>Dude I'm honestly sorry for the shit that happened in school. I'm not going to try to justify it or say it wasn't bad or something, I shouldn't have done that stuff and it went way too far. I understand if you don't want to forgive me but I'm sorry.
A chad that bullied me in high school sent me this through facebook, what should I do /r9k/?
>help me get laid and I'll forgive you
>>29586204
what if he's gayy?
>>29586170
Id tell him it's fine and you understand.
Or you can tell him how much of a wreck your life has been since then and you might become friends or something.
im impressed. i never had the balls to apologize to the kid i bullied back in school even though we are in the same d&d group now.
i hope one day i can manage too, he really deserves an apology.
"Fuck off man, back then it was a bit of fun for you and everyone else but it was you guys that made what should have been the best years of my life utter shit, while you were out partying and enjoying life i was left out because of you.
You can aplogise, but the damage is already done, i'll never be able to just be a normal high school student with friends without having to worry about your bullshit, the damage is already done"
You'll get a lot of people here telling you to either forgive him or tear into him but the best thing you can do is just not respond and ignore it. Replying to him will just dredge up bad memories and won't actually take back the years of bullying. If you're feeling bitter then not responding won't give him the satisfaction he wants and, if you're not bitter, then why do you care enough to respond in the first place?
Solve it the same way 4chan solves everything: choose a set of repeating digits and tell /b/ you'll let whoever rolls them write the reply.
>>29586266
This. Do this, anon.
That apology is probably fake anyways
>find me some pussy or else I'm telling the police you assaulted me
>>29586170
Honestly i would just say "suck my cock faggot. Kill yourself."
"I appreciate the honesty and I want to thank you for doing this. This being said I don't think I can forgive you. Sorry. I hope things are going well for you."
Stay short. Stay precise. If you can forgive him change the message. If you are not thankfull for him doing that say so. Essentially be honest.
The Last sentence may make him realize that you are not bitter but some things are done and can't be undone. You hope for him to be happy but can't forgive him. It may make him realize even more what he did and he may become a better Person.
That's what I would do. Then for me the bullies never apologize so what do I know.
>>29586170
dont respond. don't give him the satisfaction of knowing how you do or do not feel. just click it so it gets the "seen" thing and don't respond
>>29586215
Gays know some pretty qwut girls
>>29586343
do this except fuck /b/, there's a perfectly good thread right here.
>>29586438
or this
>>29586266
This is the best one desu desu
Now is the time anon. You have to an hero. Think of the headlines when they find your messages. Think of the guilt.
It must be done.
>>29586170
Accept his apology, move on. People change and mature. Kids can be cunts when they're young and don't understand the impact it can have. He's acknowledged that he's done wrong by you and he's trying to better himself and rid himself of the guilt.
>>29586170
>"You may think you've changed and you're a better person now than you were in high school, but you're not. This empty gesture proves it since it can only make you feel better about yourself."
I know your gut instinct is to say "fuck you, you ruined my life" but if he shares that reaponse with his friends you'll look more like a sperg.
>>29586170
At least he actually remembers and apologises, even if it's fake. At least he remembered.
My old school bully, the man who fucked up the next 10 years of my life, didn't even recognize me years later.
>>29586266
terrible, he'd just be telling him that he won. admitting defeat.
>>29586622
Nah. Once an asshole always an asshole. And his kids will probably be assholes too.
>>29586669
That's such a cynical approach anon. We never stop changing as people.
I used to be a cringe beta lord when I was younger but I'm far from that anymore.
>>29586170
>"did that make you feel like you were actually a good person instead of who you are?"
>>29586170
It's easy, ask for a compensation of some sort if he really cares. If he refuses then you know he's just lying about all of this.
>>29586649
Sheeeit these are wise words right here. Whatever you do don't give him more ammunition. Even if you forgive him, keep it brief and non-chalant. It might be a trap.
>>29586622
Fuck you. Asshole adults dont just pop out of the ground. They were asshole kids and will always be assholes.
>>29586746
I got bullied all throughout my schooling life. I have moved on. Why continue to think about the past?
>>29586170
tell him you will only forgive if he lets you fuck his gf
>>29586691
And yet you're posting on /r9k/....
>>29586768
I don't even know why I come here. I've only started posting here in the past few weeks.
