Hey /r9k/, ask a therapist anything. Questions about life, relationships, advice whatever.
Why won't the suicidal thoughts go away?
>>29781123
How do I find a qt therapist gf?
>>29781123
What personality type am I?
What's your opinion on the approach Sara White uses?
http://sarahwhitetherapy.com/
how do i make my dick bigger
>>29781160
Suicidal thoughts are based on a low self worth and negative self image. If you try to improve yourself, and consistently work towards it, the thoughts should start to subside. Getting hobbies, meeting new people, going outside, light exercise, and anti-depressants should also be part of your treatment plan.
Seeing a therapist or social worker regularly will also help your general mood and anxieties.
>>29781160
By ending your life.
>>29781171
Tinder.
>>29781181
Shitty type.
>>29781189
Whore. Back in my country, we would have her stoned.
>>29781213
Dick pumps.
>>29781171
I dunno senpai, I fuck dudes. Sorry.
>>29781181
Personality tests are bullshit. You can score one socre on a tuesday and get another score on a wednesday. It's important to get your identity from introspection and self-identification, not some numbers and letters on a fancy looking graph.
>>29781189
This could help many who suffer from sexual phobias, but I think it's really gimmicky. It distracts from the session at hand.
>>29781213
Can't help you there. I know the brain, not the dick.
Why do I want to fuck the bunny?
>therapist
>the rapist
Do your victims struggle on the couch? Do you force them to admit things that they're not comfortable saying?
I won't say I'm masturbating waiting for your reply.
>>29781123
Want to hear my mixtape?
>>29781285
Probably because you find the bunny sexually attractive based on the fetishes we acquire at ages as young as 5. I don't judge people on their fetishes most of the time, but ponyfuckers (like people who moved from MLP to actual horse vaginas) always fucking creeped me out.
>>29781289
Look man, there's porn for you somewhere around here. I'd recommend some hentai/doujinshi, as that seems to have more rape-y scenes featuring patients and therapists.
>>29781304
Post it, I'll review it.
Why does this erect my wiener?
Why do i still feel like an ugly scrawny loser with no friends who hates himself and wants to change even though I've improved signifigantly?
In other words, why do i still feel the same inside despite changing so much, at least according to those around me?
>>29781123
how do i become a functional person?
The only contact I get with women is ASMR videos
I want to kill myself
How should I do it
>>29781340
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s2VG53RIJ50
>>29781123
How do i not pussy out right before i put the needle in? I've been trying to od on insulin for a few months now and i alway say
>todays the day
then right as i fill the needle and put it to my arm i pussy out.
i just want out of this endless hell, i havent done anything but work at a dead end job for 5 years now, i find no pleaser in anything i do. i cant even laugh at autistic stuff on 4chan anymore. i cant rember the last time i smiled genuinely.
Help me
So, I used to see this therapist once a week and we would spend the entire hour fucking on her comfy couch. Since I was paying her for the visit, would this be considered prostitution on her part?
>>29781364
Helium poisoning m80
Why do I find myself constantly fantasizing about having a gf at work? I mean that is literally all I think about while doing my job.
Why can't I bring myself to get a job ?
i just get drunk everyday
Why didn't my mom love me?
Did getting abused as a child cause my awful fetishes
Why are you not replying, do you hate us OP?
>>29781425
OP is making me insecure right now too anon.
>>29781123
I stuck my dick in crazy and this woman has gone full 'i'm going to kill myself if you leave me' mode.
wtf do I do? I think she is bluffing but I couldn't take the guilt if it's true
>>29781448
>>29781425
He/she abonded us just like my parents
K bye gonna kill myself
Tell me that I don't have schizophrenia (even marijuana induced) and that it's all just an illusion due to dissociative disorders, bipolar type 2, personality disorders, and other shit that's not including schizoaffective disorder that my intuition tells me to identify with.
>>29781123
Is it bad to not leave your house I haven't left in months probably 4.
>>29781340
Jokes on you I really did cum when I saw your reply.
Thanks famalam.
MAKE THE VOICES STOP
>>29781349
(not OP)
this will sound corny but you need to change your inner dialogue. you need to acknowledge your accomplishments and when you talk to yourself in your head, it has to be positive and hopeful. and when you say those positive things to yourself you need to accept them as a possibility, even if you can't accept them as definitely true yet. i bet you mentally collected your failures when you were a "loser" and now you have to do the same thing with your accomplishments. it's how your brain changes.
ialso, i've found that i shut myself down because of so much pain. i didn't accept or acknowledge the bad anymore but i also became incapable of accepting or acknowledging the good things when i did make them happen. it always felt like a mistake when anything good happened, even if i worked really hard at it. so, you need to tear down the protective wall you built inside yourself to survive. it is no longer as necessary. we need to adapt when appropriate or we can't move forward emotionally. you will always feel the same way if you keep telling yourself to.
another thing to do is mindfulness meditation. it helps us to be present in the moment without judging it as a positive or negative experience. this helps with accepting things as they are. this is good when you are starting to make positive changes in your life.
i'm still working on it all for myself but this stuff helps at least a little bit.
>>29781340
>fetishes we acquire at ages as young as 5
Could you elaborate more on this? What causes this? Is it because we are exposed to things at young ages (in this case anthropomorphic characters on cartoons) that interfere with "normal" development and sexual curiosity?
What can one do about it? Is there any way to get rid of a fetish?
>>29781341
>>29781341
If a hot and ready doesn't get you at at least half chub, you're obvious a reptile in a human suit. That shit is just too good for the price.
>>29781349
Just because you feel you've changed, doesn't mean the change was enough for those around you. Keep working towards the Platonic Ideal of a man, and you may yet become a great guy. Also I've sent some of my less social clients to try things like omegle, chatroullette, and other multi-cam sites to get used to socialization and talking to people.
As for your second point, your milestones may be different than theirs. What is your mountain could be a molehill to those around you. Keep climbing, though. The top is always worth it.
>>29781352
Dunno mate, don't really know your case.
>>29781364
>>29781374
Guys, suicide is a permanant solution to a temporary problem. Trust me. I survived two attempts, and after a while, you're gonna look back at them and wonder what the fuck you were thinking. And if you are truly feeling suicidal, call emergency services and tell them that you are feeling suicidal. They'll send a bus to take you somewhere safe.
