ITT: ask the opposite gender anything
Squirting: Is it just pee?
What percentage of women actually really like sucking cock rather than doing it out of obligation?
>>23021186
It certainly looks like it but I understand that it isnt
>>23021188
+1 obligation
i'll do it if he likes it
but i do prefer his cock in other places
For the femanons here:
Are there ways to know the difference between a flirtatious girl and a girl that's actually flirting with you? Guys are worried about misinterpreting signals but there have been times girls have slapped my ass and I'm pretty sure she was just being friendly.
Thanks!
>>23021186
Really i dont know...i never really squirt... granted i can like be dripping wet but there was a time a guy was fingering me really fast and hard and i remember it feeling good but it also feel like he was like jiggling my bladder around in a weird way and then suddenly i just hear what sounded like him tapping his fingers in water and i feel it all over my legs. I was more like "fuck he made me pee nyself" but he insisted that i "squirted" but idk...i just dont feel like i did lol
>>23021188
I love it. I have an oral fixation so i have a habit of putting stuff in my mouth and a dick is pretty much the perfecr fit lol.
It feels good against my tongue and lips and i get off and getting him off
>>23021255
Wish my gf had your attitude! I love being ducked but she isn't keen so it only happens once in a blue moon
>>23021326
I guess I just got unlucky with my choice of gf. She's not that keen and definately does let me cum in her mouth. Which is a shame as I do love that
>>23021341
That should have said does not let me cum in her mouth
>>23021345
Thats usually how i finish it haha. I prefer it that way so theres no mess to clean up though im all for my bf to cum where ever he likes
>>23021360
Good logic there I like it. I must admit that I do like shooting cum on my gf body. Preferably her tits or on her pussy.
>>23021360
He is a lucky guy!
How come there are like literally no straight girls in soc? Just curious...
>>23021450
There are dude, where are you looking?
Are there women here that actually enjoy men that crossdress and have fun not only indulging their lifestyle, but encouraging them to delve as deep as they would like?
Is an ISTJ undatable for most girls or do I just happen to be that retarded?
do boobs float in water and is sand in the vagina an actual thing that happens?
>>23021616
Fake boobs can float i think...mine dont haha
And from what i remember yea it is....i literally havent been playing in the sand and shit since i was like 9 so i cant remember fully
6 inches decent?
C-could be worse right?
why does guy like me gets tagged as creep instead of being shy in the cute way? I just mind my own business, don't talk to people that do not address to me first.
>>23021635
Because you're ugly
>>23021634
6 inches is fine, nothing amazing but it will get the job done if you know what you're doing
>>23021579
You're just retarded
>>23021634
6 inches decent
>>23021654
Thank god I was worried there for a minute.
>>23021188
I love doing it. I get more turned on by sucking and swallowing than anything.
>>23021616
They don't really float unless you position them right on the surface of the water. Just like any other body part. Sand in the actual vagina has never been a thing for me. Maybe between the labia but never inside
>>23021634
6 is perfect
>>23021635
Probably unattractive
>>23021878
How turned on do you get. Do you cum whilst sucking cock
>>23022156
Basically yes. I get so wet that it starts dripping down my leg
how did you meet your significant other?
I've heard things about going to clubs/bars or someone at work but could I get some examples?
actually both sides here
How common is it for a woman to not want children?
where do babies come from ?
>>23023701
more common but it's still in the minority.
>>23021634
6 is literally perfect length, its more about girth.
>>23021616
yes, kind of and yes, though sand in the labia is more common and just as fucking annoying.
>>23021559
Yes, I also enjoy dressing them up, but they have to actually be able to pull it off to a degree or im not interested.
>>23021314
No, because they're both flirting. You can kind of tell them apart because a girl flirting with you will be focused on YOU where as a flirtatious girl will flit around chatting and hitting up everyone.
Women: Will one of you hold me? Holy shit, I'm so stressed and I need sweet nothings whispered in my ear.
is it ever a good idea to try to make a move on someone already in a relationship? even if they are being flirty/touchy
>>23023688
School. I don't know how fucked I would be searching for a SO if I didn't meet them within education/work.
>>23021186
Posting from phone: But short versions is no it's not. Long version is its from the bladder, yes, but it's mixed with secretions from a few glands, and very very low in urea (if any).
Just roll with it. Squirters are awesome.
>>23021579
Myers Briggs are about as accurate as astrology signs. It doesn't mean shit.
>>23021635
Dude here: To my understanding it's going to be social skills still. Creepy is usually breaching social graces, "shy in the cute way" is usually because they (the woman) makes the dude shy specifically, and there's some interest there.
>>23023688
I meet most partners through friends - most people I know do.
>>23023791
Don't do it. It's a dick move.
>>23021188
I love to give handjobs, and i enjoy licking the cock. But I have a smaller mouth than the average person (according to my dentist at least) so I can't really get much into my mouth. And the choking/gagging/slurping noises are a bit of a turn off to me personally anyways.
If that answers anything for ya.
>>23021450
idk I see quite a few. They're usually camwhores or something though. Soc is supposed to attract the weirdies and autists though isn't it? lol I don't think there's much here for quality men or women in the soc pool.
>>23021616
Mine don't, I assume fakes might though. Sand gets on the outer parts like any other body part, but I think you'd have to be pretty active in the sand to get it up in ya. IDK it's never happened to me.
>>23021634
Most girls really don't care about your dick unless its on one end of either extreme.
>>23023688
I need answers to this too. I'm 3 years into university and haven't had a date since my junior year of high school. And it's not like I'm not putting myself out there any less since I got into college. Guess I'm just really ugly or something and could only pull pity dates from high school virgins.
>>23023701
Its def the minority. But I'm one of them if you're taking tally or something. Although this is purely in the sense that I don't want to spit a kid out of my body. If my body is taken out of the equation I'm open for discussion.
>>23023791
I think that people who cheat are shitbags and people who knowingly help someone cheat are equally shitbags. Just imo. If they're flirting, tell them to fucking break up already.
Do girls like bigger guys? Not necessarily fat, but beefy. Kinda built like and offensive lineman i.e. broad shoulders, big chest, large thighs, etc.
>>23021188
I really enjoy it :)
>>23023701
I don't want a little shit. But I know that makes me unusual.
>>23027061
I have a thing for beefy guys (more muscle than fat tho plz!) but am yet to experience that. All the guys I've been with have been pretty skinny. A lot of fantasies though!
On a similar note to >>23027061, do girls like skeletons?
I am admittedly rather spooky.
>>23027272
I prefer it to fat, and in a way it's what I'm used to.
>>23023791
It really depends. Sometimes people are unhappy in their relationships and are looking for a way out.
>>23027061
>>23027251
This is me. I work out atleast 3 times a week. Trying to lose some of the stomach.
>>23023688
My husband and I met on 4chan on the original r9k 9000 board.
We have been together for five years.
>>23027061
I sure do
>>23027061
>>23027272
Skeletons are more my preference, although not too skeletony. Like nobody likes anorexia, but I like super scrawny no muscle guys myself.
However as long as you aren't fat I'm not necessarily going to shoot you down based on looks.
>>23027368
eehhhh def work on it anon. The belly and the moobs aren't working with ya. I'm not trying to sound mean or anything but you don't exactly look muscular to me from this pic. And to express my own humility, I'm in the same boat to be honest (minus the moobs since I have real boobs lol) Losing the muffin top is the hardest shit I've ever tried to do, and its still there a little bit. Sucks because I'm actually at a decent weight for once, but that little blob of fat in my gut is very persistent. I feel like to finally get rid of it I'm going to drop into the grey area of almost/slightly underweight, but I'll just have to burn that bridge when I get to it kek. But frankly i don't care much, guys seem to like that anyways, slightly underweight girls. Majority of what I've seen on soc at least.
>>23027061
>>23027272
So I'll ask the same question on the flipside to further revive the thread maybe.
What's too big and too small for grills? Post pics of women you think fit those categories if it helps describe.
What's your favorite "figure"/body type?
Also whats your thoughts on hourglass figures specifically?
I think guys like it on paper, but in reality hourglass figures tend to only make you look fatter than you actually are, which is why I hate mine personally. Like I feel like you can only pull off an hourglass if you're a gymrat or blessed with great metabolism/have little fat at all. But that's just me
To the femanons.
If I wanted a more casual relationship, like a fwb deal, how do I broach the subject without seeming like an utter sleaze.
A fwb arrangement is not my ideal by a long shot, but I'm 26 and have never been in a real relationship--and I am a virgin. Mostly by choice since my previous relationships have been with fucked up people who I loved , but also understood were unable to give me the kind of relationship I wanted. So rather than go in, have sex and then be too involved emotionally to get out without hurting everyone involved, I simply didn't have sex.
