Anyone here ever visited a shrink? I made an appointment for the end of this month and I'm kinda nervous.
Don't know what to expect. It will be free, so I don't give a fuck if its a waste of time
Useless. They play the part where they "listen" but most of the time they dont see you for who you really are deep down. Reading for myself about my behavorial tendencies worked a lot more, exploring my beliefs, insights on my feelings
I had one really shitty one and one god tier, so it really depends I guess. If you're a male, choose a female shrink, go female if you're also female.
>>28658504
I'm going to a female shrink.
Any chance I'll have sex with her?
>>28658789
Yeah she's pretty much contractually obliged to ride your dick. She wants to make sure you get better.
>>28658504
>If you're a male, choose a female shrink
Top Meme 2016
>>28658789
I believe it's common knowledge here that you have to show her r9k so she knows what she's up against.
>>28657856
It's definitely worth trying out. Basically you just talk about how shitty your life is and at the end you feel a bit better. You'd be surprised how much of a relief it is to tell someone how you feel about stuff
>>28657856
If you say something as small as "I don't know if I want to die" it's insta psych ward for you. You will bleed fucking money from it and you can't leave unless they let you.
Therapy six years or so. It doesn't work for everyone, but everyone can benefit from a little therapy. I'm one of those who could just idle in therapy forever because my I chase the feeling dragon and that never fucking works. Feelings are dumb, vapid little whores and you gotta kill them all or give them enough candy so they stop bothering you. Oddly enough therapist have the highest mental illness and stress rate of any profession, keep that in mind.
On therapists-
Male- If he's not a literal faggot then he'll talk about change stages and how to take action on your feelings. Generally better for practical types, usually they want to be in that profession. If they don't look like they have their shit together, run.
Female-
Young-she wants to be your friend and is shocked by every feeling you have and wants to know everything. She hasn't cut her teeth on the real headcases so you're her training wheels. Expect new age bullshit, lack of adherence to training methods, totally useless advice, and countless mistakes that counter what other therapists or therapy as a whole believes. If she's good she'll be quiet and play mirror with you like a mexican standoff.
Aged- She's fat and forty something. If she's not fat, she probably thinks she's got things under control. I suggest leaving. The fat ones are usually better, but they have ALL THE BAGGAGE that exists and this is why they are fat. They care enough to pay attention, and will give a good sounding board to help you determine your feelings. Remember therapists are dumber than you. You are literally the expert in the room, about you. Thats the goal of therapy.
>>28659263
I'm afraid that if I show her /r9k/ I'll end up in the psych ward
>>28659694
yeah that wouldn't be a good opener. I would never tell anyone I go here. Not ever
>>28659464
Please tell me this is a lie
>>28657856
i go to a shrink every week, have been for the last few years.
it helps me vent and get an opinion from an educated person rather than the barragge of bullshit people put into my head irl and online.
keeps me sane
im bipolar and ave autism spectrum disorder, its good for me to see a shrink
>>28658504
>If you're a male, choose a female shrink
I did this. They won't understand your problems at all, but I found that they're more likely to recommend drugs
>>28658294
News flash: not a single person can see who you are deep down. Mind-reading is a cognitive distortion!
Therapy helps! If you get on meds, see a therapist once a week, things will get better. You'll start to see things positively.
>>28660762
like most female professionals, 3 out of 4 are lazy slackers who only care about appearances and the last one an obsessive workaholic
>>28661168
(Continuefagging....)
Yes, I closely meet Chad status (definitely an ex-chader). But guess what? I have had clinical depression for nearly 10 years. I still feel down as fuck sometimes, even being suicidal. Stuff like not leaving my room for 4 days just to piss and browse the web. The dishes pile up in my room, I start to smell, and I think about offing myself. Life sucks when all you see is the negative. You can have a lot going for you, yet not even see the light at the end of the tunnel.
When you hear the stuff about real life from a real person, you think a whole lot differently than reading it on R9K. This place really sucks and will bring you down no matter who you are.
I know, "be positive" is so hard, but it can be achieved. Come up with a hustle. Start a blog, business, or something. Just start.
Meds and therapy do help.
>>28657856
>met shit tons of therapist
>mostly females
>it helps but in a superficial way
>somebody suggest I have asperger's
>meet asperger experts
>all females
>they're terrible
>almost amateur-ish
>get offended when I suggest they might be going at this the wrong way
fuck life
>>28661272
>This place really sucks and will bring you down no matter who you are
This is so fucking true. 4chan is making depressed for nearly 7 years now, but I can't stop lurking, I'm here almost 10 hours a day. I'm addicted
I've been through therapists all my life and I resented all of them for not understanding me. They would pity me and I'd hate it.
