Who here /30yo&older/?
Are you afraid for your future as an anlone old man?
34yo here. 99% chances I'm going to live the rest of my pathetic life alone, as it was for the last 15 years. No friends, no family, no acquantainces.
I try to think about that as little as possible, but when I do I get terrified.
31 here.
No close relationships but I still have family around. Wasted my 20s on video games and pushed away all my friends.
The one relationship I had taught me that I'm probably better off alone, instead of ruining someone else's life with my self pity.
I 've always liked being alone for the most part. I just want to enjoy as much good food and music as I can before I die.
>>29224704
28 and already unbearable.
>>29224704
34 here
It's a pathetic life, alone and disabled but at least I tried and fought for awhile before my crazyness caught up with me. Now my fear is that my neetbux aren't going to cover everything the way these landlords are jacking up the prices on everything, or that I might have to go back to lining near my family.
>>29224704
i am 30
no gf ever. no friends. i don't know how to get out of the rut. tfw you realise you are one of the individuals people consider the worse kind of failure ....
>>29224704
Op ,28 , no gf , wageslave , did someone turn their lives in other direction?( More positive)
Another 34 yr old anon, it doesn't ever get any better get out while you still can
>>29224704
>31
>unemployed
>no girlfriend or sex for the past 7 years or so
>living on the system (barely)
>no friends whatsoever
>generally ok with things, however
At least I've started exercising regularly and am physically much healthier than I was in my 20's. I might even return to school in the near future.
>60
>retired from government job
>live on disability pension
>live with gf I've been with ten years
>no friends
>I have a grown son who's got a job and is married
>went on a retreat last week, it was good
>life is breddy good overall
Just wish I wasn't tired so much.
>>29224704
34, unemployed mental health patient. no real life friends left as they all gave up on me after my last suicide attempt. can't even imagine a future for myself
boy do I know that feel
>>29225450
How the hell does an old normie dude end up on r9k
>>29225450
Dude, you should record videos pretending to be the father that /r9k/ never had, dead serious. If you actually are 60 years old it'd be cool as fuck to have an r9k father figure.
>>29225943
Word up.
Orange Juice
31 here
Broke up with gf of 5 years because she thinks I'm a man child. She made me chose her or my friends & I chose her. My dog of 18 years died when I was away. Iwasnt even by her side. After a couple of months of deep thinking, I've realized I'm too mentally broken to even care take of a pet let alone a wife & kids. Been drinking & doing heroin since
>>29225943
This is a good idea. A lot of these kids are lost.
Grapefruit juice is original.
Almost 33 here.
In a long term relationship, but i can tell i may not be able to make it last and shes all ive got.
Otherwise, ive had no friends since about 20, bullied and pushed out of every job, and generally have a very hard time getting ahead in life, which is why i still live at home.
Im stuck as a loner manchild, and people just dont enjoy being around me. Life requires being invited into a "family" at some point, and im not attractive, interesting, or powerful enough for any group to want me.
So, ill never get the secret handshake to get the promotion, or the parents blessing to marry the daughter, but theyll always demand more of me than im capable of and thus will hate me.
I cant see any way to be happy with this.
>>29226418
>bullied and pushed out of every job
I started my first job at 28 and would have been bullied out until I started sticking up for myself. You have to be considerably worse back.
>>29226418
Cont:
At this point, all i hope for is to be able to support myself, and live and work without being surrounded by people that go out of their way to make me feel bad about myself or to try to kick me out.
Its crazy how difficult my existence is, this is not normal. The weekly stress of taking abuse in order to earn more money so that people might potentially start treating me like a worthwhile human being is too much to bear.
I can feel my body wearing out, and im too tired to ever do anything. Constant pain in the chest, abdomen, headaches, and sleeplessness.
Nightmare mode. Its taken me a long time to admit it, but my life is truly not worth living. But im a good person and a survivor.
42 here. part time job at grocery store stocking shelves. no friends, never had a gf. still live with mom. its like i havent changed at all since age 15 or so. i just live day to day, i dont have any goals. i spend what little money i make on video games or comic books.
