I need to ask all the chads, stacies, normies, etc a question. Where and how did you meet your bf/gf's? Even ex bf/gf's.
I'm KHV and have no idea where or even how to meet a girl. I just can't seem to find a situation that would be appropriate to approach one. And online the only girls I meet are girls with hundreds of beta orbiters, so they don't even know I exist after a day.
So maybe some other peoples experiences may help me.
Don't give me the ol "I just walked up to her and poof it happened." I need details, not "it just magically happened" bullshit.
Help me normies.
I might need some help too. Work, school, bookstores and malls have all been bunk for obvious reasons. Nobody goes there to socialize with random strangers.
>>29720020
The only girl I dated happened to be a girl I've known since elementary school. She told me she liked me and a few months after she told me I ended up liking her back, then we ended up dating. In other words I just got lucky.
>>29720020
I met my last 3 dates at work.
I worked at chick fil a at the time, last year. We just started talking more at work and I rather liked them, so I asked them out. Current gf is the last one, and we've been dating 9 months.
Need any more, OP? I doubt this helped.
You know what I did?
I was feeling hungry at like 9pm and went to the nearest maccas. Her and her friend were sitting in a corner, my friend already had follows her on Instagram so I followed her sitting like 2 feet away, after that she sent me her number over the messages and then we went on dates, got together and still together
>>29720054
Lucky indeed. I didn't talk to any girls throughout my school life. So I don't know any.
>>29720072
Somewhat. I hear that a lot of people hook up at jobs. Too bad that my job is all male except for one. The only girl at my job is my manager, and she's a lesbian.
I wazzap'd her on twitler & she goring'd my bananaphone.
I'm not really a Stacey but I met my bf 10 years ago in high school art class, and we've been together since then.
Mine was just an extremely lucky scenario desu. If I were single though places I would frequent more often would be libraries, cafes and nerd clubs/societies.
>>29720175
I can tell you with plenty of evidence that my appearance was a huge factor though.
>first girl and I dated for 2 weeks ish before she decided I was uninterested because I wouldn't fuck her
>second girl and I went on one date, had nothing in common, then she started drunk texting me about how she wanted to make out with me (she was a virgin) but didn't want to lead me on
Third girl/current gf is the only one I had any sort of real connection with, and even she tells me if I didn't look so good we wouldn't have started talking. Looks matter, unfortunately.
>>29720073
This is how I'm imagining you
>>29720045
>malls...no one goes there to socialize
the guy who invented malls was disgusted when he found out that no one went to malls to socialize, when that was their actual propose. pretty fucked up in a "society found a way alienate one of the most socially dependent species on earth" kind of way.
>>29720045
Actually in a Barnes and nobles in a mall, I met a hippie qt who had no problem speaking with me.
>>29720272
>Looks matter, unfortunately
Damn it! I'm completely average. I'm always rated a 5/10, and nothing higher.
Guess the only solution is to /fa/ myself up.
There are plenty of ways. But they all involve you getting out of the basement. I've met gfs in bars, social events, language courses, traveling, dating sites, and even on 4chan.
I was told going to a convention for whatever you're into would be a way, but between a-kon, pax and bronycon, the case is that they're ALWAYS with their boyfriends.
Fuck you anonymous dude/chick/dog for lying to me.
>>29720020
I NEED TO ASK SOMETHING TO NORMAL
PEOPLE
OH THERE IT IS! R9K WILL KNOW THE ANSWER
OP you are retarded
>>29720400
>not knowing that /r9k/ is normie central now
You new? There's a reason I asked the question here, because I knew I'd get answers. And telling from the 6+ responses I got, I'd say it's successful so far.
>>29720363
Average looking is not ugly. You still have a shot, just don't expect Stacie to want you.
You shouldn't want her to, anyway, but you already knew that.
Listen. I think a lot of /r9k/ just wants a gf but they don't know what a gf actually is. They're not going to come in and fix everything for you, they're not going to be perfect devotees or motherly figures or anything like that. They are essentially a friend that you can be romantic with and fuck. Expect nothing more, and expect it to probably not work out.
Also, you should understand that "girlfriend" is a label and it's best to avoid those if you are just getting to know someone. You can't just walk up to someone and ask them to be your girlfriend, but you can converse and ask them out on a date. Girlfriend is something they have to earn from you.