Eventually I got a therapist that barely spoke, just listened and asked for more details and somehow I was forced to justify everything I believed in to a point where I realized it was just bullshit I've been fed in my past. It was more like I was having a conversation with myself and a neutral mediator.
>>28661595
Anon, what you describe is merely the basic Freudian approach but done right
>>28659464
>>28659778
It's a lie. As long as you don't have a precise plan in the near future nothing will happen. When it was the case for me she asked more questions and it highlighted I wasn't that sure. Also she knows I'm honest and not attentionwhoring and here to get help and I'm familiar with suicidal risk assessment so I'm making her job easier. Btw if you're really sure about killing yourself you don't feel the need to tell someone.
I don't live in Muricca doe.
>>28661335
>Therapist has an emotional response with clients.
I don't know why people assume college graduates are smart
>>28661805
cool, I thought he was a hack
>>28657856
Yes
for like three years from now. Specialy to solve my problems with dealing with women. But so far I had zero achievements. Just a pathetic loser, at that matter. I masturbate thinking about my shrink, she is not that hot btw.
Am I a basket case?
I have a therapy session every 3 months or so with an Asperger specialist. Having a (quite expensive) sounding board for all of the bullshit I spew is good for me.
>>28657856
I'm a Mental Health Case Manager, so it's my job to take people to see therapists and shit.
I have seen my own therapists for more than half of my life (I'm 25).
You're going to enjoy this, they're just going to ask you about your thoughts and feelings. You will be in control of the meeting- if you don't want to talk about something you don't have to.
They are NOT just going to send you to a mental hospital if you talk about passively having suicidal ideation. What they will send you to the hospital for is if you say that you have a plan and will probably be killing yourself sometime soon.
I was consistently suicidal for about 10 years. About six therapists/psychiatrists knew about this and I never went to a psychiatric hospital. That being said, I also almost never shared plans or stated that I would be actually killing myself soon. Thinking about committing suicide sometimes (or all the time) but not really thinking that you'll do it is not going to get you sent anywhere.
I'll stay around in this thread a little longer if you have any more legitimate questions. I'd be glad to help with both personal and professional experience
Yes m8.
I woke up one morning when I was 16 and walked into my kitchen, grabbed a knife and stared at it for 20 solid minutes.
I was mad depressed and anxious. School wasn't going well and although I had good m8s I had never even kissed a girl so I was feeling pretty shitty. Plus my grandfather who I was crazy close to had a stroke and became a vegetable. And my divorced parents were fighting over the mortgage of my mums house.
All of which is to say that the next say I went to school and blurted it out to my favourite teacher.
The school made me get counselling from a therapist outside the school. She was a really nice lady and she helped talk me through everything that bothered me.
Therapy isn't a cure. The feelings don't go away. But I learned coping mechanisms there.I still use a decade later. And I know that on string enough to get through anything life throws my way. I would not be saying these things without therapy.
OP you did a good thing. Therapy will help. It might not feel like it is. But it will. Stick with it.
You're gonna make it bro.
>>28659263
>>28659694
lel when I told my mom about the beta uprising she laughed and said "so you are a beta?" and I said "nope, I'm omega. I totally cut contact with society" and she sighed.
>>28662348
that's a good start,pal. You have to be sincere on how do you see yourself
>>28659694
>tfw /r9k/ is the new old-/b/
Well if the therapist is good, it definitely can help. Though it still also comes down to you: He can't force you to talk, and if you tip-toe around your problems, his help will be limited. Also, in the very end, he can't live your life or step into your shoes, so it all comes back down to you.
Making a shitty analogy, in a video game, he's a power up, he makes (or should make) things easier, but in the end it's still you who has to finish the game yourself, with your own skills.
I'm a counselling therapist in the UK.
Further to what's above, if I had to report suicidal ideation I'd never get anything done. Unless you have active plans and intent then nothing will happen.
"I feel it would be easier if I wasn't here" is a long way from "I'm going to go and jump in front of a train after we're done"
Also on hand to answer any questions for a bit.
>>28661927
>cool, I thought he was a hack
Some parts of his stuff are great, some other parts retarded bit most of the hate comes from people who get triggered because he really liked to talk about how great penises are
>>28662666
Me (>>28662688) here.
This is a good analogy. You have to want to change, and therapy / a therapist can be a catalyst to help do that.
Also when I've been here before, some people have had a bad experience with therapy and it's put them off. It's quite possible you just won't get on, or even like a therapist, regardless of their ability. Sometimes it can take a while to find someone who's right for you.