I would like a more substantial relationship, but I think I should take baby steps first so as not to bungle the better quality relationships with inexperience.
Back to the point though, how do I invite a more casual relationship with someone I have gotten to know for more than just banging?
>>23021186
I had a 4 day fuckfest with a squirter in san francisco last year.
I caused her to squirt on several occasions, but there were also times I fucked the piss out of her as well.
I made her cum so many times through oral. But one time she lost bladder control and I got a shot of urine. Definite difference in taste, and I would say that confirmed "squirt" is female ejaculate and not urine to me. The taste of squirt is more like a saline-water taste, it tastes like alot of pussy juice.
Females:
There's a girl that I'm interested in and she's interested in me.
She is in a relationship at the moment; however, she is very unhappy and will probably leave him soon.
She has told me she would have rather dated me back when she was still single.
If they break up, would it be a dick move for me to go after her? Would i just be a rebound fuck?
Side note; how many ladies care about an age gap? She is 8 years older than me, me being 22.
IS THE DIARRHEA SAME FOR YOU LADIES?
>>23028287
>what's too big and too small for girls?
Anorexia is too small, and being chubby is the upper limit, though the extent of how chubby is often a grey area, depending on the guy. Personally, pic related is approximately my upper limit.
>What's your favourite body type?
Generally, slimmer body types, though proportion is more important than most other things.
>hourglass body specifically
I like curves, so it's also really nice. I really wouldn't worry about it at all anon. Not even whiteknighting, but it's not something that would make or break my opinion of you, if I were to encounter you, for example.
>>23021450
Exactly like there are no straight men here. We're somehow the perfect shelter for people not accepted by the heteronorm.
>>23029209
If someone is 30 and still behaving like that, there is no hope for them at all. Do whatever you want, it doesn't matter at all.
>>23027272
I def. prefer thinner, leaner guys.
Ectomorph > Mesomorph > Endomorph (and yes, I do know these somatotypes aren't completely legit but they're there for simplicity's sake)
>>23021163
I'm not interested in asking any questions. I just came here to say that women are poison.
WARNING: CRINGE INCOMING
Girls: Is it even possible that any girl ever has ever had a slight attraction to me, even briefly?
When I see a hot girl, sometimes my dick twitches, like "ayyy brah cut me a slice of that cherry pie".
Do girls get similar pangs?
>>23032078
As a dude, lose some weight, smile, get a haircut. You ain't that naturally ugly, my ears stick out like a bad fucking joke and I get laid, that shit can only be fixed with plastic surgery you just need to lay off the cheese burgers and fix your attitude.
Why do girls always just run away in a flash without even saying goodbye or with a bullshit excuse? Even you didn't do anything wrong.
>>23032078
you've got a pretty good face shape, you look sad though I've seen my friends with much uglier guys than you and been 100% attracted to them. Dress up, smile, look and act happy and confident it draws people in. If you're not happy or confident fake it till you make it.
>>23032160
I'm ace but when I see or read about bdsm scenes I get the same way. just kinda a short term dull throbbing?
>>23032195
anxiety or bad social skills or a bitch. I think the only time i've done that is when I was feeling like super scared/pressured which doesn't necessarily require doing anything wrong on the dude's part
So for guys: if a girl wanted to have a no romance no actual sex kinky bdsm friends with benefits deal, how hard would someone cool with that be to find out in the real world?
>>23032239
> no actual sex
This would be really hard on me because I'd be constantly turned on by the BDSM. I'd say very hard, depending on what you mean with "no actual sex".
Hey girls. Whats the best way to assist my girlfriend in order for her to take my rather above average girth?
We've been having issues ever since we got together. ..she was a Virgin I was not and she's very petite
>>23032287
damn that's my worry. I'm not attracted to people, and I've had a no sex setup for that for a few nights before the guy got mushy and emotional/clingy on me, I figure I have to give on either the romance or the sex. not very many people who want to be dominant or sadistic just for the sake of it I suppose. if handjobs/blowjobs were on the table, how hard do you think it would be to find?
>>23032297
fingering and toys. do you think the people in porn who can take those huge objects their first time? get her like a vibe or two that are more manageable for her so she can sort of get used to it? and play with that and your fingers until she's super excited and just build it up, one finger, two finger, three finger, wiggle fingers, ect. also try using some lube? get her as excited and into it as you can, maybe get her off once since things are less likely to hurt when you've got all the feel good chemicals in you.
>>23032321
Alrighty thanks for the advice. I've ordered some more expensive lube, I also always get her off first already haha. That way if I cum before she does again idgaf.
Bit hesitsnt to try vibes/dildos yet. It's pretty early in the relationship. Any recommendations for say a bullet vibe?
Girth is like 6.5 ughh. She's like 110lbs
>>23032321
It could work as something I did for a friend but realize that the blow/handjobs would have to happen in a BDSM context if you understand what I mean. And not getting clingly would be hard.
Seriously, it's really, really hard for guys not to get clingy and start wanting to make breakfast for you and cuddle. It's kind of instinctual.
I've heard about setups like this though, but that was from people who are basically very deep into the BDSM scene and actually have entire networks of sexual and non-sexual relationships with people.
>>23032239
So I guess I shouldn't be mad at them. Even though I wonder if kids these days have parents.
>>23023688
We were both from /v/ and joined a project together. He ended up confessing that he had feeling for me six months in and it's been over a year now.
>>23023701
Not sure, but I don't mind going either way. I really just want someone to love and dote on, so children and a husband or just a man is perfectly fine to me.
>>23027272
>>23027061
I like both. My boyfriend is very skinny and it has changed my preference to skellies a bit.
However, the thing is I'm kind of weird and love taller guys to be a skelly and shorter guys to be a bit bigger.
>>23032078
People have given you comments before that you're cute, silly.
What you need is to work on your confidence.
>>23021186
I always urinate before sex/masturbating so my bladder should be empty. Technically, yes. But my mattress says otherwise.
>>23021188
I personally love sucking cock. But only with those I'm intimate with.
>>23023701
I have no intentions of having children. To be fair, I'm the youngest of my generation so have never grown up around children younger than myself, but I think I saw too many brats in public places that put me off.
>>23027061
I like a beefy guy, chubby is even better. >>23027368
You're my type. Pretty Damn cute.
Question:
Men, does owning an assortment of sextoys make you feel insecure/inferior? I cannot orgasm otherwise, I appreciate your efforts, but I'm going to need further stimulation from my Vibrator.
How many toys are too many?
If I spent a fair amount on this toy, what do you think of me?
Does their size/length/girth make you feel insecure?
>>23033252
Post pics?
I'm an average looking male maybe a little above average I guess. My question is why the fuck are girls that I find attractive impossible to approach/talk to for me. Any tips to break the ice?
>>23033710
Just be confident bro, coming from a gorgeous man himself who models @ CK Nz. I don't know which country you're from, where i live women have this blueprint of a perfect guy so typically they're all going in with high expectations. I doubt your country is anything like mine. Trust me, its fucking outrageous... But confidence is key, not cockiness, confidence. Be cute and shit but not annoying, learn to play it cool and dont be a total push over because that's what the friend zone is for xx :D
girls a shit
>>23033710
Short answer: Cuz you're a fag. It's not about looks unless you're Jabba.
>>23033252
>does owning an assortment of sextoys make you feel insecure/inferior?
>Does their size/length/girth make you feel insecure?
Nope, it's cool/whatever.
>How many toys are too many?
Like when it gets obsessive, so I guess it's less about the number and more about how much importance you place on it.
>If I spent a fair amount on this toy, what do you think of me?
As long it doesn't affect your budget and make you cut on other things ... who cares. If it does and you rather save up on the Cuntdestroyer 99 instead of traveling or something, I'd think you're cray.
>>23032011
Not like you ever talked to one besides your mother :o
>>23028287
>What's too big and too small for grills?
Depends on a lot factors but fast answer would be BMI over 22. After that they tend to be too fat (or chubby or whatever euphemism whales use these days) Skeleton is kinda eh but at least not repulsive unless completely Auschwitz-surviver-mode.
Perfect would be volleyball players, so tall, toned and with some butt.
my gf broke up with me recently she says she dosent feel the same way i feel about her, but shes the one that chased me for weeks and asked me out, moved a bunch of her stuff into my flat and was coming round everyday any girls got an insight into what she ment or is that shes scared about going long distance because we're both moving in a the next few months
>>23033723
Ok, thanks man. Honestly that's what most people tell me but I lack confidence in myself, I'll get over it and eventually get the girl I want lol
>>23033767
Well that's kinda why I asked, I'm always too worried that she's just way out of my league and what the fuck am I thinking about even considering talking to her and shit like that
>>23033781
Try again with punctuation.
