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I think I damaged my prostate from too much fappuing, and then going 3 weeks without it:
I had occasional soreness and a hard feeling in the gooch between my anus and scrotum since over 2 years ago. Asked a doctor about ti once and he just said it was sore from fapping too much, not a prostate problem.
However, before my last nofap streak I was feeling fine, but then yesterday noticed that every time I peed, it was harder to push out the last 2 pumps to completely empty the bladder after the main stream stops, and afterwards it still feels like I have to pee. No pain in the bladder/testes/penis though, and I can tell the difference between that new sensitive feeling and actual urine, so no increase in urination. I suspect it is prostate related since its accompanied my increased sensitivity in the area prostate is located and when I sit on a hard surface it feels like I am sitting on an almond.
So I made this thread to ask if anyone has had similar issues, or complications when withdrawing from mastubation addiction. It would be pointless to see a doctor about again since I'm now on Medicaid, and the only thing they would do is say you're young, just wait and monitor it or give me some drug. Meanwhile I am going to start taking natural herbal supplements to normalize the prostate and maintain its health, and per the advice of an expert yoga instructor and massage therapist I talked to, I shall resume not fapping or looking at porn after I panic relapsed yesterday due to the prostate discomfort starting. Said it is likely a withdrawl effect similar to what happens when people quit hard drug addictions- as porn and masturbating addiction affects is similarly.
>>16933373
Schedule a prostate exam with your doctor, if he/she doesn't find anything. Talk to him/her about Epididymitis.
You likely have either an inflamed prostate or epididymis.
Hope this helped, I'm someone who gets kidney stones often so whenever I feel pain in my groin I attribute it to that. I had Epididymitis a few years back though and it was similar to what you are describing.
Good luck, brother. Also, ease up on your dick. Poor guy has probably seen enough abuse. Get a woman to take care of it for you.
>>16933464
>Epididymitis.
Epididymis is actually in the testes, and I don't have anything going on there like I feel in the prostate area.
>>16933464
>Get a woman to take care of it for you.
Not going to happen
>>16933475
If you are assured that is it the prostate you need to schedule a prostate exam ASAP. Even if it is at the god damn free clinic.
New age hippie bullshit isn't going to help you with this kind of problem anon.
>It would be pointless to see a doctor about again since I'm now on Medicaid, and the only thing they would do is say you're young, just wait and monitor it or give me some drug.
Make it clear you want the exam, I had to make it clear I wanted the exam to my doctor when I was 25 because she gave me the same run around you seem to have received.
Real medical practice has the answers you seek, but you need to pursue them. Don't let a doctor just tell you what you want to hear, make yourself heard.
Granted, my family is heavily involved in multiple aspects of the medical field so I'm a bit biased in that I have absolutely no qualms about putting a doctor in their place because they are know who I'm related to, but still.
Good luck anon, the sooner you seek treatment, the better. Again I'd like to stress that "natural herbal supplements" and talking to "an expert yoga instructor" will do jack shit for your actual medical health.
Should i send my crush a message on facebook ?
Fantasizing about her is draining my energy and making me a delusional day dreaming
procrastinator
I am a loser 100% dumb ass creep but this girl has made me in able to function since i spend all day fussing about her
>>16933357
>should i message her on facebook
why? you say 'should' like messaging her accomplishes literally anything, and in the context it doesnt. are you talking about admitting your feelings? or just saying 'sup?'
if you think that having her reject you will fix things, sure ask her out, btu why not do it in person so you at least get that sliver of a maybe
>>16933357
no. Go mastrubate and then think about something else
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZEAKJw8Cz1c
How do I know if a chick at work is into me or just being friendly? She has a bf of 5+ years too.
>>16933353
>She has a bf of 5+ years too
shes being friendly ding dong
>>16933353
>She has a bf of 5+ years too.
Anon...
>>16933480
yeah but so are the other girls but I don't have the same connection with any of them...I don't even have to question it with them...
I could use some help /adv/, I am mentally unstable, I need to know how to treat these with which medication plus the kind of doctor I see:
Social anxiety
Obsession
Obsessive compulsive disorder
Body dysmorphia(anorexic tendencies)
Eating disorder
Suicidal
Easily irritated
Aggressive
Low self esteem
Caffeine addiction(via pills)
Sometimes cannot sleep
I have lost about ten pounds in the last 4-5 days by starving myself and I really could use some help
See both a Psychiatrist and a Counselor.
Best decision of my life. Got me though a lot of the same shit.
Best of luck.
>>16933326
What kind of talking doctor?