Jesus. Not one /r9k/ poster so far above the age of 30 has a good life going for them. Is this my future?
>>29225943
No please. Take your daddy issues elsewhere.
>>29226578
if i had a great life why the hell would i come here?
>>29226578
Some of us are just going through a tough time, which happens to everyone
>>29226499
I think i may have it a bit more complicated though... it tends to be a ringleader conspirator who is really popular in the company but maybe not as skilled or hard working as me.
This person recruits others to join on a campaign of exclusion, harassment, and bullying such that the daily interactions are almost comically abusive.
The final stage will be the sabotage of work or assignments, such that its my fault for all serious setbacks - building up a case to eventually fire me.
I wish companies would just fire me when it gets to this point; its fucking absurd.
>>29226528
Your posts should be screencapped and posted every time some normies tells us something like
>hurr it iznt fair, suck it up
Fucking cunts think they are entitled to treat some people like shit for things out of their control.
I wonder, not trying to make fun of you. You aren't tall, attractive, etc, are you?
>>29226528
Sounds like you are one of those people who take work related stuff too personally.
What are you guys talking about when you say you were bullied out of a job?
I don't get it. Please explain.
I'm getting bullied into getting a job, are you saying I'll have to deal with people trying to bully me getting out of the job when I do have the job?
>>29226630
5'7", ultimate beta appearance, introverted
Can tell you without doubt that its hell on earth. Get openly bullied with no recourse everywhere ive ever gone.
>>29226612
Sounds like you are paranoid. WHy would any company spend money on hiring people to break you down, when they can just fire you?
>>29226658
It's not you guys, it's one robot
>>29225960
>>29226264
>>29226590
It'd be fucking hilarious, imagine some 60-year-old talking to the camera, saying "r9k, my son. I know you've been jacking off to that loli porn a lot, and I don't blame you for giving up 3DPD. But you need to focus on your career, you can't just live on mommy's tendies forever, as incredible as your mother's tendies are."
32 and I'm not afraid so much as I've just come to accept it. I look at cousins that are around the same age that I am. They have families, homes, careers. Meanwhile I struggle just to make ends meet and have never so much as gone out on a date. I have younger cousins who are in college or already graduated and moved on, they have girlfriends or boyfriends. Someone whose diapers I used to change has now lapped me in life. I don't even know what I'm doing. When I think about the things that people do, I just get so tired.
>>29226665
And normies would just tell you to suck it up, that it's normal and life. I'm fucking disgusted by normies. They act like being treated shitty for things out of your control is normal and that you should just accept it.
>>29226676
"I bet you enjoyed mommy's sloppy leftover tendies, you old fuck."
>>29225904
>loner
I love computers and other gadgets. I've had one since 1981 or so. I went on bbses then online services and finally the internet. Being the quiet type who enjoys his own company I found I like the r9k board.
>>29226658
I hope you dont go through what ive been through. Im pretty sure it would have been the end of weaker-willed individuals; im a master of enduring abuse by now.
Ive been called gay, faggot, loser, given the finger, trash thrown in/around desk, pushed, hit, choked, told to kill myself, mercilessly insulted in corporate meeting s in front of senior management, etc. By the way, HR is worthless, and you need to remember that.
This is in addition to the smaller types of things like people giving you the death stare or groaning when you walk into a room, getting the cold shoulder, left out of group lunches or activities.
People stay in jobs entirely because they are well liked by management, and/or have cleverly gotten rid of anyone else that would have been a threat to them. These people tend to banter and slack off, and are paid shockingly well.
>>29226658
I've never been "bullied out of a job" but they're probably referring to two things. One: if a business dislikes its employer, they sometimes will simply make their life hell so that the employee quits instead of being fired. Being fired entails some potential liability, even though every job is at-will, companies want to protect themselves anyway. Two: jobs really often function as popularity contests, and adding a hierarchy to that produces things like a Chad manager bullying a beta underling.
>>29226667
Dude, i have no idea. I think what it is is that at a "bottom line" level, i dont deserve firing - im a good employee.