>>23033710
Maybe you're worried about not feeling deserving? Sell esteem issue? I'd suggest forcing yourself through the nervousness, and after talking to enough pretty girls you'll get used to it and realize they're just girls.
>>23032239
Hey girl hey. You bi? I'm a grey-A girl who wants the same as you.
I have a sort of situation like that now, but it does involve sex. Kinky fwb.
What would you want to do? Impact play? Choking? Bondage?
>>23032078
Yes
Girls: if you had to rate the following traits in a guy from worst (= biggest turn off) to less-bad (= bearable), what would be your personal rank?
1. lack of self-esteem/self-confidence
2. physical defects (like back acne)
3. not-that-tall
4. not that good in bad (due to very little experience)
5. reasonable amount of body hair (chest, back etc)
6. this thing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fissured_tongue
>>23021186
When it is real squirting it is just one big "goosh" that comes out of the vagina for a brief moment. Imagine if you just slightly turned a faucet on for a second. It's not that consistent stream that you see all the time in porn.
Girls, how do I go about getting my gf to send me nudes? We don't see each other that often but I'm not sure how to approach the subject.
>>23034015
1
2 (back acne isnt that bad tbqh)
6 (also not a big deal, though it can be weird in bed)
the other are pretty irrelevant for me
>>23023701
I don't want children. Expensive little shits.
>>23034025
send her nudes? show her you trust her with said pics
Girls, is it true that if you're having a tricky shit, you can slip a couple of fingers in your vadge and ease it on its way manually?
>>23034184
Just randomly out of the blue?
>>23021186
Hard to tell.
>>23021188
I definitely enjoy it. It's pretty fun to try to figure out what feels best for him, how I can tease him, etc. I'm not great at other aspects of sex, so by sucking cock really well I feel like I can compensate for other things.
>>23021314
That seems like she was just being friendly. I think flirtatious girls act in a flirty way regardless of how many people are around - she will interact with a large crowd in a flirtatious manor. But if a girl is flirting with you, her mannerisms will be directed at just one person.
>>23021450
Hi, I'm a straight girl on soc.
>>23021559
I'm not into that because I like my men to be big and hairy rather than soft and pretty. That said, if a man was into something else that's typically considered "girly/feminine" (say crafts, chick flicks, fashion) I would absolutely encourage that.
>>23021579
Definitely not undatable and you're probably not retarded, anon.
>>23021616
Yes, they're slightly buoyant. My boobs tend to be a bit saggy, but they're much more perky in the water. And I don't think that's a real thing.
>>23023688
To be honest
I met her by chance, this is a long story so strap in
I'd just come home from overseas
Met a buddy for a beer I grabbed two beers and stuffed them inside my jacket
and went out
Met my buddy outside the bar, he was stood talking to a guy, asked if either one has a bottle opener, the stranger turned out to be a member of bar staff who piloted said I wasn't going to be let inside smuggling beer so I should drink them here or be barred.
My buddy called up a girl who lived nearby. She was the quietest person I'd ever seen, dressed kinda miss matched.
We sat in the kitchen awkwardly, I swiftly downed both bottles and let out the most horrendous belch (God knows why I had the illmanners to do that)
and headed out saying my farewells.
Few days later we were dating, to this day I still can't figure out what was so attractive about that whole situation.
We're no longer together, she's marrying some lesbian conceptual theatre student
from Florida, I'm sat drinking beer and missing New Orleans...
Life paths Man... Life paths
>>23021634
Yes, 6 is fine. Really anything 5 and up is good for me. Thickness definitely counts too. A thick 6 inches is much better than a skinny 8
>>23023701
I'd say it's becoming more and more common. I personally think having kids is really wasteful and it just causes unnecessary stress on my body and in my life. I may adopt children someday because it's not like I'd be bringing new life into this fucked up world but rather making the most of what already exists.
>>23023768
I gotchu bby
>>23029023
That's really tricky. I say just be as open as possible. That's how I'd want someone to be with me.
>>23032160
no
>>23032297
toys toys toys. she'll thank you for it.
>>23034015
>worst
1
6
4
3
2
5
>bearable
>>23034213
wut
Grills, Why is it so hard to come off as thirsty when flirting? What can you do to prevent this?
>>23034320
I second the toys
>>23032297
Spicing things up is always a safe bet, expanding your horizons on this front always keeps sex fun and interesting.
Baby steps
I'm opening the floor to everyone
If your gf/bf told you they were headed on a holiday to Las Vegas with their friends for 7 days
They all swore to not contact there partners over the week.
Your relationship is good at home and you've not been arguing.
How would you react?
(I'm asking because of one of the group is joining for the first time she is anxious of backlash)
>>23034359
Is it implicitly a "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" thing where you're all gonna screw each other like rabbits and do cocaine or are you just friends going off to party.
>>23034369
It's generally drinking, gambling, trigger time on the range, and strippers
There's no real risk of hookups as wedding rings are on at all times.
Drugs are negotiable but I haven't done any in years
>>23034380
As a guy I'd be okay with it desu.
>>23034369
Although we work hard and it's a way we blow off steam. It's never said "whivsiv" but no body talks about it and any incriminating videos or photos are censored out by the group
Women take one look at me and run the other way like i have a third eye and a tail or something
What gives?
>>23034232
it really depends on the mood and who your gf is, maybe not full nude, just just a good pic of yourself and tell her you miss her?
>>23034359
>Vegas for 7 days, radio silence
My gf knows I wouldn't tolerate that, and would never ask.
truestory.jpeg
>>23034433
You look like a terrorist.
>>23034442
Would never ask because?
>>23034448
Sorry, I meant that she would never ask because
I don't date girls who would go to a place like Vegas for 7 days with no contact, and
My current gf would I wouldn't be okay with her going anyway :D
>>23034467
What boring girls you must date.
>>23034488
>not dating a complete piece of trash is boring
>>23034467
Fair enough
>>23034433
You look like you may carry yourself like a pussy, body language is a good indicator of someone.
If you look like a pushover or wander around like sloth from the goonies I will walk away with out any worry of offending you or hurting your pride.
Present yourself with confidence, smile more and be pleasant to talk to, have someone engaging and innocent to talk about.
I am not here to tell people my age, job or favourite colour.
>>23034501
Wow
The fuck man?
>>23034520
Struck a cord?
>>23034538
Nazi punk fuck off.
There's nothing I find more disgusting than neo-reactionaries.
>>23034538
Just seems a little extreme considering 4 out of 6 of the people I go with have good jobs and are reasonably well rounded people.
I know Lucy lovehandles broke your heart but holy shit your a judgmental fuck
No wonder (insert persons name here)
was worried about her boyfriends reaction when you have an adverse reaction like that.
Go see a counsellor man, I pray for you
>>23034558
>you are nadsi
No
>>23034566
>going to Vegas for a week and no contact
I wouldn't blame him for not liking it regardless of how "well rounded" the group is
>>23034488
I date good girls who are exciting in their own ways. If your definition of excitement is a trashy party girl, you're welcome to those types of girl.
>>23034587
Still failing to see how not having my phone handcuffed to my wrist is grounds for being a scumbag
Aren't you harbouring something unhealthy as fuck in regards to your interpretation.
I get why the other guy wasn't too thrilled, but at the least he's open to the idea
Much like >>23034558
I could take a stab that you're a loner or something, probably no fire in your stomach to compete or succeed. I sorry for you on that respect, you should probably be more open to others they may in turn like you more and not avoid you.
>>23034611
>stop disliking what I like, you're mentally ill if you don't
The only Nazi here is you
>>23034632
I'd prefer empathy rather than branding people as scum, it's pretty insulting.
You can like what ever you want but don't judge me on my vices kid
>>23034632
And me, in that case desu.
Do you even know what a "trashy party girl" is? I don't think you've ever met one. Those are the ones where the eyes are dull and blank because they've done ever drug under the sun since they where 12 and they're so emotionally fragile that they run away when you tell them that fucking them right now would perhaps not be appropriate.
>>23034658
No I think I'll judge whoever I want.
>muh empathy
You aren't trying to be any better so there's no reason to have any empathy for your "struggle"
>>23034666
>I don't think you've ever met one.