>>16933321
see psychiatrist for all. rehab for caffiene if you're too puss to kick that.
A general question for STEMfags, particularly engineers: how incompetent does someone have to be to get fired from a staff engineering position making ~$75k to falling back on a job making ~$55k as an engineering technician?
If you saw this on a resume would you conclude that the individual must be incompetent? Or is another explanation equally probable? Should I hire this person?
Need more info. What field? Years of experience?
Sounds bad though.
>>16933316
idk man, depends a bit on how long you were at that first job and how you can play it off.
sometimes people get new jobs, tehy pay less, and they stay because they A) like it, or B) are too lazy to both work and apply for more jobs.
that being said, engineering is project based for the most part isnt it? so isnt it possible to say that the first job wasnt one you liked so much?
also is the value of the first job common knowledge? cuz unless oyu bring up pay idk how they'd know
>>16933338
Civil engineering.
Basically they interned, went to a different company, stayed a few years (they knew the boss's daughter which is how they got the job according to the rumor mill), got fired, got the engineering technician job that they're trying to move out of.
About 3 years experience.
I've been struggling emotionally and mentally for many months now. I suffer from depersonalization disorder severely. It eats away at me constantly. I feel like there is no me left. I feel like im going crazy. And ive been experiencing many synchronicitys and have been having intense spiritual encounters alot. I'm sorry for not explaining much but hopefully i gave enough information for someone to help me. in order to be understood i would have to type many pages about my life. i just wanna know what synchronicitys mean and if they are trying to let me know if i am on the right path or if they are trying to awaken me or what the fuck is going on what does it all mean
pic unrelated
Im off to google. It may help other anons if they knew what depersonalisation disorder was.
Inb4 talking down to other anons
Im not. Fuck you sjws
Stay strong
Synchronicity is sort of synonymous with destiny.
Otherwise put as meaningful coincidence.
Its bullshit. Then again is believing in luck or god.
Spiritual encounters are a part of DPD.
They shouldn't mean anything. Or at least I don't think so. Just like the dream like surreal existence you feel.
See if you can get your hands on antidepressants.
Namely SSRIs (depression and anxiety drug) and Naloxone and naltrexone (opiate receptor blockers), anti seizure drugs and tricyclic antidepressants (nasty side effects).
I AM NOT A PROFESSIONAL IN THIS FIELD
>tfw poop anxiety
Anyone else like this? I mean, I know everybody shits and it's a perfectly natural thing in life but I cannot shit in certain situations. It took until I got to college for me to really get over my anxiety of shitting in a public restroom and that was only because I figured it was better to shit around people that I didn't have to deal with than around the people I live with. But I can never shit in friends' bathrooms if the bathrooms are close to their rooms and I can't shit if people I don't know will be able to hear it (because my shits are sometimes a little loud if I haven't shit in a while). How do I get over this?
>>16933290
Do research on it and figure out where to get help.
In Japan when toilets were new women would flush constantly to drown out the sounds of using the restroom. Now it's fairly standard for public restrooms to have a sound machine as part of the washlet.
So maybe try flushing a lot?
>>16933290
laying toilet paper in the water prevents noise quite a bit. you can also simply use an enema / anal doucher to clear out your system every morning. this is helped by taking fiber pills. taking ones specifically made for gay men to make anal cleansing easier would help.
basically you take these pills and they make your bowel movements super solid. then you wake up, put the nozle up your ass, shoot some water up there. wait about five minutes at most, then release the water and poo from your system. this cleans you out for a good day or two. I remember doign a REALLY intense one and didnt shit for 3 days, i shit you not.
>>16933290
pro-tip: never visit India.
I slipped in the grass and fell, my wrist caught the edge of a fireplace ring and got cut up a bit. The cut wasnt deep at all and didn't bleed really at all, but its gunna look like I've slit my wrists.
What do I say so that people that approach me and ask about them don't have the impression that I may cut myself?
>>16933280
Tell them that. If it's one cut on one wrist I don't think people will assume you are cutting automatically.
>>16933280
you are over worrying. unless you have some histor yof this nonsense grown rational adults dont think 'HURR DURR WHY YOU SO DERPRESSED ANON?'
they just say 'ow howd that happen'
you say 'oh, i cut it on my fireplace'
they say 'what? how?'
you explain. thats it. a few people might make note to keep an eye out, but most wont care.
i think you worry way too much
Put a band aid on it you worrying little cunt
This question may not be appropriate for this board.
I'm a physics major, and I have gotten two fairly prestegious internships - one at a national lab, and one at probably the best school in my field of physics.
