>tfw you don't get the attention you're craving so much from your bf
>tfw you never get complimented on your looks from him
>tfw he never tells you you're cute
>tfw he never fawns over you
>tfw you have baggage from former bad body image, lack of attention your whole life, etc.
;_____;
I crave the attention so much, but I love him a lot and I really don't want to break up. It kills me though. I'm a femboy who has been popping hormones for years now. I really hated how I used to look and I really feel amazingly good about how I look now. However I crave the validation and attention of hearing that I'm cute.
I've taken to posting pics of myself and camming with random guys on the internet just for the attention and validation and compliments on my looks that I crave so much. Feels bad man.
What do?
Woman much?
>>6522288
You know man, I don't even give a fuck anymore. Call me whatever you want. I do inject estrogen so I guess I'm asking for it.
I take estrogen pills for the skin benefits. Is this how I'm going to end up in a couple of years?
>Go full time a month ago
>I pass to strangers, but friends that knew me pre-transition still treat me like a guy
>They use new name and female pronouns half of the time, other name and pronouns when they forget to be sensitive
>Other subtleties make clear that they don't think of me as a "real" girl
>Consider cutting ties with them, but am scared of having no friends
Did anyone else here feel compelled to cut most social ties after transition?
Yep and already did. Another year of cocoon mode ahead of me before freedom ;_;
I did and I definitely don't regret it, I only kept one friend who thinks of me as a girl but they don't have any ties to anyone else in my life so it won't affect me.
It's much better making friends and having a boyfriend who sees you as a girl from the get-go. I can't imagine not cutting all ties and going stealth.
>>6522175
What did you do during that initial stage where you didn't have any friends? The thought is kind of depressing me at the moment
>Think I'm gay for a extremely long time.
>Watch extremely degrading straight porn, punching, slapping, all of that sort of stuff
>It turns me on
>Never watch anything like that for gay stuff, just watch regular gay porn.
Am I fucked? I can only get off to women if they are being treated like shit but for men I'm fine with whatever.
>I define sexuality by porn tastes
You are fucked but not for the reasons you think. My professional diagnosis is you're a transgirl since you're extremely stupid and you posted one of those Wapanese cartoon girls.
>What in the actual fuck is wrong with me?
>you are gay
>you solve your own question
Same op. I'm gay but I really get off to straight bdsm porn. No idea why
But really though, Bill Bruford (the guy on the very right) is the sexiest male drummer alive. If you disagree, your waifu is trash.
>>6521517
Bruford is really posh which weirds me out because I always associate Drummers with being pretty non-posh, rough even
>>6521517
He's no late 60's Michael Shrieve...
How could I obtain a bf? I'm really lonely, and yet I know I have nothing to offer anyone. I don't have friends, I'm a NEET, and I still live with my parents.
I know 4chan is probably the best place to find someone. Real life is a terrible place to find anyone, because the possibility of running into any compatible homos in the nearby area is an impossibility; dating sites are awful, because people will invariably converse (or decline to) based on a person's profile pic - plus, all users go in with the mentality that one meets people for dating, whereas on an imageboard, people usually meet based on a more specific - yet generalized - interest without the express intent of dating and without knowing how one looks like, thus allowing for friendship or compatibility to occur, which organically can turn into a relationship. Plus, 4chan is full of homos.
And really, the only boyfriend (internet one) I ever had was someone I met on /r9k/, and I really liked him...
4chan is more likely to get you autistic catfish than anything else anon, but I understand how you feel.
Maybe I could be your bf?
That is if you don't mind a needy weeb who only exercises to try and trick himself into thinking he's attractive enough to deserve love
>>6521446
Half of world's population are women yet /r9k/ drowns in stright guys who will die alone. You have snowball's chance in hell of finding someone.
>>6523542
A-Are you bara?
Alright gay bros I had a recent risky exposure so I went to take an rna test. My question to those knowledgeable in this shitty disease (don't mean to offend anyone I just know its prevalence in your community and yea /b/ just laughed at me) how conclusive is this at 40 days. I called the cdc and they said it was 99% conclusive even at 40 days but a friend of mine said rubbish that the disease could be undetectable since in hiding in cd4 cells. Anything is appreciated bros.
The reason I'm being mindfucked is due to the prevalence of the symptoms my lymph nodes have been swollen, constant night sweats, loss of appetite and loss of weight. I don't know man. My doctor and my dad say it's just anxiety but there's no way anxiety would manifest itself in such a way, Atleast to my knowledge.
>>6521460
>not to my knowledge
thats why you go see a doctor, who has told you not to worry since you seem to be killing yourself because of it.
>>6521486
I know man but I can help it.I'm sorry your community was so affected by this shit. It gave me a new perspective on life though and respect for a group of people I was always a dick to.
salty gay men tears edition.