Got a family full of them
>>23034666
Ok I laughed at that description
What about dresses in her college sweats 4 years after graduating and still refers to her friends as "besties" or her "bitches"
>>23034689
Then clearly you're trying too hard to distance yourself from your arsenic-and-old-lace style relatives. There's nothing in common between those and a group of adults with cash going off to Vegas for some expensive fun.
>>23034689
That explains why your an asshole
>got a family full
Perceives the world to be full of them
Still maybe a few therapy sessions might help
>>23034702
Yes I'm sure they're going to Vegas to have some nice family fun at the movies.
And I'm not the one who mentioned "trashy party girls". That would be the anon >>23034611 claims was open to the idea.
>>23034708
>Perceives the world to be full of them
No, just the ones who are. Like you and your group.
>You're mentally ill if you aren't nice to me ;_;
Grow up family
>>23034789
Not going Vegas, not seeing the families at the poolside assuming it's like the movie you saw that one time
Me and my group being what? It was pretty solidly implied that we are "party people"
>>23034897
And I "pretty solidly implied" that "party people" are trash and there's nothing wrong with not wanting to date them because that doesn't mean the people you do date are boring fucks. I'm sorry you fags can't stand the thought of people thinking differently than you and have to cry Nazi when they do.
>>23033252
>I personally love sucking cock. But only with those I'm intimate with.
really? you don't suck strangers in the bus stop off?
>>23034971
kek
>>23034038
>>23034320
I see, I get how lack of self-confidence is the biggest problem here (among others).
(guys/girls) any idea how to work on that?
>>23023703
lül
>>23034038
I have really bad acne scars on my back, that made me feel a little better, lets hope more people dont think that thats bad.
>>23034989
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-T-S2m6kRwY just listen to motivational tapes desu~
>>23023688
Met my boyfriend on /soc/ actually.
>>23034989
Break down what is the root of the poor confidence, set monthly goals which you will stick to. Baby steps first
Build a routine and healthy diet
Motivational speeches are part of my morning routine
This might be a start to the mental preparation
http://youtu.be/E4d6W8Y7uJU
For the femanons (and everyone I guess)
>in a 11 year relationship since high scholl
>she left me 6 months ago
>shes still on the fence about coming back or moving on
>im giving her space while working my ass off to make enough money to get us both back on our feet
>ive changed all the bad parts of my life around for her (working out regularly/making bank at new job/kicked my laziness to the curb)
But after changing everything that made her breakdown and leave she's still so cold and content with just being friends. She literally would've killed for me and she loved nothing more than making me happy (vice versa). She begged me to propose for years and i regret not doing it now.
Any suggestions? Should I press more, leave her alone more?
>>23033729
this
notice how there aren't any questions by girls here.
>>23035179
They already know everything, they read Cosmo after all.
(Do girls actually do this, the view they give of men is pretty funny desu)
>>23035203
men do it too, we are just clay molded by a consumerist society.
That's why the real hotness is in the brain. Find a girl who thinks and you 'll be set: sex, discussion, fun, all the true love.
Be an individual.
>>23035018
That didn't work at all. Never seen motivational videos work that way.
I tried with motivational video for working out, but they never really even made me get out of the bed in the morning. If I got up and went working out was because I wanted to, I forced myself to do it.
>>23035069
I'm afraid this didn't work at all either.
He bases his assumptions on the fact that the 20 dollars bill is worth 20 dollars because some "authority" higher than "us" gave it its value. And so has been done to use.
Problem is, that I don't believe in any authority, so, for me, there's nobody who gave "us" value. Which disproves his whole point, unfortunately.
> set monthly goals which you will stick to.
For instance? What kind of goals? Because I really don't see how I could set "confidence" monthly goals :/
> Build a routine and a healthy diet
I have a routine and I follow quite a healthy diet usually. When it's not too cold or too rainy outside I also go to the park to workout/run.
>>23035108
Leave it be man. It's been 6 months. I understand it's hard to let things go after 11 years, but such is life. You're supposed to improve for yourself, not for anyone else.
>>23034989
to be honest, if you can stomach it, do something involving theatre/public speech. Whether that's stand-up, improv, sketches, or anything else. It really helps you build self-confidence and helps project it even before you start talking to a girl if she sees you perform.
So women of /soc/, how do I get close to a woman? Let's say I go on a date with someone for the first time, what the hell do I say. I normally ask the normal stuff like where you work and shit like that, but I feel like we never get intimate and it ends up like a conversation with a person I work with. Usually we have nothing bad to say about each other, but don't really want to go on a second date. Just nothing happens. Pls help
Why are girls so mean to me?
>>23035298
Well, the fact is that I don't think I would have much problems in doing a public speech (you know, like giving a TED talk or some shit like that).
I also don't think I would have too many problems in talking to girls (unless empty-brained supermodel-like. I would have problems talking with 'em). I mean, I see that when I do talk with girls I lean towards being clumsy and slightly awkward (or at least this is the feeling I get), but I don't have problems in doing it.
I just think I am shit of the worst king and that I'm not worth anything. I don't know if that makes any sense.
For both m & f
Would you date someone with a std
>>23035387
Yeah
>>23035373
If you think that you're a piece of shit and you think you can do things with public speech without coming across as contrived/ not doing your own thing, you'd be gravely mistaken.
>>23035387
It depends on what kind of STD.
>>23035398
Yeah, I know it must sound extremely contrived and non-sensical, but what do you mean with "not doing my own thing"?
>>23035411
Hpv
>>23035436
as in not coming up with something original. Usually, to sell an idea or a concept you need to display a certain amount of faith in it. That's hard to come by if you don't believe in your own self-worth.
>>23035458
I know, in fact, for example, I keep noticing that I tend not to accept or believe the compliments I receive. It's always a "thanks, but I think you are wrong".
>>23035478
That's fine. The point is talking about something you're passionate about. Your passion affords you confidence, which then helps you overall with self-worth.
Cologne, yes or no? I've had mixed reactions and I'm confused as fuck. No, I don't empty the bottle but it's cologne it's meant to smell strong. Also is it weird that I go for tobacco scented stuff despite not smoking anything ever?
>>23035530
Depends on the girl, really. Some girls like certain scents others don't. You just gonna have to wing it.
Questions for males!
1. Thoughts on Stretch Marks? And not like, "Oh there's a few on her booty", I'm talking noticeable stretch marks on her stomach, arms, booty, etc.
2. Would you date a girl who has fucked guys before, but has NEVER been in a relationship?
Assuming she's like ~25 years old.
>>23035530
>cologne it's meant to smell strong
>i go for tobacco scented stuff
1. no it isnt, its meant to be subtle
2. smelling like tobacco is unbelievably unattractive
question for the females...
what body part on guys do you find the most attractive? a guy with nice arms? a defined back? big shoulders?
>>23035544
>noticeable
how bad are we talking here? I don't think I can tell you without knowing how bad it is, but generally it's not a big deal, provided there's not an obscene unsightly amount of them.
>>23035544
1. I'm not going to lie, I find stretch marks unappealing. Its not really that big of a deal though. I'd still date a girl with stretch marks, in fact I have.
2. I suppose that depends on how many guys you have fucked....
>>23029587
Faggots and speshul snowflakes are insecure narcissistic losers desperate for validation online, who would have guessed:?
>>23034380
>There's no real risk of hookups as wedding rings are on at all times.
Is this what dumb sluts actually believe?
>>23035594
oh, forgot your second question. Depends on the sort of impression I get from you as a person tbqh.
>>23035544
So would you say I'm better off with just feint body spray after a shower? And to answer your question, really depends on the amount, contrast to skin etc. Generally I can't really see it being a deal breaker. Or something that would make an attractive instantly unattractive.
>2. Would you date a girl who has fucked guys before, but has NEVER been in a relationship?
Assuming she's like ~25 years old.
Depends on number. Less than 3, sure. More than I personally wouldn't unless (srs) she's like a reformed hoe that has found light. Then again, I might be extreme I don't know.
>>23035548
>1. no it isnt, its meant to be subtle
No matter how little I use, once you get close enough it smells really strong. You won't smell anything at all, go in for a hug and suddenly you're inhaling concentrated scents and alcohol. Especially with citric stuff.
>>23034558
You'll be the FIRST to die on the day of the rope faggot.
>>23035544
>1. Thoughts on Stretch Marks? And not like, "Oh there's a few on her booty", I'm talking noticeable stretch marks on her stomach, arms, booty, etc.
I personally don't mind, most people have stretch marks.
>2. Would you date a girl who has fucked guys before, but has NEVER been in a relationship? Assuming she's like ~25 years old.
Nope. To have never dated by 25 but fucked a lot of different makes me doubt any possibility of being able to stay with one person.