Sorry if you knew this stuff, I just see a lot of red flags like that on this board. If there's anything else, I'll help however i can
>>29720400
This place has been a "normie/robot" anecdotal tug of war for a while now.
http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/love/#6
>>29720020
My neighbour was my first girlfriend. I was 35. She was 63 years old and a total gilf. She came over to ask me if I got a parcel she ordered that came while she was out. I'm always home so all delivery services usually ask me to hold stuff for nearby customers. Stayed with her for 2 years before she told me she wanted to move closer to her daughter. Lost my v-card to her.
>>29720020
Do you ever go to bars and talk to women?
>>29720045
Just because nobody goes there to socialize doesn't mean they won't socialize there. Stop being so autistic about it.
>>29720464
>>Listen. I think a lot of /r9k/ just wants a gf but they don't know what a gf actually is. They're not going to come in and fix everything for you, they're not going to be perfect devotees or motherly figures or anything like that.
Then why the fuck would they even exist? No, they're exactly like that, and what you're describing is a fuckbuddy, which is a degeneracy no one should engage in.
>>29720020
Met my current gf in high school. He became close friends and eventually formed a relationship in the 10th grade
>>29720503
So he is the bottom?
>>29720020
I slid in the dms man. If you have a good insta profile this is way is simple and easy. Bonus if you already sort of know her. But that would mean going outside right? Pic unrelated
>>29720480
>a wizard success story
Well shit, I didn't expect that. Good job anon.
Try community college, anon.
Met a bunch of girls there. Never managed to snag a girlfriend, but there were girls that were interested in me.
>>29720020
Tinder
Been dating for a bout 6 months
both of us are mormon, which is why we hit it off in the first place (we still fuck though neither of us are patient enough for marriage)
Using tinder can be useful, but it took me about a year to get to the point actually meeting with a girl, got rejected countless times.
>>29720498
I have a mean looking neutral face, people tell me I look upset all the time, and I'm trying to fix it. I'm just saying someone like me really needs to reach for an excuse to start up a conversation because I am very aware you're not going to just say hi to someone you don't know who looks irritated, most people wouldn't, and probably try to keep it short if he just approached out of the blue while you're busy with something else.
>>29720499
You missed out on your introductory teaching relationship didn't you
There is a lot of compromise and strife that comes with having a gf. Mine and I are in agreement about the status of our relationship: committed, serious, and happy. And she feels like a close friend, that I can fuck. Most people i know agree that you have to have an ordinary friendship within your romantic relationship, it just works better that way.
Unfortunately, romantic partners aren't meant to be saviors, that's just not how it works. Its two people coming together to explore the idea of marrying one another. If they decide not to, they break up. If they decide to, they do it. There is literally no other reason to have a girlfriend or boyfriend.
You act like you know an awful lot about it, though. Ever had one?
>>29720603
So brush your teeth and smile
>>29720600
Genuinely curious, was she a virgin when you guys met? Or is LDS virtue a meme?
>>29720615
>You missed out on your introductory teaching relationship didn't you
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>>29720499
Denial is not good moi komrade.
GF 1: Made friends on an online forum, moved things over to Skype, turned out we lived only 4 hours away.
GF 2: Was a friend of a friend.
GF 3: Met at work.
I know this will sound unhelpful, but you just have to put yourself out there. If you're shut-in, don't work, and have all male-dominated hobbies you're not going to encounter grils.
>>29720600
>have tinder for over a year
>tried talking to every match I got, but they eventually ghost me out of nowhere
>ran out of matches in my whole state
>never got a date, or even into deep conversation with a girl
>now get matches in another state
I think I should just start over at this point.
>>29720499
A girlfriend won't fix your issues dude
>>29720620
I can't do it without looking like I'm straining.
And might be autism, but even as a NEET I could not stand being unwashed or smelly in any way.
>>29720682
So why should a girl want to date you if you're unapproachable and you won't approach anyone?
>>29720645
Except when have relationships ever been like that?
Would you come into some """"depressed"""" chick's life and try to solve all their problems, one by one? I guarantee you, you would give up the moment you failed to solve the first. And you would fail, because humans always have to have something to complain about. You likely wouldn't allow them to fix you, either, because there's always an excuse.
You come across as deeply deluded.
honestly man you just both have to be near each other and be attracted to each other. If two people wanna fuck, they will find a way to do it
>>29720464
OP here. I have a pretty normal life with no problems (at least at the moment). Decent job, plenty of friends, bought my own car recently, and lost a bunch of weight.