The good thing about going to a national lab is the fact that they have a very good retention rate for interns. I don't have the exact numbers but its ~3/4. The pay is very good, and they sometimes pay for your grad school, if you continue working with them.
The internship with the university gives me the opportunity to work with my first choice for a PhD advisor. Pays for food, lodging, and gives a nice stipend. Factoring all of this in, the amount of money I'd have at the end of the summer would be essentially the same for both cases.
Which one of the options do you guys think would be best for me in the long run?
Pick the safe route. You know your options better than we do. Pick whatever is safest. If it has a good retention rate, go for it.
1 bird in hand is better than 2 birds in the bush.
this is the time for you to stop being a smart guy and go with your heart
I would go with the first, but it's ultimately up to you.
ive been living my life veiled by a load of shit. All my friendships and relationships are fake. The only time I feel real is when I'm with my girlfriend. What do I do? Should I just tell everyone and restart or should I just deal with it?
op bumping
time for op to an hero
>>16933243
>I fucked up my life
>I have all these friendships and a girlfriend who I care about
Yea, OP. Sounds horrendous. Maybe you should stop being such a mopey piece of shit and acknowledge you probably have it better than the vast majority of people in this world. Improve on the relationships you already have. Don't go out of your way to destroy them and start anew, just make it apparent to your current friends that you feel like you are drifting apart or that you had hoped to spend more time hanging out with them.
Also, if you are one of those people who hangs out with his girlfriend literally multiple times every week, you brought this scenario on yourself.
It pisses me off when my friend claims I don't make enough of an effort to hang out with him anymore when it is clearly because every time I make the attempt he already has plans or has to check with his girlfriend first to make sure she didn't want to do anything.
So yea...
1. Work with what you have.
2. Make a genuine effort, don't just put an effort forth with your GF and except your friends to magically fall in line to support you
3. Friendships/Relationships of all sorts are like a plant, you have to continually water it for it to grow.
So this girl started hanging around my group (mostly guys) and she has a boyfriend that doesn't hang with us. One day he did, and he had extremely aggressive body language although she says he's fine with us. I really doubt that's true, mostly because any guy knowing his girl is hanging with a bunch of dudes is gonna be very concerned.
I just kind of worry that we're making their relationship worse. Any advice on action we should take?
Who keeps inviting her? Ask his intentions or tell him to cut it out
>>16933241
We aren't hitting on her or anything, we treat her like a friend.
>>16933244
So in other words youre the one inviting her op?
no judgjng
>>16933226
I feel for you. When they came back from the hospital I had no doubt whatever that the bavby was mine. But I can't help feeling they gave me back the wrong wife.
>>16933226
It is entirely possible that someone switched your kid, after giving birth you probably lost your consciousness for awhile.
>>16933226
dna and blood test
I'm a 20 year old male. I grew up hating life because of overbearing strict Indian parents. We moved around A LOT, and it fucked up my social skills because I didn't have close friends as a child/teen. I couldn't date properly because of my fucking draconian parents. They didn't feed me enough protein because desis tend to overfeed their kids rice and underfeed meat because desis are cheap fucking assholes, and as a result I'm short compared to my peers. They beat me, I'm not talking light spank, I'm talking long-drawn out coat hanger/belt beatings. We grew up poor in Canada when I could've grown up rich in India.I fucking hate them, they ruined my childhood and I don't know how to get over it.
I'm in college now. I have no friends. I don't party at all. I just work out and eat and study. I literally can't get past small talk. I try to be nice, but I'm awkward as fuck. I somehow had 2 white girlfriends before, one was smoking hot but I was a rebound beta for her, the other was anorexic and a bitch and I don't know why I dated her. Perhaps out of sheer loneliness. I lost my virginity at late 18, almost 19, to a black woman I wasn't even into. It was just to lose my v-card, which I could've lost at 14 with the hot white gf I had back then if it wasn't for my fucking parents who confiscated my condoms! That one time was the only time I had sex, but at 14 with the hot gf I was making out and dry humping and motorboating, but she didn't want me to fuck her without a condom.
I also had 3 separate extended stays at psych wards for depression and bipolar disorder. All in grade 12. I missed my prom.
When I was a kid, I thought being the weird kid was a temporary phase. In elementary, I thought that in high school I'd be normal and party and stuff and be cool. When in high school, I thought college would be my big break. Now I realize that I'm not social enough to be in my major, I'm switching to engineering which I hate doing but I'm capable of doing.
That sucks man. Dont be the failurDelet failure be tha failure
My childhood was full of snitches about me growin up.
When i realized i was being watched. I
Was growin up. Then i becane a drspressed loser,poor,ugly and smelly. Fuck!