>>23035627
>day of the rope
mark your calendars everybody. Can we do it after the 21st of June though? I like long days and summer solstices and that would be a real bummer.
>>23035582
Face is almost always the most important part of a guy.
Women don't care as much about bods as men do, remember that.
But for the sake of the question, I know a lot of girls who like back and shoulders. I couldn't care less.
>>23035594
>Obscene, unsightly amount of them.
Does the pic have too much?
>>23035595
I haven't, but a lot of *male* friends say to just go on /soc/ and try to get a hook up because I'm "in desperate need of dick".
But I'm like, yo... No one would date me if I did fucked guys without dating anyone.
>>23035621
Oh, okay. I guess that's fair...
>>23035625
>reformed hoe
kek-alicious. But yea, I mean... It should be subtle that way if they like it, they'll want to be closer to you, if you know what I mean ;3
>>23035642
Reasonable.
Do women actually like it when dudes thrust circularly during sex? I always thought they didn't so I never tried it. I'm curious though.
>>23035645
>stretch marks
I've seen worse, wouldn't be a dealbreaker, no.
>I guess that's fair
that being said, you're obviously entitled to pass the same sort of judgement.
>>23035645
>I haven't, but a lot of *male* friends say to just go on /soc/ and try to get a hook up because I'm "in desperate need of dick".
Why aren't they helping out? More importantly, people irl know you go on 4chan? Madness. I'll never understand how people can be that close to each other to let 'em know about their degenerate browsing habits. Also pic isn't that bad because of the skin colour contrast imho.
>>23035691
They're interwebz friends. They live on the other side of the country.
Yeah, but I don't have that skin color and in certain lights, it's p. prominent.
>>23035708
>They're interwebz friends
That's a little better I guess, still don't think I could confess it to people I play league or whatever else with. My housemate browses 4chan shamelessly and I feign ignorance every time he brings it up. Taking this secret to the grave.
>>23035760
Why do you want to live that?
Fuck it bro! You guys could go back to back when browsing /gif/ or /d/ or whatever lol.
But seriously, I dream of the day I meet someone that browses 4chan irl. It seems like it could be a fun time.
>>23035773
>You guys could go back to back when browsing /gif/ or /d/ or whatever lol.
Guilty of sometimes browsing both boards but holy shit. Would NOT want to get caught browsing /d/. I genuinely think I'd rather smash my laptop.
>But seriously, I dream of the day I meet someone that browses 4chan irl. It seems like it could be a fun time.
Dunno, highly depends on the board imo. I think /tv/ and /v/ seem most acceptable
>>23035801
Psssh, I'd openly talk about me browsing /gif/ and /fit/. idgaf, I like jiggly asses and sound webm's are a gift from heaven.
Oh, here's another question for guys, just to stay on topic.
Does any guy have a reason why guys like long hair? I can't grow long hair or if I did, it'd be a big hassle to take care of.
Am I fucked for having short hair? Should I just
buckle down and spend >$100 every 3 months for a weave?
>>23035852
>/fit/
On second thought, fit would be fucking funny but again highly dependant on board I guess. /pol/ would be awkward as fuck because [spoiler] I'm black [/spoiler].
>>23035852
>Does any guy have a reason why guys like long hair?
Because I personally see it as feminine.
>Am I fucked for having short hair?
Depends on the specific hairstyle and person. For the most part though, If I'm being honest, I think 75% of girls with short hair would look better with long hair.
>Should I just buckle down and spend >$100 every 3 months for a weave?
Unpopular opinion but unless you can actually grow it out, yeah. Do it if you can afford it. Granted I'm very ignorant when it comes to weaves and its downsides but I think they look good most of the time. Then again, I genuinely didn't know what they were until I was embarrassingly old.
>>23035904
/fit/ is a sister board of /pol/ so... yea...
But weaves are honestly not too bad for your hair, so long as you take care of your hair and take out your weave every month or 3months, Idk.
I have a bit of a round face, so long hair is better but... Negro hair. And I'm black mixed with blacker, so I got dat turrible 4c nappy ass hair.
>>23035852
-It looks so nice and soft
-Women have pheromones in their hair
-Sexual dimorphism. Historically, men cut their hair short so it wouldn't get grabbed in war or in the way on a hunt. Because women didn't have to and kept theirs long, this became a trait that mentally signified "female" in our brains. It's different from what guys do, which makes it exotic and attractive.
>>23035929
>But weaves are honestly not too bad for your hair
Then fuck it, go for it. I know there seems to be a lot of hate towards weaves from other women but I say go for it. Besides box braids or whatever they're called is like the hottest shit ever.
>4c nappy ass hair
I don't really understand desu. Does it like just stop growing or does it get really hard to maintain you just don't bother with it? I've grown my hair out for like a year and 2-3 months. It just kept growing albeit slower since I literally never took care of it. What stops some girls from doing the same (except the not giving a fuck about care part)?
>>23035852
>Does any guy have a reason why guys like long hair? I can't grow long hair or if I did, it'd be a big hassle to take care of.
I'd like to say I'm indifferent but I honestly prefer short hair, so I guess I just don't know.
>Am I fucked for having short hair?
I personally find short hair very attractive, so don't worry about it. Like most things it comes down to the personal preference.
>>23036000
Eh, kind of? I don't go that extra mile of putting oil in my hair at night, but I still comb it out and twist it into a protective-ish style.
Still doesn't grow q.q
>>23036005
Mhm. I personally like curvy girls with short hair. Especially fat titties and short hair
-shudder- :3
Girls: How should a guy open up a conversation with a girl like at a mall or event? What are some things he should say, or to seem as not nervous or desperate?
If a girl is really ugly (fat, asymmetrical face) but has an awesome personality, will it make her date worthy?
>>23036020
If you can get it to shoulder length I wouldn't really worry about it. If not I think weave is the best path.
Also pro tip: don't get coloured weave. Granted I've only ever seen like 4-5 irl but they all looked horrible. I think medium length black weave is the best.
>>23036064
Why would you ask a girl that? That seems like something you'd as your bros, but...
If you dig her and are not too put off by her appearance, go for it.
Just ask yourself, "Can I kiss her?", "Can I call her beautiful genuinely?", "Can I get hard when seeing her naked?", etc.
>>23036039
You can start with a lot of things. Like, if you notice a girl has a video game shirt, you can talk about that with her. Or you can talk about the event with her or something like that...
idk, girls who aren't cunts aren't going to give you a hard time if you just seem genuine and are not an ass/perv/creep/etc.
>>23036071
Alright, thank ya~
>>23036117
Im asking guys.
It's ask the opposite gender.
>>23036187
oh, I thought a guy was asking if he had a girl he was digging, but wasn't that cute. Okay, sorry~ <3
>>23035645
I don't like stretch marks, but having some is not that much of a turn-off to matter.
But, desu, the picture you posted is kind of hot, I don't know if it's the skincolor or the pattern, but if they look like that it would even be a turn-on for me...
>>23035852
Long hair is great, but so is short hair, it doesn't really matter to me. I just prefer it to be straight and soft, I love running my hands through hair, so shit like corn rows or dreads and hairstyles like that are a big no-no.
Other than that, just rock what kind of style fits you and is possible for you, don't waste hundreds of $ unless you really like it.
>>23036064
If she is really ugly in my eyes, I wouldn't date her. I would be down for being friends with pleasure, but when it comes to dates (relationships) I need to be attracted to her both physically and mentally.
If you are talking about online/app dating: If she were living close to me or in the same town I would probably go out with her once and see if we hit it off, but tell her I'm not interested in a relationship with her but down for being friends.
What is a woman's biggest turn off?
>>23036467
inb4 lack of confidence
>>23036467
When guys are super full of themselves or when they while about everything without trying to fix the problem.
Femboy here who wants to ask for advice with fashion / makeup, any femanons want to help? I actually have a legit genuine interest in feminine stuff that isn't (completely) a fetish and a lot of my old help has either left my life or has been like "lol figure it out yourself".
