My girlfriend of 3 years just out of nowhere broke up with me. She came to me crying and said she loved and cared about me, but that she fell for a co-worker that she works with. I started crying and she kissed me on the cheek and said it will be ok and that we just need time apart and that she doesn't want to live life with regrets. She said that its best that we should just stay good friends. I don't know what to do. I've been in my room all day under the blanket, I didn't even go into work today or even called out, I just can stop crying and I have a pain in my heart. I just don't know what to do :(
>>29254473
whores, man
>>29254473
probably just wait 3 weeks and then you'll be completely over it unless you're a pussy ass bitch, in which case you'll obsess over this one insignificant person in your life for years to come
>>29254473
>said she loved and cared about me
what were some of her other lies?
>>29254473
Get over her u pussyass
>>29254473
She got bored of you and moved on to the next plaything. Women are children.
>>29254524
>tfw pussy ass bitch still obsessing 2 years later even though I have other prospects. Yes more than one
>>29254473
This is what you get for getting too attached to women
>>29254473
just accept the blues, bro. sorry to hear it, it will take years to get over it. listen to lots of music and get drunk is a good plan for the first few days. crying is actually good, it will make you feel better eventually. also, take long long works, dont just hole up in your bed.
also, post more pics like in OP.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dtchoAiD8hM
>>29254473
how about you leave forever reeeee
>>29254538
This
I have been the new thing and the thing moved on from. Eventually both will leave you for something newer.
This is why woman shouldn't work.
>>29254473
if she just cut it off like that after 3 years, she probably hasn't cared about the relationship for a long time
>>29254473
I went through something similar. You need to try to not think of her, and yeah this is fucking difficult, but if you need to do drugs, watch movies, drink, go out with friends.. just do it and stop thinking about her because it will drive you insane.
The next question is, do you want her back. If you do, then you don't fucking contact her, if she tried to text you, call you, message you.. you ignore it. Do this for a long time, eventually this will drive her insane and think you moved on.
>>29254576
works = walks.
take walks
>>29254473
well you normies know as well as anyone. The faster you move on the faster you'll get over it. Just get out there and outwhore her.
That or murder suicide.
>>29254473
You had a gf before, you can get one again. You know girls are attracted to you.
Your ex is a childish whore who fell for false bravado and charm. She has no loyalty and no empathy. Cut her out of her life. Call her out on this betrayal then never talk to her again, and don't talk about her again. She's no longer a part of your life and you're better for it
>she doesn't want to live life with regrets
lol, every whore uses this same excuse.
Live.Laugh.Love XDDDDddddd
>>29254473
>being attached enough to a woman (read: fickle child) that you are this upset when she decides she wants some new dick
wew
You need to think about why your happiness is so tightly bound to a specific wet hole.
>>29254473
> My girlfriend of 3 years
stopped reading here. i dont care normie, take your diary elsewhere
>>29254583
She was already probably cucking OP for a while. After thing became more serious with the new guy, she cut OP off.
Monkey vines man.
>>29254473
sounds shit buddo, like >>29254576
said listen to music and go on long walks. try to see beauty in shit like nature and poetry [and music] etc. things that reflect the way your feeling about the girl and make u feel ok with eternal lonliness.
i mean you will die alone. we all will
>>29254538
I would say this, but she probably still loved you, but she thought getting excitement from someone else might spark the flame in her relationship with you. Unfortunately, if she chooses someone else over you, there's no salvaging it. She made the decision that someone else is "better" for her and that you're not even worth breaking up with before she goes and fools around with someone else. You're not at fault here.
The best thing you can do at this time is collect her belongings, ask her to do the same, and return it to each other. Don't let emotions run wild. Keep yourself composed around her and don't speak to her. How can she be a "good friend" now or later if she'd rather be with someone else and/or even cheat on you while in a committed relationship?
I've been with my gf for 3 years as well and we don't believe in "breaks". We both bust our ass to fix our relationship and neither of us wants to lose each other. You love, live, and learn op. Take this as a 3 year lesson. Now go out there and be man slut! I believe in you.
>>29254473
She was already fucking her co-worker.
