Would you robots be interested in some actual advice that goes beyond
>eat healthy and lift
>be yourself
>act confident that's what girls want
I'll be here for a bit, and I'm nothing special, really, but I consider myself to be successful enough considering I've stumbled through life well enough so far.
I'll try my best lads.
gib gib plz
I don't need no advice for life, BECAUSE I'M NO LONGER ALIVE NIGGA I'M DEAD INSIDE
why the fuck not, there are only like 20 people here atm
How do I make my wife's son give back my 3ds, I let him borrow it yesterday so he wouldn't beat me up but i forgot to ask for it back
>>26665370
>Just lift and be yourself, bro
>That's what I do
>>26665662
OP here, you must be Canadian
If you aren't confident now, you will never be confident. You can't just "become" confident. That shit is just something you either are or you aren't. Even if you do go to the gym, eat healthy and try to be yourself, you're still going to be an insecure fuck at the end of the day. Don't kid yourself
How do I stop feeling dead inside and numb to everything? How do I enjoy things again?
>>26666224
Being confident only comes naturally. Be a sperglord if that's what you are, but if you really want to feel a fraction of comfort, look to shallow sources. Dress and groom yourself the way that you imagine confident people would. It's really about how you think people perceive you. By all means, just be shallow and change your appearance until you're comfortable enough to do what you want to do; there are girls and friends and employers that would never know that deep down you are a strange person, and they won't even care how strange you are once they know you. This is the honest truth.
>>26666290
What did you enjoy before? The chances are you're somebody who needs new experiences to enjoy but are stuck in your ways. I've felt this feeling before and once you get there it can't be remedied by Netflix or vidya. I think you need to do something more intellectual, like read a book. It will desensitise you from everything else and allow you to come back to the real world. Don't watch tv or play video games until you finish.
How do I get a job if I don't know anyone, have no prior experience and am generally an autist when talking with people?
I'm considering trying for a small security guard job just as a resume filler and because it seems like something I could manage/enjoy, but I still worry that I have nothing going for me and that I'll end up living with my parents until I'm 30+.
>>26666446
You don't need experience, you need skills. If you can make an employer think that you have the necessary skills, then even without the experience you can at least get to the interview stage. As someone with a rewarding job, take it from me that the best thing to do is to apply for everything you see that you wouldn't hate doing, and if you get an interview prepare for obvious questions. At least if you're over prepared you can't blame yourself if you don't get hired.
Apply for that security job if you think you'll enjoy it. In your application you should draw on experiences, factual or fictional, that an employer would think is transferable or relevant to their industry.
When have you held responsibility, not necessarily in a work place?
Writing an application geared towards what you think the employer wants in the role will also let the employer know that you're serious about the role itself.
How on earth do I turn my life around and have a (decently paid) career?
I'm 22 and I'll be graduating this year from a top 5 British university in languages but it's likely my grades will be fairly poor (can't really give a comparison with the US but maybe it's like getting a 2.5 GPA?)
I didn't do any internships or anything because I was a depressed little cuck who didn't know what he wanted to do with his life but I have some work experience at a bank doing administration work
NB: The UK isn't like the US where you can seem to always just be able to "go back to school" and graduate with a major in anything
>>26666317
>This is the honest truth
>Because I said so
Nah, dude. Get the fuck out. I started being confident when I found myself successful in something I myself respected. I've always been called a math genius my entire life, been working out since middle school, but only once I started learning an instrument did I really find myself being myself, which gave me confidence.
You mistake fake confidence for real confidence. Probably because you're just as retarded as the people who are "confident" only because they aren't self aware enough to realize how much of a low life they are.
>>26666830
I'm not from the US.
It depends on how much you can talk up your admin work at the bank and if you know anyone there who will give you a reference. A reference from a bank employee/manager will go a long way.
Your bad grades don't mean everything, but I don't know anything about your industry. I failed many units at uni but managed to find a job where having a degree was a bonus, not a necessity. If you can find a job in a decent company at any level, your degree will pay dividends once you prove that you aren't retarded.
The degree is the important thing for moving up once you have a job. If you have good grades you can go through the front door and talk up your education, if you have average grades but a completed degree then you can go through the back door and act like you worked very hard to get where you are, get a job, and then use your degree to move up after. There are many people in my company that got a job without a degree and now they're switching to part time because they have to study to move up. I finished and have an uninterrupted climb up the ladder even though I found employment later than them.
>>26666411
>Read a book
>Bring you to the real world
Seriously, do you even read what you type? Shit, I'm all for self improvement, but if you actually read as much as I do, you'd be so far off from reality it's unreal. Also it comes with the realization that our minds are subsets of reality and are thus incapable of understanding the entire set of reality. It's delusions all the way down. If you were to suddenly come into "reality" your brain would probably send you into extreme shock if it didn't overclock itself to shit.
>>26666931
That's the essence of what I said, do what you have to do to feel confident. Whether it's something you do or something you do to yourself, you should feel confident if you think other people think that you're confident or if you're good at something that's respected.
>>26666931
you're 100% right, looking good helps sure, but its not until you can do something that impresses you that you will feel confident. Like you this happened to me through an instrument, but it also happened to me through getting rid of my acne. Dressing nicer and acting happier came AFTER I became confident and happy with myself, and this is the biggest problem with most people on this site; they're just miserable with themselves and find themselves unimpressive. I've only been able to reach where I am now because I impressed myself and realized that I can be happy with what I'm becoming. This is how you become confident, not by dressing nice and trying to fuck some whore.
