>beta orbited oneitis hard for years
>finally broke free in 2014
>cut all contact, said it's best we kept our distance
>fast forward to today
>college graduate, possible gf soon, life going quite well
>get a text from unknown person
>ask who it is
>it's the girl I used to orbit
WHY IS SHE DOING THIS
She misses her moon. :^)
>>29454221
>get a text
Wow all you have to do is not respond.
I can't believe you're probably gonna fuck this up.
>>29454271
We shouldn't make assumptions yet!
OP, have you texted her back since?
literally just ignore her texts, easy as that.
>>29454300
>>29454301
I fear it is too late for that my friends
>>29454332
Show us your messages, OP.
>>29454332
just don't say it wasn't your fault when she pulls you back into her orbit again.
>>29454356
After she told me it was her
Me: ah hi. It's been a while
Her: yea it has. How have you been?
This is 2 years after I effectively died when I failed an attempt to kiss her
>>29454221
>possible gf soon
She wants to ruin your chances.
She will pretend to be cute and innocent. Don't fall for it.
She wants to play with your life and toss you out because she can, and she would never admit it.
If you killed yourself, she would probably smile and add a tally mark to the wall.
>>29454455
How would she know about it? I don't use social media and our friend circles don't intersect
>>29454504
What do you think women do all day?
SHE FOUND OUT.
They're mostly not stalkers, but they reach out to other women and talk, and they always tell each others everything. Women always know.
>>29454221
She's plotting some beta bux seeds
>>29454455
THIS. She's reaching out to you in the hopes that you're doing worse-off than her. Women do this shit to each other all the time. Ignore her
>>29454221
She wants something. Weed probably. Or rebound sex.
>>29454611
I can honestly say I'm probably doing much better than her
>>29454455
And come to your funeral acting all said "muhmuhmhu Anon was my best friend, we used to like each other", but laughing her ass of inside. It's what women do.
>>29454634
She's doing it to plot some seeds man.
She knows you were obsessed with her in the past, and now that you graduated college and are on your way into a lucrative job while being a functioning pawn of society, she can manipulate you at some point to live off your dollar while cuck you and fuck other men.
- 40 year old here
Yeah, anon. If she knows about this "possible girlfriend" then it's most likely her trying to ruin that shit. There's something about a guy that was interested in them getting a new girl that boils them inside.
Or maybe it's all in your head and she's just gonna ask you to like a video from facebook to win a contest. lol.
>>29454718
So how do I call her out on it?
>>29454737
Just stop speaking to her again you massive fucking retard
>>29454737
You don't. Don't talk to her
>>29454737
Don't. Be the bigger man, anon, nothing will hurt her more than your stinging indifference.
Whats the deal with that cut all contact meme? Seems like such an immature and autistic thing to do.
Maybe she thought youre over her by now.
Uh oh
She just said Can I ask you something?
Taking bets on what she's about to say
>>29454779
it's part of getting over your oneitis.
first step is no contact
>>29454779
It's not a meme. Talking to her only introduces drama/trouble.
>>29454737
Since she doesn't suspect you of being aware that shes trying to manipulate you. You can have some fun and manipulate her as revenge and use her as a sock that you throw away afterwards
>>29454795
When a girl asks you that she's trying to manipulate you by playing on your feelings she thinks you might still have for her.
>>29454795
Doesn't matter nigga, literally just don't respond from here on out. You got a good life with opportunity ahead, don't get reeled back into the bullshit
>>29454817
I don't think anyone on /r9k/ is capable of doing what you suggest.
>>29454779
They haven't been talking for a long time so there's only a distant connection and for reasonsbeing an orbiter is good enough if you've ever been in the position but could be moreOP felt that his relationship wasn't a good one. Why the fuck should he try to reconnect?
Her: Do you hate me?
Me: Why would I hate you?
Her: I don't know. We haven't talked in a long time and I can't remember why we stopped talking. I just know I've thought about you lately and I've missed spending time with you. I just assumed you were mad at me
>>29454921
oh i guess ive misunderstood, you cut all contact with her. i thought it was the other way around
OP please do us all a favor and go hang yourself. nobody will miss you
>>29454221
Do not fuck. She will try to get knocked up.
Do not give money. Do not offer to pay for anything.
Tell her pretty mask to fuck off and die.
>>29454921
She wants something from you ok whether it's because you were beta enough to buy stuff for her or be her emotional tampon
Don't respond if you want your life to be sane
>>29454921
40 year old here.
Man oh man, this is fucking priceless.
She wants that beta bucks. When a girl past 21 talks to you all innocent and childlike it's out of manipulation.
I think she's trying to make me relieve the suffering
She asked why did we stop talking?
