Hey fellow anons. Wondered if anyone had some advice for me since I'm going to be a father come this October.
So excited for this. It's my first child and it's a boy. How do I make sure he turns out okay anons? I want him to have a great life, what should I do to make sure he has a good start?
Are you married to the mother? Was it planed?
That'll be really important.
>>29424551
Well asshole normie, at least get him on mtf meds for his own good.
>>29424579
Yes and yes. We've been married 5 years through some good times and bad times but everything has been going great lately.
Happened maybe a little faster than I expected but we consciously chose to start trying and it payed off after a couple of months. We're moving into a new house later this month so we'll have plenty of room for him when he arrives.
>>29424583
Probably not going to do that but I appreciate the suggestion.
>>29424650
What type of fights do you have? Just yelling or anything violent? What economic bracket do you live in?
>>29424551
Read a book on Child Development senpai
You can literally prevent robots through a little knowledge and type of parenting style.
>>29424905
Never any violent fights and even yelling has been incredibly rare... I think maybe 3 or 4 times in our 10 year relationship it's come to that? I came from a family where my parents were always fighting so I know that doesn't get anything done and we've always tried to deal with things together without shutting down. Had to go to couples therapy a couple of years ago when I was out of work and it was straining our relationship but we've worked through all of that.
Economic bracket is probably around the low-end of middle class. We make around $100,000 - $120,000 a year together. That will be going up as I complete my apprenticeship in the trade I'm working in now though.
>>29424955
Any books you would suggest? I've been planning to grab some but I'm looking for some suggestions because there's so much out there and I'm sure a lot of it is shit.
>>29424551
Congrats on your new baby, Anon. I have a 13 month old son myself. It's hard to give a lot of advice this early because every baby is different, but just be prepared for a lot of waking up in the middle of the night in the beginning.
>>29424968
Where do you live where that bracket is lower middle class? And what's your trade?
What is your schooling system like? Do you have family to help baby sit or will one of you be stay at home?
>>29424955
if you have to read a fucking book to learn how to raise your kid he's already fucked
>>29424968
>had to go to couples therapy
did she make you go?
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>>29425037
Thank you very much. I'm hearing that from a lot of people but I think it will be okay, I don't like sleep much anyway.
>>29425077
I live in a major Canadian city... well a suburb of it now. I work as a marble setter but I have a community college diploma in computer programming that I unfortunately never managed to put to good use.
We have family close by that might be able to help out but we're not sure. We get 1 year of maternal leave here so my wife is planning to take that and then we'll either start getting help from family or need to sign up for daycare once she goes back to work.
DO NOT FALL FOR /pol/ MEMES.
YOUR CHILD WILL BE ALIENATED FROM THE WORLD AND BECOME A CYBORG.
When he gets his first computer in a few years, Set it up with something like Ubuntu and tell him to figure out how to get root access. (Make sure he is not an administrator!)
This will make him competent with computers.
For god sakes, don't let him anywhere near 4chan, Or forums in general.
In general, Love him, Accept him for who he is down the line, And let him form his own political ideology.
>>29425123
Nope she didn't make me. I had been to therapy before for my own shit that was coming up again and straining our relationship because I was out of work and depressed about it. It was my suggestion that we go and she thought it was a good idea.
>>29425102
I'm sure I don't need to read a book but why not get information from experts if you can?
First off is don't let him use 4chan
>>29425153
>DO NOT FALL FOR /pol/ MEMES.
This won't be a problem. I'm not particularly racist or right wing and just find /pol/ more annoying than anything else.
>When he gets his first computer in a few years, Set it up with something like Ubuntu and tell him to figure out how to get root access. (Make sure he is not an administrator!)
>This will make him competent with computers.
That sounds like a fun idea honestly. I really loved tinkering with my first couple of computers and teaching myself how to use them. Pushing him to explore like that with a OS that allows it could be a great idea.
>For god sakes, don't let him anywhere near 4chan, Or forums in general.
Yeah I really need to think about some parental blocks... the problem will be if he gets good with computers he'll find his way around them in no time.
>In general, Love him, Accept him for who he is down the line, And let him form his own political ideology.