>>28662688
>Also on hand to answer any questions for a bit.
How does a therapist end up here? Did you find it through a client of yours?
>>28662688
Why am I so unmotivated? Why do I hate work so bad?
I'd love to enjoy work but I really can't
This is affecting my self esteem and I know I can't keep going like this forever
But I also know I can't just get a job and pretend to be a normie because every time I do I just quit a few weeks later
Is there anything I should try? What should I do for my next move, doc?
>>28662899
I've known about 4chan / r9k for years, long before I had any problems, but I've had a couple of major depressive episodes and still wrestle with it; my self-esteem isn't that great and I'm a little bit lonely.
Therapy helped an awful lot, and I'm sure there's people here who would benefit from it to, so I just drop by to help out now and then.
>>28662907
Perhaps you can find answers to some of these questions in therapy?
>>28662688
I got a question for you, bro
Do you actually fix your patients or do you keep them in a state where they feel content but still not right on purpose so they keep coming back?
Also do you have colleagues who go at it like that?
>>28663007
You ever fucked one of your patients?
>>28663007
>Perhaps you can find answers to some of these questions in therapy?
Therapy does nothing, they never answer directly
Been at going for 15 years and they still haven't found what's wrong with me
>>28662688
This
>>28663022
Seriously, ever had sex / relationship with any of your patients?
>>28663008
Fix isn't a word I'd use, but I suppose what you mean is do I not do right by patients on purpose in order to keep them coming back and the money coming in?
Well I don't actually have a lot of private clients. We have NHS and other contracts so I'm paid a flat rate for those by the company I work for, so there's no benefit for keeping people coming back.
Regarding the private clients I do have, it's much more beneficial to do a good job and build a reputation. There's no shortage of clients so keeping them on for money just doesn't make sense and I wouldn't do it anyway. None of my colleagues do it either, we're a small company, no-one here is like that. It's a running joke that we're "too efficient" but it's only in jest.
>>28663022
No. Have I been attracted to clients? Yes. Never further than that though.
>>28662688
is there some way to find hapiness by helping out other people? I think the only chance for me to ever find a reason and pleasure to live,it would be by philanthropy. What's your opinion?
>>28661503
Gotta' get a hobby better than 4chan. Even if you get a hobby that relates to a board here, don't visit that board.
Remember: why they're scrolling, you're making money, reading, bettering yourself somehow. Keep that mindset.
>>28663130
What the fuck
You sound like some functional adult and not at all like most of us who are immature manchildren.
Please get off my board.
Sincerely,
Reeeeee
>>28660762
therapists and psychiatrists are two completely different things
>>28662030
its transference
you latch on to people who show you empathy this transferes into sexual urges
>>28662191
I still have problems to open myself to my therapist. It often feels like we talk about mundane stuff instead of my real problems but whenever I'm there once a week my brain doesn't seem to work and I can't come up with the important things. And if I do I still don't have the courage to say it.
Do you have any experience with this?
>>28663251
thanks
it's a good start knowing the name of this fucking condition.
But how to fix that,I don't know. I considering giving up on the psychotherapy. It has been just a huge waist of money
>>28663044
What would your ideal job be?
You say you want to enjoy work. What would make work enjoyable for you? When it's stimulating? challenging? varied? purposeful? Ever had a job that's those things?
>>28663131
Everyone derives happiness from different things. If you think philanthropy would do that for you then go for it.
Before I became a therapist I also had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. I just knew it was imperative I did something I enjoyed, I know a lot of people aren't that fortunate.
>>28663404
thanks
is it selfish on my part the idea of helping out other people,not entirely,just for my own pleasure?
>>28663537
Probably, but I don't see selfishness as a negative trait. It's a line and you want to be at 50%. In fact in a lot of sessions with clients, part of the reason they are depressed etc is because they aren't selfish enough. They do all these things for others but what do they get out of it? Often the answer is less than they put in.
I'm only a therapist because I enjoy it, I'm self-interested but it doesn't mean others don't benefit.
>>28663381
Does your therapist know you're having trouble discussing some issues? When you say your brain doesn't work, what are you actually experiencing?
Some of my past clients have found writing notes and passing them to me helpful, or drawing pictures. Occasionally it's been my presence opposite them that has been a hindrance, moving alongside them helped, or even out of view.
