What upsets me isn't the fact that I don't have a girlfriend; I don't even want one. I'd rather have friends, which I also lack.
What upsets me is the fact that I'm completely undesirable to basically everyone.
How old are you? Where are you from? Do you use Steam?
I had friends once. It was terrible.
You're not missing out on a whole lot.
>>29991957
Why do you say you're undesirable? If you don't mind me asking, many people here just want someone they can talk to so they'll probably overlook any flaws you may have
>>29991979
I do have Steam. I have a small number of close friends there, which seems to contradict the thread, but I meant people IRL.
Save for this handful of people, even other online friends don't seem to enjoy speaking with me.
>>29991957
Maybe you should stop posting girly anime as your avatars. Then maybe you'd be tolerable to befriend. Keyword here is maybe.
>>29992022
Almost everything is undesirable about me. I don't want to go into it again.
>>29992087
It's just a reaction image. Even so, there are plenty of people who are well loved by a large number of people who do that.
>>29992024
Post your Steam and let's see if we'll get along.
>>29992129
Considering how few people I have gotten along with online it's unlikely. There's no point. Holding a conversation outside of a small number of subjects is hard for me too.
>>29992152
Just post it. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. But maybe it will.
>>29992102
Your steam avatar is probably of a girly kawaii desu anime avatar, isn't it? You faggot. Of course it is. No one wants to befriend you because you are a physical manifestation of cringe.
>>29991957
>What upsets me is the fact that I'm completely undesirable to basically everyone.
Me too.
"Loneliness is the anxiety to not matter at all." some say (or some such).
It's not the only problem with it though for sure.
In some way I'm OK with loneliness. But it's starting take a toll.
I used to be content with being a loner, but as time went on I began to realize that I prefer some company.
It's a shame I haven't made a friend in a long time.
>>29992183
It won't. I'm not posting my own because it's cringe.
>>29992187
You're right. I'm cringey as fuck and always have been. I can't stop.
Who needs friends when you have a few bottles of liquor to keep you company.
>>29992257
>who needs friends when you can literally poison yourself into a state of content
>posting irrelevant, outside board meme
Typical tripfag.
>>29992211
I understand this feeling, I made my first friend 5 months ago after being completely lonely and what at the time thought was being happy, now I made a couple more this month because I love the thrill of meeting new people
>>29992342
> I love the thrill of meeting new people
Please explain. I can't talk to other without getting nervous as all hell
I've been lonely so I've been trying to make friends and now it's just making me wonder if it really was loneliness I was feeling because I don't even know if I want friends at all anymore.
>>29992227
You can make the difference to become tolerable.
>Step 1: Change your shitty moe avatar to something gar/manly or something abstract like a dead leaf.
>Step 2: Look through your closet, you see that faggot in there? Good, bury him deep in the closet and never come out.
>Step 3: Throw away some of your autistic clothing like your fedora. Get a hair cut. Buy boxer briefs. Straight jeans. Polo shirts and/or normal shirts. Buy new, black leather walking shoes.
>Step 4: Practice good hygiene. Take a shower every day, brush your teeth every day, use deodorant every day, clean your room every week.
>Step 5: Venture outside of your house/room every now and then to soak up some sun. Use Pokemon Go as your excuse. Take it slow at first, maybe a block or two as you progress.
>Step 6: Take a good look into the mirror. Admire your new look, complete with a tan and better health.
>Step 7: Play Pokemon Go at a park other people in your predicament go to and make friends, using Pokemon Go as the ice breaker.
>Step 8: Talk to newly found friends about your other hobbies, but make sure you keep your power level hidden.
>Step 9: Go out and shoot the shit with your friends to a bar if you are old enough, or to watch shitty movies at a theater.
>Step 10: Look through your phone with all the new Pokemon you have caught, and the phone numbers of your friends.
Now you wont be lonely.
>>29992211
>>29992342
Would either of you anons like to make friends with me? Is there a way I can contact you? I also would like to make a few friends.
>>29992491
I've never posted my own details here because I'm afraid for some reason but I guess it doesn't hurt to try, do you use steam or Skype?