>>29586787
>He started posting here as soon as summer came by
I really wonder why, summerfriend.
>>29586819
I meant this board in particular you idiot. Summerfags aren't a thing. I'm more of a /mu/ user myself.
>>29586170
tbqh i just wouldn't reply
>>29586649
You do realize this is complete ass backwards brain gymnastics right?
So apologizing makes you in some way an asshole?
This is just as stupid as when normies say "suicide is selfish". Backwards logic.
>>29586842
>summerfags aren't a thing
So the influx of people posting the lamest fucking bait around the morning hours during summer isn't a real thing? Start paying more attention - during the busy work hours the quality suddenly rises and during the holidays (i.e when underaged edgelords have free time) it suddenly drops below the fucking x axis.
>>29586889
Kids and teenagers have had access to smartphones since 2007. They can post whenever the fuck the want regardless of the schooling terms.
>>29586170
just accept it you faggot why do you depend on /r9k/ for such a trivial fucking matter this is why you were bullied in high school pussy
>>29586204
this 2bh oni-fampai
>>29586899
Have you tried shitposting on a smartphone? that shit is fucking unbearably clumsy, you couldn't provide a solid stream of shitty bait using your smartphone and risking getting in confiscated by the teach now would you?
>>29586266
>"I'm a complete fucking loser and you hvae the most awesome life ever and even if you apologize and feel bad right now, my reply will give you the feeling that you are better off and should feel great in the long run"
>>29586170
dont accept his apology like a fuckign cuck OP
go with >>29586266 because its the truth and chad doesn't deserve to be spared the truth
I think this sums up the whole apology situation desu.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K03Y2FP9qhI
For people who haven't saw the show the horse abandoned the guy with cancer when everyone turned on him.
>>29586923
there are millions of people using 4chan worldwide, lots of kids would be using it throughout the day, regardless of what the rules and consequences are
>>29586942
This is a fantastic show. Still don't agree with the message though.
Holding a grudge is unhealthy. There's nothing wrong with trying to better yourself and apologise to those who you wronged.
He's just saying it to make himself feel better.
You should ask him to meet up because "no hard feelings :)" then rape him to show dominance, then pee on him.
>>29586691
Not really. Most adult women still act like children. People who werent responsible in school become irresponsible adults, but instead of neglected homework now as adults neglect their savings account. You grow out of Linkin Park bit grew into Pitbull and Lady Gaga. The "changes" you undergo are cosmetic. You're the same lazy idiot you've always been.
>>29586967
>to make himself feel better
No shit. Because people grow up and feel guilty about the bad shit they did when they were younger. They want to rid themselves of the guilt and move on.
>>29586663
Nah Chad is just trying to make himself feel better. It's a lose-lose situation anyway
>>29586170
If you don't take the apology everyone you went to school with will know how shitty your life turned out and the fact that you never where able to move on
>>29586974
Ouch. Could you have been anymore edgy? This projection was bigger than my local iMax theatre. I guess you got your (you) though.
>>29586979
Then it's a fair trade, remove guilt, but live with shame of being raped.
For him, the bullying stopped in high school.
For you, the bullying never really stopped. I don't know exactly what he did, but I can guess the things he said to you, or did to you, had a permanent and lasting effect that quite possibly hurts your self confidence to this day. It's not a big assumption to make, case in point, you're posting on /r9k/, so I don't think you've blossomed into a Chad since graduation.
His apology is a self serving act anyways. He wants to clean himself of the guilt he rightfully feels. I say heap it on. He robbed you of the best years of your life and permanently damaged your self confidence. Don't forgive him, he doesn't deserve it.
>>29586963
I thought the message in this scene was that Bojack was only using Herb as a prop to make himself feel better without actually truly caring about how Herb felt, a bit like what lots of (not all) chads do when they get older.
>>29586974
>most adult women still act like children
You don't leave the house much do you?
>You grow out of Linkin Park bit grew into Pitbull and Lady Gaga
What the fuck are you talking about you insufferable child?
>>29587019
Nah, BoJack definitely felt remorse and guilt. But it was far too late. 20 years is far different to apologising to someone who isn't dying, or better yet didn't wait 20 years to do it.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with accepting someones apology. Everyone in here is so quick to jump on the attack which is just as bad as what the bully used to be like.