>>28663802
She probably thinks that I'm maybe holding something back (diagnosed me with social anxiety) but otherwise not really. I don't know why, but I often act like everything is alright and not as bad while I talk to her which leads to me not talking about certain issues. This directly leads to your next question; it's hard to describe what I experience, but as soon as I enter the room and talk to her many of the things that upset either aren't on my mind or don't seem as bad so I don't talk as much about them as I should. While sitting in the waiting room before I feel like shit and afterwards at home I feel like shit, just during the time with her I feel pretty okay somehow.
I think this leads her to underestimate my mental problems. This week she even said I'm doing great and that I should continue that way, altough I didn't feel any better this week than in any other. I was just a bit more talkative (and didn't cry this time) so this shows how contrary we see my condition.
>>28663984
What's the thought of discussing some of those issues with her like? Is there a good enough relationship between the two of you in order for you to talk about the issues you haven't raised yet? Essentially do you feel secure enough.
It sounds like your sessions with her are a solid period of time in which everything doesn't seem quite so bad, perhaps that's quite a welcome feeling, and talking about issues you have might spoil that feeling and time?
Sometimes there can be an element of wanting to be seen as a 'good client', one who appears to respond well to the therapist's encouragement but in reality is only trying not to disappoint them.
Not sure if some / all / none apply but if you are to get the most out of the time you have, does something need to change?
>>28664175
>What's the thought of discussing some of those issues with her like?
A bit scary but I think I could do it. I remember how our first meeting was: My voice was shaking, I sweated and could barely breath. I just don't want this to happen again.
I think this good client thing applies and needs to change. Talking to her sometimes really feels like lying to a teacher who you don't want to disappoint. How should I handle with this?
>>28664349
If you can, talk about it with her. The client / therapist relationship is the most important thing and feelings of transference that you're experiencing can be worked through, but only when both parties discuss it. If there isn't congruence in the relationship then the content is easily misinterpreted.
So you have the belief you will disappoint her, but how true is this? Why would she be disappointed in you?
When my clients don't improve, or they take a turn for the worse, it's only ever more information, there's no judgement or expectations, just insight. When X lost his job because he decided to get stoned out of his mind and turn up for work, I wasn't disappointed, just interested in why he'd done it, and 50 minutes later he had a fantastic new insight in to himself.
You being congruent with her will help your relationship, not damage it. Finding out why you feel the need not to disappoint her might be insightful for you.
I have to go now anon, but I wish you the best.
i feel like i'm incapable of opening up to people
would therapy be a massive waste of money in that case?
>>28657856
I was just diagnosed as schizoaffective plus bipolar one.
>Wants me on antipsychotics.HOPELESS
>>28664727
Im schizo affective
Im finally on the right meds
its was lithium that works
>>28664787
>Takes months to get it out of your system.When you lose it then what? I cannot even afford the meds.
>>28664575
You're right when I think about it, I can't really disappoint her. Maybe I will try to change something next week.
But thanks man, you really helped me finding out whats wrong. I appreciate you taking time to help robots in here, this board isn't completely lost as it seems.
>It will be free, so I don't give a fuck if its a waste of time
With that attitude you shouldn't expect to get any better through therapy.
These people aren't magicians who can just fix you by throwing words at you.
If you are lazy and don't intend to work to fix your problems it won't help at all. It would be better if you saw these therapists as consultants who can help you on your journey towards a better life.
>>28664787
Yeah lithium works. It really is a miracle drug.
I've fucked with antipsychotics enough to know I'm never using them again unless it's to treat really bad psychosis.
>>28657856
Holy Shit Rob Liwfeld is a terrible artist. Can't draw anything for shit. Its crazy how he became a millionaire being a comic book artist in the 90s. The dude gives a therapist a fucking mullet, can't draw couches for shit and has to place the feet out of frame.
>>28662191
>What they will send you to the hospital for is if you say that you have a plan and will probably be killing yourself sometime soon.
i sometimes want to walk into my garage and shoot myself
do i just hide this from them?
>>28665055
Hmm....interesting.
Tell me more about the drawing skills of people whom you've never met...
>>28666048
>tell me more about the musical ability of people whom you've never met...
>tell me more about the acting ability of people whom you've never met...
>tell me more about the shitposting quality of people whom you've never met...
It's right in front of your eyes, dufus.
>>28666096
>It's right in front of your eyes, dufus.
And...? Please go on, I'm genuinely interested in your fascination with these matters.
>>28666129
I'm not the guy you responded to originally, man. But what part are you struggling with here? OP's image is a one-panel comic from Rob Liefeld, and you find it "interesting" that someone mentions Rob Liefeld's drawing ability and call it a fascination?
>>28657856
what is a shrink?
>>28666181
I hear what you're saying, and it seems perfectly valid. May I ask, why do you feel I'm struggling?