4 years after high school. I felt better. I became kinda social. Im still aovially awkward, i dont stay quiet and i dont care. :) it annoying to be a quiet person.
im in my 20.
I dont act but i be real.
The past is the past. Deal with it first, cause the past comrealirst than whats ahead.
Im dealing withbny past right now. And its going ok :)
Dont think. But do. With yourself. The dirt may be dried but your tears will make em grow...
............ Lol
I\____/l
I 0 v 0 I
L........... In my perspective, be aware of snitches. TAKE ACTION!!!!!!!!!!
>>16933225
Everyone lives with their past, Anon. The way I see it, the only thing that's holding you back is the fact that you're over-stressing about yours, thereby letting it dictate the way you live your life now through insecurities and doubt.
>I thought that in high school I'd be normal
>When in high school, I thought college would be my big break
I am fairly sure that you're intelligent enough to understand why that's untrue, and I am also certain that if you can comprehend why change won't come by itself, you also know what you need to do in order to forcefully bring it.
None of us can tell you exactly what to do in order to make your life better/the way you want it to be. That's entirely up to you. But, here's an indisputable truth that we may or may not put as clearly as we should: you are not "damaged for life", you are not "beyond repair", you can get better, you will get better if you make the right steps towards it.
Stop being miserable. Make a tangible plan of how to shape your life according to your understanding of a good one, and start making daily steps towards achieving it. Either that, or keep whining on the Internet to some assholes who do not give a singular fuck about you.
The choice is yours.
THIS SUCKS. Choosing between two women, and I honestly don't know what to do. Input? For reference I'm 25.
>A
Pluses:
>Incredibly kind and forgiving
>Very mature in pretty much every situation
>Beautiful
>Great fashion sense
>She thinks I'm almost perfect, would date in a second
Negatives:
>I don't like super mature women
>She's a few months older than me
>She's from Central Asia so cultural touchstones are wildly different
>English is her FOURTH language, I don't speak her first language so there'd always be that barrier
>Not a body type I'm overly attracted to
>B
Pluses:
>Super domestic, her biggest priorities are caring for her man (as she put it) and keeping the house (I love that stuff)
>Very caring
>Gorgeous (most beautiful woman I know, B is #3)
>Great body
>19
Cons:
>When I met her her fiance had dumped her 2 weeks before
>she was super fragile
>I only knew/talked to her for 1 month and that was 8 months ago
>have not spoken to her since
>won't be able to speak to her for another 4 months
>can tell from stalking her social media that she is not over her ex (but is also not dating anyone)
>not certain she is interested or if I was just a bounce back
I just don't know!
>>16933220
Let me narrow that down to shit that matters in the long run:
A
>Incredibly kind and forgiving
>Very mature in pretty much every situation
>She's from Central Asia so cultural touchstones are wildly different
B
>Very caring
>Super domestic, her biggest priorities are caring for her man (as she put it) and keeping the house (I love that stuff)
>she was super fragile, not certain she is interested or if I was just a bounce back
>>16933384
Well, that helps. But the short term is part of the equation for sure, yes?
>>16933220
>>16933220
I'd go with A. Sounds like she is already actually into you, and all of the cons for her seem kind of trivial.
B. Seems more like a fling that you just want to dick because she's hot and it'd be different. She sounds like a mess and there is probably a good reason her fiance dumped her. Don't be so quick to believe whatever biased story she gave you. She might be more aesthetically pleasing but you should value personality traits over that. Also if she's the one that said her biggest priority is caring for her man than she's probably just trying to make herself look good.
The fact that you listed A first and the way you talk about her makes me inclined to believe you actually like her more and are just seeking validation. Go with A.
I am tired of feeling so small in life, I am tired of losing all these girls that I like because I feel horrible about myself, I want to be independent and move on in life but money is an issue with me right now. I am 21 have a part time job paying out like 130 a week and I go to school but am slowly going nowhere there. I really want to move out on my own and grow up in the world but I know I am far away from that dream. My question today is what are some qualities that I have to have to be independent (other than a high paying job) like what should I have skill wise going out on my own into the world.
Responsibility
>>16933124
Okay good one, now is there anyway I can train that? Or is it just gonna be experience wise
You are right you need a higher paying job. There will be chores you'll need to do. General cleaning, laundry, dishes, etc. You'll need to buy household items before you move. And probably after because I can guarantee there's some things you'll forget. Budgeting is a very useful skill. Make sure you have money saved up for emergencies. Decent cooking skills are pretty necessary unless you want to waste money eating out every night.
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