Forgive, but never forget. There's no point in staying bitter about things that happened years ago, and if someone is willing to apologise for that, then good on them for admitting they were wrong.
Chads aren't a thing btw.
>>29587009
listen to JFK, OP. he know's what's up
>>29587047
There is definitely isn't anything wrong with accepting someones apology, its just that the apology will solve very little for you.
The thing is that if OP was bullied when he was younger it puts you on the path to failure and will have a big effect on your future.
It also might leave you with lasting social/mental issues (not tumblr special snowflake things) and I think it is totally understandable to not forgive someone for this.
Bully Chad here, ask me why I did it.
Also, to OP, post the screenshot of it on fb (partially cropped / blanked-out, ofc) or I call BS.
>>29587125
Like I said to someone else. I was bullied for years. In fact, I still kind of hold ill feelings towards one particular person, but other than that, I try not to think about it.
I agree that it can have affects on your future self though. Probably one of the dozens of reasons I'm so mentally fucked.
Why did he send that?
This is the key point lads which will help determine whether he means it.
>>29587160
Believe it or not people grow up, mature and want to better themselves as people, apologising to those you wronged is one of those steps.
>>29587160
>>29587190
This is the key point lads which will help determine whether he means it desu.
>>29586979
>>29586967
>>29586649
Or maybe he apologizes because feels bad about OP's suffering and not about his own.
What's the point of twisting reality with this sort of reasoning. Do you actually think it's impossible to make a genuine apology?
I'm not saying that OP has to accept is apology btw.
I don't have a Facebook, but I'm sure all the people that bullied me back then just assumed I killed myself anyway.
>>29587207
I'm the first post you quoted. I meant it in a good way. It's easily possible for people to grow up and feel bad about things that they've done in the past. I just wrote this post.
>>29587198
>>29587223
Whenever I go to parties people talk about how I "dropped off the radar" because I have no social media presence.
Then I leave the party and I probably won't see them for another several years. I like being illusive.
>>29586979
Apologizing doesnt undo what they did. If you steal from someone you can pay them back. If you bully someone for four years what can you do to fix it? Nothing. You're a piece of shit and no amount of facebook poke apologies will fix it.
I used to occasionally roll 'round with a Chad at school, bullying people.
Lots of people who exhibit that sort of behaviour were bullied themselves, myself included.
>>29587239
elusive*
>>29587262
Apologise like a normal human being. Your cynical approach will only drive people away. Regardless of the situation.
>>29587024
>You dont leave the house much do you?
Have you never dealt with a drunk woman before? It's amazing. They're exactly like a toddler at Chuck E Cheese.
>>29587305
And drunk men are more mature right? While they're bashing each other to death.
>>29586170
Screencap it, write a short text on facebook and bathe in normie sympathy.
>>29587337
Yeah be a spiteful prick back. How mature.
>>29587312
I'm not talking about men vs women here. They're both pieces of shit while drunk, which just goes to show "once an asshole, always an asshole."
>>29587227
Ah yeah sorry. Flew over the thread and only looked for this "only to make himself feel better" part
>>29586266
>high school
>best year of your life
What a fucking meme, is this really what kind of delusions americana believe? My best memories from High school are me with my only 4-5 friends spending entire weekends playing videogames in the basement. When I was at school I Just shifted between being bullied and family drama because of sucking at math and teachers litterally Telling my parents I was top retarded for normal school because of adhd. The school system is a fucking joke, hs is prison and I chose to befriend the other losers like me with whom I Played vidya.
Well 15 Years later and we're all still friends. One of em is my roommate. I'm Just saying this because hs being this perfect social environment where you learn how to make friends is a lie. I learned social skills from scratch once i was out of hs and started wagecucking. I was always a super awkward anti social weeb beforr That
>>29587361
This is r9k lad don't be surprised. Everyone here is basking in self pity and self loathing. No one wants to believe people can better themselves.
>>29587264
>>29587144
"I'M A MEMBER"
No, you're not, you were just a pawn in Chad's sick games. A tool that was used and abused to reach their objective.
There's a reason why you're posting on here, instead of out enjoying a regular life with the normies who left you behind
Because you're a fucking loser, and always will be.
He seeks emotional release from his guilt.
Why give it to him?
>>29587397
Friendly reminder that chads are fictional made up boogey man.