Which answer will twist the knife deeper
1. Because I tried to kiss you
2. Because we were looking for different things in each other
>>29455023
Neither of those sounds harsh
What are you even trying to do here
>>29455041
Meh
I just combined the two
Not really sure what I'm doing anymore
>>29455041
sounds to me like OP is just a fucking asshole whos pissy he couldn't get laid so he just cut all contact with this girl without explaining why.
>>29455023
Tell her that you couldbt take it any longer and that she caused you horrible suffering
>>29455023
You're clearly really fucking bad at trying to manipulate people or play games so if you're not going to take people's advice and ghost her, just tell the truth. "Because I tried to kiss you and you rejected me, so I withdrew to protect myself."
>>29454921
>I just know I've thought about you lately and I've missed spending time with you.
HA!, if she "missed spending time with you" you wouldnt be orbiting her, youd be nailing her. bitch wants attention, something from you or your money. christ man, have some dignity and balls for once in your life. either ignore her and move on or reply apathetically to toy around with her and deliver that final blow to end it with some sort of revenge. trust me, it will make you feel alpha or you can be a beta cuck that warms her up just to have someone else nail her.
Go for the fucking money, balls out.
"From what I remember you stopped taking to me, and now its odd that all of a sudden you reach out to me when I finished college to reconnect knowing that I had a huge crush on you and you can somehow use that against me"
>>29455059
Nah, cutting contact after romantic advances are rejected is a legitimate move and doesn't make someone an asshole. People need to take care of themselves sometimes.
The OP's mistake is not just ignoring her now.
>>29454993
>>29455074
>>29455092
OP listen to these bastards, This is solid advice. Don't be a fucking cuck unless you're into that kind of stuff.
>>29455118
Shell then proceed to be defensive and scared of losing you and she'll have to submit to you in order to resort to plan B, which is submit to you and let you think your in charge, while she plays the long con of manipulating you into being her safety net
>>29454221
happened to me twice
don't answer
>>29455118
That just sounds whiny. You won't hurt someone by showing them that they have huge power over your emotions
>>29455125
Oh understandable, i still thing OP should be less of a pussy and explain why he did this shit, stop being such a pussy and fucking hit the fucking nail on the head that shes a bitch
>>29455137
if OP is smart enough or has the balls he can counter-con her by letting her think he'll be her safety net, fucking her than cutting all contact with her.
OP STOP , JUST CUT CONTACT WITH HER
>>29455149
Twice eh? Did either of these lead to anything?
Back to OP...
Since you're seriously considering the 'Never talk to her again" route and already attempted it, you've got NOTHING to lose. So what I would do is just flat out go for the gold..
"Yeah, I missed you too, don't remember why we stopped talking. Come over tonight?"
Something like that. If she refuses, say, 'Okay.' and THEN ignore her forever, because at that point, you really have nothing to gain and she confirmed it.
>>29454221
STAY STRONG ROBUTT
SHE HAS BEEN DICKED BY MULTIPLE CHADS
>2 years
2 Y E A R S
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Op, it's not worth it, man. You know it isn't.
Don't keep the conversation up. Try to end it giving short answers and then forget about her.
Focus on your possible gf. This bitch only started talking to you again because you were gone.
It's like when you get a toy from a baby and suddenly he wants it badly.
>>29455152
If a woman believes she has control over a guys emotions, she thinks she's in charge, but OP knows this, and in reality hes the one conning her while she thinks shes conning him. Sounding whiny is a great retort to her childlike innocence. Shell have no idea shes getting played like a fiddle.
You know that scene from Mad Men where the little guy says "I feel bad for you" to Don Draper and Draper replies "I don't think about you at all"
That's how you hurt women who reach out to you, if hurting them is your goal. Unfortunately it's too late for you to use that tactic, your responses have already shown her that you care. Remember it for next time. Terse, bored-sounding responses, then if she presses you, a casual mention of the fact that you haven't really been thinking about her.
>>29455225
why would you give a woman you dont like the pleasure of getting fucked?
You shouldn't have spoken to her OP. But whatever, you're clearly ignoring us.
>>29455249
Because OP has the possibility of making her his fuck buddy while still trying to get a legitimate girlfriend. Once he has what he wants, he can dump this girl.
>gf breaks up with me
>texts me almost a year later just wanting to know "whats up"
>start talking to her again
>eventually she drops all contact with me again
FUCKING BITCH
>>29455234
>It's like when you get a toy from a baby and suddenly he wants it badly.
This. Good advice here
>>29455225
>Twice eh? Did either of these lead to anything?
twice from the same grill
Now I'm waiting for the third round, but she has a bf now, which was the reason I stopped talking to her
>>29455271
Except the OP clearly has unresolved feelings for this girl as shown by his desire to hurt her, which means he's not going to be able to stay emotionally detached if they have sex. If they hook up he's going to cuck himself hard.