Its just that the good corporate bullies know how to completely fuck a persons reputation, such that the boss eventually must deal with me as "that problem employee". In reality i just get mobbed out by the cronies.
The reason this happens to me more than others is that i have no natural defense against it, im not a pretty girl, a tall handsome man, and i cant intimidate or charm my way out of it. So im always at the mercy of bullies in a competition for jobs and pay.
Sad thing is, im a good and competent guy. I feel so, so bad for my lot in life sometimes.
>>29226667
>>29226863
>Why would any company spend money on hiring people to break you down, when they can just fire you?
He's not being entirely paranoid, I've seen fast food places deliberately change people's schedules at the last minute just so they could write them up and fire them. Yes, it seems retarded when every job is at-will employment anyway, but managers are told to be extremely careful about possible wrongful termination lawsuits and thus to write up as much negative paperwork as possible. Example, if some faggot went "you fired me because I'm gay!" and sued for wrongful termination, if the company had a stack of paperwork with multiple no-call no-shows then they'd be safe. Or they could just bully the employee until he quits, because if you quit a job then there's zero chance of a wrongful termination suit.
TL;DR - Companies are deathly afraid of wrongful termination lawsuits, thus bullshit ensues.
>spend almost all disposable income on sex tourism
>only socialize through video games
>getting into lucid dreaming
>waiting for vr waifus
The Waifu Age is almost upon us, gentlemen. Hold on until then.
Who says you have to be alone because you have no girl in your life? You have your family including your parents, siblings, extended family and you can have friends too. Because you're in your 30s you can afford to go out for holidays and things like hiking with a meetup group. Get a dog too so you have a reason to get out more.
>>29226963
Im the bullied guy, and this is pretty much it.
What sucks is that i never get bad reviews and do good work. Its that my coworkers are so put off by my very existence that they are compelled to kick me out of the company.
Its like the world has an immune system to destroy short beta males. Even in daily life, the degree to which i am disregarded and marginalized is shocking, given this supposedly progressive and tolerant society we live in.
Im short, beta, and introverted... wish people would get the fuck over it. I mean, it INFURIATES people to know there are guys like me alive in the world.
>34
>government check
>no money no car no gf
I don't see things getting any better it's basically over at this point
>>29226863
>The reason this happens to me more than others is that i have no natural defense against it, im not a pretty girl, a tall handsome man, and i cant intimidate or charm my way out of it. So im always at the mercy of bullies in a competition for jobs and pay.
Fuck man, this makes me so pissed off. Non-Chad males are treated like absolute utter trash in Western society, yet normies act so shocked when a few of those betas end up snapping and going postal. All I ask of r9k is if you commit suicide, go supremely postal, or anything like that - please leave a video monologue calling out all the bully normies and sadistic women. Elliot could have made a massive difference if he had explained how broken the dating system is for males, like referencing that Okcupid study how women rate 80% of males as below-average attractiveness. You genuinely need to be in the top 20% of male genetics and attractiveness just to qualify as dateable to women, and even then you need to have a good career, well dressed, high confidence/social dexterity, etc and even then you have to do absolutely all the work in initiating contact, leading the conversation, paying for the date, escalating, etc.
Basically, the dating system is completely fucked, and it's about to get real supreme in the coming years. Betas are snapping left and right, the Beta Uprising isn't a joke anymore.
>>29227110
Dude, dont let my shit drive you off the edge. If i can endure it, you fucking can as well.
Im a good person. Ive always treated others well regardless of how they treat me. Its really the only control ill ever have, and im proud of it.
This shit sucks, its unfair and discriminatory, but dont go and reinforce all the negative stereotypes we have. The world expects small unattractive men to be miserable idiots just waiting to snap and go on a killing spree. Dont fall into the trap.
Be the better person. Guys like us are the the ones who get the seats at the back of the bus in modern society, so to speak. Show the world the decency and quality you are capable of, even if they may not appreciate.
Play it like Martin Luther King. Rise above it.
>>29227042
You just work in a shitty industry (sounds like minimum pay service industry). Only bullies get into those because they can't function anywhere else.