>>29781376
I mean, I do basically do mind rape. I'm one of those "YOU'RE A GODDAMN COWARD FOR HIDING BEHIND THE MASKS WHO REALLY ARE YOU" therapists. So yeah, it's kind of a lesser form of whoring myself out.
>>29781385
You're probably just lonely and wanting female attention. Try tinder, online dating, speed dating, or just hanging around at local bars. There's plenty of fish in the sea.
>>29781388
Motivation can be a serious hassle. Set yourself goals, no matter how small. First day, could be finish your resume. Day two could be find some jobs you want. Try to do it in a timely fashion, but set realistic goals if you're a lazy shit.
>>29781403
Because you're mom's a horrible cunt.
i cannot make male friends, but for some reason am successful with women. Am I /alpha/ or /sociopath/? Also, I do not like it when people concern themselves with my wellbeing or ask how I'm doing if they don't know me. People overall disgust me - everything they do is for attention, and then have the scumbag tendency to claim they're 'helping'.
why are self-esteem and happiness levels so cyclical?
>>29781123
Did you become a therapist because you have dark thoughts or did your uncle touch you?
>>29781500
Well done, I hope it felt good
>>29781123
What do you think of trannies op
I ask as a tranny
I had a therapist but I stopped going because I wanted to fuck her and she was always coming onto me she used to take me in her car and we would just drive around and talk would there have been a chance to fuck her?
Is this thread to fast for you op?
>>29781422
Possibly. Who knows.
>>29781425
I love all of you. Even you over there.
>>29781466
Call the fucking cops on her. Tell them what's going on, and they'll commit her. Easy as pie.
>>29781478
Dude I can't diagnose over the fucking internet. Go see a flesh and bone therapist, they'll help.
>>29781495
Go take a walk, man. Go to a resturaunt. Just get out for a bit each day. It's good for the body and soul.
>>29781525
I ain't no fetish expert. I'm a general therapist, not a sex one. Go talk to one of those if you want more fetish talk.
Why am I pedophiles? Don't care about advice or to change, but I want to at least know why.
>>29781528
>You're probably just lonely and wanting female attention. Try tinder, online dating, speed dating, or just hanging around at local bars. There's plenty of fish in the sea.
I am a 26 year old kissless virgin though and no one will respond to me on dating sites and in real life I have a 100% rejection rate. Suicide is the correct option right?
I want to get a psychotherapist but I can't really get my shit together. I'm successful but very self destructive; its even a running joke at work.
Is it actually worth it to go to one? I'm scared of turning into a normie.
>>29781578
Cuz children are hawt??? Duh
>>29781123
I'm worried that no one will ever love me because I'm so fucking ugly.
I got up to a healthy weight and I started taking better care of my skin, so now I don't have acne, but all that did was bump me up from a 1/10 to a 2/10. I'm still 5'6'' with a deformed face.
Wearing better clothes, working out, eating healthier, and taking better care of myself aren't changing that. I'm still ugly
Plus I'm a neurotic mess.
How can I make myself more attractive if I can't control being ugly and I can't control being neurotic? I legitimately don't know how to improve myself anymore. I'm worried that I've peaked at a 2/10
>>29781385
>>29781528
>You're probably just lonely and wanting female attention.
i completely disagree.
i think you hate your job and it's a pleasant escapist fantasy.
>>29781123
i was isolated my entire childhood and never went to school, because of that never learned how to socialize. what do i do? im 21 if it helps
>>29781612
Only girls between 3-10 are, actually. But that still doesn't help me know why ME.
>>29781617
I don't know if I hate it but you might be right.
Answers are gonna get a bit faster here, trying to keep up with the volume of questions.
>>29781529
You're probably just jaded. Go to a rager, fuck a broad, you'll even yourself out. And most of my friends are women. Nothing wrong with a gender skewed friends roster.
>>29781531
Because everyone has ups and downs. It's newton's law. Every actions has an equal and opposite reaction. No one's happy all the time, and if they are, they're legit crazy. Mood swings over time are natural.
>>29781533
Tried to kill myself twice, grew up in an abusive home, thought I'd help some people out. And it was my neighbor, not my uncle.
>>29781552
Tranny are legit. Anyone says otherwise, tell em to fuck off.
>>29781567
A bit, but it's fine.
Gf told me she doesn't wanna be my gf anymore but she says we can be 'friends like we used to'.
Thing is, before we were official, we were "friends", but not really friends. So I wonder, is she leading me on or does she want to keep the relationship while she sleeps around?
>>29781622
Do the dinosaur, it'll open the door for you to get on the floor
How do i get over my obsession with adam lanza
alternatively, if i dont want to get over my obsession, how do i cope with wasting all my time
>>29781615
Also to add to this, I have almost no social skills or friends
How do I learn social skills?
>>29781670
You don't, just deal with it
>>29781123
I need advice:
I met this 17 year old qt through family (I am 24) and we hit it of pretty well, maybe too much, we talked everyday over a month but then she started to take more time to answer my messages and then she almost ignored me.
I did the same and ignored her as hard as I could for good measure, more than a week was gone by and I restarted the conversation, she did respond this time, and as of now we just talk once every week.
Why did this happen? do you think she got bored or stop for some other reason?
At first we honestly would have hang out in real life if it wasn't because our schedules don't match well.
Tbh she seems really independent for a 17 year old, and I think my hopes of having a qt girlfriend might have made me obsessed with keeping in touch even when we didn't need to.
She is going to travel for a month with her parents on vacations, How should i proceed?
Should i ignore her until she comes back, or should I talk to her as if she were here? I don't know if she will respond when she is not here tho.
>>29781701
thanks anon
you're right, it is time well wasted
>>29781670
>it's the adam lanza freak
Didn't I tell you to kill yourself last time? Why have you not done so?
>>29781575
Fuck you, I have 10k USD in bills because of people like you misdiagnosing.
JUST
>>29781123
I've got the derealization and ptsd from a drug experience that happened four years ago. I've gotten a lot better. I'm moved out, in school, working, etc.
