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How do I get over the fact that I'm going to die? I don't mean to sound like an edgy teenager, but I just can't get it out of my head and it's giving me a lot of anxiety and panic attacks
wait nvm that wasn't the right one
>>17290322
Be around death more. Seriously. Nothing puts it into better perspective, and brings calm about thoughts regarding death.
Is it strange that I don't enjoy celebrating my birthday? I don't feel comfortable receiving gifts just because I was born a certain amount of time ago. I enjoy celebrating others', and I'm even okay with Christmas gift exchanging, but I can't stand getting a bunch of cards with money and shit in them. I really don't like getting stuff from family I only see maybe a dozen times a year. Friend gifts are usually okay with me.
My parents have always expected me to organize events with my friends but I'd rather just go to work and see my friends how I usually do.
>>17290321
I don't like my birthday either, but that's because all of my birthdays in memory have been pure shit
yeah birthdays fucking suck. I always deactivate my fb on my birthday so ppl can't write on my wall.
>>17290344
I don't even mind FaceBook. I actually like seeing who gives a hint of a hoot about me. It's just the expectations that I'm supposed to go out of my way to enjoy my "special day" isn't enjoyable at all so I'd just stick to my usual thing.
>I'm 18, she's 15
>Met her through a game
>Since the first day we talk,call,webcam every night together until 4-5-6 A.M. (at 8 AM I wake up to go to work)
>She's EXACTLY like me, it's incredible, I still don't believe it. How she talks, how she thinks, what she dreams, and how is she at her age it's like how I was/I am.
>We talk about everything, we share culture masterpieces and dedicate each other poems, we talk about philosophy and most of all, we dream together. We also have lots of fun and there are times we just laugh the entire time, it's something complete and perfect, and we know and feel that there is some kind of weird but intense phisical attraction, tho never met and that's so fucking sick.
>Sometimes we hardly want to hug each other, stay together, do everything.
>We are literally free to say anything's in our brain to each other, even the most extreme fantasies who a normal human being wouldn't ever share with someone else.
>I am not virgin and I had lots of other irl relationships
>My life is divided in between a normal social life and a super hardcore virtual one, as I am also a coder, gamer, and I have always deal with a monitor and even the most deep internet part.
>Basically, I dump irl girls just even to talk 1h more in call with her.
I feel that all of this is sick, unreal, and weird...
I also tried to cut off everything but I was feeling like shit, and she also cried for 2 hours in a call for this sort of decision that I was almost taking;
She's so fucking much important for me and from this distance I am insanely taking care of her, even tho I really can't phisically.
What should I do? How should I take it? Is that weird? Normal? I am completely lost... Hope someone will suggest me something significant to do to deal with this weird thing that's happening.
>oh yeah, also, we're far away thousands of kms.
>>17290313
well OP you got yourself a pen pal. Just stay away from any sex talk cause 15 will get you 20 years
>>17290313
i want to see your face when she gets Blacked
>>17290313
Seek out other girls while talking to her, but don't let her know about them.
>be me
>broken up with 2 years ago, still nowhere close to over it
>have trouble developing crushes on people, but want to so i can get over ex boyfriend already
>meet someone at local game store who reminds me of my ex but seemingly without the bad parts
>funny and likeable, so i don't want to get my hopes up because he's probably got a girlfriend
>find out over time that he's at the local game store every night
>convince myself it's probably ok to start cultivating a crush because no one with a wife or girlfriend is likely to be at the game store every night playing board games with friends
>go to game store tonight hoping to flirt and show some interest tonight
>find out his girlfriend owns the game store and that's why he's always there
at least i found out before i did anything stupid. back to sulking alone at home, i guess.
Is it normal to feel guilt over something like this?
move on
where do you live
>>17290453
That's what I was trying to do.
It sucks. I barely knew this guy so while I'm not heartbroken things didn't work out exactly, I am heartbroken that the first light I saw at the end of a long, dark 2 year tunnel suddenly went out, if that makes sense.
I don't want to say where I live.
So I just saw the new Warcraft movie (it's pretty bad) and I can't help but wonder, is there any society or lifestyle that operates in the way the orcs do, in real life?
Maybe this is just the male power fantasy of a jaded IT guy, but it seems that a lifestyle based around celebrating earth and life, guys going on hunting trips together, and an honor system based on not being a dick to the people you live with sounds like paradise. Mostly because I already live that way and I'm tired of being treated like I'm some kind of anomaly for it.
Everywhere I go I see people praising someone and then talking badly about them to the next person and this is asinine to me, and everyone's supposed to play along with it like it's some kind of huge game.
Does this orc lifestyle exist?
>>17290296
No anon. Orcs are made up peoples. They don't actually exist. They're like fairy-tales. The things you see in the movies aren't real.
Sounds like you want some type of rural lifestyle but people are still cunts even if they go hunting.
Yes, it exists to some extent, but you would die so fucking quickly
>>17290298
>Orcs are made up peoples. They don't actually exist. They're like fairy-tales. The things you see in the movies aren't real.