>>29227226
I'm not the guy you were replying to, but I have to say a few things.
>Im a good person. Ive always treated others well regardless of how they treat me. Its really the only control ill ever have, and im proud of it.
You are a fucking retard then. You treat people well even if they treat you like shit? That isn't humiliating to you? It's like someone mugged you and you offered to suck their dick afterwards.
>This shit sucks, its unfair and discriminatory, but dont go and reinforce all the negative stereotypes we have. The world expects small unattractive men to be miserable idiots just waiting to snap and go on a killing spree. Dont fall into the trap.
Considering all you have said there is a good reason to be like that. When normies treat you like shit.
Why should I be decent? Why should I be good to normies when they aren't good to me? That's so fucking retarded and humiliating I can't even tell you. And I know one thing for sure, now I am bitter, hateful, possibly on the verge of breaking down. But if I lived like you say? I would kill myself within a week, because all this humiliation would be too much to handle.
>>29227226
Well fuck, I wasn't expecting that advice at all. Thank you for the help man, but don't you think that something needs to change? I definitely don't agree with killing innocents, but say if a robot simply went to a poetry contest, read something like pic related on how utterly fucked life is for males, then blew his head off with a shotgun? Wouldn't that make a massive difference and bring attention to our cause? Or maybe it'd just make things worse, fuck. It just seems like there's absolutely nothing we can do to change anything.
>>29227110
Also, get it out of your head that the problem is with women, or getting women.
The problem is that certain males have a very difficult time impressing, charming, or attracting others due to things they cant control... and that the society is just awful, callous, and thoughtless in how they treat these undesirables.
You can find a woman, dude. The problem is then going to be how to improve your station in life such that you can be happy and secure
It's hard, but at this point it's just about accepting reality and filling the hours. People are fickle, fake, liars. They're far worse than anyone on /b/, they just exist in that state in a way that's socially acceptable. We make fucked up jokes, they do fucked up things. So I'm alone, I always have been and always will be. It's hard, there are moments it's suffocating and indescribably terrible. But overall, even though it sucks, I'd rather be alone. I'm done with other peoples drama and bullshit.. it's a complete shit show of insincerity and shallow malice. I don't want anything to do with that. I have my bitter streak, my mockery of tragedy, the same sense of humor most people here have whether they're a real robot or one of the fashionbots. But I'm a nice person and I appreciate that about myself. I'm not interested in hurting anyone or being rude to anyone and even less interested in those that are.
It leaves plenty of time to study and learn. I love that. I love to learn things. People always thought I was retarded, I look and act legitimately retarded. I'm not, my body and mannuerisms are completely fucked, but my mind isn't. I have no trouble with comprehension or learning, i just can't interact or handle certain situations like normal people can. It's not an easy life. I am afraid and lonely, but it's not my choice so I try to put my time and energy into things I can actually affect. That mostly involves computers. I hope to someday write great amazing code, that's important and valuable to me. I write mediocre code, it feels bad. But i'm constantly learning and trying to better that part of myself. That's all I have. That and excessive masturbation. I can easily go 10 times a day, 15 is not unreasonable. I don't know what my record is, i know it's a lot. There's always a silver lining.
>>29227276
Dude, im a short, unattractive, introverted, beta nice guy in a society that worships size, looks, charisma, dominance and celebrity.
These are the cards i was dealt, and the struggle i must face. You cant fight this level of discrimination with punches and violence, its too big a thing, its not an individual enemy but a cultural one.
The only choice is to succeed as much as you can, despite hardships. Live for how you would like to be remembered by those of the ideal world, not this cesspool that actually exists.
Im one of the good guys, always have been always will be. The fact that most people dont treat me as such, simply because i dont measure up to ideals which have no bearing on what actually is important, is evidence of their failings.
Its tragic, but noble. Be the good guy, theres already too many bad guys.
>>29227379
Dude you sound so much like me. This is why i come here.
Godspeed fellow robot, truly wishing you the best.