I want to leave my girlfriend of three years but whenever I start thinking about it, I get scared my condition will get worse again.
What do I do? She is comforting, but that shouldn't be a reason to stay with someone I don't have chemistry with anymore.
>>29781705
you should wait till she's 18 then pounce on that pussy
>>29781705
Kill her and wear her flesh.
>>29781705
Hold her down and put your penis up her butt.
>>29781658
Say no and cut contact completely. You cannot be friends with her. Even if she starts talking to you again, act like you dont care and have moved on. One of 2 things will happen if absolutely never initiate contact.
1. You will move on faster
2. She will want to get back together
>>29781123
is it weird that i stalk my therapist online and print their pictures out all over my wall and cum all over them and don't care about anything they have to say and just feed them lies every session on autopilot while trying to sneak glances of their body and voice into my memory to jack off to later
>>29781578
Brain's wired that way. It's like being gay, being straight, being transsexual, or whatever. Just don't rape or molest kids, alright? I have a large enough workload as it is.
>>29781594
Nah, suicide's for chumps. Go work out, learn a new language, make yourself marketable. It's all about self confidence. People can tell if you have it or if you don't.
>>29781605
Fucking go see one you twat. Normies blow off therapists because they think they'll get better, then I see their fucking Obit in the paper.
>>29781615
Like I said, confidence. Jonah Hill is a fat fucking slob, but the man has confidence like he's made of it. People can tell if there is self doubt. Like sharks.
>>29781617
I love my job.
>>29781622
Try conversations on omegle or chatroulette first. Then go to a bar. Go to a gym. Meet people. You're not gonna learn how to be around people in front of a monitor.
>>29781646
This man is not me.
>>29781728
Start beating her. If she stays, you know she truly loves you.
>>29781741
I am not desperate but for her I don't want to wait. I could make her my girlfriend now and pound her once she is of age.
I wouldn't mind to be a long term relationship.
>>29781650
>Tranny are legit. Anyone says otherwise, tell em to fuck off.
I'm happy to read that.How do I tell my therapist that I was raped by my father without them thinking that that's why I'm trans? He only starting doing it after he found me dressing like a girlHow do I deal with the shame of feeling like a degenerate pervert? Anytime I feel like it's ok for me to be trans I just remember my sister calling me a faggot and my mom telling me to die of aidsAll of my current friends support me being trans. So why can't I move forward with my life? Why can't I accept myself?
>>29781340
Nothin wrong with horse pussy fampai.
>>29781748
No, I do the same thing too.
>>29781758
Why the fuck am I so tired 90% of the time?
>>29781790
it probably is why you're a tranny
>>29781742
No kinky shit until she is 18 bra, that shit gets you jail time.
>>29781743
I try to be dominant around her but I don't see her too often, and I think I seem like a retard thru text. sex is a no no until later.
do you ever feel like your shit is straight or you'll always feel like something is wrong?
>>29781790
What does your dad look like?
>>29781528
>they'll send a bus to take you somewhere safe
Yeah and get fucking sectioned and my rights taken off me, I'd end up in with the edgy kids pretending they're depressed and the anorexics
>>29781816
Huge 6'3 guy who was in us army special forces. I wish I was kidding
>>29781716
kill me yourself you lazy hoe
>>29781805
I wasn't molested until I was 11 but I had tranny feelings at age 3.
>>29781790
>I'm happy to read that.
Everyone enjoys comforting lies.
>How do I tell my therapist that I was raped by my father without them thinking that that's why I'm trans? He only starting doing it after he found me dressing like a girl
Dressing like a girl was acting out a fetish, so you probably were asking for it.
>How do I deal with the shame of feeling like a degenerate pervert?
By dying of AIDS like the faggot you are.
>Why can't I accept myself?
Because you're a disgusting abomination, and you know that you will never be happy no matter what you do, and you will only ever be loved in a fetish sort of way.
>>29781758
Do you have any tips on being a better conversationalist? I never ask questions the right way and never get the answers I want and I never explain myself the way I want to. I'm getting ridiculously depressed by it because it's making me think I'm a fucking blight to society because I can't even hold a simple conversation and don't belong in the room with normal people.
>>29781658
Dude, she might just still wanna be friends. The relationship could start back up, or it could not. Stop worrying so much about it and have a fun life!
>>29781670
Try switching from a heartless murderer to someone like Audie Murphy, or Jack Churchill. Massive body counts, but they're both some of the best goddamn soldiers on earth.
>>29781675
To get social skills, you're gonna have to totally fuck up social situations. You gotta grind out bullshit pleasantries, and get to know mannerisms and social cues. Takes a while, but I believe in you anon.
>>29781705
She may not be into you as much as you're into her. Give her some space, let her go on the trip, and then when she gets back, ask how it was. Don't contact her during the trip, that would be real fucking creepy.
>>29781719
I can't diagnose cuntbreath try again :^)
>>29781728
Be a man. Grow a pair and do it. The worst that'll happen is that you'll get symptoms you know how to deal with. Also see a shrink. The shrink bit is important.
>>29781748
Yes, but I don't really believe you do this. If you do, please seek more help. Like a mental hospital and serious prescribed drugs.
>>29781830
Was he clean cut? How old was he and how old were you? What did he do to you?
>>29781123
Hey I deal with anxiety and at one point it was super bad. I'm a social retard when it comes to feelings but I felt this was important and opened up to my doctor. She sent me to see someone. I waited like 2 months finally got in and spilled my heart to this dude and he just says he's booked and I should take anti depressants... what the fuck everyone acts like I need to talk to someone but they're really saying shut up and take pills. What gives that really fucking sucked
>>29781123
Over like...4 years of bad experience of women, I tend to be intimidated of women, especially ones I find attractive. I not just lusting for stacies either, just any girl that appears nice and not ugly to me. Im in college and I fell I kinda make it too obvious that Im too shy around girls. What do I do? I Just want to be hurt again. That's all...
>>29781866
Needlessly mean, they weren't even attentionwhoring.
>>29781123
Hey therapist OP, why do I feel always inadequate, I mean , I undermine myself about every accomplishments I've done .
However, I do not view any accomplishment that I perform as what it is but simply action that I do. That gives me a bad case of low self-esteem.
