Who here just /never tries/?
I am 28, going on 29. I honestly cannot remember a single time in my life where I've actually tried to get a GF. I've had this mindset where I just thought it was something that just naturally happens by itself.
My parents ask me
>Don't you want a relationship at all? aren't you lonely always by yourself?
I reply saying yes I do, but I've seen had any women take interest in me. They look at me like I'm crazy and that I'm some 10/10 Chadbro that should be swimming in pussy.
>>29925809
32.
I thought the same shit all my life, that it'd 'just happen' for me like it did for nearly all my other peers. I pretty much checked out at around 22.
>>29925846
Hey, you have a similar experience huh?
One thing I noticed is that people say that the guy should be the one who does all the work etc. But this doesn't match reality, at least what I've seen.
I remember back in school I'd always see the girls smiling at the guys, and looking at them, and eventually going upto them. While the guys just sat around doing their own thing.
I remember I was one of the people this never happened to. I never remember any female doing those things to me. I was basically invisible.
21 here, I'm just extremely lazy and it's much more convenient for me to hire escorts instead of looking for a gf.
>>29925900
I received female attention from time to time back then, but it was rarely wanted.
The few times the girls interacting with me WEREN'T mouthbreathing trogs, I was too nervous and pussy to try to initiate anything or ask them out.
I also find the whole "relationship" thing to be very tiresome.
How can I not have this mindset?
Why don't I feel like it's worth it? Has all this negative shit ive read about women online fucked my mind up?
I have a really good relationship with my mum and my parents are still happily married....so it's not like I haven't had good role models for a long term relationship...and I love my mum more than anything. So why do I just not feel like getting into a relationship with a woman is worth it? my mind just screams "AVOID AVOID AVOID" anytime I think about it. I guess I'm broken or something. Not watching porn or fapping doesn't help, if anything...it makes it even worse, I become asexual if I stop watching porn.
>>29925809
Sincerely, I want to get better or at least try before giving up, but it's really hard. I know 2 languages without counting my native one, I go to gym, I have a nice face. The thing is: if you don't act like Chad, if you automatically don't know how to handle relationships or women, they will ignore you.
It's like having a super good product to offer but you don't know how to do the advertising so people don't want to get the product. The product being you.
I'm already really quiet, I don't dance and don't use drugs. It will be very hard to find someone especially when I can't even flirt properly.
>>29926147
I have an above average face and I have been lifting for nearly 5 years.
Hasn't helped at all. I just never put myself out there. I don't have any friends or any social circle.
>>29925809
26 year old here. I'm in your exact situation. I've never tried. Always thought it would just happen and that I don't deserve a gf anyway. Saddest thing is I've had women approach me but I just end up denying them because I fear being rejected or opening myself up to them.
My biggest fear is probably getting comfortable and opening myself up to a woman and fall in love with her only for her to betray me or leave me.
>>29926186
So it doesn't get better huh...
What do I do then?
No girl had shown interest in me so I just never tried
>>29926198
that's what happened to me. avoid it for sure.
>>29925809
>24
>I'm not a moron, I know it won't si.ply happen
>Still I don't give enough of a shit to try, women are shit anyways
