can love over the internet be real?
no.
original statement.
>>29892874
No it can't. You will start to need physical intimacy and if you can't meet in real life it will cause major problems.
of course it can, if you accept the intellectual's fetish
>>29892874
it can work out sometimes, but it will never be just "internet love" sooner or later they will move on or want to meet. that's when it falls apart 90 percent of the time.
Oh fuck you and that image OP, I did that for so fucking long withex gf.
After over a year of "dating" online I moved in with her for 6 months. Had to fly back to my state because I couldnt find work in her shitty state, she left me a while after that.
tl;dr: love as a whole is a meme
My love language is touch. So no anon, not for me.
>>29892950
>he's had a gf
NORMIE GET OUT REEEEEEEEEEEE
>hoping your autistic gamble will pay off in a rom-com ending
>>29892874
No it can't. You know why it can't? You'll never feel her hair, smell her when you're sleeping together, feel her skin, wake up and cook her breakfast. The fun things in a relationship aren't there when you do Internet relationships. You can hear her, see her, and talk to her but you can't touch her. To me, that's meaningless, actually holding her is so precious. You guys can meet up, but you better plan that quickly before interest slowly starts to die out.
While she never really gave a shit about me, I'm still getting over you, Daena.
>>29892874
yes.
attention: if you are female and want a boyfriend, post your contact info and I will be your boyfriend.
>>29892982
I regret every second of it with every fiber of my being, if I could undo it or trade that experience away for that same amount of time spent alone I would do so in a heartbeat.
Can love bloom... even on an imageboard?
>>29892874
Yes.
But its not easy to make things work out, a lot of the time people are just physically too far apart from each other.
>>29892874
requesting an edit with jamal in her bed.
>>29892874
"No"
It can lead to love, but there will always be a major difference between long distance relationships and a relationship between two people in person.
No
It hurts in the brain and the dik
Love needs to be consummated, and you can't fuck someone if they live halfway across the world.
Long distance relationships are always terrible and never worth it.
>>29893833
delivering with shit skills
>>29892874
>Online she assures anon with "I love you."
>irl she's gangbanged by chad and his crew
>>29892908
THIS ffs
>>29894077
i kek'd nice.
>>29892874
Yes.
All the normies will say no though because theyre just animals.
The best love comes from deep inside your heart and your mind. Normies often arent even capable of feeling this or even understanding it.
Yes, but as long as there's plans to meet up eventually and then discuss one moving to see the other. It's a great way to start, but you've gotta move forward with it and can't stale in the "internet era" of the relationship.
>>29892874
No, you guys are both just lonely and are trying to make up for that by attaching to some stranger.
>>29893753
I met my gf through 4chan, actually.
We're currently still dating, and it's still a LDR.
I fully plan to have the two of us live together in time, and we both wish to be able to hug the other person; on the other hand it does allow you to get comfortable with them. There's a lot to be said for talking to a person from the comfort of one's own bed.
Anyway, I love her, and I have for about a year now. I have no plans of stopping either. All that being said, it can be very difficult, and I personally know many people who weren't able to do it. It takes a certain kind of stubbornness... but I really care about her.
>>29894581
I'm glad to hear there's something positive happening among the negativity on this board, anon. Congrats on finding your LDR QT and I wish you the best in it working out. Keep at it, and it'll be good.
>>29892874
Trust is crucial. Once anybody has done something to fuck with trust then it might as well be over. You need to know the other person is a good person who won't hurt you.
Not with a woman.
mongols used to LDR on the reg
soliders have wives
if romantic love exists in any significant way it can exist out of proximity
whether it is a good idea on the other hand... that depends on the autists involved
>>29892874
From experience I can assure you that it'll only cause emotional distress and sexual frustration in the long-term OP
I was on and off with a girl for 8 fucking years and what ended up doing it for me was when she wanted a non monogamous relationship. She's been dating this (literal) cuckold pasty white SJW for about a year now after I wanted to take a break from her a while back and even he doesn't mind her experimenting around a bit while she tries to allegedly "find herself"
Granted my case is pretty extreme and when she told me that she just wanted to fuck me with no strings attached (even after the shit we went through for almost a decade) I just kindly told her that she's plain and simply a bitch for messing around with a guy that thought we could have made things work
No. Terrible idea. Waste of time. Waste of money too, since they'd live far away. I don't like greentexting but I'll share a bit of my experience on this I guess. I've done several LDRs and all were shit. All but one cheated on me. I'll try to greentext the last one because it's a lot of text and I doubt anyone would want to read all the shit.