What can I do ? Also, It seems like I have an aversion to physical contact with the opposite sex. I can't bring myself to think about a girl touching me. I feel like I should push her away, because of that I always acted friendly and if I try to get a romantic relationship, I feel like a fraud.
Hope anybody have a fix
>>29781885
Got it, this is what i had in mind.
The thing is tho, I have driven away girls before like that, pretending not to care i mean.
How could you go about it with out hurting her in the process?
>>29781885
You're a god damn liar. The last therapist I saw said the she does diagnose albeit rarely. I couldn't take any more of her shit because she kept giving me the run around for THREE additional god damn sessions. I bitched her out and she apparently called the cops when I left after the last session because I was being rancorous and loud in the waiting room calling her a complete sham. I'm no longer able to see anyone within that hospital network for mental health unless it's for an emergency.
You might as well be a sham too.
t. chem major turned meteorology major turned psychology majorEat a fucking dick if you think my major has anything to do with finding myself. I could have done that without being a psychology major. You're damn right this spoiler text is a giant INB4.
Why have I been so bored every moment of every day for the past few years? Why is it that no matter what I do I can't find interest in anything at all?
>>29781790
Ignore everyone else. Focus on my words.
>How do I tell my therapist that I was raped by my father without them thinking that that's why I'm trans? He only starting doing it after he found me dressing like a girl
Your dad is a miserable pile of human scum. No therapist worth their salt would disbelieve you if you said that. We're here to be your advocate, your help, not some pig father's.
>How do I deal with the shame of feeling like a degenerate pervert? Anytime I feel like it's ok for me to be trans I just remember my sister calling me a faggot and my mom telling me to die of aids
I go to a week long convention for gay bears where I grind on strange men and drink a shit ton of appletinis. Being trans (or any other "deviant behavior") isn't shameful unless you yourself make it shameful.
>All of my current friends support me being trans. So why can't I move forward with my life? Why can't I accept myself?
You got self doubt, honey. It's ok. Talk to a therapist about it, or talk to a friend. Explain how you're nervous and scared. They'll be there for you.
>>29781804
Probably because you sit in the same room and do the same things. Exercise, do different things, and drink more water. Boom, new you achieved.
>>29781869
Nod and say "uh uh" or "interesting". Eye contact is important. And always have something to talk about that you and the person you're talking to have in common, even if it is literally the fucking weather.
>>29781938
Don't care. Tired of the fags and their diseases in the limelight. We should celebrate health and functional, natural humans. How about a nuclear family parade?
>>29781123
How do I get over a 2 year relationship and readjust to being independent and not feel sad all the time having no one to talk to anymore?
>>29781790
Kill yourself you whiny faglet. You ruin every place you set foot in, including here. Your disease deserves extermination, not consideration.
to the therapist;
my therapist tells me i'm not ugly, she knows i don't believe her. She tells me i'm not a supermodel but i'm not ugly
is she lying
Reminder that OP is a therapist and cannot help you with robot issues. Therapists are for normies. Psychiatrists are for robots. Psychologists are for both.
Enjoy the night.
>>29781982
Not op, but you might be depressed. My recomendation because it worked for me:
Set up an schedule for working out and stick with it. Force yourself to do it.
Stop coming to 4chan for at least 2 weeks.
(I know we will never going to leave this place but at least you could reduce the dose of this addiction)
Find somthing to do, no matter what it is, no matter if you find it amusing or boring.
I'm asuming you played a lot of videogames since childhood so this is my guess.
You might only feel comfortable when enjoying yourself, as in you only want to feel good. Videogames are an easy way to feel good, such as watching tv or browsing the internet, but it is an easy way to go about it, TOO EASY.
Your body adjust to that level of stimulus so you are just a zombie. to break this off, you need to control what you do, fi you cant do it yourself. Find someone that makes you stick with all of this.
Godspeed.
>>29781885
>Yes, but I don't really believe you do this. If you do, please seek more help. Like a mental hospital and serious prescribed drugs.
Really? That was pretty vanilla I thought. I've been in 3 different mental hospitals, been on suicide watch, been on 8 dif kinds of meds, none of it did shit. The best I got out of it was jacking off to the sound of the nurses talking while my roommate was asleep. Left the door open and was hoping I'd get caught.
there's a roach right outside my room so i have to lock myself in my room until the morning. i have to piss so bad but the roach is probably in my bathroom now so i have to piss in this gatorade bottle i have laying around. this is going to be my first time using a piss bottle wish me luck guys
>>29781925
Then that therapist was fucking trash and should be ashamed. Go to someone who will talk to you and help you grow emotionally. We're not all the best. Some of us, sadly, are cunts.
>>29781928
Hey man, you're shy, that's cool. Just try talking to women. Not about like sex or stuff, just say hi, how's your day, you know boring stuff. But don't do it when it would be innapropriate. In a bar or gym, you're fine. Walking near someone, that's creepy. Exposure therapy is your best best.
>>29781948
You might be a self hating gay. Just accept who you are, whether it's asexual, gay, straight, whatever, and you'll begin a path to a new you. Also, every little thing can be an accomplishment. It's not just "Get a 6 figure job", it could be "Go to the grocery store and have a conversation with the cashier".
>>29781950
Actually care. That's really all I can say.
>>29781978
I have a bachelor's degree in Social Work. I can't diagnose, mate. She may have been able to, but I can't.
>>29781982
That's called depression. Call a therapist, schedule an appointment, and go get your shit sorted.
>>29781993
Fuck off you goddamn troglodyte.
How do i not rage at vidya
>>29782068
My nigga. I'm not a crazy fag but honestly the world is crazy and these quacks get paid to keep it that way. Jerking off in a mental hospital to nurses and trying to get caught. Is that any crazier than studying day and night to get a job you do all day every day and then die. I think not, and you're a hero to me. Keep on buddy
>>29782030
Go out, meet some new people! Loneliness is a self imposed prison. Gyms and bars are good places to meet people.
>>29782042
Post a pic.