My next step is to raise up money to move out of my parents place. My only problem is that I'm just missing the companionship you mentioned. I have friends, but I want a "friend to be romantic with."
It's just something I crave like every other person, but I don't know the first step in doing so. This thread has been somewhat helpful in how some people's situations went about though.
>>29720751
How much do you weigh exactly?
>>29720020
Interest-based clubs. My friend's house (his sister).
>>29720020
GF1: met at a bar
GF2: college
GF3: met at a bar
GF4: met at a salsa class
GF5: met at a bar
GF6: met through a big dinner at a friends house
Current one: met through tinder
the easiest way to just have sex is going up to a girl in a crowded bar and talking to her
>eating food and notice 2 girls eating too.
>Decide to man up and talk to one.
>wall over before I can convince myself not to.
>they stare at me looking confused, my mind goes blank.
> ask her what soda she's drinking.
>root beer. "Oh that's good soda"
> friend chimes in " do you need help?"
> say no and walk away.
>>29720363
looks absolutely matter.
work out hardcore and you'll have girls come up to you.
Just last night a complete stranger came up and kiss me in a club.
she was sort of ugly though, don't expect that to happen with hotties
>>29720775
157lbs.
I used to weigh 200lbs. So far I've lost 43lbs, and feel pretty comfortable with my body at the moment.
>>29720712
I do approach people, when appropriate of course. That's how I kinda figured out my smile looks weird and and you're going to get quick, blunt responses when you look like you're constantly irritated.They want to get the fuck out of there before I shoot up the place, obviously.
>>29720820
Oh how short are you?
>>29720751
I really hate these threads desu. Everyone tries to find some direct path with a 100% success rate to a long term relationship, and there simply isn't one. Everyone is different, and the way to "get" them is different. Some people you don't have a chance with at all, and you can fuck up with some of the ones you do have a chance with. The playing field is not level, either; personal preference notwithstanding, there is always someone more desirable than you on a superficial level.
Ignore the memes, fix yourself up, then once you've got something to offer, head out and seek companionship. It'll happen when it happens, there's no direct way to it. A lot of it comes from simply playing the game. I know it gets lonely, I've been there (in a """fembot""" kind of way, anyway. I've always had options, just none that i liked at times) and it isn't easy, but get your life together and it will come much easier.
>>29720747
>>Would you come into some """"depressed"""" chick's life and try to solve all their problems, one by one?
Yes, been there, done that, it's great fun if the person actually cooperates. I'd love for someone to help me like that too, since all I really require in life is support of one close person.
>>29720392
>tfw tried to be a normie once and went to an anime con
>everyone is with their friends and dont even talk to strangers except for weird turbo weebs who know no shame
>dont know how to talk anyone up
REEEEEEEE
>>29720850
Please anon, don't make me say it5'9
>>29720866
Can't you at least agree that it takes a lot of getting to know someone to build the trust that that requires? Assuming you aren't just being a contrarian because you don't like what I've said so far of course
>>29720020
>>29720045
Normie here. At internet. I was playing on play-by-forum game and there was that one women that I have texting with. She was livin' near me (in same town) so I get her on some tea. She was impressed by my gentleman behaviour and fell in love with me.
At first I dumped her, because she was, you know, fat. But she has just lovely, great personality, and, fuck me, she was just perfect in everything except appearance. Made her lost her weight, she is in progress.
And we are happy together for like two years.
Try online friend on some portal that cover things you like. It will be easy.
>>29720438
This. I come here when I was beta cringy faggot and now I can brag about change that I made. It's natural process - every beta faggot who stand a little, one step higher than others will stay here, just to raise his selfconfidence.
>>29720020
I met my first one, an "internet" bf, on /a/ in a thread where we all posted pictures. Everyone wanted his contact info (he was a trap) and I messaged him.
I met my second one (when above turned out to be gay) on anonidate, a 4chan dating site that has since closed down. I looked up which anons in my area were not furries and had contact information, found one and then messaged him. Pretty much that simple.
>>29720904
>>Can't you at least agree that it takes a lot of getting to know someone to build the trust that that requires?
I'd literally do it with someone I met right now if she wanted to, I don't care. Why would it require trust? People hand over their lives to others in so many everyday actions with no "trust building" whatsoever. Or is your bus driver also your best friend you've been going fishing with for 10 years?
>>29720857
>""fembot"""
>being lonely
Get the fuck out of here you cunt. You could of gotten a bf whenever you wanted at anytime.
