>message girls in a futile attempt to find a girl and possibly love ;_;
>get a random message from a gay guy and he calls me handsome.
So how have any of you fared in your okcupid search?
>>29192883
Does match.com count?
>>29192883
Unless you're at LEAST 8/10 facially don't bother with ANY form of online dating.
>>29192883
That's where I losed my virginity at 18 with a 21 year old girl that was in an open relationship.
>>29192952
Sure whatever you want or whatever.
>>>29193062
> me and my friend are both single
> my friend signs up to match.com for fun
> asks me to join as well
> say fuck it and join with a 6 month membership
> what's the worst that can happen?
> message a couple girls a day
> get a few views, no replies in the first few days
> one day I get a reply from a girl
> she only joined the site an hour ago
> she's like 8/10
> holy shit
> start talking
> likes playing vidya on the xbox one
> I have an xbox one
> holy damn
> fallout 4 just came out, she has it too
> I ask for her gamertag
> gives it to me, wants to talk to me on xbox one
> add her and join her xbox live party
1/? typing this out so might be a little slow
>>29193210
please no
>she's like 8/10
>holy shit
>>29192883
i actually met my gf from okc she's 10/10
>>29193210
> hear a female voice
> holy shit it's actually a girl
> thought it might be a guy fucking with me or something
> we talk all night while playing fallout 4
> likes the same music as me, we have similar interests, she has a cute accent
> is this real?
> my friend who also signed up is jealous, has had a couple of replies but nothing outside of the website
> eventually it's really late
> decide to call it a night, she says she enjoyed talking to me and wants to talk while playing games again
> I forgot to say in the first post her boyfriend broke up with her about a month before, we talked about past relationships while on match.com
> talk again on xbox the next day
> add her on Facebook
> this girl is legit
> see her ex boyfriend in some of her pics
> this guy is definitely a chad
> this is the most contact I've had with a girl for months, fuck it
> talk again all night
> seems really into me
> ask her on a date next weekend
> she agrees
> we're going in
2/?
>>29193365
> she messages me a lot during the week before our date
> eventually the day comes
> she lives 3 hours away from me
> fuck my life
> I travel 3 hours with the train to see her
> I arrive
> she is 30 minutes late
> has some bullshit excuse like "I was distracted by my cat and some other things"
> what the fuck
> anyway we go out for lunch
> this girl is gorgeous
> we chat, everything is cool
> make her laugh a lot, talk about the future a bit
> not sure what to do after so we go to a coffee shop
> sit there for like 4 hours and talk about a lot of shit
> she doesn't really seem to be over her ex boyfriend
> he dumped her for being "too much of a girlfriend"
> don't really get it but whatever
> it's late and I have to catch my train
> hug and say goodbye, she wants to see me again
> on my way home
3/?
>>29192883
>>29192883
it's a sign OP
report to gay boot camp IMMEDIATELY
>>29193463
She's broken and will cheat on you with her ex.
Out of all the dating sites, okc has by far the most degenerates and broken people by a VERY large margin. Seriously, not even POF is this bad.
I suspect this has something to do with the heavy catering towards mobile users, recently they ouverhauled the entire design too so that even on a desktop you get this stupid fucking mobile design
Also mfw i've got volunteer moderation tools there now for some reason after having reported a bunch of infringing profiles
>>29193463
> she said she was going to a party tonight
> "I'd rather spend the night with you, I'm so bored"
> I had work the next day, couldn't ditch
> seems really into me still, messages me a lot that night
> lots of sweet messages like "I want to hug you again"
> over the next couple of days we play xbox and talk a bit
> after that she gets quiet, doesn't message a lot anymore
> ask her what's up after a day of no reply
> she says she doesn't know what she wants
> she's obviously not over her ex
> tell her I'll give her some time to think
> never hear from her again, she's still on my facebook to this day
4/4
>>29193563
I'm not sure if her ex got involved with her because she completely removed him from Facebook after our date. He was pestering her with messages saying he was the best she'd ever get and some other weird stuff. He must have found out she was dating me and got jealous. I think she just didn't want a relationship then, which I was more looking for. This was last year so I've moved on a lot since then. Had a lot more success with Tinder.
That was my first experience with match.com. I did meet up with another girl from match, I had a month relationship with her, but that's another story. Boy did that shit go bad.