I don't think you understand what I'm asking, I'm well aware that WoW doesn't exist in real life. I'm a 27 year old guy with a relatively normalfag life. I just feel like if there are so many fantasy societies based around similar concepts that I can't help but wonder if they're based on something that either exists here or did at one point.
I've been in every lifestyle from corporate America to socialist communes to anarchic hobos on freight trains, and I just feel like most people are, for lack of a better word, catty. Everyone is really just in it for themselves and lying to everyone else just to get one step ahead.
When a girl wears a thong, how often does it show by accident? At least once a day? Dudes show our boxers by accident all the time so I assume its the same
>>17290279
It never shows by accident. It's shown on purpose dozens of times a day though. You only wear a thong to show it off.
>>17290316
what about that stuff about panty lines?
>>17290316
Maybe in your prudish little world.
Thongs are more comfortable to some people. I guess it shows occasionally, depending on what else you wear? But who cares; it's just underwear.
My qt step-sister just had to have her doggo put down. What are some comforting things I can do/tell her?
My pupper died last year when some rando ran over him, and I just wanted to be left alone. But she's different.
Tell her that her dog lived a fucking fantastic life, and that she did a fucking fantastic job being her owner.
Don't expect this to help calm her, though. My dog is literally my best friend, and I am constantly feeling guilt that I have to put him on a leash, and only walk him an hour every day and not feed him more than his daily allowance of dog food even though it's built into his instinct to devour every morsel of food he sniffs.
My dog is my best friend because he isn't a human.
Perhaps your sister is feeling the same.
>>17290258
Well, already did that.
She's having him put down tomorrow. I was thinking of texting her something nice the day after, to make her feel better.
Silently acknowledge what is going on, silently acknowledge how she feels, and be present for her. Don't try to distract her by asking if she wants to A or go to B.
Why shouldn't I remove my penis and testicles? It's brought me so much pain. I'll be at peace if they're all gone
>>17290213
It would be extremely painful to pee
>>17290213
Because your dick and balls almost certainly aren't the actual cause for whatever trouble you're experiencing.
Unless you have testicular cancer or something.
>>17290215
You're a big trip
Picking up this little guy on Monday. Help me think of a name! My friends want me to call him Dutch (we're stoners, Dutch Master blunt wraps by choice). I kind wanna call him Pablo (The Life of Pablo is one of my favorite albums and I think he kinda looks like a Pablo).
But I feel like those are both kind of weak. He's an Australian Shepherd.
Westley, because it's better than Wes and he looks like a weasel
>>17290160
They do look kinda weasel-y when they're younger but not as they get older. This is his mom for reference.
>>17290163
You can play off Westley when he's older as a reference to The Princess Bride. Cite the line about Australia bring entirely peopled by criminals
my gf doesnt want me anymore she says she cant rely on me and she cant trust me, all i did was said i didnt want to be in a relatioship with someone who isnt sure if she wants me or not, and now she doesnt want me anymore i just got drunk as shit why i gave averything to her i've been good and i love her, she left me today wich is my birthday what should i do.
it hurts so bad
Sounds like you broke up with her. You can't pin this on anyone else
>>17290148
she has cancer ans he says i'm not mature anough to stay by her side
>>17290148
So let me get this straight...
You don't want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't know if they want to be with you.
And she gave you that.
You kinda got what you wanted there, didn't you?
Sure, be sad for a little bit that things didn't work out. But be happy you're not with her. It leaves you free to find the person you want.
Me and a friend got into a bit of an argument and it ended up in a fight. I tried to walk away before it escalated because I know I'm not a fighter but he didnt allow me to. My other friends stopped the fight before it got too out of hand but I was pretty much getting my shit fucked up. He's not a huge guy or a trained fighter, I'm just quite short and skinny (about 5'6 and 103lbs).
Before I had always felt quite insecure about my small frame mainly because it makes me feel like less of a man but today has really made me feel like shit about being so helpless. I sort of gave up on the idea of getting bigger and accepted my small body after I realised I could still get women despite it but today has made me realise maybe I should still try to get bigger and maybe learn to defend myself. One thing that kind of puts me off is my height. Sometimes it feels like it doesn't matter what I do I'll always be short anyway so it doesn't matter.
I'm not really sure what kind of advice I'm looking for here but hopefully some of you can find some to give me.
Nice "friends"
Lmao
>>17290166
Yeah I don't think I'll ever be able to forgive him for what he's done today so it's safe to say he's no longer my friend.
>>17290132
You want the best advice for this situation?
Learn. That's right. Learn. It's sounds simple and stupid, but it'll make sense in the future. Learn from what happened. Learn about how you feel and why you feel that way.
Title says it all.
I have a good curriculum, an excellent portfolio (which was never visited by any of the people i sent my curriculum to), degree and I always reply to the job offers very professionally.
What am I doing wrong? I only had an interview so far, and the people that called me seemed interested, but when I told them I hand't applied for unemployed status they immediately lost interest.
I live in Portugal if it matters. Is this normal? How long does it take to find a job?
How many applications have you submitted in the past thirty days?
>>17290141
in the past 30 days? maybe 3.
in total over 20-30 along the year.