>I've always had options, just none that i liked at times
See? You even admitted it.
>>29720963
I get your point, but I don't use public transportation.
Then you're an exception to the norm. Not a lot of people will do this, nor will they accept that kind of relationship with someone. It has never been like that with relationships, m8.
BF 1: high school
BF 2: high school
BF 3: Rilo Kiley show
BF 4: sex shop (he worked there and I used their ATM a lot because it had the lowest ATM fees in my block)
BF 5: a mutual friend's party
BF 6: college
BF 7: /ck/
>>29721039
Nigger, I am not a fembot. I was saying that I have been fembot-tier lonely in an effort to distance my singularity from OP's. Our situations aren't the same. I'm admitting that I don't know what he's going through.
Fucking learn to read, you goddamn cancerous dumbass.
>I need to ask all chads, stacies, normies some bullshit
>60 replies in an hour
RENAME THE FUCKING BOARD TO NORMIE9000 ALREADY
REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
>>29721077
DELETE THISthis is an original post
>>29721077
why don't you stop being a weirdo and become one of us?
>>29721054
7 BF'S!!!
I feel like I shouldn't be surprised, but I am. Like this is a normal amount of bf's for a women to have had.
>>29720961
>an "internet" bf, on /a/ in a thread where we all posted pictures
>he was a trap
>turned out to be gay
what a fucking surprise
>>29720961
>he was a trap
>turned out to be gay
.....
what did you expect?
In middle school, we were shitty 13 year old "bf" and "gf" for like a month before that fucked up, but we stayed friends and a year into college we got together for real, and I lost my virginity to him (I had lied to everyone about losing it earlier out of embarrassment)
It's been five years going now.
>>29720880
>went to con with normie friend
>he has easy time chatting everyone up
>we split for a bit and meet back up, I have about 500 bucks of comics and knickknacks around my arms and he has a girl hanging off is shoulders
Feels like some shit out of a sitcom, man. Afterwards he even ended up a bit jealous at all the shit I had.
>>29721171
Oh my god... Vicky?
>>29721189
I'm not Vicky.
If my name was Victoria, I'd probably go the pretentious fag route and not adopt a nickname.
First of all I never got any gfs unless I was going to the gym regularly AND running regularly. Otherwise I am so crippled by anxiety and not impressing anyone with my poor body language and physique. Second of all I went to college and there's a lot of forced social interaction there as much as my anxiety made me a shut in and nevertalktogrils. So I get a little more confidence when I make fitness gains and it's sometimes enough that I just eke out enough willpower to talk to a lady and ask for her number and let her know I want to see her more. It's pretty much pathetic tier by Chad standards because I'm on my 5th girl ever dated in my life and I'm 31.
>>29721161
>>29721138
I thought he was just a girl desu, like I assume most of the other posters did too. Legitimate trap.
>>29721254
and in the meantime he became your bf?
>>29721219
Fugggggggg. That story is exactly me and my gf. I don't think she'd ever post on here though.
>>29720020
met my husband playing dayz. he bought me plane tickets and i sent him nudes.
>>29721309
it's probably a pretty common story for members of small communities.
I met her at a party arranged by my workplace
I met them both on/r9k/. Not joking.
>>29721279
Well he happened to have a gender neutral name too...
I thought I was dating another girl for at least a month, iirc.
tfw had an internet bf i met on 4chan when i was underaged but then fucked it up, and then never had anyone else interested in me :^) kill me, im 21 now
>>29721348
didn't you meet up and have sex in the meantime?
>>29721127
seriously it's usually over 20 dude for women by post college age. How do you not know this?
>>29721362
>tfw had an underage b& gf I met here, but she disappeared off the earth after a year
>>29721370
No, I never did anything sexual with him. He was a gay internet bf, anon. We did say "I love you" sometimes, but mostly we just talked to each other for hours at a time. I got my first cell phone (a small flip phone) just for talking to him on.
>>29721334
Yeah. Not many people where I live. Met in a school club for designing and building model rockets for competition. We used to launch the rockets in the field beside the school, but had to start them from the airport after some senile old woman called in SWAT on us because she thought we were terrorists test launching missiles. The ignorance is strong out here.
>>29721345
What the fuck are you doing? Don't you ever want to be happy?
>>29721380
there's a different between one night stands, fuck buddies and full on bfs
>>29721421
that's not a bf, that's just a friend than
>>29721426
>model rockets for competition
That's really cool.