>>23021186
no
>>23021188
i love sucking dick and can get really turned on by it, it just depends on how attracted i am to the guy. if you have to ask for it...i'm probably not that into it
>>23021314
okay so i've been accused of "flirting w everyone" by ex-boyfriends. complimenting people, making eye contact (because women are subservient and should never meet anyone but their husband's gaze i guess), fucking smiling at people. i'm just a warm, friendly person. i like making people feel good about themselves. like when i go to work, i'm lavishing my coworkers with compliments and "i love you"s and whatnot. if i am flirting, though, i'll definitely be more sexual and suggestive than if i'm just being nice. especially when it comes to body language. boys don't really pay attention to subtle shit like this, but if she tries to get physically close to you when she talks to you, is giving you the most of her attention in groups, etc - she's probably into you. there's this guy at work i like who works in a different department but i make excuses to go back there to talk to him all the time! and like if he's standing somewhere and i need to get by, i'll like try to brush past him. or i'll try to be all sexy if he's around (which probably looks really stupid, ha) he's in management so i'm a lil too scared to flirt w him more openly than that tho. i would say if you have a hunch, try to reciprocate and elevate the flirtation a little bit and gauge her response.
>>23021559
i'm not *into* in the sense that guys crossdressing brings me any satisfaction, sexual or otherwise, but if it's something that was important to someone i cared about i would encourage it. i dated a guy who was genderfluid and it wasn't a big deal (i'm bi). i have a manager who frequently wears women's clothes and i'm always like "this would look great on you!" he and i both enjoy the reaction it incites in other people, honestly, haha.
>>23021579
no one gives a shit about your myer-briggs except autists
>>23021616
boobs are fatty tissue, so no they don't float. never had sand in my pussy
>>23021634
the size of your dick is fine, your self-esteem issues not so much
>>23021635
>implying you have an objective enough view of yourself to definitively decide you are not creepy
>>23023688
all the guys i've dated in the past year i met on tinder or okc honestly
>>23023701
i don't know how common it is, but i personally don't want them and i know others who don't so i don't think it's particularly uncommon
>>23023791
i wouldn't make a move because you're just enabling them to continue to not deal w their problems. this guy i worked w liked me a lot and was super miserable in his relationship (living with this girl). he wanted me super bad but i told him he'd have to actually get out of his relationship first. and i think it kind of pushed him to get out of his relationship, which was the best thing for himself regardless of what happened to us after. you can be a positive influence on a person or you can take advantage of their situation, up to you
>>23027061
>>23027272
i do! i'm petite and i like skinny or stocky dudes (universally tall)
>>23029023
just be clear you aren't looking for anything serious. i've never had an issue regarding initial expectations using that terminology. referring to it as fwb is kind of unclassy to me, like i wouldn't want to be labelled that way personally because it sounds like "i'm using you for sex"
>>23032160
i do, but i think i have a higher sex drive than a lot of women
Question for Guys:
I've had several dates where things went great and we got along fine and they even said they want to hang out again. But then they either ignore me or suddenly theyre way too busy to come over. Whats the deal?
>>23038081
Can you give us a little to go on? Something like appearance, interests, where you went on the date, how you meet them, what happened on the date etc.
>>23034015
>>23034015
ok, that last thing is pretty gross ngl. "physical defects" is pretty vague, tho. what some people think of as defects don't bother other people, or are even favored by others. your example is not really a big deal for me unless it was really, really bad. height isn't a big deal unless you make it one (although being tall is certainly more attractive than not being tall, you aren't uglier if you're not tall. make sense?) being bad in bed is pretty awful, but the good thing is that if you're not a dick most girls are willing to help you get better (if she's invested in you at all). body hair is sexy af to me so that one is irrelevant. lack of self-esteem is probably the biggest issue, but it depends on the severity. if you're otherwise perfect and not awkward as fuck, it's probably within the range of understandable. if you're ridiculously codependent and insecure, then that's probably the biggest obstacle in your way of a real relationship
>>23034025
send her sexy texts/pics, turn her on, tell her how bad you want her, ask her to show you how wet she is, etc. not that difficult.
>>23035203
cosmo is good entertainment only if you wanna laugh at how completely fucking insane it is. related: http://www.nerve.com/advice/ridiculous-tips/the-best-of-ridiculous-tips-for-a-miserable-sex-life-emcosmopolitan-em-edition
>>23035218
>That's why the real hotness is in the brain. Find a girl who thinks and you 'll be set: sex, discussion, fun, all the true love.
Be an individual.
this
>>23035301
be interested in her on a deeper level. if you want to be close to someone, you actually have to want to and make an effort to get close to them. ask her about her experiences or what she feels/think about certain things
>>23035355
either you're mean to them, or you're a pitiful creep who gets too attached so they have to be mean so you take the hint. alternately you just have a victim complex and nobody is actually mean to you, you're just entitled
How childish are love letters? I tend to get in my feels fairly easy late at night. Several times I've started hand writing a love letter. I'll literally rewrite it 15+ times until I think it's perfect. I go to sleep, wake up next morning and bin it or burn it. Last night I did the same thing for the
5th-ish time. I feel like it's too corny and that she'd literally just laugh and tease while reading it. I don't think she'd mean harm but I don't think I can overcome the embarrassment. I want to write her a letter because I've never told my GF I loved her in a serious manner without playing around, being sarcastic or during a blowjob. I've been with her for over a year. Is that weird?
>>23035530
tobacco doesn't smell good, and you shouldn't be overpowering. that being said, smelling good is extremely attractive. however, what smells good is a matter of personal preference
>>23035582
face (esp lips and eyes), hands, back (incl shoulders) + tummy
in that order
>>23035667
not a fan myself
>>23036467
being a bad person
>>23038164
WAIT I FORGOT BUTT, should be after hands top kek
>>23038161
love letters are cute and sentimental. if you feel most comfortable writing, and your girlfriend makes fun of something heartfelt you gave her, i think you should reevaluate your relationship. i wrote and received love letters and found them very endearing and held onto them for a long time. plus your partner should always be supportive of the things that make you feel good. that being said, rewriting it 15 times is a little obsessive and extreme in my opinion and shows insecurity and self-doubt
>>23038100
I meet my dates online
On one date we went to the arcade and we had fun. We made out a little after he dropped me off. We meet up the next day at my place. We watch movies and smoke weed and end up having sex. We both enjoyed it and we cuddled and talked for a while before he had to go. He gave me lots of kisses before he left. 2 days later i ask i we could meet up again and he says hes busy. Ok understandable. But then he stops replying completely the next day and his dating profile is deleted.
On another date with a different dude, we went to a pub for drinks and made conversation. After a bit, we go to his place and smoke and talk more. After a while we had sex and had a good time. I txted him the next day asking if he would want hang out another time. He replied "Of course :)" but then he ignored my texts. He's messaged me recently and everytime we make plans to meet up he cancels last minute or doesnt call.
The way they behave towards me doesnt feel like they wanted one night stands but i dont fucking know
>>23038222
Try holding off on sex for a few dates. Having it that early on (such as the next day or the same night as the first date) kind of gives off the one night stand impression. Though with that first one, I get the impression that he was just trying things out and was using the internet just to get a one night stand.
Just my two cents worth though.
>>23038188
>your girlfriend makes fun of something heartfelt you gave her
That's the thing, I don't think she'd make fun of it just to fuck with me. It's more of her genuinely thinking it's corny and accidentally showing how she feels about it. I could show up to her with a straight face, hand it to her and make her read it. She'd probably be a lot more wary of what she says and tell me what I want to hear. That's the thing though, I want her sincere opinion on the contents and the letter itself. Forgot to state my age earlier but we're 22. This isn't high school or anything.
> insecurity and self-doubt
two fat checks
>>23036467
desperation
>>23033252
I can't say it makes me personally feel inferior, but I'd imagine a clone-a-willy might make him feel better if it does. Failing that, get him a toy.
>>23035852
Long hair is something I prefer, and I'm not one for much of any preferences when it comes to women aside from not massively overweight, or stupid. I appreciate just about everything, but long hair is like the cherry on top. Most girls with short hair would look better with long hair.
Anyways to answer why, it has a bunch of factors. Long hair shits out nice smells and all that. But the key evolutionary factor is that potential mates that can grow out hair have been healthy long enough to have that hair. If you are stressed in your life, your hair has a harder time growing out. If you're starving, it falls out. If you're totally crazy, growing hair is difficult. It's a giant indicator of stability.
If you can grow your hair to your shoulders you should be in great shape. If you can do longer, bonus. If you can't grow it even that long, make what you grow look good. Don't wear a weave or extensions, and don't buzz parts of it randomly.
>>23036000
If you aren't taking care of your hair at all, its going to be all frizz and fray.
>>23036064
How fat are we talking? There is a line, but if you're not obese its hard to be over it. Being very fat affects your personality a bit, and it's not something I want to gamble my time on, just like I wouldn't put any time into a stick of a person. If you are very, very overweight, focus on yourself before you focus on finding a partner.
Intelligence and personality will make up for many "shortcomings" but there should be some physical attraction. How you carry yourself, posture, demeanor, these will affect your physical appearance however.