I'm not sure if it's a small number, but these are the only options for my degree and area. I would love to move out (as in, country wise one day hopefully) but I really need to find a job here first to start saving to move.
>>17290147
Apply everywhere, even out of your area. You might have to move, but that's not a problem if you have a job waiting for you.
How do you wing it solo? How do you go to a bar or a club without looking like a lonely loser?
>>17290106
Get killed by a drunk driver
>>17290106
Solo its a no-no in a bar/club.
But solo is great on any other random place. Why dont you try that first?
8/11 success at the moment for me
>>17290149
Where do you go?
My girlfriend and i are in a fight currently over what I find the stupidest and pointless thing ever. I need some help on seeing what I did wrong.
We were taking pictures on the lifeguard seat at a beach and talking. There was a break in it all and I noticed some young girls maybe 12 or so (were both 20) taking pictures on the boardwalk. I told her I'd be right back, I wanted to photobomb them. I didn't just run away, I have her a fair warning, said he right back and ran. Some insight, this is kinda my personality. I'll jump into restaurant workers singing happy birthday and stand with them and clap and laugh, i just love making people laugh and enjoy doing things like this.
She's now mad at me for this. She has anxiety and depression, and this seems to be triggered by everything I do and it's getting frustrating. She said it's because I left her alone, to photobomb some stupid bitchs picture (lol she was 12) and interrupted what we were doing. I ruined our night in her mind. We didn't have to leave but she insisted and is telling me I'm not considering her feelings.
This is getting more common and painful, what do I do? I love her to he'll and back but when this shit happens if want to rip my hair out.
>>17290101
Admit it anon - you wanted to creampie the 12 year old, didn't you?
>>17290101
Does she have and actual diagnosed depression? If not tell her to grow up
>>17290126
>guy photobombs 12 year olds
>tells girl to grow up
So I got close with this girl I knew on my course; like really close, in our group it was just me and her talking for like 40 minutes straight to and from lectures. We started to text more and more as she went home to London for exam leave and later I happened to go be down there, so went to see a movie together ("The Room"). It felt like she really enjoyed spending time with me, but nothing else happened as she was staying at her moms and me at my sisters.
The next day a friend of hers asked me if I was into her, to which I said yes, and me and the girl kept texting and she admitted she'd had a crush on me for most of the year. BUT she then refused another date while I was down in London, but said she was still into me and to take it slow.
Fast forward two weeks of like texting and pouring our hearts out to eachother every night, she came back and seemed a bit more.. distant over text. We were planning on going to an videogame con thing in a weeks time, but didn't want to meet up or do anything, despite telling me she was bored and texting me all the time throughout the day...
I got drunk 2 nights after she came back and cold-cucked me and texted her some dumbass sappy shit about how she seemed so into me via text but didn't seem to want to see me in real life.
OP here. Part 2
Anyways, the next day the whole "friendzone" thing got mentioned, and I was dumb enough to think she just wanted to keep it on hold for the duration of exams.
After that she pretty much wanted nothing to do with me at all, even by text, though I said I was fine with her not seeing me in a romantic way ( which was true, I was quite shut-in and depressed during the uni year and she was the one person I connected with really well). She said she didn't feel comfortable talking to me anymore and to let time heal things. I tried to get in touch with her after a month, but she then blocked me. I'm going to see her after the summer at Uni, so maybe she meant that, but maybe she really just means; I don't want to see you ever again, I'm not sure.
I was super depressed before I started to get close with her, and it was the happiest time of my life for the brief time we were "together" (since I didnt even sleep with her or kiss her), and now I'm just teetering on the edge, you know? I've got no social life where I am back home, no summer plans and all I can do is think of her every day and every hour.
I know her private tumblr (when she first broke up with me I figured I could use it to navigate my way to at least an amenable breakup, and yes I do know that's a red flag) which it makes it so much worse. Whenever I'm feeling really down, I just have such an urge to go on it. Its super fucking banal stuff, just reblogging fandom posts but for some reason I still feel I need it. She was the first ever girl I've gotten close to ever, and I just cant shake her off.
I had to reread this 2-3 times to see where you guys ever made it official, and I couldn't for the life of me find it. It wasn't a break up. You two weren't together. She lost interest. Does it suck? Absolutely. Will you ever get closure? Probably not. I get that you're holding onto every hope that things will work out in the end, but there's a 99% chance they won't. She blocked you. She hasn't reached out to you. If she wanted to talk to/be with you, she would have made it clear. There's a metric buttload of girls out there. It may feel like she is the one because she is one of the first chicks you ever had real feelings for, but once you find someone new, you'll forget about her. Take this opportunity as a time to work on yourself and become a better, more mature person. Don't creep on her private tumblr and get ahold of her, she'll think it's creepy and be pushed away even more. Don't try to get a more amenable break up, because there wasn't a break up or anything to break up in the first place. This may be rough to hear, but you definitely need to hear it. I can tell your feelings are immature and, even though you went through a kind of loss recently, they are still unstable regardless. So like I said, work on yourself, because this event definitely has brought up inner issues within you that you must fix if you want to be happier one day. We've all gone through something like this dude.
>>17290185
This
Sorry Op