We met in a special hippie school with a focus on travel.
>>29721460
Not him but I think it's possible to have romantical feelings for someone online and you seeing them as more then a friend.
>>29721460
Telling each other you love them and saying you're bf and gf doesn't make that a relationship? That's pretty silly, anon. It obviously wasn't a serious or long-lived one, but it still involved real feelings.
>>29721345
I'm jelly. All I want in life is a 4chan gf. Normie bitches just can't compare.
Too bad this site is not very popular inSerbia
>>29721503
Did you travel out of the country a lot? I really wish I could have done that. Too broke for that now.
>>29721635
We had it worked out to be really cheap, and we could work off half the price of any trip through work in the community.
Went on a marine biology trip to Mexico, and a foreign language trip to Paris.
He also learned German and went to Germany, I think his fond memories really make it difficult to see what's going on there nowadays.
Her mom introduced us at the local bar. Didn't think it would last as long as it has but we get along and that's all I need
>on a forum a few years ago
>being a teenager I'd periodically make dumb joking sexual remarks to female posters
>most take it for what it was
>one chick doesn't and seemed to genuinely believe I had an interest in her
>she wants it but she's fat as fuck
>don't know how to tell her so just leave the forum forever
>>29720020
someone posted her Skype in a thread on /b/ about 8 years ago. talked to her, played games with her, both of us did shit IRL for nearly a decade, then decided to move in and hang out. smooth sailing from there. fucking people just need to get out of their comfort zone EVEN SLIGHTLY and learn to meet people. it's piss easy to copy someone's info and say "hi". worst they're gonna do is delete your ass.
be a fag, too, someone out there will find it endearing.
>>29720020
well I met my gf at a football game. I was seated close to the field and she came up to me asking if she could join me because she wanted a better view. I said yeah but she'd have to sit on my lap, which she does. After 10 mins of her ass grinding on my dick, I start to get hard. She stopped, smiled at me and asked if I wanted to take this somewhere else. We ended up fucking in a toilet stall and she sucked me off. We hooked up after that. Its been a few months now. I think I might break up with her though, she's probably a slut that will cheat on me eventually.
>>29721589
Even in the US it's hard to find someone close to you. Everyone lives in fucking California, Florida, or Texas. I haven't met an anon or femanon that didn't say one of these 3 states.
I'm not saying that it's impossible, since of course a lot of anons live in different states then the 3. It just sucks that it's the majority. I should probably move to one of them? Seems like they are the best autism gathering places.
Once you're out of school the only way is your social circle which I'm guessing yours isn't very big. Work is usually a no no, bars/clubs is a shot in the dark with very low success rate. So yeah basically you're fucked. Welcome to the club.
>>29721947
>I should probably move to one of them? Seems like they are the best autism gathering places.
I honestly cannot decide whether that's a great or retarded reason to move.
>>29721362
You know, I'm 21 and I don't have a gf either. Maybe we can be bf and gf for each other.Just a thought.
>>29721947
I've lived in 2 of those states, visited all 3. They're ultra chad gathering places. They're the most normie of all the states.
>>29721950
>bars/clubs is a shot in the dark with very low success rate
actually it's much higher than you would believe
>>29722017
im sorry to ruin your nice thought anon, but i am a boy. good luck finding a qt girlfriend though
>>29722063
You're out competing with all the local chads and there are only so many attractive women at clubs/bars on any given night. Not to mention starting a relationship with a girl you met at a bar is not the best idea. The music is loud, people stay in their own groups, guys try to one up each other in front of the girls (even "friends"). I;ve lived it.
>>29721683
That's pretty fucking cool.
I just talked to her actually. Ruined my day, probably my week. She's really good at that. Just kill me.
>be friends with group of dudes out of state over forum for years
>lose job
>get invited to live with them
>okaysure.jpg
>arrive
>eventually start dating one of them
It didn't work out but its something. A common interest helps.
>>29722045
>implying New York is not the most Normie state
Literally Chads and Stacey as far as the eye can see.
>>29722117
I've met 3 gf in bars and had countless hook ups.
Try working out and getting a sense of fashion and you'll be able to compete with chad
>>29722222
Do you go alone or with groups? I'm already in great shape and I dress better than most of the guys, still didn't get shit the few times I tried. Can't fix bone structure and lack of height m8.
>>29722285
>Do you go alone or with groups?
alone works as well
> Can't fix bone structure and lack of height m8.
stop obsessing about your insecurities and give it a shot.