>>29782068
I ain't got nearly enough training nor experience to help you, mate. Sorry about that :/
>>29782072
Get a shoe, slap the roach. Easy peasy. Piss bottles always kinda wierded me out. I have a messy ass desk, some two day old food there, but piss? Ehh, not really my thing.
>>29781123
I'm a kissless virgin who has long since given up on getting a gf. A month ago some new girl started at the office. For some reason they seem to enjoy talking to me. Even though the rest of the office actively goes out of their way to avoid me. In all honesty this is probably the first friend I have made in my life. This week they started asking me relationship questions and I don't know why but I admitted I have never been on a date ever and I am a virgin. To my surprise she replied that she is a virgin too. I don't know if they want me to ask them out or not so the conversation kind of died after that. After work tonight they sent me a text saying they were a preop transsexual and asked if I was ok with that. They then sent me several paragraph texts explaining their situation. I briefly replied with a text just saying its fine but really though I am quite fucking surprised. Apparently that was the wrong answer though because they immediately sent back a text asking if I want to go on a date after work Friday. I don't think I want to date a tranny to be honest and have yet to reply. They sent me a text later on telling me its ok If I don't answer tonight but would like an answer at work. I have conflicting feelings all around on this subject. I don't know where to begin. I know if I say no they will probably start ignoring me just like everyone else at the office and I don't think I can take that. I have always to wanted to try dating but women never gave me a chance. Now that I have a chance I am not sure I want to take it because its with a man. Although I still do view them as a kinda pretty female. I'm leaning towards yes but I don't want the rest of the office to think I am a massive faggot. They probably all knew it was a tranny. I don't know how the fuck I am going to deal with this at work tomorrow and I need to sleep soon. What the fuck should I do?
>>29782117
She is a psych major with a masters in social work.
You should fuck off from this thread, honestly. Social workers are the bane of my fucking existence; they are the reason for me having been misdiagnosed 11 years ago. I'm 23 now and the ride has jumped from one wrong thing to another.
Fuck. You. Fuck. Off. LEAVE
>>29782117
>Fuck off you goddamn troglodyte.
Did you mean to reply to someone else?
>>29782169
What you've said is more valuable to me than 2 years worth of therapy sessions. I'm glad.
>>29782122
Put the controller down, step away from the keyboard/mouse. Count to one from ten slowly. breath deep breaths while you do it. Try to clear your mind. Should help.
>>29782200
First off, lemme clear something up: you don't have to fuck her on the first date. That's probably a load off your plate, so let me continue.
DATE HER YOU FUCKING ROBOT YOU MIGHT NOT GET ANOTHER CHANCE AND EVERYONE HERE WOULD KILL YOU FOR NOT GOING ON A DATE WITH A HOT VIRGIN ARE YOU FUCKING HIGH?!
Basically, grow a pair, man up, ask her on a date, and see how it goes. Worst comes to worst, it's a bad date. Best comes to best, you got yourself a qt3.14gf. Good luck and godspeed.
>>29782221
Yes. I have the dumb sometimes.
A lot of what you're saying can be boiled down to le "just do it". "just get motivated"
Why the fuck should I pay for someone to yap
>just do it even if you don't like it just do it
fuck that shit. if I don't like it maybe that's why i'm looking for another solution, rather than "just do it". I don't even care about feeling better, i guess it doesn't change the fact that i'm going to be a loser. i'm not even saying that to be edgy i really don't see this as "le mental illnuss"
i'm going to end up killing myself. i try to be normal, get shat on, try to be myself, get shat on. the only options are a) just be a ghost my whole life and fail completely or b) kill myself
>>29782065
It's not depression. I've know what it feels like to be depressed. I don't feel sad most of the time, just a strange empty feeling. Depression feels like I'm being crushed from the inside
>Set up an schedule for working out and stick with it. Force yourself to do it.
I do work out
>Find somthing to do, no matter what it is, no matter if you find it amusing or boring.
I've tried everything from vidya and anime to fishing, building, backyard science, stalking, fighting, trying to make friends and going to parties, girlfriends, travelling the globe. I've tried EVERYTHING and nothing makes me feel better
>Videogames are an easy way to feel good, such as watching tv or browsing the internet
I find video games, tv and most of the internet boring. haven't played a video game in 2 years. I haven't watched tv in 5 years
>Your body adjust to that level of stimulus so you are just a zombie. to break this off, you need to control what you do, fi you cant do it yourself. Find someone that makes you stick with all of this.
I can't find anything. I'm just stuck in this constant loop of being bored, trying something new and immediately losing interest. It's a shit life
I know I come off as a stubborn dickhead but I actually really appreciate the advice. Thank you Mr Anon.
>>29782117
>That's called depression. Call a therapist, schedule an appointment, and go get your shit sorted.
It's not depression. read above ^
I've tried going to therapists, nothing helps
>>29781123
Why is therapy complete horse shit?
Tell me that.
All the advice I get ammounts to "Lie to yourself that things aren't quite so bad".
Is that really how people cope?
Because I'm not a good liar, and I know I can see through the bullshit facade of everyday nicety that everyone upholds even if I tell myself I can't.
It would help if my clinical psychiatrist could just tell me if I'm Depressed, Traumatized, Autistic or all fucking three.
Quack psychologist at the health center told me it didn't matter what was wrong with me specifically - I asked her how the hell she was supposed to know how to treat an unidentified condition?
Fucker bailed and left me with her intern.
>>29781367
>doesn't make own beat
>one fucking line
I very much hope you're being ironic.
>>29781123
I'm self-defeating, passive-aggresive with very negativistic personality, at least that's what I know, parents are constantly for corrupting siblings, destroying family with my corrosive behaviour yadda yadda
1. Why kind of pills I should order, because I don't like waiting in the queue or pay for private diagnosis?
2. Why pissing people off gives me pleasure comparable to long lasting orgasm?
3. How to stop doing that shit, at least until I finish my degree?
>>29782117
>In a bar
Girls don't go there alone looking for guys. They'll always will be with friends
>or gym, you're fine.
I don't know shit about fitness. Most girls want to talk to the bulk up Chads
>>29782320
My therapist gave up and tried to push pills on me through referral even though he wasn't a psychiatrist.
It's a smokescreen.
The only thing that really works is cultivating your garden engaging Der Wille Zur Macht.