>>29254473
Bet she's reading Harry Potter
love no thots bro
>>29254473
This is why relationships are pointless
>hey wanna invest copious amounts of time, money, and general energy on this investment that will give you some returns but will eventually tank out
>>29254473
at least she was honest OP, I remember like 4 years ago when an ex who i was really in love with dumped me for some bullshit reason only to find out months later that it was because she was fucking some other guy.
I Lifted my pain away and everything turned out just fine with time. Be patient
Anon, this must hurt, but remember:
If she wants you back, always say no.
>>29254676
This, have self respect, don't fuck her
>>29254676
>>29254588
isn't life bullshit in this way
if you want a girl she won't want you
if you don't she will, in which point it doesn't matter and won't make you happy because you don't give a shit about her, and don't want her anyway
why does happiness elude us?
>>29254615
Good post, I'm in a similar situation and it was nice to read this
>>29254473
is this your gf? if so she's got a pretty cute booty, sorry for your loss. anyways, as >>29254615 said, you were able to get one before which means you will be able to find a new one. get out there friendo
>>29254473
im sorta going through the same thing op we've been together for a little over a year and she needs space and for me to "man up" and get all of my shit together
she needs to find herself and she wants me to find myself but im so worried that no matter what i may do its not going to work and im going to lose the love of my life
>>29254741
>>29254752
>>29254727
Absolute disrespect for authority.
>>29254473
You'll get over it, as long as you don't kill yourself over her.
>we just need some time apart
RUN NIGGA RUN! thats code for the bitch just wants to sleep around for a while then hop back into the sack with you and pretend like she didn't just break your heart and sleep around for a while.
>>29254473
> HEHE I DONT WANT REGRETS XDD
aka. 1 ticket for the cock carousel please
>>29254652
This. You don't fall for someone and not fuck them
>>29254798
>tfw I'm a guy and I want to do this
>>29254473
Good, you are exactly the kind of cuck who was making responses like
>No not all women are like that!!
>Take my gf for example
>She is cute, loyal, cooks, etc.
you deserve it desu senpai.
>>29254473
Tell her to fuck off. Her wanting to be 'good friends' is just a way to get the non-sexual benefits of the relationship whilst pursuing someone else, its all for her benefit and leaves nothing for you.
>>29254473
>said she loved and cared about me,
Clearly she does not.
>she doesn't want to live life with regrets.
how she justifies leaving you so she doesnt feel like the bad guy
> its best that we should just stay good friends
Do not remain friends she is keeping you in reserve incase the new relationship doesnt go well so she can jump back to you.
Break all contact with her, block her on everything, do not contact her or take calls. purge her and any items related to her from your life.
She has proven she didn't value your 3 year relationship at all.
You can do this
may I recommend murder/suicide?
>>29254700
>not fucking the whore when she 'realises her mistake' and 'knows now that you're the one for her' then ignoring her calls and texts
y tho
>>29254822
this
I remember when i was a cuck like that, it's not as extreme as redpill makes it out to be but all women are the same t b h
just as a footnote, op if this story is true then you are in fact one of her regrets
staying friends with a woman who leaves you is one of the most pathetic things I could imagine. The probably cucking part doesn't help
damn OP. that sucks. Reminds me of when my ex did this shit to me. We dated for over a year and half and she dropped the "we need time apart" so I made her ass move out during "our time apart". after whoring herself around and being a drunken slut for 3 months she started hitting me up all the time about "getting back together". I told her to fuck off, she broke up with me, and I moved on. She kept trying to twist her words around me saying it wasn't a break-up it was just a small break and "technically" we're still dating, so I told her to her face we're not and to stop harassing me.
>>29254473
>girlfriend of 3 years
>fell for a coworker out nowhere
Sorry about that OP. But fuck the cunt. She deserves to get pumped and dumped. Do NOT keep her as a friend. It'll just make you angry. Cut her out like a tumor and just live your life.
>>29254473
in other words, she's been cheating on you for atleast 1.5 years and she finally built up enough noshitsgiven to tell you about it since you couldn't tell thtough her behavioural pattern changes
>>29254473
Afyer he dumps her she'll come crying back to you.
