Anons, I have heard lot of you never ever received a hug in their live. That's very sad :'(
I was wondering if you could give me inputs on how you would want a girl to tackle the issue. Do you consider your first hug to be something done on a special occasion, in public or in private ? What hint to look at for knowing you are ready or uncomfortable ?
>be me 13 year old normie
>girl with mustache who likes me asks me for hug
>am nice guy hug her
>"anon that was the most awkward hug of my entire life"
I've been a robot ever since
>>29252956
I kicked out a table of bullies who took over the outcast tables at lunch in high school, and got away with it. The outcast girls gave me hugs.My brother has been in a relationship with the one who popped my hug cherry for four years. They have the sex and stuff, yet I don't have a gf.
Life is wonderful
>>29252990
Girls always told me that I gave great hugs.
>Be me
>Give autistic bear hugs
>Actually believe them
>>29252990
End my life. is it just normie genetics to know how to give a good hug? I've always felt that I've been doing it wrongish. Also cuddling, what's up with that? Is that comfortable? I don't get it
How to hug
>Both hands
>Wrap around
>Don't touch boobs
>Don't pull in super close
>Hold for about a second
>Let go and break
>Never pat, if you must move a hand do a rub, pats feel bad most of the time
I just want to cuddle the shit out of my boy, but he is very special. He grew up without a mommy and is still hugless.
He is not very comfortable with me touching him and get all nervous. I've managed to get a hold on his arm during walk (I guess feelings boobs can help a bit).
But I can't have my hand over his shoulder. The idea of being embraced only makes him tremble in fear like an abused dog. It saddens me a lot, please help. I love him, he's a very sweet boy and deserve to feel loved.
>don't want to be hugged
>girl forcibly hugs me anyway
>"Eww anon, you're so bony. This is the worst hug I've ever had"
>"You forced this on us both, don't complain to me"
>equally unpleasant experience for me too, I hate being restrained
>redouble efforts to avoid hugs in future
Now that I think of it, my first kiss was almost identical:
>don't want to be kissed
>get pinned by fat girl on gym mats
>literally cannot escape
>forcibly kissed
>"You're not a very good kisser, anon"
>"You forced this on me, don't complain now"
>redouble efforts to avoid kissing in future
>>29253070
I just hope you're a bait because if it isn't I would be insanely mad elliot rodger style.
>>29252956
i was literly hug raped....
>be 16 y/o kissles virgin
>see female friends of friends, was never that close to them
>the hug me instead of the usual handshake
it was stolen from me.... and im never going to get it back
>>29253315
I strongly suspect OP is a hug rapist, if not then a hug rape fetishist. But it could just be general attention seeking and ego stroking.
Never been hugged, kissed, held a girls hand or any of that shit. I don't think a man has ever given me a handshake either. I use self checkouts at the shops, so I never accidentally brush hands with a cashier like many people here say they do. I have no clue what another human being feels like.
>>29252990
>girl with mustache who likes me asks me for hug
christ anon hardest i have laughed today
youre a robot, but a good one
>>29252956
I just can't imagine hugging in public just thinking about it makes me feel awkwards
PlusHugs are lewd
>>29253315
similar thing happened to me
>be me, sophomore in his
>standing in hall playing pacman on old ass flip phone
>random girl full sprints up to me and hugs me
>she looks up and realizes I'm not who she thought I was
>awkwardly walks away
>pissed because she made me loose a life in pacman
>>29253476
>sophomore in hs
fuck autocorrect
>>29253070
You're better off than me.
My boy still won't touch me, and breaks into my apartment at night to steal my clothes.
>>29253476
thats even worse
fucking cunt
>>29253034
Yes, cuddlees are the most awesome things ever. Studies have shown that people deprived from intimate contact (hugs) spend more time under the shower and have more hot drinks.
We all want to feel loved, it's a human thing. We all want to feel accepted.
>>29253315
that's kind of cute
>>29253238
>>29253397
I'm sure he feels like he don't deserve to be loved. He would never have initiated anything if it wasn't for me spotting his gentle personnality hiding under layers of self-hate.
Trust me, even if there is the slightest reason for him to be guilty about his past and thinking he don't deserve a hug. I will pop his hug cherry.
I have this idea about having him sleep on my lap while we watch TV. And when he wake up, he will be little spoon.
I'm a 18 year hug less kiss less virgin... I'm pretty sure it will stay that way til the end of my life...
>>29253571
with that attitude of course
ever heard about free hugs in conventions ?
>>29253455
I feel the same. Hugging is supper awkward.
>>29253070
I also have mommy issues. Grew up with my father.
>>29253567
cute?.... kay
>>29253585
>going to a hug whore
>>29252990
So its jesus?
>>29253567
>Studies have shown that people deprived from intimate contact (hugs) spend more time under the shower and have more hot drinks.
mfw
>I drink my soda warm
>take 30min hot showers
>drink hot chocolate even during the summer
>Make tea all the time
Lived with my dad for most of my life.
>>29253612
I'm so sorry for you anon, I wish you the best. Can you tell us of you feel about women ?
And what's awkward ? Being in public ? Do you stiffen up when someone is close to you ? What are you comfortable with then ?
>>29253658
top kek
let jesus enter your life
>>29253567
>Studies have shown that people deprived from intimate contact (hugs) spend more time under the shower and have more hot drinks.
checkmate.
i always have to force myself to go out of the shower and i always drink hot chocolate even if its summer
kill me nao fampie
>>29253567
I don't think I take a long time to shower but I always set it hotter than hell.
I read somewhere people who regulary shower in hot water do it to warm up their soul.