>>29992420
I had a longer reply typed up, but it came across as angry. I'll just say I already tried changing my wardrobe, I went outside on a regular basis, it didn't help. It's impossible for me to find others similar to myself. I don't have any other hobbies, nothing interests me besides anime and vidya. I've tried to get into other stuff.
>>29992491
I'm not either of the people you responded to, and I've posted in a few of these threads recently, but feel free to add me: http://steamcommunity.com/profiles/76561198299142892/
I hope you guys get to find some nice friends.
>>29992491Skype: writer_anonfeel free to leave a message whenever you want
>>29992588
Try playing online Co-Op games like Left 4 Dead 1 and 2. Use a microphone, and be a team player in random public games.
It is your only chance left.
>>29992594
>anime moe avatar faggot detected
>>29992687
Your retort about anime avatars is garbage and means nothing
>>29992687
>Try playing online Co-Op games like Left 4 Dead 1 and 2. Use a microphone, and be a team player in random public games.
My anxiety's no longer severe, but I can't talk to people over the mic.
I want real friends anyway.
>>29992568
Do you have an e-mail? We can exchange information there if you want so you don't have to post it in the thread. I made one so that you can e-mail me your info, I generally prefer Steam but Skype is okay too![email protected]
>>29992594
>>29992654
Thanks anons. I have to do something momentarily but in an hour or so you'll hear from me.
>>29992594
Where abouts are you from?
>>29992712
>"I-I don't care what y-you think! B-baka! I-I'm a c-c-c-cute anime moe character kawaii desu! S-so I reply to threads with them! And wear them l-like b-badges that I am p-proud of!"
This is how I view you, you cringe worthy wad of ear wax. Begone.
>>29992715
Baby steps you queer. Start with online friends first. A lot of cute girls still play Left 4 Dead. And I don't mean the faggots that pretend to be anime girls. You might even be able to get their phone numbers, and if the stars align you may eventually meet and settle down with one.
Besides, it is your best chance at friendship, if you fail at attempting the outside world, as you have stated.
>>29991957
I know that feel. I thought everyone here was a ">le tfw no gf XD" memelord.
I'd much rather be able to socialize, to be normal.
>>29992776
>Thanks anons. I have to do something momentarily but in an hour or so you'll hear from me.
I may be taking a nap by then. Don't revoke your friend request if I don't accept right away. I'll accept as soon as I see it.
>>29992828
UK.
P.S. Not a weeb, just have a reaction image anime avatar.
>>29992867
>Baby steps you queer. Start with online friends first. A lot of cute girls still play Left 4 Dead. And I don't mean the faggots that pretend to be anime girls. You might even be able to get their phone numbers, and if the stars align you may eventually meet and settle down with one.
Are you not reading my posts? I have no interest in getting a gf.
I've made a small number of people who tolerate me on Steam. That hasn't helped me make friends in reality, however.
>>29992904
That means you must be a real insufferable faggot
>>29992949
It does. I'm aware of this. That's part of the problem, no? Couldn't you gather that?
having no friend makes you suffer but if you pass this statement and transcend social laws, you might become alpha
>>29992967
Its amusing pointing it out regardless
> tfw everyone talks of skype and steam
> proprietary traps that record everything you do on them
> condemned to loneliness because I actually value privacy and freedom
>>29992904
You do have an interest in getting a girlfriend. Otherwise, you would not have even mentioned it in your OP. Stop being a delusional cringe worthy faggot already.
You asked for help to make friends outside of the internet.
You get told how to do it.
And guess what you do.
You fucking cry that you already tried it.
Well, try harder this time you damned pussy. Take my advice of >>29992420 to heart, and just do it.
However, maybe you are shit out of luck because the only people that are interested in anime and video games, are only the faggot anime moe avatar posters here on 4chan. These are the only idiots that fit your criteria. These idiots do NOT exist outside of the internet. Make no mistake, 75% of these dumb shits haven't seen the light of day touch their pasty skin in months.
They are shut in NEETs. My Little Pony faggots get out more than the dumbfucks that lurk /r9k/.
>>29992967
What exactly is the worst thing about you? Like he said, baby steps man. You already accepted yourself, now time to make yourself proud by improving.
>>29993141
It just looks like he can't get rid of the teenage angst
>>29992024
>but I meant people IRL.