Most women aren't ugly even if they think they are. Post a better picture if you'd like a better answer.
>>23038222
Lots of guys use dating as a way to hook up. I'm shit at Internet dating though.
Ladies:
I asked the girl I liked out on a date about a year ago, and she accepted, but before we even went out, I got cold feet and canceled. The reason being I got some particularly bad news that week that made me realize I wasn't ready for a relationship. I told her as much up front, but I felt like shit for doing it regardless.
Here we are over a year later, and I still cannot stop thinking about this girl.
I want to ask her out on a date again. Even if its not a real date, just sitting down together and holding a conversation we could have had over a year ago would be enough.
Tell me straight, ladies. Should I fuck right off or hit her up?
>>23038518
It sounds romantic somehow, so I say go for it. You'll regret letting it go if you don't.
>>23038518
always worth a shot, m8
>>23036064
if that's your face I wouldn't worry about it. As to how fat is the limit for me personally, see>>23029282.
As for personality, it definitely helps, especially for long term dating; I'd much rather have someone who's chubby and has an actual personality as opposed to someone who's legitimately hot but somewhat braindead.
>>23038222
they both were one night stands anon. Odds are, people will very rarely be open about simply wanting one, so I wouldn't be surprised.
What are some clues a girl might be a virgin. Social things.
>>23028287
Posting from phone so not going to add pictures - "too small" for me is usually eating disorder kind of stuff. I prefer very petite women, but not a fan of people pursuing it unhealthily. "Too large" is .. Hard, because I don't think there's a cut and paste rule. I think once people start having fat rolls or their skin starts to overly hang from them I become .. Less than thrilled. I've dated and slept with some larger women, but they were just consistently larger - think like beefy guys; they just were built solid.
I am entirely fine with hourglass. If your clothing is hanging off you it can look like you're heavier than you are, but a lot of women's clothing shapes to the body closely.
Not my ideal body type though. But my tastes are just my tastes. I like very Nordic features - delicate bone structure with prominent cheek bones / jawline / whatever have you. I date a lot of very very very very petite tiny ladies, or tall and incredibly slim women.
>>23029165
If you're talking about urethral squirting, it's always from the bladder. Just tends to be incredibly diluted.
>>23029587
Shrug. There will always be straight men and women here.
>>23032195
You may have done something wrong. Or they were uncomfortable. Or they were busy. Uncomfortable sounds like most likely - what context is this in?
>>23032239
No sex but kinky bdsm? So .. Like you want a Dom but no sex? That's pretty common in the kink community actually. Go for it. But if you're outside the kink community could be harder.
>>23032334
What lube are you using? And there's nothing wrong with toys dude. Use em. Swan wand is fucking glorious and my current top recommendation.
>>23033252
Just will skip the actual questions because I don't give a shit about any of that. I have an assortment of toys to use on my partners myself, and good toys are expensive. I like toys. Bring toys out. If you don't have toys I'll probably take you toy shopping at some point.
>>23034022
There's a lot of fucking variations of squirting. You can have urethral squirting, or you can have "gushing" like you're referring to. I've had partners that put a lot of porn squirters to shame.
>>23034329
Because you're fucking thirsty. Don't make a big deal out of it and just treat it as a fun diversion with no expectations behind it.
>>23034359
Uh I wouldn't give a shit, really. I would be somewhat disappointed I wouldn't be able to hear updates over the week because I like knowing what's going on in my partners lives, but understand the idea.
Granted I'm also non monogamous soooooo.
>>23035283
Confidence is comfort with yourself and self assurance in situations. Do things that make you feel like you have intrinsic value - pursue hobbies, careers, whatever of the sort. Drown out the opinions of others with your own comfort. Shrug.
>>23035387
Depends on STI. But yeah, probably. I had a previous partner who had HSV, but because I knew about it beforehand we just went absurd with levels of protection. HIV for example is a bit of a different deal and would freak me out, but the vast majority of stuff is easily fixed or inconsequential.
>>23035530
Cologne is good. But get good quality cologne that compliments your natural scent, and apply it properly. No fucking dousing yourself.
>>23035544
I don't care about stretch marks. They aren't attractive but they are also meaningless.
I would be curious why she never dated, and would poke into that for potential red flags. Outside of that don't give a shit.
>>23035625
Body spray is shit. And if your cologne is over powering you're either applying it wrong, or its shit. I spray lightly to inside of each wrist, then press to relevant side of neck (press, no rubbing), then a faint spray base of throat. Absolutely fucking no more.
If your cologne over powers it's cheap or over applied.
>>23035852
I am fine with short hair. For a long time all of my partners had short hair, and that's only kind of coming out of that trend over the last bit. Just have a haircut that compliments your look / style / face / whatever.
Long hair is just viewed to be one of those feminine things, socially. It's why my slighter / smaller dude friends with long hair get hit on dudes if their back is to them. It's fucking weird as hell.
>>23036064
"Date worthy" is a super awkward term. If I find someone attractive physically and mentally, she's date worthy. That's .. All.
>>23038081
Immature dudes? They are lying? They get distracted? They weren't that interested? Something went really fucked up?
Only people I've ever ghosted on have made me insanely uncomfortable and I don't want to get into explaining it.
>>23038518
you should go for it. explain why you cancelled and who knows, she could accept again! even if she doesnt, youll have closure
guys, do stretch marks bother you?
>>23036064
Asymmetrical face is alright unless it's comedic ugly. Fat is unacceptable though and suggests a horrible personality as well if you can't play the "muh genetics" card.
apparently when i wear glasses like pic related, i look like guy in pic related.
This a compliment? Women keep telling me i look good in glasses...
>>23040450
>women keep telling me i look good in glasses
>is it a compliment?
are you autistic?
>>23032239
Not that hard. I'll have sex with any girl that meets three criteria: physically attractive; not a bitch; clean
>>23033252
No, but if any of your toys had ever been used by a previous partner I would prefer not to handle them.
>>23035387
Depends, HIV: no; herpes: don't love it but I can overlook it; crabs: whatever; hpv: I'd just vaccinate
>>23035544
1: Had a gf for 2 years with serious stretch marks on her breasts, didn't care
2: Yes
>>23035852
The hair thing is all in the face, your hair should effectively frame and compliment it so it depends on the person, of course it's not going to make a large difference in the long run.
>>23036064
One man's trash is another man's treasure. No woman is truly universally unattractive.
>>23038081
>>23038222
You found an asshole.
>>23038161
If she doesn't respect you enough to enjoy or at least appreciate your love-letters, she's not worth keeping. They seem childish because they're more common among youth than adults, but this practice can be any combination of sweet, titillating, or loving to the appropriate recipient. TL,DR: Go for it! Write and SEND!
>>23039546
Virgins act just like other people, you'd have to ask.
For femanon:
How much would you divulge about previous relationships on a first date if asked?
Open question:
Why is talking about previous relationships on a date a social blunder?
For my masculine counterparts: Are dicks really that sensitive? How long does it take for you to orgasm (if you were going really fast)?
guys
what are little things girls do during sex or head that really turn you on?
trying to up my game
>>23041981
If I rush it I can roll one off in 90 seconds flat, but if I want to enjoy myself I can hold out for about 15 minutes consistently, but have been known to take as long as 35.
>>23042003
Don't mono focus on the genitals, run your hand and your lips and tongue across the entire body: the chest, the belly, the neck (legs can be too fuzzy to the be effective). For strait-up sexual stimulation, don't forget to massage the testicles.
>>23040630
no im not
>>23041981
Minimum 10 minutes to jack off for me desu. Yes, I'm uncut.
>>23042003
Anal
>>23041855
>If asked
As much or as little as they wanted to know. I'm pretty open about myself and my past, so I'm sure if I felt the topic was appropriate I'd talk a bit about some stuff even if not asked but if he was uncomfortable about it or something I wouldn't talk about it again.
>Why is it bad?
Not sure myself, I'm sure its something about not wanting to compare or be compared to someone else, or that most people don't want to think about their partner with someone else. That and especially if you talk shit on your ex or something, it looks bad on you. Like, i'd be thinking "Ok, if this ends are you going to whine piss and moan about me to everyone you meet?" kind of thing.
>>23036467
This>>23036624 is really the biggest thing for me. But otherwise, for lack of a better word, passiveness? Might be hand in hand with confidence honestly but it turns me off when guys don't really have a plan or don't know what they want. When they're wishywashy about plans and shit "idk what do you want to do?" "I'm ok with anything." "I mean whatever is fine"
Maybe I've just been making bad choices but the past couple guys I've been with the biggest pet peeve I had with them was I was always the one to make the plans. Made me feel like I was the only one who actually cared if I saw him or not, like he wouldn't even notice if a month passed without us seeing one another. Asking for input is fine, but just passively answering "I don't care, we can do whatever you want to do" is kind of annoying after the 6th time.