>>29782117
>You might be a self hating gay. Just accept who you are, whether it's asexual, gay, straight, whatever, and you'll begin a path to a new you.
Maybe I should rephrase it . The problem is that I like girls, I want to fuck them and taking care of them but I don't like affection because it's too incomprehensible to me. I think it's linked with my adequacy problem. Anyway, I'm doing some introspection. Thanks anyway
>>29782293
Only you can make you want to change. Motivation to get better is the key to all therapeutic work. Without patient buy-in, there's no point.
And all I can do is tell you that suicide isn't the only option. I'm not your dad. You're a grown ass adult, and your choices are yours. Just make sure that you make the right ones.
>>29782317
Depression can also be a hollowing. Mine was. I'd spend weekends in my bed, asleep, or just staring at a wall. Didn't want to do anything, had no energy. School was just sit up, walk, sit down. Nothing mattered, everything was bullshit, and I was a hollow person. Depression is a mean fucking cunt, I'll tell you what.
You should also always shop around for a therapist you click with, not just stick with the first shrink you find. Find someone who can work with you.
>>29782320
It's not lying to yourself, because everyone can tell when they're lying to themselves. Its about the buy-in, the moment where you decide to change. And stop trying to strap labels on yourself. Not everyone falls in a nice little category so that they can go through the "fix you flowchart". Sometimes it takes work and effort.
>>29782333
You sound like a really sad kid who can't handle his own sadness, so he sucks other people in to make him feel better about himself. You might be a corrupting influence. Don't drag others to your level, elevate yourself to theirs.
1) Fucked if I know.
2) See above
3) Refer to 1)
>>29782363
>Most girls want to talk to the bulk up Chads
>Most Girls
>Most
There's your answer anon. Not every girl wants to fuck a chad, and not every woman at a bar is having a girls night out.
>>29782416
You feel you don't deserve their attention? Then that's just low self worth. Work on bringing that shit up. Make yourself feel good. Do good things. You'll get better.
>>29781123
What are your credentiaIs?
>>29781123
What are your thoughts on dating with herpes as a straight guy?
Also, on whether or not to tell friends & family about having it?
>>29782533
Bachelor's in social work.
>>29782541
Family and friends don't need to know, but possible sexual partners do. Your dad doesn't care about your herpes, but the woman you want to bury your dick into will.
Why does my life seem to never improve no matter what I do? My childhood abuse seems to repeat constantly, like I'm a magnet to shitty people.
I feel misunderstood most of the time because most people aren't as introspective as I am.
>>29781123
My therapist is black and I told her I might be a neo-nazi and I'm racist. I believe in segregation and think the holocaust is a hoax.
She said there is no judgement and she holds nothing against me and wants to hear everything unfiltered.
How true is that?
>>29782513
Yeah, I think I've never hit mental puberty despite my knowlege, parents trained me to be successful, but not capable of social crap, they changed their mind too late, and funny thing is that they don't even try to keep siblings in line, which they follow my path even if I don't want to
Guess I'll keep releasing toxins because I have no idea how to stop it, thanks though, only one year to become fully cast gear
OP can you take some time to read this screencap about an anon who played the "numbers game"?
I'm someone who's afraid and uncertain about conversations with women and this heavily discouraged me. What could this guy had probably done better?
I feel like I'm going to be a wizard in 8 years and I want a clear path to not being lonely.
>>29782317
mmm maybe you have really unrealistic standards for everything else, I know I do too.
I started doing everything in life as a pragmatic and that seems to work well. Now I don't do things because they bring me pleasure but because they let me relax and chill: meditating is the best part of my day, just doing nothing.
This is my life goal now, How to build a life of my own, where I can be safe and comfortable doing nothing. I found that I finish my work faster now and do everything else with so much energy, just because I know I won't need it later.
Try reading philosphy a bit. what i learned is that we are not meant to be happy, I think of it as a two side statement i repeat myself everyday:
-We are all empty on the inside
-We only have each other
You might need more human interaction so that this model of life works with you. I am being more outgoing now and i find peace meditating aswell, I like to thing that this is balance and the closer to happyness i will get.
Don't be fooled by anyone else's or your own expectations, happyness is not having a doofus smile everytime, our consumerism has lead us to believe that we need to be constantly stimulated to be happy.
have a good life man.
>>29781123
I came to 4chan not too long ago, my social situation was already as shitty as it is now and I acted the same way about it.
Since then I've found a high probability of H.F.A. Some old psychologist papers talking about me, my mother, some online resources, etc.
I've also found out I may have other problems I didn't even think were problems, but I'm afraid that all I'm doing is just finding random shit and diagnosing myself with it with little to no evidence, or, I could be subconsciously thinking shit is worse than it is.
Should I look into this or just leave it? I won't get a proper diagnosis. I'm also afraid somebody will somehow find my search history even though I'm on incognito and laugh at me because they know I don't have any of this.
Hi OP, I am an old guy and my brother is 10 years older. His kidneys no longer work adequately and his doc will eventually put him on dialysis. Today I asked my doc if I could give my brother a kidney. He said yes, if I match. Thing is we have had a patchy relationship, even tho I spent weeks at his home in another state when his health was at its lowest. I think I need to sit quietly and look deep for what to do. But I thought I would post here to see what thoughts you might have on this. Thanks in advance.
>>29782625
Abusers seek out vulnerable people. Get yourself a support network of friend you can trust to help you if shit goes down.
>>29782648
Pretty true. One of the guys who sees me told me that I was one of the only faggots he wouldn't kill. He's a nice guy though, otherwise.
>>29782692
My brother is 5'7", wieghts like 110 pounds soaking wet, and managed to catch a 8/10, and multiple 7/10s. Women don't want negging, or any of that red pill bullshit. 500 rejections sounds so autistic I want to fucking actually grab a helium escape bag and leave. Women want a confident, funny, charming man. They want someone to charm them, to make them feel special. And you, as men, should always find women who make you feel strong, who make you whole. And I firmly believe that inside every single one of you faggots is a decent human waiting to arise.
Not a normie, normies are boring as fuck, but as some form of ascended robot. Like an Android, maybe.