Thanks. I definitely will need to remember that I can't push my politics to him. I'm already a little worried about making the kid eat like me (I'm a vegan) since I know it would alienate him from the normal kids.
>>29425165
GET HIM INTO SPORTS.
That's all I have to say.
If you can get the kid into sports, it is almost 100% guaranteed that he will not turn into an robot loser.
If you can turn him into an athlete while also ensuring that he does well in his studies, then he will be MEGA-CHAD tier. Think full-ride to Harvard on a crew scholarship. This should be the goal of all parents.
Also, DON'T GIVE HIM UNMONITORED COMPUTER ACCESS AT AN EARLY AGE. I started fapping at age 11 and slipped further and further down the rabbit hole. Now I'm into degenerate shit and have done lewd sex acts that I'm not proud of.
Also, for the love of god, DO NOT CIRCUMCISE HIM.
>>29425222
>First off is don't let him use 4chan
This is the best advice anyone could give me. I mean he's going to end up on the weird, terrible side of the Internet just like everyone does but hopefully I can at least keep him off of neo/b/
>>29425261
>GET HIM INTO SPORTS.
>That's all I have to say.
>If you can get the kid into sports, it is almost 100% guaranteed that he will not turn into an robot loser.
Was planning to if he has any interest.
>If you can turn him into an athlete while also ensuring that he does well in his studies, then he will be MEGA-CHAD tier. Think full-ride to Harvard on a crew scholarship. This should be the goal of all parents.
That would be the dream but you never know how a kid is going to turn out. I'll push him to study and train but who knows if that will actually work or not.
>Also, DON'T GIVE HIM UNMONITORED COMPUTER ACCESS AT AN EARLY AGE. I started fapping at age 11 and slipped further and further down the rabbit hole. Now I'm into degenerate shit and have done lewd sex acts that I'm not proud of.
Yeah I was in the same boat and definitely don't want the kid to wander into that dark side of the Internet before he's at least high school age. Shit is way too dark for a kid that young to understand.
>Also, for the love of god, DO NOT CIRCUMCISE HIM.
Wasn't planning to. I'm circumcised but it was because I had a shitty too-tight foreskin... if he inherits that from me we'd probably need to get him cut but hopefully that won't happen.
My wife actually asked if I wanted to circumcise him since she likes my dick so much (first cut one she ever got her hands on) but I was firmly against it unless we need to for medical reasons.
A lot of people treat children as though they're just stupid adults. Don't do that.
>>29424551
I wouldn't know. I've only been seeing my son on weekends for 12 years.
I wish my baby momma stopped being a child mentally at our age. My childhood stopped when my boy was born.
We're 26 ffs not 14 anymore. Fuck I hate that bitch
>There are literal fucking parents browsing such a place
Holy. Shit. What are you doing with your lives.. That's pathetic
>>29426599
See that's why anon up top was asking me if my child was planned and if we were married. You're a trainwreck anon.
>>29426625
I'm having a kid. Bought a house. Working a decent job... the usual stuff, you know?
Why would it be pathetic that I'm wasting time on forums? I've literally been doing that since I was 13 or 14. Why should I stop now?
>>29426745
You're a trainwreck anon.
I'm not a trainwreck. My baby momma is. It's not my fault I have a cunt for a baby momma and her mother is literally Wormtongue whispering hatred toward me to her and my son.
I keep moving up in life and yet she's still where she is. A worthless neet bitch who is bringing our son down into the shit with her. I'd have full custody by now if it wasn't for her lies.
>>29426950
>I'd have full custody by now if it wasn't for her lies.
Uh huh, sure. Just like every other bitter MRA claims.
is he going to be an only child?
>>29427048
No we're planning on having at least one more in a couple of years.
>How do I make sure he turns out okay anons?
You don't ever let him know about this place
>>29424551
Make sure he socialises lots. Don't want him turning into some autist neet
This is the pinnacle of life and it looks like literal shit, desu
>>29424551
This is manchild central, go read a book on cognitive development.
>mfw I want to be a dad but I'll never have a gf and the idea of a girl taking my kids away terrifies me
It's impossible to adopt and I can't afford a surrogate