I know what you mean. Even though I don't even have any online friends, because I'm a very boring person, I would like nothing more than to have a friend I could know in person, it's so very painful having absolutely no social contact.
How do people even make online friends? I know there are steam friends threads, but everyone in there seems to be either a friend hoarder or looking for ERP, and the few I added stopped talking to me after a couple of days.
>>29991957
I w-will be your friend anon
>>29993141
It's difficult to pin down. There's so much stuff.
I've tried to improve for more than a decade at various pursuits and never made much progress.
>>29993200
Gib me one thing
>>29993183
You use Steam for what it was meant to be used for. A gaming platform you dunce. Play online games, git gud, have a fun time, make friends, play ith those friends consistently throughout the years. It's that simple. You just play and have fun with strangers.
>>29993231
The inability to improve, since we're on the subject. I can stick with something for years and see little to no results at all.
>Try to play Pokemon GO
>Too scared to go outside
fuck i really like it, i guess i'll wait till winter
>>29993234
I don't play multiplayer games though.
>>29993258
You're a walking totem pole. And each year you add to that with your self fulfilling prophecy of being a failure.
Learn to let go and try harder. Put in more time and more effort. Don't half ass it. Don't mope around. Get real.
Do you play Chess? If you have a park in your town or city, that has Chess boards or tables, you should set one up and play against random people. Make friends with homeless and/or other people, and meet up for more matches.
Take lunch breaks with them, adapt yourself to being a more sociable person.
>>29993373
Then what do you need Steam friends for? Besides friend hoarding and ERPing with other faggots?
Exactly. Start playing multiplayer games weirdo. You'll like the experience. Start with co-op games before you get into competitive games. Trust.
>>29993397
>If you have a park in your town or city, that has Chess boards or tables, you should set one up and play against random people. Make friends with homeless and/or other people, and meet up for more matches.
You are so fucking delusional and removed from reality. Holy shit. Going to a random park, setting up a chess table and waiting for someone to approach you, if they do at all, and then expecting them to actually come back and do it with a random person they've never met before just isn't going to happen, especially with someone like me.
>Just go outside bro just keep trying you'll get friends
This is bullshit Chad advice like "just put yourself out there and you'll get a gf", it doesn't fucking work that way, at least not for everyone.
As for my inability to improve, I've tried so hard. I devoted myself to one thing and stuck with it, without moping around, trying to get better, for years. I tried different approaches, did research on how to improve, practiced, it just didn't help much at all.
>>29991995
Get better friends. I bet you got with the first people that you came into contact with because you are naive and inexperienced.
>>29992402
Not that anon.
It's like the thrill of getting a new item like a game/book/DVD, but much more profound since it is a fellow human being.
>>29993484
>I've tried so hard.
AND GOT SO FAR
>>29993484
>You are so fucking delusional and removed from reality. Holy shit. Going to a random park, setting up a chess table and waiting for someone to approach you, if they do at all, and then expecting them to actually come back and do it with a random person they've never met before just isn't going to happen, especially with someone like me.
Says the guy that has no experience making friends outside of the internet, to a guy that does. You're making me cringe at you, and laugh at you at the same time. It's an abstract kind of feel.
There are people that get together with random strangers all the time to play a friendly game of Chess. You can see it every day in New York City. The same people will come back the next day to play again, it's their hobby. Just like crying on 4chan is your hobby, and that you will be back tomorrow.
But anyway, since you're a lost cause, here's your Theme Song OP https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVTXPUF4Oz4
>>29993659
>New York City and its people=all people everywhere
>>29992211
Fuck that's exactly like me
I used to have a few friends and I often wanted to just be alone and relax, now I have none and realise how important friends are. And now I can't talk to anyone.
As for a gf, I'd like one but I know it will never happen.
>>29993679
>What is an example?
Just kill yourself already.
>>29993782
Well, it was a poor example. That sort of thing isn't going to happen outside of a major city where parks are popular and want to unwind like that.
>>29993804
How old are you? Let's see how far down the well you are.
>>29993860
I'm only nineteen, but I have no reason to believe it will improve from here.
>>29993896
>19
Hey, I was right about not being able to let go of teenage angst.
>>29993951
What would you define as teenage angst? Specifically? What would not qualify as such.
