If you got a gf, do you think you would be able to dominate and hurt her in bed?
Most women are into that stuff nowadays.
>>29882827
I think if I really wanted to, i could convunce her into a switch bdsm kind of thing. But that's my sweetheart, so not really something I pursue.
>>29882827
Sure, figure it'd be a healthy way for me to get rid of some of this anger, too.
Beat some chick while I'm fucking here?
It's a win/win, mirite.
Definitely. I'd love to slap around a girl honestly. It's not really about hurting them, more the dominance aspect. There's no misogyny in it or anything like that, it's just my sexual tastes.
>>29882827
yes. when you do this do you have to go easy or can you just start hitting them?
Yeah probably. I'd strangle the shit out of her while slapping her tits left and right until she'd start crying.
Nope
Submissive mommas boy here. I dont have it in me.
Honestly I'd love to spank/whip/etc. a girl until she's sobbing, then hug her close and slowly rub her back and kiss her and show her that I love her more than anything else in the world.
Gf and I started as a DD/LG type of relationship. still choke her frequently. Feels good, man.
>>29883273
Choking is one of the few things in this realm that I'm not particularly comfortable with. I'd love to grip a girls throat and put a bit of pressure on, but actual choking just seems dangerous and closer to the realm of actual violence.
>>29883268
Honestly I hate aftercare. Seems to only benefit the woman.
>>29882827
All women want to be dominated. No exceptions.
t. your friendly neighborhood chad
>>29883321
In that moment, she's emotionally vulnerable and you're in a position of complete dominance over her. Sure you could hurt her more, but assuming it's someone you actually like and not just some fucktoy, that moment seems to have the potential for incredible intimacy.
>>29882827
>dominate
A little bit. But only physically, really. It would be so awkward it would make her laugh.
>hurt
No.
Couldn't really do anything more than slap her butt (would caress it afterward).
Even just gently choking her, I don't think I'd be comfortable putting much pressure and watch her suffocate while looking her in the eyes. I know many women are into that...
>Most women are into that stuff nowadays.
Dammit...
>>29882827
>Most women
What percentage of the 3.5 billion+ living women did you ask?
>>29883376
Exactly, so she gains all the positive rewards from it.
What would I gain from it, the fact that I could have dominated her more, but chose not to?
>>29883417
This concept is so fucking well established that it isn't even funny. You're just being a contrarian dick.
>>29883421
If you don't see the positive rewards, you clearly don't give a shit about the hypothetical girl in this situation.
>>29883321
>Seems to only benefit the woman.
Yeah. I'd want to be good to her... I hope I'd be having sex with someone I like, so intimacy and affection is all good. It's want I want to do, really. I don't just want to fuck.
>>29883456
Also, to add onto this, I get off so fucking hard on white knighting, not really sexually, just in general. Comforting crying girls gives me a huge rush. Comforting a crying girl who I made cry would probably be even better.
I swear I'm not a normalfag, I just met crazy BPD chicks in the hospital.
>Most women
>Nowadays
Really, man? Really?
>>29882827
No because I'd take it too far and get arrested because some bitch schlicked to 50 Shades and thought the moment you enter the BDSM lifestyle you instantly get a Christian Grey bf.
>>29883432
Point to a shred of evidence please.
>>29883511
Alright, that's it. You went too far. Comforting your gf is a thing, but now you're just propping up being an emotional tampon for random girls who will fuck Chad.
GTFO of here...
>>29883417
The ones he didn't actually talk to but observed in some BSDM porn vids.
>>29883552
No. I sometimes enjoy being an emotional tampon because it lets me get caught up in someone else's drama and I can pretend I'm a real person for a while. You can call me a cuck all you want, ultimately I'm using them as much or more than they're using me.
>>29883534
The evidence is so widespread that I'm willing to let you find it yourself.
>>29883588
>No. I sometimes enjoy being an emotional tampon because it lets me get caught up in someone else's drama and I can pretend I'm a real person for a while. You can call me a cuck all you want, ultimately I'm using them as much or more than they're using me.
Not the guy you're talking to but I can see what you mean. You're off the hook for now, bud
>>29883667
It's all a balance. Everyone uses each other for their own selfish reasons, especially when it comes to relationships like this. There isn't anything wrong with that. Quid pro quo.