>Started at 18 years old, summer after graduation
>Meet british girl online, claims she's 16
>We had similar bad breakup experiences, everything seems good
>She ends up asking me out. I've already done several LDRs by this point and was hesitant, but I didn't have it in me to reject somebody, and said yes. Plus she was pretty cute.
>Mentions she has BPD but I didn't really know what this would entail at the time, also a compulsive liar, but this part wasn't apparent to me until later on.
>6 months in, she tells me she lied about her age. She was 13 when we started, 14 when she admitted.
>Almost dumped her but she cried and had a history with "almost killing herself" , ODs and shit.
>Gave in and let it go.
>During that initial 6 month period, she hated me talking to other girls, made me cut off any and all girls I knew, offline and online.
>Hated friends of mine that made sex jokes and did guy shit with me. Made me cut them off, online and offline.
>Still had some friends after this point, but slowly they also faded away, anybody who took my attention to her was basically cut out at the threat of her committing suicide.
>Had to masturbate on webcam often for her, she threatened to kill herself if I didn't.
Might not sound like an issue to most people on here, I mean it's just masturbating in front of a webcam, but this was every day for over a year, also she threatened to kill herself if I watched porn. I'll add the rest of it if anybody was interested, not sure how this'll show up in a single post. Reply if interested I guess.
From my one friend who did that, no.
>friend has had several online bfs
>cheated on every single one of them
>at one point had 5 online bfs at the same time
>has flings in real life as well
>says she will try to stop cheating, never does
>doesn't see cheating as a big deal, "why is monogamy even a thing lol" type
At least she says she's polyamorous now so the poor guys she's dating know. Any girl who isn't satisfied with talking to real people and seeks out Internet friends has something wrong with her, usually needing attention more so than other girls. Maybe if it is only a temporary thing it could work though.
>>29894764
Holy fucking shit nigga what were you thinking?
It can.
But like other anons have said, it would hold up if you can't close the gap and satisfy your human needs as well.
Here's the tl:dr of my experience to give you robots a headspin.
>Fall in love with girl online through yahoo chatroom.
>We date for years, visiting each other on school breaks.
>7 years, final year she moved out to cali here with me.
>Economic crash of 2008, neither of us can get jobs.
>She quickly becomes discontent.
>Used our hands, mouths, and grinding to fornicate, but never intercourse.
>Asked her why she didn't want to try intercourse time and again.
>She saidshe was afraid my big dick would tear her virgin vag
Not even shitting you.
Just think about not getting to have intercourse with the love of your life for that reason.
>>29894764
I'm the guy that posted right above yours. Please share more since the LDR girl I dealt with told me she had BPD as well
>>29894764
And yet deep down you continued in order to score a 14 year old. Haha whipped.
>>29894764
Wow what a fucking mess that sounds, should have got out of the second you knew her actual age
See, this is the LDR dating pool.
About 80% are people who don't want to feel alone and are afraid of being alone and attach themselves to a "significant other" during those downtime when they have no one and feel alone. They don't want genuine love, they just attention and to feel loved and special all the time.
I've tried seriously dating through LDR, and 4/4 times so far the girls I've talked to told me they were single and so super alone and had no one but magically a month or two later, they have this guy on the side that always existed and they are going to date them instead.
Most people have a shit resilience to lonliness and no moral code. So they end up cheating and lying the entire time and in reality the relationship meant nothing to them but another tool to escape loneliness because everyone in this generation is so god damn emotionally stunted that they don't know how to deal with any negative emotion properly. The biggest one is lonliness, and it's pretty fucking disgusting that these people can just use others and feel no remorse so they can meet an end.