>>29782859
Oh no, you might have an arbitrary label that puts you into a massive group of people with wide varieties of social skills?! God, break out the gun now, it's not worth it!
If you have HFA, you have HFA. If you don't, you don't. That label doesn't define you. I have major depression and generalized anxiety disorder. I don't let those labels come between me and the man I want to be. Understand, anon, that you before the label is the same as you after the label.
>>29782915
This is something you need to decide for yourself. This is a massive step you'll be taking, and this must be made by you and you alone. Think well and think hard anon. I wish you all the best.
>>29782945
>Oh no, you might have an arbitrary label...
HFA wasn't what I was talking about I'm fairly certain that's there.
It's just other stuff that I'm scared I might have. Not really scared, actually, Just afraid that all I'm doing is finding random shit i *might* have like a tumblr girl.
I don't mean to tell anybody about these things, or get diagnosed, but still... I don't want to be no better than a tumblr girl.
How long do I need to keep someone in isolation from all society until the person develop stockholm syndrome?
If the person is old enough to remember things (like 8+) will the person ever try to escape even if I slowly let the person out of isolation because even liking me the person will still want to come back to the person's family?
If I went to a therapist and said this kind of things, would said therapist call the police?
>>29783037
Hey man. You're aware that these labels aren't badges of honor. That makes you 110% better than the cunts over at Landwhales-R-Us.
>>29783062
No idea, and I think it would depend on how you phrased it. If you ask like a man who wants to throw children/adults into your compound's basement, you're gonna get a few eyebrows raised, and you may get some knocks at the door, as we have to report any intent to harm another person. But if you asked it as sort of a thought experiment, like if you were trapped, how long would it take you to break, you may get out of this without jail time.
>>29782945
jesus christ you type like a faggot.
either a /r/edditor or a cunt.
>>29783133
Thanks. I just wanted to talk to someone about what goes through my head but I guess I'll have to make do with 4chan forever.
>>29783164
I'm a college educated cunt, yeah.
>>29783170
Probably a good idea.
>>29782565
>Bachelor's in social work.
i've been to a lot of therapists over time with different levels of qualifications. without fail, the least intelligent and most incompetent of them all have been social workers.
i once had a social worker in a mental hospital taunt me about how they were going to get to go home that night and i wasn't.
based on all your un-insightful answers in this thread, i'm pretty sure you suck at your job. you might consider a different career path or, possibly, suicide.
you know it's wrong to give people advice over the internet while posing as a professional, right?
>>29782565
>undergraduate in social work nonetheless, offering advice to pained robots and claiming to be a therapist.
Thanks for the laugh.
>>29783326
>>29783263
I appreciate the character attacks, gents. Have a cute snek.
Is being gay just a constant orgy? I'm kind of jealous. Also, what is your theory on why people are gay from an evolutionary / biological standpoint, and how it differs from transgenderism?
>>29783358
it wasn't a character attack, it was a criticism of your competency. i think your answers were bad. i was saying that this makes sense, if you really do have a degree in social work.
>>29781123
why are you peddling your false hope to these poor neets? it's only going to make them more miserable
>>29782945
>500 rejections sounds so autistic I want to fucking actually grab a helium escape bag and leave
Why? The guy tried.
>Women want a confident, funny, charming man. They want someone to charm them, to make them feel special
What exactly does that entail? When I tried to approach a girl several months ago I basically pretended she was a dude, ignored her hotness and the conversation went pretty well and I was more confident than I ever was. but if I want to go on a date is this a bad idea? What should I do/not do?
>>29783555
Being gay is not a constant orgy. I literally vacation to the orgy, though, so it's kinda true.
And I have no theories on gay/straight/transgender. Just kinda never really cared enough about the why any more than "brain wiring".
And that's me signing off for the night. Got work tomorrow, so I'll catch you later /r9k/. Have some lewds.
>>29783612
Aw man, thanks for dropping by anyway.
>>29783133
>the cunts over at Landwhales-R-Us.
How do you treat the cunt tumblr landwhales who come to you for treatment? Do you pretend to help them and then passive aggressively insult them?
>>29783606
Can anyone else help?
Are you certificated? Got any PhD's?
Im bored by almost everything, expect sleeping because in my dreams I feel home/good and playing ark since friday but this already turning down, soon the only joy I'll have is to get sleep, I'm also very bad with talking to people and act in front of most people with different behaviors,
Also the mad drives me insane as soon as I read the news and what's up in the world
>>29781123
If you really are a therapist, shouldn't you be able to provide proof? Surely you have a degree of some sort to show us?
>>29785706
He's long gone dude. Also read the thread the guy sounded legit.
>>29781281
>Personality tests are bullshit
Yet most of them still provide more inter-rater reliability than even structured clinical interviews. That said, armchair, pop psychology, internet personality tests are almost certainly all bullshit.
Anyway, which type of therapy did you study? How old were you when you started working as a therapist?
im pretty much convinced that killing my crush is the only way I can get over her.
I think I legit have antisocial personality disorder or aspergers or something
what do I do with myself?
just suicide and save everybody the trouble of dealing with me?
>>29781123
I hate women to the point that ive rejected a few girls even though im a KV, but i still feel like a worthless loser to girls and shit. I want to stay alone because i know its not gonna work any other way, but is there a way to stop feeling like shit because of it? My life isnt good right now cuz of other things too so maybe that might make it harder but still, how can i stop seeing cute girls and getting depressed about it? I thought about chemical castration but theres nobway i could get it
>>29785085
They have a bachelor's in social work XD
>>29786035
why, what's wrong with you?
>>29785934
anything that is completely self reported is completely unreliable.
>>29787310
What questionnaires aren't completely self-reported, dingus?
>>29787310
I'm a layabout piece of shit, haven't worked for 2 years, get drunk or high on something everyday, no intention to change but I think I should get a job
I yell at my parents, my friends don't really like me much anymore, I've obviously never had sex or been in a relationship and don't really want to, I have never had any hopes or dreams and I never planned for my future, I didn't expect to live this long(I really wanted to commit suicide as a teenager) and have no idea what to do with myself anymore
still thinking of suiciding
Every single experience I've had with therapists/psychologists were purely awful.
