How does one love oneself?
>be me
>major inferiority complex
>major narcissist
>miserable as fuck
>therapist says "you need to love yourself more"
>says I should say positive things about myself to myself in the mirror while looking me in the eye
I'm gonna give it a shot however it feels fucking weird, has anyone else beat their inferiority complex or at least learned to deal with it better then I have?
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9001. Something /adv/ already has advised
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90000000001. Get a hobby
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9000000000000000000000001. Just b urselph + luv urselph fug lmao
Practicing positive self talk isn't a joke. I'm the type to immediately think "fucking idiot" when I mess up and "kill yourself". It's bad for your mind. I've been consciously stopping myself and try and think logically about it. Like "you messed up, it's not even a big deal, just shrug it off and keep going". I think about what I'd tell somebody in the same situation to make them feel better and I say it to myself. I've struggled with depression my entire life but I've been feeling better lately
stop feeding your ego
recognize and separate yourself from it
then the desire to love oneself is no concern
>>29944130
this is decent advice. if you do it enough things start to change inside your brain having to do with your automatic mental processes.
>>29944145
i absolutely hate people like you who pretend that there's such a thing as an egoless human being. it doesn't exist, nigger. at the best you value who you are so you can put yourself aside sometimes. at worst, you hate yourself, think about it all the time and destroy who you are. ego is always present.
>>29944171
git enlightened 420 blaze it
>>29944130
Thanks anon, gonna be a bitch to break down the mental conditioning I've put myself through since childhood. But that's I think that's very logical and sound advice. Happy for you that you are feeling better
>>29944130
this
I used to think saying positive things to yourself is a meme and didn't do shit but I realized most of the time I thought to myself "you're ugly as fuck" or shit like that and noticed how thinking positive stuff instead worked like a charm
negativity is self deprecating and it's a million times better to be positive even if you think it's stupid
if you're negative you have no motivation
>>29943939
I feel you bro. Btw I had a rather good childhood and wasn't bullied at school much (most of the time just ignored) so I don't exactly know where did that low self-esteem come from. Maybe it's not actually low and I deserve that
I just think I'm better than everyone else and try to live by it
>>29944295
>if you're negative you have no motivation
It's the exact opposite for me. All these complexes made me butthurt af which forced me to get from 180 to 140 lbs in a year. I still hate myself though.
>>29944529
>be me in high school
>hate myself
>get fit
>get grades up to graduate with a 3.8 GPA
>bring social skills to a level I would call "almost competent"
>about to attend a 4 year flight program to work on my dreams of being an airline pilot
>still hate myself
>still no confidence
>still KV
What the FUCK
>>29944611
At least you have significantly more chances of getting a gf than a confident neckbeard gentleman does
>>29944611
At least you tried tho =3
>>29944052
How about methods which have proven to be clinically effective.
Eg. Op stated he deals with narcassism. Which can be treated well with something like DBT.
The important thing to focus on is balance and distress tolerance. People with low self esteem tend to overcompensate and develop narcassitic traits. The treatment here is not "love yourself" or inflate your ego more, but rather accept your weaknesses and build a better foundation as a person. As you become more tolerant of being flawed you will naturally start to like yourself more because you will be accepting yourself truly instead of just some fake image you created. You will also be behaving differently and improving social relationships and how others respond to you.
