everyone says that being friends with one's ex is a bad idea. why is that?
>>29538720
repressed feels might haunt you.
>>29538720
No man wants to be "friends" with a girl he's not fucking, no matter how much he lies to himself.
>>29538765
you are right i do not want to be her friend, but i do not want to cut her out of my life either
>>29538786
Just agree to stay in touch and slowly phase her out of your life. Reply more and more slowly to her messages. Give smaller closed-ended replies. Put things off and agree to get together some other time until she is gone.
That will happen naturally, but you can do it consciously and not do something awkward out of guilt.
>>29538814
i actually cut contact with her for 2 years and she contacted me again to try to be "friends." i dont think there can be any phasing out like that at this point
>>29538834
Sure there can. There's an art to making her feel unwelcome without being a complete asshole. But if you're not up to that, you could just ghost her.
I wouldn't stay involved with any my exes. It's fucking torture for a male in that position, and it's illustrative of the difference in males/females when it comes to relationshits. Her keeping you as a friend is a net benefit to her and a net drain on you. So, just ditch her.
>>29538834
That makes things easier.... DONT FUCKING RESPONDwe all know you probably will
>>29538860
it hurt so much for so long cutting contact with her the first time though. i don't know if i can do it again
>>29538834
sounds like she wants a dicking, just give her one
>>29538876
this is what ive been doing OP and its worked for me so far. just throwing my two cents in.
>>29538896
i tried and she let me kiss her, but she insists she really wants to be "just friends." we are sharing a six pack and popping fireworks on the 4th so i guess i will see how things go then, and if something doesn't happen i guess i will just cut contact with her again
>>29538913
If you go op it's going to be worse. Just cut contacts with her before you fall even harder for her. Honestly ask yourself whether she would even consider ducking you or dating you. If both =no ghost cuz it's gonna happen eventually and the longer it takes the more it's gonna suck
>>29538786
>but i do not want to cut her out of my life either
Why not? You want that anguish of seeing her with Chad next month? You're going to be sad either way, but you'll feel worse if you're still talking to her.
>>29538950
ive been lifting for years and look like a chad. i get compliments on my looks and get attention from women all the time. why wont she just love me.
>>29538979
Because she has you around her finger so there's no reason. Let's be honest... If you went back to her right now you would fall face first if she told you too. For whatever the fuck reason being devoted to a person that much is a turn off to most women...basically in the same situation as you but after she messaged me again I told her to go fuck herself... She still sometimes sends me messages but I ignore them.