>"What's the matter anon"
>Tell them about the fact that I had certain people verbally and emotionally abusing me constantly
>"You don't have any real problems, anon"
>"Just forget about it and go on with your life"
What
>>29787310
Interviews are self reporting too. Also there are validity scales in tests. Obviously you would never base any conclusion on test results alone, but they are still good tools.
>>29787557
It's almost as if a social worker wouldn't have a working knowledge of psychometric testing and clinical interviewing XD
>>29781705
She doesn't like you, sorry, get over it and move on. To continue texting her after that realization is you just being pushy.
>>29783555
no, I'm still a virgin and likely always will be
How do I figure out who I am?
Very few people have seen the real me, because most of the time I'll just do whatever I can to please the crowd. I'm constantly hiding behind a wall of sarcasm and humor because the truth is that I don't know what my real feelings on anything are.
I don't do any of this on purpose, it's just second-nature. My last gf would always accuse me of being manipulative a lot, but I wasn't trying to be. I was subconsciously trying to feed her lies and half-truths to excuse my behavior, without really realizing it. I have behavior like this ingrained into me. It's all I've ever known. I feel like a body without its head, just wandering around thoughtlessly.
My gf would always tell me, "Just be honest, be the real you. I like who you really are, you don't have to be afraid." Maybe it's that easy for some people but I can't figure it out.
>>29783555
Only if you're good looking and slutty. Which is also true for straight people. I haven't touched a man in two years and probably won't ever again.
I talk with my psychologist about some pretty fucked up stuff. He's told me plainly that he's never worked with anyone before that has my set off issues. In the last few sessions he was visibly disturbed/bothered about halfway through, and I feel fucking terrible. He's the best therapist I've ever had and I don't want to switch to someone else. How can I make him feel less uncomfortable and still speak openly about my issues?
>>29788118
Show him your balls as a sign of submission
>>29787796
>Wizard pepe mayamay
>My gf
kys
>>29788118
I'm not OP, but I think you should just be honest. You're not paying him to lie. Tell him that you got the impression that he was uncomfortable with you and that this made you feel bad about yourself/your relationship. Tell him that you enjoy working with him, and that you're anxious that he'll pass you down to someone else.
These are legitimate concerns, and you need to clear the air if you want to take something productive from your therapy. Otherwise it's just going to hang over your head, and you won't be able to focus on more pressing issues, which are the reasons you came to him in the first place.
>>29787809
I want to pick up a tiny twink boy to confirm my idea that I'm bi sexual. I've felt bi for my whole life but only went for girls because I didn't want people to think I'm a fucking faggot. How are "straight" people seen I mean I'm 24 and never been with a dude I think maybe they would think it's a trap
>>29783555
No. OP is just traumatized from getting diddled as a kid, so he is trying to get a grip on his trauma and regain the control he lost over his sexuality by being a turbo slut. This is of course futile. You don't fix damage caused by childhood trauma through proxies, he needs to address his feelings in a direct, honest way and reexamine his coping mechanisms.
Of course, OP's entire life is marked by escapism and displacement. You can see this in his career choice. By focusing on other people, he doesn't have to consciously think about his own problems. He likely gains vicarious pleasure from resolving other people's problems, or at least from being there for them, by subconsciously projecting himself into them, thus giving "himself" the support he never got during his difficult time.I'm talking out of my ass btw, OP is probably fine
>>29781123
Why do you charge me an unreasonable amount per session to stop me from killing myself? Gotta put your hand in my wallet before you do jack shit about my problems or what?
>>29788210
Thank you for the advice. I'll talk to him about it at our next appointment for sure, even if it's awkward. He'll probably appreciate it, too.
>>29788350
kek what did you tell him that made him uncomfortable anyway
>>29788361
I was doing exposure therapy which required me to describe an intrusive thought I was having in as much detail as possible. It was abouttorturing and murdering a woman before obsessively watching her corpse rot and then fucking and mutilating it.We've been doing this for months, and he has always been extremely professional and understanding, but I was angrier and more emotional than usual (my voice is normally very monotone but I was using a lot more inflection than usual) and he seemed pretty fucking disturbed by it.
>>29788429
at least you don't have intrusive thoughts of African penises
>>29788472
Thank God for small mercies.
tldr thread
Are you still here? If so then:
I'm 26, probably autistic, no job no friends for years. Is it possible to work your way out of this or do I need help. Or is it hopeless even with help? What are my chances here?
>>29788429
That must have been very hard for you. I know that it doesn't mean anything, but I admire you. It shows a real strength of character that you were able to share that, as well as your dedication to improving your quality of life.
The anxiety you are currently feeling is completely natural. We're not used to laying such dark and intimate things bare. Especially not to people we respect and whose opinion we care about.
You should definitively talk to him about your fears and how his reaction, real or imagined, made you feel. It might be good for him too. Therapists are only human after all. He might need to reflect on and reexamine how his behavior and words have been affecting you and self-improve accordingly.
Good luck anon.
>>29781226
>Seeing a therapist
shill
>>29782072
>My plan is coming together nicely
Is it possible to confirm if you have anxiety without having to see a therapist? I don't mean like tumblr "i can't even" shitty anxiety I mean like legit anxiety.
I stutter really bad and I have trouble opening my mouth all the way when talking to people, so it often sounds like I'm retarded. I get mild nausea every time I have to go out or talk to people, especially if I haven't done it in a while, although it fades after a few hours of being outside. Every time I have to do something important like filling out an application or form or making an important phone call I get this feeling I can't describe and I usually just end up jumping back in bed, playing vidya or fapping.
I want to kill myself living with homophobic family.
>>29781257
sounds like your country is full of backwards retards
>>29781528
How do you know the problem is temporary? What if it's chronic illness that you can't live with?
>>29781123
I've only had sex with one girl. the last time was 4 years ago and she was the only one I've even kissed. despite being fine around her I pretty much act terrified of making moves on other girls to the point where I never hit on them and barely even try to converse. at the same time, all the female characters in media I'm attracted to are strong, charismatic but in-your-face types (like yigritte in game of thrones or satsuki kiryuin from kill la kill if references help). basically I wanna know what my fucking deal is
