New kid starts working
>Get off work early 8:45 pm
>Dark in the parking lot
>back into a black car
>oh shit, it's new kid's car
>Never been in an accident before, I have no idea what to do
>Get the hell out of there
>Stop at gas station and fill up
>Inspect damage, it doesn't look like there's anything
>(roughly 5-10 minutes later) As I'm paying for my shit co-worker comes in
>She doesn't always drive herself. Sometimes she's dropped off. There was a car parked next to the one I bumped into. Could someone have saw?
>Get home, tell parents what happened and they call work
How fucked am I? I feel like a complete asshole if I did damage to new kid's car. Talk about first impressions. Also if people at work don't already hate me, they'll hate me now for bumping into new kid's car.
It's not a big deal, shit happens.
>>16932926
Do you think if I making a cake with "Sorry I bumped into your car" on it better?
>Also my car has black paint on it. I didn't see if there was any dents afterwords. Is it possible I just scraped the paint?
>>16932913
Shameless bump. Has this happened to anyone else?
I crave a sense of community, /adv/, but I don't know where to find it.
I grew up in a closely-knit small town/suburb in the Midwest.
After High School, I commuted to college, and I had a circle of friends who stayed in the area. Unfortunately, they've slowly drifted away, and now in my mid-20s, I'm the last one left.
I know I need to move on, but I don't know where to go.
I feel very lonely, and I crave that small-town feeling of knowing everybody.
The city is kind of appealing, but I'm worried I'll move down there and simply be lonely in an even bigger, busier place.
Does anyone have any advice for me?
Welcome to life it sucks
>>16932992
Eat shit.
There's not many options when it comes to this, either you get used to it or you do something about it and get out there and attend events and get to know people.
I'm having a lot of trouble getting over the girl on the right.
Posted this thread before but this time I want to make clear I'm not pure robot, but probably more robot than most currently using this board.
I want to ask if anyone has been in love more than once and how did they compare?
She was my only girlfriend and we dared for 2 to 3 years. The last year was bad enough that she refuses to say we were still together. She slept with three guys that year and had camsex with a few ppl from soc.
So she called me drunk a few weeks ago and we had another long talk after that.
I find her really attractive now and I think I'm in love with her again.
The problem is I'm a neet drug addict who is just now getting his life back together. She's also been dating this guy 15 years older than her. She says she's happy but told me she saw him write to his ex that he missed her sex. That and reconnecting with me makes me think there is a chance.
I don't know how to handle this. Is this obsession or did I fuck up my chance with the one?
>>16932857
her right or your right or my right ?
>>16932921
Uploaded wrong pic
I've only been crazy-in-love twice in my life, and the second time was way more intense than the first.
Forget about her. Focus on getting your life back together.
20/m
I have nowhere else to turn to.
I'm going on a trip to another state in a couple days, but I may sacrifice someone else's happiness for my own.
Here's the story:
I've recently gotten out of a relationship with a girl who is very depressed, but who is an exceptional partner in a relationship setting.
She is very troubled, so her insecurities became my own insecurities. I became paranoid about every little thing she did, due to her depression making her act distant and shady.
Well, she ended up taking a trip with a group of friends up north to a snowy/wooded area so she could "find herself" and after weeks of emotional despair, falling in and out of each other's lives and arguing, she claimed that the only male in their group of four had had sex with her whilst she was drunk and asleep.
We started hooking up again, weeks later and for a few nights after we'd have really great sex, she would cry and say that she hates herself for what happened and swore up and down that it wasn't intentional. I don't believe her; we argued about it one day and she defended this guy's confidence and ability to get laid all the time, which made me question her "lack of consent". she always orgasms intensely upon our intimacy, and claims I am the best partner she has ever had, is she disarming me with that?
My paranoia with her and the guy was correct, so I believe my distrust is justified.
Well, we had a falling out again and I recently began talking to an old friend of mine who lives out of state; a girl, who invited me to visit her. i'll be gone for a week. That ex and I fell back together again after some time(without the title, but with the sex and affections. The title is out of the picture because my friends were the ones who warned me about the guy who fooled around with her.) and she will excommunicate me if I leave. I do love her, but I also wanna get out of my box and visit another state. I hate displeasing people. What should I do? Am I a bad person?
OP here.
This trip was not to get laid, just merely to experience intense hiking and nature.
I planned it to escape the emotional trauma this whole scenario had caused me. Now I feel worse. I don't know what to do.
Will post cool art I've saved whilst waiting for replies... -OP
I'm a pretty emotional guy so this has had a huge affect on me, although I'm fit and in college. The human brain is so strange
Particularly smiling or not smiling?
>>16932787
As long as there's a dog in your pic, you'll do just fine
Honestly natural light works wonders. Take a picture of yourself in the light of the window