>>26666290
You're either depressed or you've just abused entertainment. If you're depressed seek help my man, it can and probably will help you. If you're just bored and abusing then cut it all off for a while until you start craving again.
How do I get a gf? I'm tall and relatively attractive. The thing is, I'm remarkably bad with people and have cerebral palsy. It isn't debilitating, but it's still enough to scare most people off. What the fuck do I do?
>>26666666
nice get desu
>>26666411
i read constantly, it's one of the only things that has remained consistent in my life
you're sych a condescending cunt implying we all just play games and watch le netflix
>>26665370
There is a girl that I really like that I've known for a while and I'm too chicken to just point blank ask her out. I'm usually pretty fearless around girls but for some reason this one has me reduced to typical robot levels of autism around her. I was trying to hang out with her a bunch a few months ago but she would never hang out with me alone and was very limited in what kind of things she would talk about around me. The result is that I still feel pretty distant from her emotionally and I don't feel like there are any circumstances we could be in that would bring us together. And if I think about it rationally, we annoy each other a lot in certain ways and I don't really feel like it would work out between us long-term anyway. But, yet I still can't stop thinking about her.
Do you think I should just move on? I'm ready to do so but that means avoiding her for a while which probably means I would lose some mutual friends. This isn't that big of a deal for me but I'm just stuck trying to decide if I should push my luck with her further or cut my losses and get out now before she gets pissed off at me for being too aggressive.
generic advice is shit because people dont know how to bring it.
it's a fact that being fit, healthy, and having good personal hygiene is extremely important in social life.
having alpha genetics will ofcourse make it alot easier, but it's not like you can't live without it.
i'm a pretty ugly autist (huge nose, dark rings around eyes, weirdly shaped head, 5,9, add/pdd-nos)
and i've actually noticed how nuch hetter people treat me since i've started getting a little more fit, started showering more often and applying basic skincare.
i also started dressing a bit better (i usually wear casual dress shoes with dark jeans and a white shirt)
what people mean by 'jus b urself' is that to be any interesting at all you need to have atleast something that you are passionate in, any hobby or interest is fine as long as you know how to talk about it without boring people to death.
you might want to start meditating, it actually will help you to be more at peace with whataver situation you might be in.
so basically
improve your personal hygiene and wardrobe
start improving your body in and outside, (cut down on saturated fats, and sugar. drink nothing but water/coffee/tea, and avoid any processed foods.)
start working on your physical health by doing 50 pushups per night and jogging once per week, and build up from that.
go out on cultural trips more often, take a weekend away or whatever every now and then, going alone is fine.
you're not doing any of this for other people, if you work on yourself, for yourself, people will start getting attracted to you automatically.
also
stop giving a single shit about women, they're worthless scum and you don't need a single bit of their attention.
if you ever get close to one, use it as a fucktoy and leave it.
>>26665370
heres my advice and its the best advice you will ever get:
BE 100% HONEST.
just try it out. it takes a while for the effects to kick in. no holding back. just tell everybody how much of a loser you are. tell them what you really think.
also the best thing you can do apart from that is some regular physical exercise, doenst have to be BRAH DO U EVEN LIFT but even doing a little aimless walking trough the streets will help a lot to take your mind off things.
>>26665370
how do i stay motivated to lift? have a gym downstairs but just too damn lazy
how do i not be beta
>>26668108
forgot to add: regular and enough sleep will make the biggest difference in your life. this is the first and most important thing you need to achieve.
>>26668019
>add/pdd-nos)
i'm sorry anon, i know how that feels.
not pdd-nos but hfa/asd
>>26668019
>also
>stop giving a single shit about women, they're worthless scum and you don't need a single bit of their attention.
>if you ever get close to one, use it as a fucktoy and leave it.
THIS. dont learn the hard way.
>>26668125
lift enough to be able to notice iphysical improvement in shorter periods of time.
improvement motivates, motivation improves.
Me and my ex broke up recently because the distance had become too great, we seem to be somewhat cool with each other and text every now and then. I want to get back wth her but I know it's futile but i also am thinking fuck it she's worth it not caring about ruining some friendship, what do?
>>26668166
do you have any meds?
>>26666819
>You don't need experience, you need skills.
are you being serious or did you get that from napoleon dynamite?
>>26666290
try something new, something that even might sound crazy.
pack your bags and book the first ticket you can afford to whichever place, go on an adventure, discover new shit.
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How can i stop fapping?
all i think about is sex and i'm going deeper in the twisted sick fetishes that i'm passing rock bottom
>>26668549
most likely fapping isnt the problem but watching porn every day is
just learn to use your imagination while laying in bed and you will probably feel better
>>26668308
i only take Valium now and then to help me sleep
>>26668125
Motivation is a meme.
You need to cultivate discipline. I'm not always motivated to do whatever I know I need to do in order to achieve my goals, but my discipline makes me do it.
As far as specific, actionable advice goes:
Don't get caught up in the idea of needing to feel super duper motivated in order to lift. Just do it even if you feel shit. Force yourself to do it. It will be hard at first but will gradually get easier.