I guess that's what I get for having morals, being a genuine nice and loving person haha. I guess that's also why I always get rejected by these cheating whores because they always feel too guilty to date someone who actually has love and is devoute when all they did was use me untill they "fell in love" and now "feel bad" so they tell me "I'm not good enough, go find someone better who can make you happy."
>>29894891
yeah you're good and everyone else is bad, that's probably it
I've been in 3 relationships and cheating on all my gf, so anecdotally woman should never pursue relationships with men. Oh well that's what I get for being too good for this earth, at least during this era
>>29894840
It's all on you that you failed to talk her around, to be honest. She couldn't have been that difficult to convince. What was in her head, since she likely expected and hoped to be with you forever, that you'd never have sex? It's utter madness. More likely she had other neuroses than just, "oh, your dick is just too big!"
>>29894830
About what? Dating her? I couldn't find it in me to say no to her. I felt bad. I didn't want to reject her, though that's kind of what ended up happening. I'll just add the rest for venting purposes bc fuck it why not.
>Later down the line, find out she lied about her last name. She treated it like it was no big deal.
>Didn't make a huge issue out if it, since it was just a last name, didn't think it was that significant.
>Started masturbating to porn when I wasn't on skype with her, she had me doing it so often I felt like I'd end up getting porn induced ED from masturbating solely to her on webcam.
>She suspected me and often threatened to kill herself until I assured her over and over
As far as how I felt about this, pretty shitty. Felt like I was probably just a masturbation aide for her. Just a tool and nothing more. I've never fucked around nor did I ever want to, I've only wanted serious relationships. It felt dehumanizing after a few months, let alone the 2 years we lasted together.
>Also through relationship, liked to do this fucked up game where she would say "I love you", and I would say it back.
>She would say it again, I would say it back.
>She would continue this until I didn't say it back. She would use this as an excuse to say I was cheating on her and didn't love her. And would then talk about killing herself, and doing a cruel laugh while detailing how she would do it.
This started to drive me pretty crazy, mental, especially because I ended up cutting everybody off for her. I had family, and thank god I still do. They didn't know anything about the situation but every little conversation kept me from snapping and killing myself.
I'll just add the conclusion in one last post since I hit the limit.
>>29894928
I can't tell if you are actually mad that this is the bullshit excuse I get for not lying and cheating while they do it, or just shitposting. Nothing you said makes any sense.
I mean it's really not hard to stay faithful to one person and not lie. This isn't some amazing feat.
>>29894944
She did actually, she had body dysmorphia and was overly conscious about her own anatomy.
But also really, my dick is pretty big, and it absolutely would have caused some tearing.
Combination of the two.
I mean we tried a few times, but knocking on the door would make her freak out into an anxiety episode. Like, she'd be sweating and shit within seconds.
>>29892874
>amerifat
>low opinion of US and canadian men
>want a non-jewish british/euro bf
>too poor and socially anxious to travel overseas or study abroad to seek them out
the internet helps me accomplish my goals, anon.
>>29894961
>June 2015 (Relationship started August 2013)
>Made up convenient excuse that my laptop wasn't working and planned on buying a new one
>If I ever logged on to skype or anything online I had her added on (FB, steam, etc), she'd threaten suicide or accuse me of cheating.
>Couldn't handle this anymore, fuck sake I was 19 years old and she was only 15, I kept letting the fear of her death being on my hands get the better of me
>Dumped her on July 7th
>She cried her eyes out and I stopped talking to her on everything.
>Leading to this point we consistently made "agreements" that she'd stop threatening suicide and coercing me into doing things, and I'd have to do something for her.
>Usually cutting someone else off, or refusing to go somewhere with family once I ran out of people to cut off.
^ This probably added to me being unable to continue with her.
>August 2015
>She says she needs a liver transplant and might die
>Somehow she 'miraculously' finds a liver donation, but says she'll refuse it
>Unless I tell her "I love her and will get back with her after transplant"
>I say it because I still cared about her and didn't want her dead.
>She ends up getting really pissed and hurt later on after I admit I lied.
>Apparently she starts talking to other people starting early September
>She seemed to get... better around December
>The week I planned on asking her if she wanted to try again, that I'd be willing to give her a second chance, she started dating a guy from a city nearby her. Said she was a new person.
