Anyone here actually kinda glad they're a virgin?
I'm literally terrified at the notion of losing my virginity.
I've browsed escort sites a bunch of times, found some roasties in my area with good reviews but never pulled the trigger, I am honestly just pathetic at this point.
I've realized that if I ever have sex, it'll be through some incredible fluke and I'll only be able to look back on it and cringe. I'll regret it like I regret showing interest in that one girl a couple years ago.
>>29837303
>Anyone here actually kinda glad they're a virgin?
No. WTH anon? I'm ashamed of it. Also always really worried people might find out.
>I'm literally terrified at the notion of losing my virginity.
I really don't get that...
>>29837398
I dunno, man. Just the thought of having sex gives me a major panic attack. I'm starting to think I might have some kind of event in my life that made it that way.
>>29837521
Damn. That's really not going to help...
An event like what?
>>29837788
Not sure. Must've been some kind of sexual assault situation that I suppressed the memory of.
If someone even gets close to touching my thighs, I violently freak out on impulse. Everyone gives me a hard time over it and thinks it's funny, but it sucks.
>>29837844
>Not sure. Must've been some kind of sexual assault situation that I suppressed the memory of.
Eh yeah, maybe that could explain it. I really have no idea how these things work though. False memories happen a lot too it seems. Ever considering seeing a psychologist?
>If someone even gets close to touching my thighs, I violently freak out on impulse. Everyone gives me a hard time over it and thinks it's funny, but it sucks.
Damn, that sucks. How comes people are messing with you so much? I get that a little bit too. People know I'm reserved (etc) and sometimes they touch me too much as a joke. I laugh it off but it bothers me.
You really seem to have it a lot worse though.
Sad because I'm a virgin loser, but glad that I have something to look forward to. The idea of someday having a loving qt gf to lose my virginity to is what keeps me going.
But I'm not a virgin.
(Surprisingly, that comment wasn't original)
>>29838488
The idea of someday having a loving gf period is what keeps me going. But virginity is really hindering that.
>>29838340
I always consider seeing a psychologist, but I'm afraid because while I'm apparently highly educated and have a very high IQ, I struggle to find words to explain things I feel so I feel like it'd take a very long time to get to all the points I really need to.
Plus, I'm sort of /k/ and afraid they'll take away my guns.
>How comes people are messing with you so much?
I wish I knew. I guess they find it funny or cute. I dislike it, but I usually let it slide except for the intense physical reaction.
>>29838488
>>29838555
>>29837303
Having a Girlfriend is both easily obtainable and overrated. The only reason you want a Girlfriend is for materialistic validation
>>29838820
>so I feel like it'd take a very long time to get to all the points I really need to
Heh I see. I guess if you ever go through with it you should accept that it's going to be a long time thing. You might want to interview a few psychologists; maybe finding a particularly smart one might be important in your case (they're not necessarily the best ones *generally* I would guess though, but still).
>Plus, I'm sort of /k/ and afraid they'll take away my guns.
kek
I never went to a psychologist either even though I probably should. I have depression. I like the idea that I could still probably own a gun though. But I'm in Canada so who cares. I'm not gonna feel like less of a Canadian because I don't have an arsenal. I guess it might be different for Americans though. It's bullshit that they remove your rights for trivial stuff like that...
>I guess they find it funny or cute. I dislike it, but I usually let it slide except for the intense physical reaction.
Ok. Me I did a little turbo-autism routine sometimes ("Please don't touch me! It's VERY upsetting...") other times I'd just twist their arm and pretend I was gonna break it.
It's really no big deal with me though (compared to you), it just pisses me off so much when people do it in public as a joke. I'd be fine in private I'm sure.
You seem to have a real aversion going on.
>>29838877
>materialistic validation
I don't even know what that means...
I did say "loving gf". And I don't mean crazy in love, just being somewhat appreciated by her would be great. The intimacy and closeness matters. I'd just like to not sleep alone for the n'th thousand times at some point and be happy to wake up next to someone I like.
>>29839175
I probably will attempt to find a psychologist in the near future once I get in a slightly more stable financial situation. Looking for a job at the moment, but I'm sure I'll be able to find one.
It is unfortunate that they take away gun rights over even minor mental health issues. I mostly enjoy guns for target shooting, collection and rarely I'll go out hunting. Not as often as I used to, since I don't have to hunt for food anymore, but I'll do so occasionally.
I myself actually started saying "don't touch me" a lot, but I suppose that might've been seen as a humorous or ironic statement by most people so they started touching me more. Nowadays, I sort of glance at whoever does it with a genuinely hateful look and people have generally begun to slow down on it, so maybe that's saved me a little while I try to find a resolution.
>>29837303
I'm exactly like that too. I freak out whenever someone touches my arm/thigh. The idea of being naked in front of someone terrifies me. And there's also the pressure of having to please your partner. it's pretty scary
I'm terrified of the thought of having sex, I know i'm going to suck at it (just like everything) and having zero experience at 25 is a huge embarrassment. I'm too old for the few virgins left, any girl in my age dating range is going to be very experienced. In a perfect world I would find a milf to practice on and learn about women but that isn't going to happen. I was a chubby autist during most of my youth, then at 18 I got into working out and eating healthy and it turns out I had a really handsome face but I didn't get those early experiences so i'm literally fucked.
>>29839280
Great. Good luck with the job search! The job market seems to suck for so many people, even the smart, educated ones. Our leaders made sure of that. :/
Yeah, I wouldn't know how to seriously make teasing like that stop. It was only really a problem in school. Especially with girls. There's no good way to react when a girl starts touching you in public as a joke. And they know it. I guess it keeps happening if you go to lots of parties though. I wouldn't know. And friends stopped doing that (they realized it was never funny and I kept twisting their arm harder) and it's not supposed to ever happen at work now, so eh. I'd just give them a "WTF even dude?" if someone did it there.
Maybe if you can do concealed carry you could just make sure they hear you uncock your gun.
>>29839402
>>29839485
Hey, don't worry so much about it. A LOT of girls like it if you take it slow anyway. Don't freak out and they won't even know you're a virgin (don't fall for the memes, don't act like a virgin and no one can tell).
Just read about the erogenous zones and what to do with them and how to eat pussy like you were born to do it. They won't even care if you can't last long after. (But they WILL notice. But don't worry about it so much...)
And don't let them try to please you too much (if you can stop it without it being too weird) because you won't be able to take much of it.
It's not THAT hard to please a woman that just wants to be treated nicely. They don't all want a savage pounding from both sides. (Not all the time anyway.)
>>29838877
>Having a Girlfriend is both easily obtainable and overrated.