>>29587425
You're a piece of shit, who doesn't know fucking shit.
Chad's are a scourge on society. Refusing to acknowledge their existence -- and by continuing to perpetuate this myth -- you're contributing to the downfall of mankind. Liberty city was great before phones ruined everything.
Dont believe him. Once a chad, always a chad
>>29586438
this, if you do anything but this you've lost
>>29587483
I agree that smartphones have ruined a fuck load about society.
I own one myself, but I don't use it when I'm talking, socialising and in general out with people.
Appologising for something you did years ago doesn't make you less of a cunt. It just means you're a cunt with self awareness. Sure, I could say "I forgive you Chad it's ok you're not that bad a person really", but I'd be lying and you'd know it.
I hope this shit keeps you up at night. Even once or twice throughout your hedonistic life, I hope you can't sleep for guilt. Surely not just for me either. For everyone you hurt. And most of all, I hope just one thing.
That pain you felt that caused you to try and ruin other people's lives? I hope it never leaves you. I hope it ruins relationship after relationship and friendship after friendship, until one night, when you again lie awake consumed by guilt, you kill yourself.
The world will be a better place without people like you. I wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire.
So of course I forgive you!
>>29586622
that's bullshit. bully bought his maturity and got his confidence by tearing OP's down.
sending a kysmm is absolutely deserved
>>29587510
This reminds me of an Eminem song.
You ruined it now, I hope you can't sleep
And you dream about it
And when you dream
I hope you can't sleep and you scream about it
I hope your conscience eats at you
And you can't breathe without me
>>29587509
>>29587483
>Arbitrarily throws an irrelevant/obscure quote from a radio station on GTA3 out there
>Someone comments on it and disregards literally everything else that was said.
He doesn't care about you, he just wants to feel better about himself.
>>29587549
Because Chad's are a myth.
>>29587312
i can smell the unwashed jizz caked flaps from here, roastie
>>29587576
You don't care about Chad, you just want to feel better about yourself
>>29586751
Because my past ruined the rest of my life, you retarded normalfag
>>29587584
>caring about someone who tormented you and sympathizing with him
r9k has turned into such cucks and normies
>>29587579
I'm a dude. I'm an immature, childish mess when I'm drunk. We all are.
>>29587605
You're letting it ruin your life. The past is called the past for a reason. It ceases to exist. It has no bearing on the future. It can't be brought back.
>>29587617
>I'm a dude
bullshit, you don't type like one roastie
prove it
are you people retarded?
He's only contacted OP to apologize so he doesn't feel guilty anymore
the only response he is owed is "fuck off cunt"
>>29587636
>prove it
Kek, It's 11:36 at night and I'm about to sleep. You think I give a shit if you believe me or not. Thanks for the laughs anon.
>>29587617
>It has no bearing on the future.
>this is what normies actually believe
Your childhood decides everything. If you had a shit childhood, the rest of your life is ruined forever and there is nothing you can do to change it.
>>29587658
FELLOW AUS BRO
DON'T SLEEP BE MY FRIEND
FUCK IM LONELY
>>29587658
ur welcum bby
>>29587677
I took a sleeping pill man. I worked out twice day and I'm burnt out as fuck.
>>29587617
>I'm a dude. I'm an immature, childish mess when I'm drunk. We all are.
speak for yourself you sociopathic cunt.
>You're letting it ruin your life. The past is called the past for a reason. It ceases to exist. It has no bearing on the future. It can't be brought back.
guess we can throw away sexual offenders list now. after all past doesn't matter.
god literally normie hour today
>>29586215
>>29586460
My cousin is a faggot and he always hangs out with literal models. I should start hanging out with him more often
A stacy who bullied me messaged me trying to repent with the same bullshit. Don't give him the time of day. He's just doing it so he doesn't feel guilty anymore. If you forgive him he gets to go on his merry way being confident and happy and feeling like he's done nothing wrong while you're still stuck with the same insecurities he drilled into you during highschool.
>>29587268
My cynicism doeant drive people away. People would first have to let me talk to them before they realize how cynical I am, and no one ever does.
And what's with all this "assholes can magically become good people" crap? Are you a fucking carebear? Am I talking to Teddy Fucking Ruxpin? People are selfish assholes and never do things out of the kindness of their heart.