After that, nothing worth mentioning happens. Since then I haven't been able to make a single real "friend" online or offline for a long amount of time. And dating, same shit. Can't do anything. I don't remember how to talk to other people anymore honestly.
TL;DR Stay away from LDRs
>>29895090
canadian here, you've crushed my heart into a thousand pieces
>>29895090
LMAO, way to live up to the high standards stereotype you dumb broad
Knowing girls you'll probably cave in eventually and fuck a 5-6/10 Amerifat so you have nothing to worry about :^)
>>29895130
Your post toward the end sounds like you missed having some coddling little shit to tend to for every day of your life, and now that it's gone you're aimless.
Kek, rip in peace.
Well, started to talk to a girl from the chans like 4 months ago. We had plans to see each other, things were great, talked as much as we could during our spare time. A couple of weeks ago she started acting really weird and then stopped talking to me completely, been trying to reach her in order to find out what's going on, I haven't heard a single word since then. Been causing me a lot of emotional distress since I really did like this girl, a fuckton really. No idea why she can't just say "Yo, I met someone." or "Sorry bruh, its just not gonna work out." or "Hey, I'm in a really dark place right now, I'll get back to you when I'm stable." that'd be fair play at least and that's literally all I'd need to hear, been worried sick that something's serious has happened. But no, seems like I she just ghosted me.
Can't say I care much anymore though, ball's on hour side of the pitch.
>>29895130
You sound like a genuinely caring person who allowed his niceness and naivety overpower his right reason. Probably also a degree of your own need to be loved and cared for, although it sounds like she never did. So it isn't a case of LDR being bad, as things like that happen in real relationships and they are far worse. You should learn from your experience and stay away from crazy bitches.
>>29895130
>>She says she needs a liver transplant and might die
>>Somehow she 'miraculously' finds a liver donation, but says she'll refuse it
>>Unless I tell her "I love her and will get back with her after transplant"
>>I say it because I still cared about her and didn't want her dead.
Dude that's the most transparently fake thing ever why did you fall for that
Unless you actually ever get into physical contact with the person, no.
It's a lost cause
>>29895141
if its any condolence, you moose-fondlers are the best part of north america.
>>29895223
angry 3-4/10 Amerifat detected
i love a friend over steam and she loves me
unless i'm reading this wrong, yeah
I've had a few LDR's, most of them went to shit for different reasons, but right now I'm dating a qt for about 6 months and everything is going good. We've seen eachother 3 times IRL.
>>29895308
>she
i got news for you bud....
>>29895268
She had a picture of herself in a hospital, I doubted it but I figured I'd say it anyway just for assurance.
>>29895250
Thank you. And yeah I'm staying the hell away from crazies. Honestly, I figured I could handle it if it was IRL but I didn't have the money to make it happen at any point because of college and other shit.
>>29895225
Maybe I do. I literally gave up all my friends for her. Girls too. I gave up everybody I talked to and didn't have anybody after they were gone. Most of them I completely lost contact with too, because of moving to a different town. So I had no way of even trying to rekindle shit. After losing the only person left in my life (excluding family), I did miss having somebody around.
>>29894867
Well she was cute. I'm not gonna lie it did play a factor in why it lasted as long as it did.
>>29895358
i get it cuck and ect. but that's not what i mean by "love". it's kinda like a sibling thing, you know?
>>29892874
It's how we got together
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0ZglTBkzu55
Everyone knows the relationship needs physical contact. But what if you and your other are losers that won't ever get the money to leave your houses?
Can an LDR last indefinitely on plane trips every 2 months, and never move in together for good?
>>29894999
I was just trying to satirize your "I'm too righteous for this horrible world" attitude because I think your head is up your ass
>>29892874
Yeah. Met my SO here, fell in love online, skyping and stuff daily till we met IRL, have spent nearly a month together irl at this point. It's been wonderful
>>29895551
fuck you i hate you fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
>tfw been in a 3 year long e-relationship with a trap that lives on the other side of the planet and whom actually visiting seems to be an improbable prospect
>>29895388
We met on myspace and chatted on yahoo IM
Been married almost a decade.