>>29993896
Jesus fuck, you're a child. Get out. This entire time, you've just been blowing teenage angst out of your asshole.
Listen. Go to college you dumb fuck. Do good in college. Join clubs. There will be an anime and video game clubs, I guarantee that. Now go be a loser elsewhere, kid.
>>29993987
Mind being more specific on what you'd define as teenage angst?
>Listen. Go to college you dumb fuck. Do good in college. Join clubs. There will be an anime and video game clubs, I guarantee that. Now go be a loser elsewhere, kid.
I've completed my first year and will probably return in a month. I'm so depressed it's difficult for me to do well, but I do definitely try and usually have a decent grade at the end of the course. I've tried to join clubs. I wasn't able to make friends there because I'm just not the sort of person who can make friends.
There are no anime or video games clubs. Every once in a while there are NBA2K or FIFA tournaments, but those games do not interest me.
>>29993987
someone who went to college here,
dont
its a waste of time and money, go to trade school or just start/keep working.
>>29994033
>Mind being more specific on what you'd define as teenage angst?
Look in the mirror
>>29992420
I can vouch for some of this having followed some steps myself, but, keep in mind a few things.
If you feel anxious meeting new people, quietly laugh it off and use that humor to smile. I found myself smiling a lot meeting new people by thinking how pathetic I was for being so shaken up over basic human interaction, and they took me as friendly for it.
Make sure your clothes are fitted properly on you. Rather than buying black leather shoes specifically, I recommend two pairs of nice dress shoes, boots, and running shoes/sneakers. Dress shoes for special occasions/dressing to impress, boots for rainy days/outdoors/snow, running shoes for common wear and exercise. Maybe throw in a pair of slip resistant(and oil) shoes for work occasion.
Hair cut is mandatory although it can be hard to find the right one for you. Do some research and ask your barber, helps to figure out your head shape too when picking haircuts.
Don't feel conformed to drink if you don't drink. You don't have to feel embarrassed about it, just stay true and non-phased when they express initial shock.
I haven't used Pokemon Go so I can't much on his steps involving it.
>>29993453
To talk to of course, to be friends with, really I'd just be using Steam as a sort of Skype-service but I don't have a skype or kik or anything like that.
What multiplayer games would you recommend?
I mostly just play platformers, old RPGs, and single player console games.
>>29991957
here's what you do you nigger
you find people who think that they too are undesireable in every way and hate people, like animu and sht
i dont care
there are thousands of you faggots in this world, you just have to find them, dont even bother with meeting them irl, just hang on in a game or some shit
>>29992420
Pokemon go is gay as shit but the other advice is solid
>>29994142
>Pokemon go is gay as shit
do you have an actual justification for bleiving that or you just being contrarian?
>>29994124
>you find people who think that they too are undesireable in every way and hate people, like animu and sht
This is pretty much it.
I met someone who thinks they're completely insufferable to be around, apologizes like every other message they send.
They're grateful to me for sticking around and I'm grateful to them for sticking around because I also think I'm incredibly offputting as a person, and it turns out we actually have a decent amount in common.
It's because you're undesirable to yourself.
Why should anyone want you if you don't even want you?
>>29994225
>Why should anyone want you if you don't even want you?
They shouldn't. That doesn't mean it's not upsetting.
>>29994174
It attracts the wrong crowd if you're looking for friends.
wrong crowd being manchildren or actual children
I don't care that much about the game itself
>>29994263
im a manchild myself, so birds of a feather?
>>29994276
Works out then
>>29994033
Teenage Angst is what you are going through. It's a fucking phase that the majority of teenagers go through. During the phase, teenagers become edgy and emo and lack the brain capacity to be smart with how they think. It's fake depression from hormones, similar to a pregnant women having mood swings.
>"Oh woe is me, better cut myself because of stupid reasons that seem important to me at this age!"
Go to the NBA2K/FIFA tournaments, play against someone, lose, and comment that you're better at another game you play. Get a feel for what the other students play, maybe one of them has similar interests as you. You clearly don't make the effort or try. So if you want to make progress, put one foot in front of the other.
>>29994058
This guy knows whats up!
>>29994070
I'd recommend starting with any co-op games like Left 4 Dead 1/2. It's a fun team based game that hinges success on working together. They are FPS, but you can change some text file settings to make it Third Person Shooter.