I saw manlets hook up. nobody gives a shit about "bone structure"
>>29721947
>Texas
I live in texas, I never see texas as their location.
Cyborg here. Girls I've hooked up with in last three years:
1) Girl I met who was a friend of the wife of a guy in my DnD group of the time. Met at the guy's birthday party. 7/10. Dated for a while, pumped and dumped, which made things awkward with the wife for a while - she stopped introducing her friends to me.
2) Girl I met through book club. 6/10. We started hanging out a lot as friends after I asked her out when a date of mine bailed on dinner reservations. "My date bailed and I have reservations, are you free Thursday for dinner?" About a month before she left town for graduate school we became FWB. Good timing on my part on starting to hook-up right before she left town because I'm terrible and keeping things casual.
3) Former 8/10 co-worker who was an office crush of mine, we had a "work spouse" jokey-flirty relationship at work; she was in a LTR at the time. Went for it after she found another job and she was down. We went on some trips together and hooked up a few times.
4) Current 7/10 GF of two years, met on Tinder. We swiped right and started texting each other about random philosophy and politics and shit, we're both pretty intellectual. My ability to ramble on about Rawlesian veils of ignorance and shit actually got me laid here. I haven't fooled around since we decided to go exclusive 1.5 years ago.
There you go. I consider myeslf pretty cyborg, have lots of nerdy interests, etc. But looking back on my pre-LTR self I did find ways to expand my social circle and meet girls.
I think ive hooked up with 9 traps, 10ish females and had 3 relationships w/ females in the past 3 years. All from okcupid and tinder except one. And im also seeing what is shaping up to be my dream girl right now, a relationship with her may be on the table
My advice? Take estrogen and pluck your eyebrows
>>29720857
>It'll happen when it happens
Heard this a million times, but it's horrible advice for a robot. That's how we end up in the 25+ virgin threads.
>>29720363
>/fa/
"no"
>>29722329
I believe you but you're probably really good looking or I'm missing something. I tried multiple times, once alone once with a few co workers at a few bars. It never ended well for me.
>>29720857
>fembot
Are there really still people here that fall for this shit
there is an 18 single mother that I could easily give the dick to, but idk if it feels right
>>29722502
>but idk if it feels right
You seriously unsure if giving the d feel right or not? lol?
>>29720020
i've met all of my girlfriends through social circles and putting myself out there whenever i'm in a new social situation. go to a meal or a bar with some friends or coworkers, a few of them bring news friends in, one of them is a qt, chat her up in the group, get her number and chat her up in private and make plans. sometimes there's chemistry, etc. etc. obviously it works a lot better if you aren't an awkward sperg, but I think in most of r9k's case they're just not making an effort because they're deathly afraid of rejection or have a mommy complex, and that's something you just have to power through.
cold approaching strangers isn't a real thing, it's something that PUA douchebags do and only "works" if you play the numbers and find a slut who happens to be ovulating.
I don't have a qtgf at present, butni have in the past.
It was always through mutual friends. She'd be the one girl in the otherwise all male friend group and she'd come onto me and I'd snipe her.
>>29722370
>cyborg
>getting laid
>multiple gfs
I thought a cyborg was someone who is very sociable, and seems absolutely normal. Yet still a virgin.
You sound like a regular normie.
>>29722567
jej Cyborgs don't exist
>>29722567
Cyborgs are dead-inside autists who have learned to interact with the world.
They're robots that figured out how to stop being robots through some level of technical evaluation.
>>29722533
yep
I know for sure I could nail her, she opens like a fucking joker smile when I talk to her and is always trying to make a convo with me
>>29722567
Well, maybe I'm being imprecise with the semantics or whatever. I'm just trying to convey that I'm introverted, have non-mainstream interests/hobbies, feel strong social anxiety in most social settings, don't go to clubs or bars, self-consciously am "performing" or "projecting" masculinity when I try to impress girls, etc.
I mean I met a girl through my DnD social circle for chrissakes. I couldn't do the club or bar thing at all - I am miserable every time I go.
>>29720072
>dating people you work with
don't shit where you eat anon
>>29722480
Jesus fucking christ, how stupid are you people.
See >>29721063 then work extensively on your goddamn reading comprehension.