>>29895388
>Posting your 4/10 in every fucking thread
You realize the only reason she's with you is because she gets off on the self-degradation of BEING with you, right?
>>29895701
damn.
original as fuck comment
>>29895701
Kek. Salty.
>>29895701
>I can't make it happen so it must be a charade
Sour grapes anon.
no
you need to meet
No, you are being delusional if you think so.
Might aswell just get a nintendo DS and get love plus and play with a virtual gf. Its the same.
>>29892874
>meet girls online
>i always manage to fuck things up by being an apathetic selfish cunt
I still miss you D but i didnt deserve you anyway
>>29895740
fatman dude
wheres the cat that rimmed your poopchute
>>29892874
>internet
>using cell phones
REEEEEEEE
>>29895850
On the sofa licking my head. The fuckers a reak oddball
Yes.
My best friend told me he loves me a couple months before I visited his country. I'm with him for the rest of the month and I'll be moving here after college. LDRs are a lot of work though.
Sometimes it works out
>>29895913
I thought you couldnt go from friends to being a couple
What happened?
>>29892874
It can provided a) the relationship actually works, online or off, and b) you have a plan to transition it into the real world and are actively working toward it.
>have an internet bf
>he's from US, I'm from SEA
>wants to send me money
>refused
>he's more in love than ever
>tfw it's all just an elaborate ruse to extort more money from him in the future and not just one time $50
>meanwhile I have 2 other orbiters who begs me to accept their gifts
>still refuse for the same reason
>>29896452
Also how do I get money from them without divulging personal info like full name and address and bank account?
>>29892950
>love as a whole is a meme
I feel that most robots that want a gf are distracted by meme part of love. Had an anthropology teacher that said that love was temporary insanity. Didn't believe him until I dated a girl. Holy fucking shit looking back on it I truly believe I was insane as everything about my personality changed and I became basically brainwashed
>>29892874
I believe it's possible.
It's also easier to be manipulated when it comes to the internet. Especially when there's someone who only goes online to try to find a romantic relationship.
There are a lot of people who try to find people who want to be in a relationship to try to boost their own egos, or have a quick sense of relief when it comes to their loneliness but never intend on genuinely being serious in the relationship.
It probably works better if you've spoken to someone for a while and gotten to know them. (but that can also land you in the friendzone I suppose.) You can't decide to date someone a week after speaking to them. Especially online where it's harder to get a sense of a person.
Having a plan or idea for the future is probably a good thing to discuss at some point because the relationship can't always stay online.
But if either side has really strong sexual/physical urges then yeah. That'll probably be a relationship killer.
Everything I'm saying is moot tho as I've never been in a relationship.
>>29896452
>>29896475
I'll tell you how if you get me a good kratom hookup.
>>29896452
Leave and never ever come back roastie whore
I met a girl through a uni forum that I used to go to troll. We started talking and after a few months she tells me she's starting to catch feelings for me. Sends me a picture, cute Arab girl. Asks for a pic so I sent her one knowing she'll stop talking to me. She does. She has another account (She doesn't know I know it's her) where some times she talks about her fuck buddy but then talks about being lonely and depressed so who knows, maybe she just makes up this shit since she's all day on her computer posting random shit. Destroyed my self esteem regardless, she sent me a text a few weeks ago telling me she missed me but I didn't replied, she's done this before but that was before she knew how I looked like and it was because I called her a slut and a bunch of shit and cut her off completely. I don't know anymore, I can't seem to stop going to the place and I can't get over her even though we never met it fucking hurts, talking to someone for 3 months literally every day pretty much all day and then she just stops talking to you because she doesn't find you attractive? There was no friendship then?
>tfw my friend has a internet gf he alredy visited once (she lives in a neighbour country)
>i truly want them breaking their relationship
>>29892950
>my single experience where I failed to find a job and decided to move in with a girl after only a year together means the whole online love thing is a meme
don't listen to these kind of retards, I know plenty who know plenty who have successfully dated online. best to end up trying to see each other in person but if it's international then I don't know what to tell you. it's easy to ignore them if you have to you just unplug your internet modem or just turn off your phone.
>>29893280
hbgoddard