Other games would be MMORPGs, like WoW, FFXIV, or Tera. Easy to find yourself in a Clan/Guild and making friends to chat and go on adventures with.
>>29994253
It's upsetting but this pity partying is not doing anything productive, just making OP and those like him much worse.
>>29994263
Lots of women play Pokemon Go in my city, easy to strike up conversation with them when walking along the sidewalk on a nice sunny day.
Then walk to a Starbucks for a quick caffeine fix and converse with other people playing it as they charge their phones.
It really is a great tool to bring like-minded people together.
>>29994315
I won't deny the possiblity, but I have been clinically diagnosed (as if that means anything) and I've experienced intense self loathing long before I was even a preteen. I don't cut myself.
>You clearly don't make the effort or try.
I've hosted entire tournaments myself for a game I do play in the past. Probably seven or eight times. I've tried to make friends there and failed. Nice assumptions.
>>29992211
Same I thought I Iiked being alone till I started to live by myself. Now I realise I completely hate it.
>>29994423
>I've hosted entire tournaments myself for a game I do play in the past. Probably seven or eight times. I've tried to make friends there and failed. Nice assumptions.
Yeah, I assumed you were older than 19, like in your late 20's.
You are still a kid. You still have all the time in the world to make a friend at school. Especially after you build a bridge and get over your teenage angst, it will suddenly be easier for you to be sociable and make friends.
People smell the teenage angst and it acts as a repellant. It's gives off the "steer clear from this emotional wreck that is myself" sign to other people. Not an attractive trait.
But it will go away. Maybe some time this year. Maybe some time next year. But it will go away, and you will fully mature and become an actual adult brimming with confidence. Anyone older than you, knows. I am older than you. You have nothing to worry about, just let it be and let it pass.
>tfw black
>tfw no one wants to be your friend
I don't mind being half black, but it sets me back from making friends I feel like. I have this intimidating looking face so I can't make friends with people who are into the same stuff I am.
>>29994383
100% normie response who knows of nothing
Starbucks? Kill yourself.
>It's a Hal thread
>>29995153
You jealous that I get the best of both worlds? Because you sound like salty jelly.
same. the fact that no one likes me in any way is probably indicative of a flawed person, but i don't want to change myself. i want to be ME.
>>29995255
Who is 'me', anon? What are your interests, your hobbies?
>>29994883
I'm not sure if you're right or if there's a fundamental misunderstanding here.
I've always had difficulty making friends starting in middle school. It's just gotten worse with time. This is long before I was a teen.
I've hated myself intensely since I was seven. Again, long before I became a teen. I have been depressed for about four years now, and as I've said, I've been clinically diagnosed with it and social anxiety, another inhibition to my ability to make friends.
>People smell the teenage angst and it acts as a repellant.
So how come even people who are "angstier" than myself who are teenagers have friends and even relationships?
>>29993138
God damn, who crawled up your asshole and made a nest, kid? Just shit on everything and everyone, why don't you, 'cause you're above it all. Don't listen to this faggot, OP, he's literally trying to turn you into a normie. And keep your anime avatars if you like them, don't get rid of them just because this loser has a stick up his ass.
>>29991957
Iktf Op. No one will ever want to be with me. I got dealt a shit hand and there's no redeeming it.
>>29998156
>I got dealt a shit hand
How so anon?
Samerinos d
The only friend I had irl moved away for colleges last year. We still make music together by sending audio clips of our recordings to each other. Its the only reason I haven't lost my mind yet
>>29991957
Where are you from OP?
You don't happen to be from South Holland right?
>>29998193
I'm ugly so no one would ever want to be around me. On top of that, I have mental/psychological problems that make me undesirable.
>>29991957
i'm a smelly monkey ooga booba biobobgoga
>>29998983
>On top of that, I have mental/psychological problems that make me undesirable.
Like what? I was diagnosed with avoidant disorder so I can somewhat relate.
Post Steam IDs and make friends.
ERPers need not apply
MMonday is near.
If get everyone in this thread will get a loving gf in the next year
>>29999205
AvPD, bipolar, clinical depression with loads of general anxiety.
>>30000059
you failed us senpai
>>30000000