>>29883401
>dominate
>But only physically, really.
Heh. That's what worries me. I could be /fit/ as fuck, but I feel like women could still psychologically devastate me at any point (especially during sex) because I'm still a betakek.
I guess you'd have to be really secure and feel really good about yourself and/or not care at all about what she thinks and have means to put her back in her place afterward to truly be dominant.
It's really not something you can just chose to be.
Chad worked on it a long time.
>>29883029
Beat the living hell out of them anon.
>>29883735
I'm curious, when we talk about hitting and beating and such, what do you guys actually mean? I'd mostly just lean towards some face slapping and pretty much any form of punishment aimed at her butt, but I'd never use a closed fist or anything like that.
>>29883798
No fists, but moving them harshly, hair pulling to keep them in place, or holding them down with one hand while you plow them doggystyle is the general gist of what they seem to like.
No, so I know I'll never satisfy a woman
>>29883838
Yeah, that seems pretty par for the course. I find it funny that there's this reaction where somehow a bunch of robots are (or pretend to be) disgusted with stuff like that because they're terrified of damaged girls.
>>29882827
I was fucking my girl doggystyle the other day and remembered a video tutorial I absently clicked on that taught me how to do a reverse choke hold.
I snaked my hand across her throat and followed with my arm, hooked it back and grabbed my bicep, and with my other arm pushed her head forward. She passed out super fast (like five seconds) and freaked me the fuck out, I stopped choking her but kept fucking, honestly fucked harder out of fear. Slapped her ass and she woke back up.
As soon as she came to she had a really intense orgasm. Could literally feel her vaginal muscles tightening and releasing quickly around my cock and saw evidence of the kegel spasms on her asshole too.
It was super hot but I will not be doing that again (unless specifically requested and after some more safety research) on account of fear of erotically asphyxiating my girlfriend to death.
I will link video if any robots interested.
>>29883883
Most robots want to be loved, but their descriptions of sex could include this kind of stuff. Robots like to separate sex and love, and may jave different tastes for each. I, for example like to dominate the girl in bed but would also like to show affection without sex in a very loving way, i.e. cuddling and such.
>>29883893
>I will link video if any robots interested.
YES
PLEASE
>>29883893
>he needs a tutorial to be able to do a rear naked choke
Do you suck dick
>>29883893
Link it please anon.
>>29883933
It's interesting to see how that disconnect can pop up. I've never been in a real relationship, only some LDR bullshit that was more of a mutually shared fantasy than an actual relationship (though maybe that's what all relationships are), but I don't think it would be hard to separate the use of force to dominate and the underlying emotions felt towards the subject of that force.
>>29883941
>>29883934
I do suck dick occasionally actually. But I have never studied any martial arts or anything, wasn't aware this maneuver existed. Is it common knowledge for you?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LppnEfRoFIM
>>29882827
>Most women are into that stuff nowadays.
[citation needed]
>>29883883
>I find it funny that there's this reaction where somehow a bunch of robots are (or pretend to be) disgusted with stuff like that because they're terrified of damaged girls.
Why? Most of us don't actually hate women. We hate how they behave. But I don't want to hurt them (neither physically nor mentally). I'm OK with the idea that they would like it though, but I wouldn't be comfortable with it (I'm not dominant enough to do it right anyway).
Could I get women into tickle torture?
I can spank and tickle the shit out of a qt but there's no way I'll choke one.
>>29883933
>Robots like to separate sex and love
Hrm you sure? It seems like a lot of them actually cannot (and that's a problem too).
>>29883998
I guess a lot of it is just that /r9k/ attracts a lot of less dominant men. That isn't meant as some kind of insult, just an accurate description. I just feel like I've seen a wave of people actively decrying things like rough sex out of some kind of whacked out neoconservatism
Yea I can get pretty rapey if I let myself.
>>29883941
Not him, but I'd really want to be sure I'm doing it right. Just to minimize the risks of hurting her.
No, I couldn't hurt anyone
Yes me and my girl do that stuff when we have sex. I enjoy it a lot, makes me feel very good.