>>29587696
>muh feelings
I love that you social autists hate it when functioning human beings post on here. Thanks for calling me a sociopath friend, you've really got the definition on point.
>>29587694
gay
what state you in?
There are two kinds of apologies, real ones and bullshit ones. OP's bully sent him a bullshit one. Here is how you can tell the difference:
>bullshit apology
Puts the onus on the victim to forgive them, focused on relieving the perpetrators guilt.
>real apology
Asks the victim what, if anything, could make it right between them again, focused on earning the victim's forgiveness.
>>29587732
there's nothing feelings based about what I said you retard. unlike your apologist garbage for objectively bad human behavior.
>>29587750
bris, qld, you?
>>29586342
Basically this. Normies require validation for every little thing and want praise for two seconds of kindness out of a life of inflicting cruelty upon us robots. The best, most biting response you can make is no response at all.
>>29587781
Same state same city.
>>29587804
Northside, southside?
Northside here.
>>29587824
Oh god oh fuck. Northside as well.
Shit this is getting too real for me.
>>29587731
You don't so anything out of the goodness of your heart. You're a loser.
>>29587843
I'm near Carseldine/Aspley. What about you?
KiIl him
>>29587885
but in all seriousness I would just ignore him, OP
>>29587868
just go blow each other god i fucking hate these aussies
>>29587919
Stay perturbed friend.
>>29587868
Dude. Serious? I could walk there. Not only could I walk there but I used to live there. I'm only a fucking suburb away from you, but I'm not saying which cos I'm too freaked out.
We've probably gone shopping or some shit at the same time.
I dunno what happens now.
>>29587919
Except he works out and I'm a fat sack of shit.
Oh. Also, weirdly for r9k, I actually prefer women.
>>29587938
stay the descendant of criminals, fag
>>29587964
Albany Creek is where i'm situated. My suburb gives nothing away.
>>29586421
this is a good one like you know what i mean, woah its got the good one
>>29587964
I'd hang out with out if it was earlier in the night. I've got a licence and a car.
>>29587990
But I'm situated at my appointed lodgings like a good little autist. I'd be breaching my own security.
Fucking, what highschool did you go to?
These coincidences have to end.
>>29588051
Wavell. Yourself?
>>29588045
Me too man but I think you underestimate how autistic I am. That car is just for reaching drivethroughs.
>>29588060
Craigslea. Good. It finally fucking ends.
>>29588074
>Craigslea
I knew heaps of people that went there. I knew a guy called Aaron personally. I used to work with him.
>>29588093
How old is he roughly? Got a general age bracket? You might know someone I know.
>>29586170
Tell him that you're gonna kick his ass if you ever see his ass outside.
Though it only works if you've been working out.
>>29588123
His name is Aaron Prugger. 21ish. I knew a guy called Liam Wilkinson too. He's probably 22.
>>29588133
Ah. I know Liam. He would be 22 yeah.
Fuck.
>>29586266
literally a spergout
don't listen to these fucks
>>29588152
Small world huh. What primary school you go to? I know people from Wavell, Albany Creek, Eatons Hill, Pine Rivers etc.
>>29588178
None of those.
Spookily small man
>>29588191
Don't worry, i'm not a psycho. I'm just some average dude without a job and too much time in the world. It's interesting knowing others local to me that use 4chan.
>>29588214
That no job feel man.
I was working at a couple of cellabrations for a while. That was alright while it lasted
He's only doing this for his own closure not because he gives a shit about your feelings.
>>29586266
This is the only correct response
>>29588247
I just got dropped a couple of months back from a christmas casual contract at a sports store. I was hoping to get permanent part time, but they dropped me and kept all the cheap 15 year olds..
>>29588272
It's a bad fucking feeling when I get turned down for shelfstacking job I tell you what.
Still though, starting uni this semester. That counts enough so I can keep my sweet sweet centrelink
>>29588247
Anyway anon I'm actually going to bed now. I'm sure we'll pass each other in real life at one point or another and not even think twice. Hope you get another job soon.
Just remember, /r9k/ is a shit hole. I only come here to try and motivate others to better themselves. This is a place of self pity and wallowing. You don't need to be a part of it. Being a normal person is great. You will never know yourself when you don't need this shit hole of a board to survive.