Fucking idiots just literally jump at any opportunity to get pissed off at women
>>29722689
>I mean I met a girl through my DnD social circle for chrissakes
>Implying that changes anything
You're a fucking normalfag
>>29720020
I met the last 3 of my girlfriends via my sister, she put a good word in for me and we chatted via messenger before meeting up in person. I fear if I every broke up with my current girl I would spaghetti myself out of being able to get gf by other ways.
Be yourself like, cut the green wire
>>29722775
Yeah, that's what I thought at first, but I did it anyway because the first two we're leaving, one found a better job and the other was only working in the off-season of college, so it was aight.
The third and I worked together for a while. It was awesome. We got caught making out in the back several times, and I got in trouble for it a lot because I was lower management. We both ended up quitting for unrelated reasons and are still together.
>>29721335
>>29721741
>>29721950
>>29722370
>>29722538
>all of these anons meeting girls through friends/family
>all friends are male
>all of their friends are male
>all families friends are either male, or too old
Damn, looks like I can't use the easiest strategy. I'm actually surprised at how I've come this far without interacting with one girl all this time.
>>29721345
>>29721362
I've always wanted to meet a girl here. But like said in the OP
>online the only girls I meet are girls with hundreds of beta orbiters, so they don't even know I exist after a day
Sick of that feeling, so online stopped being an option.
>>29722790
Ok, if that's the appropriate way to label me, I won't argue with how you/this board's culture chooses to define it. But if so you need to acknowledge that "normies" don't have any intrinsic comfort/familiarity with social situations are are all faking it. Because I am definitely just faking my way through social interactions.
>>29722478
try again?
it obviously doesn't work every time! not even the majority of times
>>29720020
Met through playing magic: the gathering. He works at the shop i regularly play at.
>>29723050are you a boy, sounds cute as heck either way to be honest though
>>29720020
Right here, on /r9k/.
Swapped contact details in a thread and it went from there. Pure luck to encounter someone in thread, pure luck to get details, pure luck for it be actually female and then sheer luck got me through the chats up to real-life and onwards.
This was a few years ago, when /r9k/ was a little more than it is now. The normalscum corruption was just a fairly small, malignant tumour.
>>29722662
Holy shit, you're a fucking beta. Just dick her and stop gloating.
Every boy or girlfriend I've ever had was through school/uni friend groups and such as I don't really do much with people I know other than that.
I've had sex with loads more randoms met at clubs and the like but that's a whole other world to actually trying to get a romantic partner.
>>29723000
Shut the fuck up normie. Nice trips by the way checking them twice
In the woods. I was 13 and he was 17. And no we didn't actually get together till much later you creepy hikkis.
It's not that hard to get a girlfriend.
Getting a girlfriend is like starting a fire, the only hard part is lighting it, after that it's a matter of keeping it from burning out.
A lot of girls are bitter, jaded, and usually wary of other guys. Online is just a clusterfuck of entitled girls that choose you based on how they are feeling at the time. It makes the whole conversation artificial as fuck.
Relationships are tangible things. Forming one with a girl takes a lot of time, energy, and effort. Whether you start talking to a girl and within the week meet up, and fuck, or you meet a girl at work and have known her for many months before asking her if she would like to go with you somewhere, it's all a matter of how strong your bond is with that girl.
Connections are funny that way, they are silly things. There's no such thing as "the friendzone." It's not a bad thing to be a girl's friend. You just have to flirt with a girl to make them open to the idea of thinking of you as anything else other than a friend. I'm not saying it's easy, or that it's hard. That's just the way it is. Relationships are tangible. It's why friendship doesn't ruin your chances with a girl.
And before you say it, this is the real reason why "friendzones" exist. Girls are so turned off by you or find you unsuitable that they enforce the friendship title onto you so you can take the hint that they really don't like you. If that's the case, you really need to look at yourself and do something about yourself if you want to get out of the "friendzone."
A girl I wanted to date specifically would not do anything with me because at the time I was an empty egg (as she puts it) just a bland hollow thing with no substance. Then I began to work different jobs, picked up a lot of hobbies, skills, ideas, and are shit, and I became a man with some substance. I ended up not doing anything with her, even though I had multiple chances to, and in hindsight I am glad I didn't do anything.
>>29720918
would have banged her at 175
>>29723234
but I'm a virgin bro
and she has a son
>>29720020
The best answer you'll ever get is "you need relationships to get relationships".
So if you want to get a gf, you need a few friends, or colleagues, or horse-riding mates or whatever you youngsters are into nowadays.
>>29723468
That's no problem. Don't worry about that making you feel bad later on. You'll feel like shit for something else no matter.