Do the right thing.
Break her nose.
>it will be ok and that we just need time apart and that she doesn't want to live life with regret
I dunno OP, it doesn't sound like you're TOTALLY screwed here. Seems like what she's saying is she wants some time for herself to explore a bit. How old are you? If you're in your late teens or your twenties this really isn't that uncommon. Why not accept her offer of friendship and let her figure herself out for a bit? She may very well decide to come back to you after "playing the field" for a bit, and your relationship will be stronger for it. Hell, she'll probably even pick up some fun new tricks to show off in the bedroom.
>>29254473
At least she told you why man
My gf broke up with me last week by blocking me on all social media, and my phone number, completely out of the blue. No idea why, and I hadn't been round hers yet so couldn't go knocking to find out why.
Blindsided me and I'm still confused. She's just pretending I never existed
OP, delete all her photos and get rid of ANYTHING that might remind you of her. I know its tough but its the only way to get over her. The sooner you do it the easier it will be.
And remember- as far as youre concerned, that whore is DEAD. thats the only way to get over someone. Trust me.
Give yourself a nice long hot fudge enema and plug it with a pure milk chocolate butt plug.
You'll feel much better in the morning.
>>29254820
You're a worthless piece of shit.originalo
>believing the loyalty of women
>not Believing that they don't care about anything other than maximizing their pleasure
Sucks op, but women are women, don't expect them to build a society, let alone to build and maintain a relationship. Demisexual females only exist in cartoons it seems. hopefully you get over this, maybe you'll find a honest, true NAWALT. Just focus on the other pleasures in your life anon, what do you do besides the typical robot stuff?
Cut all your ties to her. If you don't, you'll get reeled back in the moment she interacts with you, and all those feelings for her you have will come bubbling to the surface. Give it time, and then try to find another girlfriend.
>>29254473
What's the issue? If you actually loved her you'd let her be happy. You're just desperate so you want to tie her up for life.
>>29254473
You are supposed to think about them fucking and masturbate anon
>>29254473
>girls just wanna have fun
>a co-worker that she works with
>I just don't know what to do :(
Well, first stop being redundant
>>29254473
>loved and cared for you
>fucks off with some other guy
I hope you kill her,not even kidding here.
>>29254473
get rekt you fucking normie
>>29255057
Nice bait my man could have mistaken you for a roastie :^)
this is the only advice OP:
>>29254830
>>29254980
avoid this (cuck) mindset like the plague:
>>29254922
This is usually what happens when the guy isn't doing something he should. Relationships are a bitch to maintain and woman go on and off on a day to day bases. The co worker probably does something you did or used to do to make her like him. I'm not saying women are saints hell no but usually it falls on both people in the relationship. The fire just dies.
>>29254473
Cut off all contact and never interact with her again. She doesn't exist anymore.
Start working out and find new hobbies.
It is bad now but will become less severe in time.
You need to live life for yourself now, and not give her any consideration. Only someone who respects you and isn't selfish can be in your life.
>>29254524
>just wait 3 weeks and then you'll be completely over it
>girlfriend of 3 years
Yeah, no.
PHASE ONE
You notice her noticing you. She looks at you with flirty eyes but does nothing. If you don't react immediately she will look again with a more angry look because you're the man (slave). It's your role to take the lead (responsibility) of the interaction.
PHASE TWO
You make the move. Start small talk, don't go in too quick. Introduce yourself, make her laugh and charm her. She still might decide you're a useless degenerate autist and reject you at any moment, with the possibility of complaining to someone you're a creep trying to stalk and harass her.
PHASE THREE
First date. You have to be super mannered. Serve and worship her at every footstep. Even if you do everything right, she might decided you should have known better that she likes to pay for her own meal, and you shouldn't' have offered. Or that you should have offered because a lady shouldn't ask if you're going to pay. Either way, you either get it right by luck of you get a penalty point in her imaginary judgement chart that she remembers as clearly as you remember your favorite porn stars names.
PHASE FOUR
She acts flirty and behaves good because you are the best she can do at this moment. You will help her to improve her social status and support income. You are a good slave to own that does everything she demands.