>>29882827
Had a long term girlfriend that was into pounding/slam sex and after we broke up the next 3 ladies made me feel like a real violent piece of shit for slamming it out so now I just don't bother with it and I'm more into drug addiction now.
>>29882827
>9
you got this picture from r/gonewild
Biting and scratching is my fetish desu senpai. Other than that, I always thought BDSM was kind of dumb, though blindfolds and mouthgags - ring gags in particular - are pretty hot.
I'd banter the shit out of her, however. Cute girls are cutest when they cry.
>>29883990
why the fuck are you applying martial art techniques to the women your fucking?
>>29883933
oh you mean like what a man is supposed to do in a relationship
>>29884098
For a socially retarded fuck up like me my main concern with all of this lies in accurately determining when I could act forcefully. If talking about it was necessary, that works, but I think it's important to be able to pick up on the ques accurately.
>>29884140
There's no bullying going on in that picture they're trying to make her stop crying because she'sfucking dumb
>>29883838
Funny, I think I could manhandle them and pin them down and be menacing, but NOT while penetrating them. Because that's where it starts to feel like rape. Even though I guess that's supposed to be the most dominant part, that's exactly where you want the most aggression. But damn...
>>29884141
She's always been into choking, but I've been choking with my hands around her neck like in the movies. This turned out to be more efficient.
IDK it seemed like a good idea at the time. I'm just glad she's ok and I didn't have frame her stepdad for murder.
She did enjoy it though, said she "fuzzed out" and the next thing she knew she was cumming really hard. We had a laff.
>>29884147
I mean.. you can sort of get an idea if she is after rough sex by the way she's acting, and if she makes a pained noise or is acting like she isn't into it, she's probably not.
Sex is a slow build. You don't immediately just start pounding the shit out of something. Move slowly, pay attention, and build up to what you want.
>>29884177
That's the all important line to walk. A lot of women have rape fantasies (I'm too lazy to find the statistics, but they're out there). Obviously that doesn't mean it's okay to rape women, but I think during consensual sex it's not unreasonable to adopt some of that posturing with those implications.
>>29883337
false. i want to peg cute boys and sit on their faces :( i know of several others like me.
>>29882827
If you want to keep a woman you should probably learn to dominate in bed, just regular stuff like fucking her mouth a bit, cumming on her, holding her down, gentle choking, ass slapping, hair grabbing, manhandling. And you don't have to fuck her hard every time, just sometimes it's good to. So make like the Nazis and conquer her Netherlands
>>29884252
Well then you're probably in the right place.
>>29882827
>tfw submissive
No real point to living desu
>>29882827
Dominated does not mean hurt. Most women are submissive and want to be dominated to some degree but that certainly doesn't mean hurt or real violence.
>>29884252
there's no reason not to do both and variety is the spice of life.
>>29884322
I'm that idiot that keeps contaminating threads with my ponyboy fetish.
I need to find someone who can treat me like a beloved horse, IDK why it feels good to post about it here. Maybe because I know there's some likeminded individuals out there.
Maybe I'll find a femanon fucked up to enjoy treating a man like an obedient horse.
>>29884350
but the idea of being powerless and out of control is very unappealing to me.
>>29884278
>So make like the Nazis and conquer her Netherlands
top kek, anon
I should really try to internalize the rest of your post. It really seems like this is true.
I would have to get into a mindset where there's nothing wrong with any of it and it's just natural.
If it's just something you develop over time with her it's probably going to be less effective? She'll always remember you at your less dominant point. Maybe it can still work out fine...
>>29884431
man jus showing her that you can fuck and dominate her properly will probably be a pleasant surprise. Just reminder her that she's your woman from time to time.
>>29884367
meet
>>29884410
originalorooni
>>29884472
Ok!
It's possible she might not let me do it because she sees me as too beta for it (I know there's a bunch of power dynamics stuff going on, which I don't really get). Even though she might really want it. Since I'm too beta there might be some resistance to break through. Maybe it has to be subtle. Heh, it's probably not that hard, it's just that I have the worst mindset for it right now. If she won't ever let me do it, it probably means the relationship is completely fucked...
