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How do you convince someone to do something they don't want to do?
>>16900927
A loaded gun pointed at their head
>>16900927
You convince them that it's absolutely necessary: both in the sense that it has to be done, and that they have to be the one to do it. Literally every war in history has worked this way; persuasion methods have differed, but not the concept of the necessity argument.
>>16901183
And when they say no?
So, I have contended that this was a terrible idea again and again, but my mother and I seem to come at arms and she ends the conversation with, "I know better." So, I don't actually learn anything and I just feel irritated.
The argument is about FAFSA. I live in a 3 person household, including myself, my father and mother. The rent here is $5k a month (it's a home). That is $60k a year. We make well over that. So, my mother is saying that I should only input her data (she made $5k last year) when the form asks for both my mother's and my father's...
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>>16900925
Your mother is wildly stupid. If you're under 25, the government can and will check both of your parents' tax forms before issuing FAFSA aid. Will you get in legal trouble? Possibly. Even if you don't, you won't get the aid. That's all this boils down to.
>>16900925
Your mom is a dumb bitch, and you're just starting to fully understand it
>>16900929
Ah, I see. I don't want to risk the legal trouble, so I guess it'll be a huge argument... I am dreading it. Thanks.
I want to set up an accurate and presentable resume, but the amount of trouble that listing qualities and skills gives me is ridiculous. I'm unlikeable, incompetent and suffering low self-esteem, and I really don't know how to find the positive qualities I have that DO make me someone worth hiring. I'm not a robot or frogposter. I just need to know where to look.
So in short, I need some advice on introspection. Anyone here able to give that? How do you find the positive things about yourself?
Take a look at lists of skills and qualities employers look for. See which of those apply to you. Things like 'good research skills' or 'strong verbal communication skills' or 'good time management/self-management'
Even if you have low self esteem, you're going to have to sell yourself anyway. Bragging is exactly what you're supposed to do on a resume. You don't have to sound so self centered/ prideful during the interview.
I hate my life. I hate school just the atmosphere and walking through the campus makes me hate it even more. I hate my job its boring as fuck and most of the people are annoying as fuck. I can't stand it and I want to do something about it but I just don't know what to do. Im currently looking to find a therapists to help me through this but the last guy I saw didn't really help. Any other kind of advice that might help me through this situation?
Chill the fuck out and stop hating so much. Focus on the positive things in your life instead.
I accidentally cut too deep on my ankle, I can't judge the depth but it kinda spread open (looking like a blood-pooled vagina). It was only like 1 cm long but never had one that deep before. Didn't take pictures.
I pressed the wound with a tissue for a while and taped it shut with a bandaid and it stopped bleeding.
My toes tingle a bit but I feel fine otherwise.
How do I know if/when to go to a doctor?
>>16900896
Toes tingling is likely from bloodloss.
I'd recommend going to a doctor just for the iodine and possibly stitches.
>>16900904
I'm holding that foot up now (should have mentioned) out of fear that it'll tear open or start bleeding again.
I've donated blood before and I know what blood loss feels like, I barely lost a spoonful from this altogether.
Would it be weird to say "happy birthday" to someone I literally haven't spoken to in 5 years?
>>16900849
It shouldn't be the first/only thing you say. It's not rude, but it wont mean anything to someone who hasn't spoken to you in that long.
Instead, say something like
>Hey! I haven't seen you in so long. Happy birthday, I hope you've been doing well.
>>16900849
Kind of
Be aware that you may get ignored. What you're about to do is what people who ask for shit always do.
>>16900855
Oh, that'd make a lot more sense. You saved me anon
Do her eyes look Asian to you.
No.
>>16900830
Not necessarily, but the eyes coupled with the cheekbones make her look a little bit Asian. Probably just because she looks a lot like my (Asian) mom.
>>16900830
>If OP is a weeb
Why does it matter? Do you have yellow fever?
>If OP is not a weeb
What is the point of this thread?
What does it mean when i fantasize about being stranded on a tropical island with only a girl i have feelings for?
There is plenty of food and water so we don't have to worry about survival.
>>16900819
I do the same but escapism isn't healthy. Especially if you are obsessing over someone. Daydreaming is fine now and then but if you're not taking active steps towards making your life closer to your dreams you are hurting yourself in the long run.