>>23035530
I haven't really ever smelled a cologne I liked to be honest. But rule of thumb is as always it should be subtle and barely noticeable.
Why would they even make tobacco scented stuff? It smells like shit.
And idk if im the minority here anon, but smoking is a huge turn off to me so if I suspected you smoked I'd leave pretty quickly. In that sense, the tobacco scented shit may be working against you if you don't even actually smoke.
Does a fat guy have a chance at getting laid without getting a hooker? I do like BBWs.
>>23042003
When a girl runs their hands through my body it truly turns me on
>>23040385
I like them but some people dislike
For the women: I'm gay but I have a fetish for having girls watch me take my Bf's dick and call me a dirty sissy girly boy, I'm twinkish and I crossdress a lot.
Is this considered a turn-on for some women?
>>23041981
The head is very sensitive, particularly on uncut.
A light touch on it while erect is enough to make me shiver.
>>23042855
Also, I've had <1minute faps, but those are rarely pleasurable.
>>23042508
>Is this considered a turn-on for some women?
Since there is always someone with a fetish, the answer is yes. There will be some grills out there that have that fetish.
>>23042439
yes if you keep your standards low
>>23041981
I'm Uncut. My dick is very sensitive at the head and under it, the shaft not that much.
Depending on how turned on and how much help (movies, pictures, imagination) I have when masturbating, I can come in less than two minutes, but I can edge for an hour with no problems too.
During sex it depends on the girl, how tight she is and obviously how turned on I am too, but it can take some time, never measured the time though.. I guess a few minutes?
>>23042003
Pretty much what >>23042021 said, there are more parts than just the dick.
Neck is always a good thing, I like light touches almost anywhere on my body. Playing with my hair or running your hands through it also feels great.
(If my partner is into it)
I love pain (in moderate amounts, not too much) so scratching, biting and fingernails digging into my back are awesome
>>23042484
Through your body? Wtf are you, a ghost?
So! Any girls here whom I can ask anything! Will any of you rate my dick in snap/kik?
alright girls, which happens more? You agree to have a date with someone and then actually not be able to make it, or just don't feel like going when you knew you already made plans?
>>23041981
Depends. Orgasm is pretty mental. It can be like thirty seconds or an hour. I would say on average self induced is four minutes or so, if I'm actively trying to get off the entire time.
>>23042003
Be vocal. Be enthusiastic. Do what you want to do, whatever that is. Communicate.
>>23043671
tfw no ghost gf
Hello females.
Just wondering how to talk a girl into a threesome. Not the main girl, but the extra. No girl wants to feel like an object. How would you be wooed into fucking 2 people you didn't know
>>23044435
i wouldn't be
>>23042003
eye contact
We look at the face and eyes mroe than any other place
>>23044435
I am a guy and had 2 FFM 2ways, both time were not planned. happened with friends.
>>23044457
I worry about shit getting weird with friends. I could do that now but I don't wanna risk it.
>>23044435
Have fun with the unicorn hunting.
Seriously. There's a term for that.
Anyway: For everyone else, I am terribly bored so here's an open question:
Your current (or last) significant other/partner. What made you decide to be with them?
>>23044596
She was 16 lol, naive is hot.
>>23033252
>Men, does owning an assortment of sextoys make you feel insecure/inferior? I cannot orgasm otherwise, I appreciate your efforts, but I'm going to need further stimulation from my Vibrator.
As long the toy is a supplement to the guy for you, not the other way around, no problem for me. Bonus points if the toys are also for me to use on you. Plus, challenge accepted :P
>How many toys are too many?
When you spend so much on them that you have problems with paying living expenses and/or they take up any free space at your place. Otherwise - no problem.
>If I spent a fair amount on this toy, what do you think of me?
"Hope she gets the bang for the buck".
>Does their size/length/girth make you feel insecure?
Not really, as long you put a hot show with them for me and you`re up for a dp.
>>23035852
>Does any guy have a reason why guys like long hair? I can't grow long hair or if I did, it'd be a big hassle to take care of.
>Am I fucked for having short hair? Should I just
>buckle down and spend >$100 every 3 months for a weave?
Your hair have to fit your face and agree with your overall style, being clean and shiny is a must and that`s all for me. I like short-haired girls (kinda fetish of mine), but don`t mind long hair at all.
>still short hair is at least as sexy as the long one, with a benefit of being practical: shorter bathroom time and I don`t have to occupy one hand with holding them so I can see your face while you`re down on me, or so I can kiss and caress your neck and ears.
As for explanation why most guys prefer long hair: it`s about showing off. Long hair can be spectacular, just like a car or big shiny watch (ugh-yuck-bleah btw), and when a guy is seen with a long-haired cutie, his ego gets a boost. Not that it tells anything about guy`s abilities in any field.
>>23036064
If that`s your photo, and you`re saying you have a fat, assymetrical face, then your perception of yourself is distorted.
On the other hand, what makes you think that your personality is awesome? such confidence is rather a red flag.
>>23042003
>pulling foreskin back with your teeth, gently
>being moderately vocal: gasps, moans, occasional slurp
>deepthroat, rubbing his wet dick all over your face or lips only
>tying your hair so he can have a good view
>a bit of dirty talk, not too much, not too loud, definitely not pornstar-like. either you say that you like what you`re doing, or what you`d like to do next.
>taking your time, moving slowly during sex, kissing and not rushing things. Rushing things to "be already done with it" is my big turn-off.
>showing off your body, not being ashamed about anything. Any guy who was in bed with a girl insecure about her looks can say it may be a fucking disaster.
>"Tell me how you want me to do it"
>>23042003
I had a girl who always hugged me really tight during sex and grabbed my ass during head. That was fun.
If this thread is still up
GIRLS!
post your height and post whats the cutoff point where you dont notice it a guys height and go "he's short" or its not "he better be X if he's that short"
And what's the bare minimal height you'll date even if its shorter then you?
>>23043321
Wonderful
>>23029209
Not a femanon, but a couple of your questions aren't/shouldn't be gender specific.
>would it be a dick move for me to go after her?
If her guy is a good friend or you rely on him professionally, I'd lean strongly against it.
>Would i just be a rebound fuck?
Depends. IMO rebound is a bit of a myth. People might be less choosy right after a breakup, but there's no reason a relationship won't develop, especially if she leaves him. It's usually the person who got dumped who is desperate for comfort and untrusting of new connections.
Alot of women shop for their next dick while still in a committed relationship. It's sort of like the corporate climber's credo "it's easier to get a job when you have a job".
>She is 8 years older than me, me being 22.
Not a negative in and of itself, but keep your eyes open. Experience and age can make people jaded and even cruel... I'm trying to avoid that myself.
>>23041855
>>>23039546 #
>Virgins act just like other people, you'd have to ask.
Oh, yeah right
>>23041981
Mine is not that sensitive(uncut) but still. I can manage pretty well when I cun, depending on how I stroke, breathing and perineo contractions. Usually I make sex for about 30 min to 1.5 hour untill I cum, and maybe I need another 30 min pause between 2 to 4 sex sessions. After 4 times I still get orgasm but no sperm commes. All women I met conplimented my condition.
If I fap I can make in 2 min.
>>23034320
>>23038027
Hmmmm....I'll have to work on that. Coming from bad relationships has made me uneasy, but I think I can do that.
Is it unreasonable to try to shift a casual relationship into something more serious if there might be something?
Hey femanons--two questions.
First--how big of a turn off is it if a guy hints at having sex on the first date. ie, after a kiss, asking if you want to hang out, have a nightcap, etc? If you were otherwise attracted to the guy, would it make you think he was a cad and scare you off? It seems everybody expects the guy to make the move, and I'm never rude or pushy, I just try to throw it out there discretely.
I've had two good dates that didn't go anywhere, and I'm wondering if it was because I was too bold. These are girls I met on Tinder, one of whom was only in town for a few days, so I thought we were on the same page. I get that they might just not have been interested in me, but it would bother me if I scared off a good gf or fwb by being too eager.
Second--How do you really feel if you're with a guy in his 20's who has trouble getting it up the first time you're together (but still goes down on you and still gets you over the finish line)? I don't think I have ED but I tend to get a case of nerves with someone new. I also need a lot of touching and foreplay to get really into it, and it seems like a lot of women are inclined to be passive.