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>>6521310
yeah, I don't get invited to parties because I play the game instead of chatting
>>6521311
I'm saying that with my current face and light makeup, I could pass if my shoulders weren't significantly wider than my hips.
nim is ugly
Oh cool also quick question I'm curious I don't mean anything by it but are u female or male
coworkers are fun
anything like this happened to you /lgbt/?
>work as a courier
>see new people multiple times per day
>h-hi thanks for being on time
>no problem, is there anything else I can do?
>no that's fine, see ya later...bro?
>lol seeya
Every.
Fucking.
Day.
Oh well, my bf gets off on it so I guess w/e
What is your current job ? What is the job you want ?
>>6520816
Going to an good internship as a software dev with a good company. It caused me to stop caring about school :/
Programmer at startup making half my worth
want to make my worth
>>6520816
Currently I'm a federal judicial clerk, and I hope to eventually become a judge.
/lgbt/, am I bi if I like traps?
>>6520647
No ur a complete fag
>>6520647
You're straight for enjoying a passing trap, but once the penis enters the picture or you're going to have sex, if the penis doesn't bother you, you've been deceived into bisexuality.
>>6520941
If I exclusively would want to date transitioned trans women who still have their dick, not cis men or women what does that make me?
>fetishising
I said date not FK and leave.
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first for faye is my mommy
>>6520425
I've never seen someone's career plummet so hard.
What happened?
Ask a detransitioned former transbian anything.
>>6520417
Why aren't you still popping hormones and just living as a guy instead?
Why did you transition?
Why did you detransition?
>>6520417
rough estimate, how long until you kill yourself?
So I wondered if you guys could give me some advice, sorry for the tl;dr.
I've been dating a MtF for going on five years now, and recently she's been expressing depressive and suicidal thoughts.
She doesn't have a history of depression although she was on SSRIs for her anxiety, she eventually stopped taking them because of side effects.
Her parents (who she lives with) are forcing her to get a job, as she will no longer qualify for foodstamps and their financial situation has been deteriorating lately, they're by no means poor but they're having some debt problems.
I've stayed with her before and her parents are very nice, very accepting of her, kind, always buying things for her, she has a large family support network, so when she now comes to me with stories of how she can't stand living with them and how they're making her life hell, I'm skeptical.
I know that depression doesn't always have to match reality but this seems like a stretch to me.
I've offered for her to come and stay with me if her family is giving her trouble, which would basically be a free vacation, but she has not accepted.
We have no real relationship problems besides being long distance, and we've had very few arguments or conflicts. I have a thing about emotional manipulation and I've said to here in the past that if she were to start pulling the whole "maybe I'll kill myself" thing for attention or sympathy or in some attempt to manipulate me I would break up with her.
I'm not sure if that's what she's doing now, for the last few days she's been coming out with almost comical doom and gloom talk like "nothing really matters" or "everything is pointless".
Last night I snapped at her, and told her to shut up and cut the negative attitude and that I didn't have any patience for it, as she had been wearing on me for a few days, interrupting my workflow and just generally transferring her negativity to me.
She immediately disconnected and hasn't come back online since.
I don't know if I should take her seriously or not, suicide prevention sites say you should always treat the threat as real, and the list of things "never to say to a suicidal person" I found was pretty much a list of all the things I have said to her, "your life isn't so bad, other people have it worse, think of what it would do to your family" etc.
Now I'm in the situation I promised myself I'd never be in, sitting around wondering if someone I love has killed themselves.
If I were to follow through and break up with her, maybe she's serious about it and that would give her the excuse she needs to do it, if she's doing it for attention I don't know if I can forgive that kind of manipulation, and if she's actually suicidal or maybe has already attempted because of our argument, I don't really want anything to do with that.
Have any of you known transpeople who went through a similar thing? Do you have any advice for me?
Am I horrible person for not wanting anything whatsoever to do with suicidal people?
trans people with depression are just like cis people with depression, and i don't mean that in a stupid 'uhhh everyone is the same way,' just that it manifests very similarly
that said 40% of trans people attempt suicide at some point so it's worth taking as not necessarily emotional bullshittery probably
>>6519915
Yeah that's why I came here.
I'm pretty certain she has no dysphoria or any problems relating to her gender, her family and mine are wholly accepting of her and we've never had any relationship issues relating to that.
Maybe there could be a hormonal element? I'm not sure.
How do I deal with the feels when I realize that I will always be a six foot tall broad shouldered beast and not the cute little femboy I dream of being
i don't know my man
>>6519674
Get swole, become powerbottom.
>>6519674
Be a more David Bowie-esque fem. I'm 5'11" and will never make it as a cute boy, but you can still be a sexy andro guy.
>tfw mtf
>tfw enjoy fucking ftms in the vag with my dick
Is this autogynephilic or autoandrophilic?
A little of both, scoodly doodly.
>>6518962
May as well get use out of that dick before it dies a withering death.
>>6519073
I'm on bicalutamide, so it will never die, but rises again, harder and stronger.