I would really like a hug at pretty much every moment of my life. Maybe while I'm taking apoopooor apeepee, I'd want some alone time to myself. But other than that, I'd love to have someone hugging me constantly, never letting me go. That would be absolutely wonderful for me.
I'm not a hug virgin though. I've been hugged a few times by girls. The last time I was hugged was when I saw my best friend (at the time, at least) a little under a year ago, after being apart for a really long time. My roommate let her in and she asked him where my room was and then she headed straight here. Once she opened my door, she shouted out really excitedly, "It's Anon! Oh my God, Anon's here!" and I hopped up from my bed and we hugged for a long, long time. It was one of the best birthdays I've ever had.
I saw her like a month or two ago. She wasn't excited to see me. She seemed kind of uncomfortable interacting with me, so we just shared a few words and then she went on her way. I texted her saying we should hang out again, but she gave some dismissive response that implied I shouldn't bet on it.
>>29253662
>>29253702
>>29253708
Do you also (voluntarly) clench your first sometimes ? Maybe bring your arms or legs closer to your body ?
>>29253070
>>29253567
>>29253709
fucking normies I hate you
this not a fun thread anymore, I want off this ride
>>29253744
I'm the last guy you replied to
Yeah I tend to do that. Here is some extra fun fact about me: in the last 10 or so years I can't sleep if I'm not hugging myself. Sometimes I wonder how similar could it be to the real deal.
Hugs, cuddles and physical intimacy are one of the best things in my opinion.
I would give anything to be cuddled by a qt and have her stroke my hair and tell me everything's ok.
Don't know any girls though so stray cats I've made friends with near my place are my substitute.
They don't hug me back though ;_;
>>29252956
>Do you consider your first hug to be something done on a special occasion
meeting a girl is a special occasion so don't worry about that
>in public or in private ?
private, I'd be too embarassed otherwise
>What hint to look at for knowing you are ready or uncomfortable ?
I don't really know
>tfw will die hugless
>tfw 5'10 and 300lbs but girls love hugging me and cuddling with me
Its weird. People think im like 250 max. Im stil a virgin though. I feel really insecure about sex considering how heavy I am.
>>29254169
You don't want to be too vulnerable in front of women fampai. A little weakness is ok and can be attractive, but it needs to be in the context of stoicism.
>>29253050
>tfw give one hand hugs
born to be beta
At least i give good hugs to my pillow
>>29253070
Can you be my gf? Me too, I don't have a mommy. Where to find girls like you ?
>>29253567
>tfw always hugging my knees when at the computer because its the closest I can come to cuddles or hugs
>>29253673
How I feel about women
>I like talking to women. I feel better talking to them more than I do with men. Whenever I talk with other men I tend to be quiet. Women say I'm approachable.
>when it comes to men i never have anything to tak about. with women I try to be funny and talkative. its wierd
>inb4 normie ree still a lonely KV and I'm not gay
I stiffen up when women get too close. And I love the thought of having a womens body against mine but when a girl actually higs me i panic. Especially in public
>>29254279
yeah you would crush them while having sex
>>29254505
>when it comes to men i never have anything to tak about
I wonder why you fucking cuck nu-male bet you suck dick for free in your spare time.
>>29254280
Yeah I'm aware of this bro, but cheers for the advice.
People I work with all see me as jaded and sarcastic, if I told them I liked to pet cats on my way home I really doubt they would believe me.
>>29254543
>mfw i can't suck my own dick
>>29254280
>Can't show vulnerability to the one person you should be able to show vulnerability to.
This is why I swore off relationships.
I'd rather the pain of loneliness than the pain of constantly having to pretend I don't need to be cuddled and just loved a little.
Anyone else here just love hugs. Sometimes I can't get enough of them. I feel like I'm almost obsessed with them in a platonic way. I just like giving and receiving them from both chicks and my bros in a no homo way.
>>29253231
>girl forcibly hugs me anyway
>forcibly kissed
Are you cute?
>>29252990
>there are nuances to hugging
Oh fuck me.
>>29253567
>was just about to call bullshit on this
>take 30-40 minute hot showers
>most days drink hot coffee and teas
Get out of my fucking head.
I'm a sappy old romantic so I think these kinds of things, while being very tame by modern standards, can have strong meaning and impact for a person. Even if it's 'just a hug' that casual touch can be the start of something wonderful, and become a treasured memory.
Although I enjoy hugging I don't initiate it, and others don't either since I don't seem like a hugger.
>mfw reading this thread
why are no women nice people
>>29256384
lots of them are actually really REALLY nice
like for the right guy they will literally put him above themselves completely
you're just not the guy ;)
>>29256455
>>29256384
BEE URSELF
JUST
>>29256455
>tfw I will never be anyone's right guy
>I will never have a qt to devote myself to
I sometimes put in a cute asian asmr and hug my bed sheets when im sure no one will enter my room.
>>29254806
Honestly I prefer hugging old people rather than girls my age, don't know why though.
>>29252956
I thought this hug shit was a meme.
How the fuck have you never been hugged?
Why do you even care?
>>29257416
>Why do you even care?
Because hugs are amazing.
>>29257416
Dunno, why do yoy breathe ?
It is another thing that makes me feel alive.
>>29257416
Because a hug is such a basic thing in life that generally nobody makes a big deal out of it.
When you don't/can't even get THAT of all things, of course you're going to feel a little fucked. The fact that it's so insignificant in the grand scheme of things makes it pretty significant if you've never experienced it.
>>29256455
>tfw i'm nobody's right guy
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