>>29588357
It is bad. Night anon. Good luck.
>>29587849
Wrong. I once had a teacher in high school say, aloud, to the entire class, that I was the nicest person in school. Completely unprovoked. And that one compliment from a teacher is the only nice thing anyone has ever said or done to me.
You say people do things out of the kindness of their heart? Where are they? Because I havent seen them. And I've been searching high and low.
>>29587674
>your childhood decides everything
this may have some truth in early development but come the fuck on OP is talking about high school
>>29588376
Part of me feels like I should keep in contact with you in some way, but idk.
Sleep well dude.
Forgive him, start using him for social leverage, his bad consciousness will prevent him from saying no
Dont respond. This is the best thing you could possibly do.
>>29588446
seriously, think of all the time's you text a girl and they never text back or all the times you post a reply and nobody (you)s
doesn't that suck?
>>29586170
Bully did try that I flat out told him I would kill him If I felt I would get away with it and him and his mates set me up for a miserable life.
>>29587617
>being told from the age of 5 to 17 that you're worthless, ugly, weak and no girl would want can't possibly destroy any ability to have confidence in ones self.
>>29586170
It's just going to be a confidence boost to him if you forgive him. He probably won't think about you ever again and will feel reconciled with you if you accept the apology. I'm also assuming that you still dislike him. Just don't reply or do what this anon said >>29586266
>>29586170
Had a similar thing happen to me recently.
>have no facebook
>no skype
>no friends
>khhhv
>barely use my phone and only call my mom
>got a call one day from a female who made fun of me for being short and ugly every fucking day
>no idea how she got my number
>"i'm really sorry anon i'm drunk and i realized how much pain i made you go through, i did it just to fit in with the others. i hope you can forgive me, tee-hee!"
Told the bitch to fuck off and to never call me again. I don't even feel anything, no idea what i'm supposed to feel.
She tried calling me again a couple of times but i just didn't respond.
Message back
>get some sleep, bully. you look tired.
>BWEEEEEEEEE BWEEEEE BWEEEE
Make sure you include how it's not even worth the time considering it wasn't even a face to face apology and you must be scared shitless of having to relive all those memories of tormenting anon.
>>29588710
>>"i'm really sorry anon i'm drunk and i realized how much pain i made you go through, i did it just to fit in with the others. i hope you can forgive me, tee-hee!"
>Told the bitch to fuck off and to never call me again. I don't even feel anything, no idea what i'm supposed to feel.
Damn, that's the worst apology ever. Should've done a lot worse than told her to fuck off. Normies are a plague to society. The sad thing is is that she probably wasn't even popular but she bullied you to barely fit in, at least Stacey and Chad are popular when they do it. Just another normie sheeple that follows whatever the popular crowd is doing.
FeelsBadMan
>>29588552
>think of all the time's you text a girl and they never text back or all the times you post a reply and nobody (you)s
>doesn't that suck?
>>29588552
Here's your (you)
>>29588974
By making fun of me, she made it so no females would talk to me, i was constantly avoided.
And some Chads beat me up at some point, but that's like, whatever, happened a couple of times, broke some fucker's fingers and never been bothered afterwards.
I'm 23 now and never held a female's hand who wasn't a family member. I entirely blame it on that Stacy cunt, i have no clue how to approach females, never got the chance to practice.
chad would beat the shit out of you turning you into a reclusive and then go hit some prime teen pussy right after. then he'd hang out with his bros as his parents let him stay out late or go practice for whatever sports team he was on as stacy cheered him on.
his high school life was amazing. unlike yours
>>29589010
thanks, bubby
>>29586170
Ask him if he wants to meet up for coffee the past is the past anon
>>29589107
You have nobody to blame but yourself
>>29589208
Yeah, i can't control the fact that i'm an ugly manlet. And as i recently learned, i'm autistic.
I earn well enough, got a lot of money from family members dying, i have over 40k euros in the bank, so i could have some surgery, but it won't fix my brain.
>>29586691
people cant change no matter what they do.
they always stay the same deep inside.
asshole chads will be so for eternity
>>29587525
i don't think chad cares all that much, you know? he was probably just a bit bored when he decided to "apologize." a lengthy, bitter message would only bring him more satisfaction
>>29586234
Just fucking say sorry you degenerate scumbag