>>29455278
See, if a girl broke up with me and then tried to get in contact, I'd act completely cold and just act like I only want her for her body.which works.
>>29455297
i gave in and i fucked up and i let all my feelings out. i guess its a learning experience you know?
>girl I used to orbit hard since 8th grade messages me randomly while out of country for her 21st birthday
>didnt speak for a very long time before babd
>makes me feel wanted
>calls me cute names and how she wants to see me so bad
>keep her company all week while shes gone
>replies to my texts and double texts when I dont respond
>really feeling for her again
>tells me shes back home
>text her goodmorning
>tells me "hey how ya doin"
>cuts all contact with me
>just stop messaging her and cut all ties
Havent spoke since.
Roasties do this shit when they want attention and have no one else to obtain it from.
Fuck women
>>29455295
>he's not going to be able to stay emotionally detached if they have sex
I'd say that's the most likely scenario, I don't know OP's head. Still, it is possible that an alpha change in his personality may make him desirable to this girl, making her rely on him for a change. That's my goal for OP... he just needs to maintain the 'cold, unattached' fucker and he'll be good.
OP... this is an interesting situation.
Good luck.
JUST STOP. DON'T FUCKING DO IT. STOP REPLYING, BLOCK HER NUMBER, FORGET ABOUT HER. IF YOU CONTINUE REPLYING TO HER YOU DESERVE ALL THE BAD THINGS THAT WILL HAPPEN TO YOU. STOP REPLYING TO HER YOU FUCKING NIGGER RETARD FAGGOT.
>>29455341
no its not "Interesting"
why is everyone here forgetting she's taken a MILE of dick by now
she's been on the carousel for 2 YEARS
>>29455319
Yeah, only do the cutesey shit e.g. good morning texts if and only if you two are official. If a woman already knows she 'has' you, they lose interest. I speak from experience as well, anon.
OP, GIVE US AN U P D A T EYou have been muted for 2 seconds, because your comment was not memey enough.
>>29455341
OP is going to fail. The fact that he ignored the solid advice that most folks here gave him shows that he's weak-willed. Plus this IS /r9k/. He's gonna beta orbit all over again.
>>29455376
Hm... that's a good point. I keep forgetting this is /r9k/I thought I was on /b/.
>>29455374
I told her both 1 and 2 and she said she wasn't expecting it.
I asked if she wasn't expecting me to kiss her or she wasn't expecting me to have feelings for her
She said the kiss (read: she was expecting me to stay a good little beta orbiter)
>>29454921
>Her: Do you hate me?
>Me: Why would I hate you?
SAY YES. TELL HER THAT YOU HATE HER AND THAT SHE SHOULD FUCK OFF! DO NOT GIVE THESE WHORES YOUR ATTENTION THAT IS ALL THEY WANT!
IGNORE THE WHORES
IGNORE THE WHORES
>>29455374
We don't need an update, we already know what's happening. He's lost his spaghetti and told her all about his feelings and is back to being her orbiter again
>>29455432
I'm just angrily replying to all her things
>>29455414
You fucked up and you don't even realize it, anon
>>29455432
>told her all about his feelings
This. This is the worst possible thing a guy can say. Always wait for the girl to say they have feelings, and even then, make it sound mutual but also that it's not a big deal.
The goal is to make women feel like they keep having to prove themselves to you.
tell her your deepest desires, I've been in this situation and my current GF was exactly like this situation
OP, tell us about your almost now gf...?
Should I ask her why she decided to think about me now?
>>29455495
you should OP
>>29455495
You shouldn't be talking to her in the first place, idiot.
>>29455467
greentext plz
comment not origami
>>29455483
OP has totally forgotten that he has an 'almost GF'. This bitch has all of his attention now
>>29455495
No. Tell her 'So, what happens now.'... what you're suggesting sounds too clingy. Granted >>29455521, but we're beyond that point now so...
>>29455234
This is very true. There are some variations to that analogy too, like if the baby has a toy they don't want, but they refuse to give it to anybody else. Basically, any analogy comparing women to children is pretty accurate in my experience.
>Meet a girl on interpals after all the buzz from the threads
>Both of us just agree to be friends because there's not much chemistry romantically between us
>Only have an instagram account because I used it to follow my ex when we dated. Now, the only person I'm following on there is this friend from interpals
>My interpals friend wakes me up with a text showing my ex sent her a follow request
>We both laugh about it because she knows all about my ex, and I know about hers
>Figure I'll ignore it, but I give in to the temptation to see my ex riled up
>Ask her why she is trying to follow my friend
>I tell her she's behaving like said analogy above
>Loses her shit, tells me to never talk to her again and to fuck off
>Asks if my friend is the new "love interest"
>My ex had me move a far way from my home, somewhere that I don't have any friends or know anybody but her. She then proceeds to cheat on me not long after I got here, that's why we broke up.