PHASE FIVE
She is starting to get bored, or have doubts that she could do better. Your service quality is decreasing because you are beginning to get tired of being a mule.
PHASE SIX
She wants to break up because you're either
>not earning enough salary thanks to spending too much time looking after her
>spending too much time at work because she refuses to get a full time job so you have to compensate on the household income
>you're trying your best and done nothing wrong but she thinks she can do better
>decided that you're a white male only holding her back and oppressing her rights by literally taking care and slaving for her in every possible way
I can only give you one advice OP
NEVER
EVER
EVEEEEEEEER
Let her come back after she gets bored with the other guy.
Trust me, she'll do it again.
>>29254922
How fucking retarded are you? This is a board for autists, not your special level of stupidity.
>>29255123
What bait? It's legit
>>29254583
This man, people wont just do this out of nowhere with no warning signs(unless there was warning signs and you're dumbass ignored them) unless the relationship was losing meaning.
Women might be the stupidest things next to niggers, cannot tell who beats who.
>I have to find myself and ride the cock carousel xD xD
lol you're a huge faggot for playing into her vagina fueled fantasy. you should've just gone "lol k" then walked out. it would drive her nuts knowing her torn between two men teehee was rekt.
>>29255525
then your not a very nice person friendo, victim blaming etc
She is essentially doing the thing you blamed the guy of doing. She is keeping him on retainer (Friends) incase her future relationship fails
(lots of women have a back up guy) while stopping him from emotionally healing and getting over the break up.
lol cucked. dont take her back
If shit doesn't work out with Chad and there are no other promising orbiters in line you may be able to ride that ride again, anon. Hope everything works out and you get your precious jewel back.
>>29254820
How fucking entitled are you that one girl isn't enough to satisfy you? Fuck off you piece of trash.
She doesn't deserve your friendship or sympathy, you coward.
>>29254473
go HUNT for a new chick , stop acting like a bitch.
you have the ability to get chicks , then go do it again , and again and again ...
>>29254922
Do you write for cosmo?
>>29254473
sounds exactly like what happened to me. gf of 3 years dumped me for someone else and had been a pathological liar and a narcissistic manipulator the whole time. I got over her after a few months. just bury your head into your work, go hard as fuck in the gym, try to make friends or hang out with the ones you have, and it'll get better. you just need time.you're gonna make it breh
>>29255528
>Implying women are people
>>29254473
Get angry and go lift
>>29254473
no contact breh.
but if you can bottle your feelings, and you want to get back at her, remain friends with her, have her fall for you again, then fuck with her.
gl opie
>>29254473
You need to get laid. That's the only cure for bitch depression. Don't go looking for a new gf just get out and go stub. It took me doing that to get over my first gf and we dated for 4 years
>>29254524
I heard it takes about a month for each year. So you date 3 years 3 months is healthy amount of time to be upset. Not like crushed depressed but a little sad about getting dumped.
>>29254473
Break off all contact right now to save your dignity.
kill yourself
or improve yourself so much she crawls back, reject her, and make her feel like she wants to kill herself but she won't because women are shallow, vapid creatures
Dat hypergamy tho. She was holding onto you until she new she had the superior new guy lined up.
>>29254524
Let me guess, you're an autist who mever was in a longterm relationship.
>>29256874
absolutely this
Your ex thought so little of you she strung you along until she found someone else. That's how much she cares about you. She doesn't give a fuck about your feelings. She pretended to like you up until the moment her relationship with someone else was steady so she wouldn't be alone.
>>29254524
>described me perfectly
It's not like she wasn't considerate of your feelings. Most people cheat, shit.
I've never been on the shit end of the stick though, I just know the people I left in this fashion weren't all that into it before I told them. Nobody ends a relationship that's going well right at it's peak for someone else.
>>29256938
You people are really giving women too much credit by thinking that they have the same kind of emotions that you do. Women don't "care" about anything in the same way that you do. When a woman says she "cares" she means it in the same way you say you want a piece of food.
>>29256892
Were on r9k its normal to be autist who has never been in a ltr. Atleast thats how it used to be before normies invaded :^(((