>>16900819
>What does it mean when i fantasize about being stranded on a tropical island with only a girl i have feelings for?
That depends. Does she know you have feelings for her (in real life, not the dream)? Does she return those feelings? Do you even know?
What are some signs that my girlfriend is trying to branch swing to another guy? She's been hanging out and constantly texting and snapchatting her close guy friend that she used to "talk" with before he fucked her friend. She assures me it's platonic and I don't think they did anything yet. What do?
>>16900815
That's a bad sign.
>>16900815
Really don't understand why guys let themselves be in situations like this she's making a fool out of you there's really nothing else to do than get rid at this point
>>16900823
>>16900820
Ok, but surely she isn't interested in him after he fucked her over like that?
Boyfriend doesn't trust me.
Anything I say he just doesn't believe a word of it and it's upsetting. I had a bad relationship before him and sex was a chore so I got good at saying the right things to get him off my back. I foolishly told this to my now boyfriend (who I absolutely love, I want to marry this man) and he now think I lie when we're dirty talking. He turns me on so much and none of it is lie or 'put on'. I mean everything I say but he doesn't have any of it.
What do I do?
You should probably lie less then girl
Cry about it when he finds a better woman
>>16900813
Your new boyfriend is immature and unable to let petty things go, and rationalize situations. Get used to it, sit him down and talk it through, or break up.
>pro tip: i would at least try the middle one
>Have good friend
>We are not that close, we're just both very close to our common friend so we hang out sometimes
>I've always felt slightly attracted to him but I just dismissed it
>We end up drunkenly making out at a party
>Our mutual friend tells me this guy has had a crush on me for months but thought I was "friendzoning" him
>However
>In...
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Just do it.
>>16900797
Why not? Just see if it works out. If not, lesson learned.
If you want to date/fuck someone for the next 6-ish months, then yes.
If you want a long term relationship, the foundation is weak.
I'm going on a first date with a guy I've been texting for a few years. I haven't seen him in 7 months. He's a guitarist and I saw this ... (See picture) it matches his guitar do you think I'm crazy if I give him this on our date? Or is it super cute and adorable!?
no, you arent crazy
That's nice of you, i think he will appreciate that.
>>16900791
The gift is nice.
Get a new bag. It isn't middle of winter and you're at a formal. Go get a season-appropriate purse.
My car died last night, I can't fix it again. It's dead, I live in GA where public transportation sucks and having a car is a must.
I go to school full time to be a mechanic (fucking ironic) and work a part time so I make little money, trying to live as cheaply as possible. Kms. I don't wanna be a gag and ask for donations but itd be nice.
>>16900790
Save as much of your part time earnings as possible and purchase a junker car for about a grand ASAP. Cut back on school hours and take more work hours if you can't make it otherwise. Sorry, shit sucks. Life gets tough like that sometimes. Gotta give up other things and take on different things to make ends meet.
What's wrong with your car? If you're a mechanic in training you should at least be able to diagnose the issue.
Do you have zipcars nearby? Can you uber?
>>>/r9k/27062261
the archive should give some insight. Can you expand further on this topic?
Please excuse me for having a girlfriend. we are both robots, and for the past 4 years shes basically fucked "less than 10" guys, and she thinks thats a low number. She went robot mode now that shes living in a good place, with me. But Now that we are having a loving sexual relationship, she wont suck my dick, or do anything new with me, or wont even try things with me that a woman should do with...
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11,,My girlfriend recently told me she was bisexual and hadn't come out to anyone prior to me , it's really annoying me that she said it to me because she's with me now (a male) so why would it matter that she is attracted to females because she is in a relationship so other girls are off limits regardless. I shouldn't be as pissed as I am but now stupid shit seems to kinda annoy me , example: kissing her friends in pics , it makes me wonder if something else is going on , when she was drunk one time she made out with a friend but at the time it was funny...
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Never trust biscum
>Two Approaches:
>The noncreative one.
>try to talk to her about it.
If you have a good relationship with her, talking this out might be the right decision.
Find out if her friends are bi or even homo, then talk to her about them. If she loves/likes you dearly, then she will open herself to you and be sincere.
>The Creative Approach:
>try to have a threesome.
If she gets attracted to the...
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>>16900840
Never trust biscum