>>29720961
>/a/
Well I can safetly say this whole place has gone to complete shit when an elitist board is acting like /soc/ and posting their pictures.
>>29720020
The only gf I ever had I met online through a mutual friend, she lived at the opposite side of the country (Ireland) but we met up a few times and we took each other's virginity.
I swear, she was the last 10/10 virgin qt on the planet.
I honestly thought that I was the luckiest man alive and if I could land a woman like that, I could do anything.
Then 6 months later she became a complete whore and dumped me for some chad.
6 years and 6 suicide attempts later and now I'm here.
What the fuck happened?
>>29720629
Dont be naive, all these religions only mean no vaginal sex until marriage. Oral, anal and handjobs are fine.
>>29722118
>Ruined my day, probably my week. She's really good at that. Just kill me.
That's really shitty.
One of the problems with old-ass long term relationships is that there's a lot less recourse when things get terrible.
>>29720020
You have go outside and do something in order to MEET grills (hobbies and sports like.. well.. literally anything) so you start talking to the grill you're interested in (if you have nothing to say, which would be rare cause there is always a conversation theme, just say hi and ask how is it going).
Now approaching women in random places out of nowhere is hard-mode. Leave it to the charismatic ultra chads that know well how to socialize. I mean if an autist tries it he will just look like a weirdo.
>>29725504
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>>29724192
This was almost 10 years ago, anon. /soc/ didn't exist, /r9k/ didn't exist, most topic boards were pretty relaxed about that sort of thing.
I told my ex she had nice tits. we fucked in the back of my car 3 hours later. was with her two years, then she got fat and wanted to marry so i left.
>>29720020
Mutual friends and tinder basically.
>>29723445
hah no, friendzone for a female is a nice way of saying "you're not attractive enough for me to want to fuck you"
I call it the facezone
>>29726081
I like how some guys like you act like females can't have a preference on who they want to date.
If some roastie hambeast came up and said she wanted to date you, you'd say no because you're not attractive to her. The end. It's the same for females.
Memes aside, they're people just like we are.
>>29721521
>Telling each other you love them and saying you're bf and gf doesn't make that a relationship?
No, it's called roleplaying.
>>29726765
Okay, anon. In that case, I suppose I've only ever had one, which would make me perfectly pure for him.
Quite a lovely story actually. how i met my gf of 7 years.
>17 yrs old
>had a bit of a hard time with my then-gf
>decide to get drunk and go to a ball
>see cute drunk girl
>kiss and grope her for a bit
>ask for her number
>says no shes got a bf already
>whatever just get her number from one of her friends
>next monday, meet with then-gf back in school
>shes all serious, tells me she kissed another guy at a party
>tell her its alright, slightly releaved actually because now i didnt have to feel guilty for getting close to another girl as well
>start a few months of courting my gf, who stil was with her bf back then
> eventually she dumps him and gets with me
And weve been happy ever since then.
>>29726897
If you want to know how i met the girl i was with before that, she was the younger sister of one of my friends and used to come to the skatepark to watch me, until i got the hint that she didnt care about skating and just liked me. Nothing too exciting.
My first ever gf was a fat as fatass american tourist who practically forced herself ontu me and i was too weak to push her away, literally and figuratively.
>>29724288
There, there, dont be sad.
>>29723247
Why is that? I dotn have a ton experience with hookup culture, but id asume any girl i sleep with is my gf until she says otherwise?
>>29726897
Disgusting fucking normie infestation I'm so done
>>29727075
Dont ask normies for normie experiences and then get all pissy about it.
You do it to yourself.
>>29727128
Shut the fuck up normie. Leave and never come back
How many of you were this lucky?
>Socially awkward, but very serious at work
>Girl is enticed by my professionalism
>Falls in love with me
>Asks me out, just go with it since I needed some company and was depressed
>Didn't want a relationship and told her that after she started snuggling at the movies
>She presses on the next date
>Accept her
>Have been my girlfriend for two months; everything's great
She drop kicked the door to my heart, I swear
>>29727148
>yfw typing this
>>29720020
hs and fb
>>29720020
Psuedo-Chad here.
Uh. Mainly it was through friends honestly. Which for a robot, isn't really a good answer.
If you can try and infiltrate a normie guy friend group, and then wait.
As you go places with them you'll meet people they know or just people in general. It's easier to talk to people when you have a group of friends with you.
Some of those people will be girls.
You're on you're own past that friend.