>>29227499
You sound broken. The society has broken you so much with the bad treatment that you're not even angry anymore. You just accept bad treatment for things out of your control thinking this gives you some sort of moral high ground. Thinking it gives you some kind of superiority for not being the bad guy.
But when someone punches you? YOU PUNCH THE FUCK BACK! You don't just turn the other cheek like some fucking faggot(you). I'm disgusted by "people" like you. I really am. You accept bad treatment like it was normal. You are helping the society which shits on you. You are a dirty traitor scum.
Remember Neil from 7 and up.
Do any of you guys identify with him? He was a loner pre-internet. I can see myself in him a bit. But I'm a little bit more normal in some regards, and less in other ways.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBS3_G7NhHg
>>29227549
And you sound like the type of young man who is starting to think it would be justified to go and shoot an aspiring signer who you dont even know, just to get back at the world.
Fucking dont be that guy. I hate bullies, but i hate murderer losers even more.
>>29226849
This is what I fear about the working world. If I got bullied like that I know I would end doing something stupid like punching my employer, or whoever is above me.
I'm not trying to be tough either, it's already happened in an education setting. Although the guy I punched was another student.
>>29227673
I am that kind of guy. It's justified to hate anyone who got luckier and because of that has better life. These people shit on you and make your life hell. Anything is justified when dealing with the enemy. And make no mistake. Normies are the enemy.
>>29226770
You're 60 years old browsing r9k ... I-I don't even. Can you tell me what life is like between the ages of 25 - and 40?
>>29227301
You'll be passed off as a psychotic depressed faggot. Everyone will have another drink to calm their nerves and forget about you as fast as possible.
I'm 31
I'm getting $400 a month in DepreSSIon bucks. Live with my parents. I was using financial aid to take some college courses, which I happened to ace. Each semester I take 3 classes. Just three. And I end up feeling like my world is collapsing by the end. I don't have any other responsibilities. I can hardly make it through my semesters.
Mentally I feel like a kid still. Talking to anyone my own age frightens me because I know they'll see me as a failure. "What do you do?" I fear the most. The stresses of life are mountains and the mole hills, mountains, and the easy moments, a breather on the side of a mountain.
I've lost some weight in the past couple years. The process gave me enough confidence to ask a few girls out. For the first time in my life I've dated. Held a girls hand. Considered another human being might find my life worth adding to their life. I don't believe that will ever happen. Dating has shown me that I'm likable and attractive to some but a problem occurs. They know they can't be proud telling their friends or family that they are in a relationship with me. I know they forget that though and try, once. "So, tell me about this guy you like so much. What does he look like? What does he do?" I imagine they pull up short at that question. I feel it in the dates. They become a little cold and speak of far off future things.
As a kid I would say to myself at these times, you're alone now and you always have been alone. Like it's my minds way of amputating a section of life that turned gangrenous. Not all the flesh was bad but if I want to save the whole then I must.
I've lost the ability to assume those who say nice things about me are being truthful. Instead I wonder why they put there energy into pitying me enough to tell lies to my face. Or I wonder what they wish to obtain from me with these words.
>>29227733
Nice triple double
>>29227781
Sounds like a nice life. Here I am wageslaving for a pay that I can't enjoy. Meeting the same future as you are.
>>29224704
Honestly I'm afraid of what you said, but I'm more afraid of being in the position you're in. It's more immediate and has essentially the same consequences aside from the factor of time.
I'm 25 and essentially only living because I don't want my parents to deal with my death since I'm their only child and they essentially banked their adulthood on raising me.
Once they go I'm terrified of being completely alone with no accomplishments or things to pursue essentially having wasted my entire life. I would most likely end it if I were in your position. You may have more to hope for though.
>>29227549
You sound incredibly immature. If you looked at a war you would probably think the outcome was decided by the fighting but the truth is, the outcome was decided long before the fighting even took place. It's called politics and you must play tactfully based on rules. You can't just call people names or fight them in an office environment ... indeed in almost no situations would this actually help your case and I'm guessing the people giving this guy shit know that.
>>29226208
>heroin
Top kek, pathetic.
>>29227226
So you'd let niggers fuck your gf if you had one?