>>29884431
>If it's just something you develop over time with her it's probably going to be less effective? She'll always remember you at your less dominant point.
As long as you can show that you prefer to be dominant and have no problem "using" her a little, you should be fine. I think it tends to be more about potential rather than direct experience. As in, you won't lose anything by letting her peg you if you've already established that you are going to be the more dominant one regardless.
>>29884252
I'm not a cuteboy though. I'm a big dude. Women don't want to dominate me. :(
I guess the whole point of this thread is that.. most women are like cuteboys?
>>29884639
I should note that I have been pegged and received anal favours from girls years ago who still beg for my attention to this day. So there's definitely something to be said for maintaining the upper hand.
>>29884610
that word "let" is what's holding you back. Think about that
Nope. I'm a total sub, unfortunately.
>>29884639
Alright.
>As long as you can show that you prefer to be dominant and have no problem "using" her a little, you should be fine.
Heh, ok. I do have a problem with it. I have my own psychological issues, low self-esteem and such. I hope I'll get over it.
>As in, you won't lose anything by letting her peg you if you've already established that you are going to be the more dominant one regardless.
Cool. I don't know about pegging, but I want them to rape my face desu.
Good posts anon. This makes sense. It feels wrong because of how the feminists have been indoctrinating us... but reality isn't as they pretend it to be.
>>29884715
Hrm yeah. She's in the wrong.
>>29884828
What? No dude she doesn't "let" you do it, you just do it, like there's no way around it it's just how it is.
>>29884882
Yeah, I meant she would be in the wrong for resisting, it's insincere and disrespectful. It seems that if they see you as beta, they want to keep you beta (even if it's wrong for both of you), so they might pretend to not want it and ask you to stop, etc. Maybe the relationship is already a bit fucked at this point.
I'm not submissive at all, I'm just really not assertive. It's something I'd have to overcome. Then she can't resist forever (hopefully).
>>29884639
>and have no problem "using" her
For fuck's sake, is it REALLY a bad thing not doing that?
Why does it have to be like this.
I get it though. Women like to experience all sorts of feelings. Including that of being used and degraded. And being powerless and abused. They like to experience things.
It's weird all the things that they can actually enjoy. Maybe if I wasn't such an emotionally repressed fuck up it would make perfect sense.
I already do. The funny thing is, almost all my gfs have asked me to do that. My current one tells me that she becomes a little bit scared of me when I get turned on because I switch into some other personality, but that fear is dwarfed by complete hunger for more
>>29884774
Thanks, glad you got some mileage out of the advice. I think face raping is pretty alright too, definitely much less emasculating than being fucked with a dildo. Things like that tend to be a pretty big turn on for women because it shows you can devote yourself entirely to her pleasure.
>>29885321
It's not a bad thing to exclude, it just adds a bit of excitement and shows that you can "take over" for her. There is nothing wrong with passionate, intimate sex 100% of the time. All that really matters is your willingness to take the lead and make her feel feminine, as if you can show her a sense of "purpose" in being the male guardian figure.
>>29885348
You belong in /soc/, dude.
>>29885544
nice dubs, but no thanks. im not interested in meeting people online
>>29884736
You need to step up your power level
>>29882827
I could hurt them so that they start screaming and stuff but i dont know if thats what girls want
>>29882827
No. I'm too afraid of hurting people, and my self-esteem is so low that I could never do anything risky. I like making women feel good, and I've never associated pain with pleasure, so it's near impossible for me to really get into it.Also I cum early so any meager facade of dominance would be ruined the second I put my dick in.
>>29885780
I really cant, though. Its like pushing rope if I have to dom.
>>29886496
>pushing rope
>>29886260
Me too. But I've gotten better with it. I just started being more physically controlling. I'll reposition her body the way I like and hold her arms to restrict her movement. She got upset before so I would just start rubbing her arms and reassure her. Now she likes to struggle but doesn't get upset. Not doing it so much while fucking though, mostly just during foreplay and when I eat her out. It's really nothing hardcore, and she knows I'm not actually dominant, but she likes it. (inb4 reeeeeeEEEEEE). She'd probably like more hardcore stuff too, but I don't wanna.
Nice reddit pic faggot