>Ends up saying she misses me sometimes and gets confused when she thinks about me
>A week or so later texts me talking about how sad she is that her new boyfriend (the guy she cheated with) might be moving away
Women are incredibly self-centered and unaware of anybody's feelings but their own, and they are ridiculously manipulative. A very important thing you have to remember, what governs their behavior above most other things, is their concern about what people think of them. A woman very rarely cares about whether or not what she does is morally right or wrong, they don't value what they think of themselves. They care about what other people think of them, so they rarely can grasp the idea of self-respect. If she wants to manipulate you for attention, it's for herself.
>>29455522
>be me beta orbitor for 10/10 qt since year 9 met through mutual friends
>didnt realise she was keen the whole time, to beta to act on it
>one night drinking with friends, new chad comes along
>"chad is cool, cooler than you" to baberaham lincon
>no he's not - they start hooking up
>oh shit gay as aids, they start going out
>cut all contact after beta messages such as "yo lets hang out," rub dick on her when hang out
>four years later after cuck chad gets over her
>"ohh anon whats up wanna have dinner with my mum?"
>"yeah k"
>have dinner, watch movie, fuck
>chad gets the fuck out
>beta orbiter ftw
>>29455591
And this girl is now your gf? How is the relationship?
>>29455631
yeah senpai good, fuck every day feelsgoodman.jpg
OP - Update?
>>29455665
I think she fell asleep
I'm going to bed
Don't know if I'll bother responding to her tomorrow
>>29454921
Took her two years to start missing you. Hm ok
>>29455728
You will because you're being a complete beta again.
>>29455728
kek she's already not replying to your beta ass replys
kek want to learn how to do a triforce?
Op you're a dumbass
>>29455665
>Waited on line for 4 years to get another man's sloppy seconds
M'kay mate
>>29454586
Underrated.oc
She may nee d you one day op
>>29455728
lmao, she's already back to treating you like an orbiter after an hour. stop doing this to yourself man.
>>29455804
meanwhile the best you're getting is tranny porn from an imagebased anime forum
>>29455728
She's already manipulating you lel
I don't even believe every woman is x or y, but really, manipulative people are shit. And this girl seems to be quite manipulative which is why it's a good idea to stay the fuck away. Do not reply. People who "fall asleep" during a conversation are fucking ridiculous. Especially because she started. Omg anon i am so tired, i thought i have to tell you that all of a sudden after two fucking years and then fall asleep.
Can you not see this is a move to make you miss her? You will think of her when you wake up tomorrow. Enjoy being a beta once more.
YOU COULD HAVE AVOIDED THE RIDE
NOW THE RIDE WILL NEVER END
OP is already feeling like 1 gf is not enough for his emotional vulnerability. he requires all the drama of this lifestyle, it is something he missed about the abusive relationship he had at the beginning.
this is quite odd, at first. I had a roommate who wanted a gf and constantly spilled spaghetti all the time, over multiple girls, constantly keeping his positions open and going from embarrassment to embarrassment. I couldn't handle meeting these girls they always were playful mean to him and he was playful mean to them.
I couldn't handle watching this happen to my buddy, known him since we were 4 years old. So I went back to smoking weed everyday and snorting awesome internet research chemicals from central europe. No more friends for the rest of my life after that point, for some reason.
>>29454221
she knows she can get attention from u easily and is relying that you haven't changed
don't respond
>>29454221
>life going well
>gf soon
Excuse me, sir - I believe you have come to the wrong board.
Normies not allowed.
GET OUT REEE REEE RRRREEEEE
>>29455728
lmao, she's already stopped replying. It's like watching a severe heroin addict relapse. You are so fucked, OP
>>29455728
OP she didn't fall asleep. I used that trick all the time to get people to stop messaging me
>>29454221
>broke free
Did you confess to her? That's the only way I think someone could break free of that.
If you did, then damn, she's on the prowl.
>>29454221
You remind me of myself a year ago. Met a girl in college and orbited her hard. She was dating one of my ex-friends from high school. Fast forward after college and they broke up and she's already dating a new Chad. I don't know why but I spoke with her one last time before sending a text a day later saying we can't continue being friends. I took it as a learning experience to stop being an orbiting cuck. Best advice is to break contact asap and focus on something else.
>>29454450
HOW HAVE YOU BEEN ?
T'S ALRIGHT WE KNOOOW WHEEERE YOU BEEEEN !
YOU BEEN IN A PIPELINE FILLING IN TIME
PROVIDED WITH TOYS AND SCOUTING FOR BOYS
>>29455728
hilarious
you know you will