Post face, op. We need to know if the faggot was lying to you.
>>29193670
Definitely ex. Don't bother with girls like that.
>>29193928
I agree on this, if a girl has broken up recently with her ex (2 months max) and talks about him still, don't bother. You're going to be a rebound.
>>29194051
ESPECIALLY if they are a "le gamer gril xD random".
>>29194077
'lel gamer gurl super randum xD" are cancer
>average female in california
>bombarded by messages from nonwhites
all i want is a fucking white or asian bf damnit
>>29194618
How do you feel about long distance relationships?
>>29192883
>get a random message from a gay guy and he calls me handsome.
Dude, you are so in there.
>>29193670
>I had a month relationship with her, but that's another story. Boy did that shit go bad.
>Boy did that shit go bad
Tell us, I'm curious, but keep it short
>>29195083
It's a lot more juicy when it's longer but here goes
> get a wink from a girl on match.com
> message her and we talk A LOT over the next few days
> broke up with her bf only a couple of days ago
> add each other on Facebook
> find out she has GAD, self harmed a lot, slept with countless guys
> totally the opposite of what I want, but she's giving me attention
> she's really into me
> gives loads of hints, is DTF
> go on 2 dates before I go over her place for the weekend
> lose my virginity to this roastie, fuck a lot that weekend
> was going to go over again that next weekend but she cancelled
> a week later starts ignoring me
> finds a new boyfriend within days
> depressed as fuck for weeks
> never talks to me again until recently (3 months later)
> sends a long ass message saying she's sorry and how I was a great guy etc.
> ignore that bitch
That month we dated was a rollercoaster of feelings man - a lot of stuff I didn't mention. I've got a great girlfriend now, though. Relationships like that are definitely experience and are stuff to learn from. Will never date a girl like that again, I was desperate.
>>29195418
>>29193670
Moral of the story don't date girls who just broke up.
>>29195561
That's the biggest thing I've learnt. While I was over her house for the weekend her ex came to the door a few times. Knocking on the door, loud as fuck - sounded like he was beating down the door. He knew I was there too, it was so awkward. We had a lot of sex over those 3 days and she was really loud in bed, I wonder if that guy heard us. He lived in the same apartment complex too, like 15 second walk away from her door. Never again.
>>29195676
She was definitely loud on purpose to spite him.
>feeling particularly hopeless trying to find a gf on OKC
>I'm a high test guy, so you'd think my chances would be easier
>I decide to shoot for the bottom of the barrel
>find a girl whose profile was very agreeable
>only had face pictures
>very clearly over 300lbs despite only showing face
>fuck it, I'm lonely, let's get a gf
>she messages ME because I visited her profile
>we hit it off
>we meet up
>I figured, hey she's 300lbs, surely she'll have plenty of T&A to grope, right?
>...right?
>NOPE
>this girl, despite being over 400lbs, had NO ASS
>no ass
>none
>n o a s s
>It was like the wrong end of an apple back there
>I've always been more of a tit guy, so I stuck around a bit longer
>she was SUPER fucking easy, so I got to feel her tits later that night
>they had the size, but not the firmness
>the consistency of a deflated balloon only halfway filled with water
>just couldn't be physically attracted to her no matter how hard I tried
>I now have an upper weight limit, despite being high test
>>29192883
I actually get messages from women and interest but it never amounts to anything.
I can't "seal the deal" as they say.
The trouble is really that deep down I see women as subhuman herd-following automatons. The longer I chat and talk with them the more apparent it becomes.
This then leads me to a disturbing thought... because I'm human too, does that mean I'm a subhuman herd-following automaton? And then I get disinterested in the whole idea of engaging in this bizarre animal-like courtship behaviour which devalues me and suggests that I am living in a hell which I can't escape.
>>29192883
I met my wife through okcupid 7 years ago.
>don't have any luck with okc in the past
>decide to log in for the first time in 6 months
>not even 1 new visitor
>>29196007
>mfw this happens to me
>mfw I don't kick her
>mfw we are together I get more confidence and started cheating on her in every single chance
>mfw she knows but she also knows that if she pushs me I'm breaking it up
Fat fucks are really fucking easy you guys, I got a blowjob in the first date in public
Been on two dates, didn't like the first girl, second girl didn't like me. That's 2 years of use.
No one ever responds, and even if they do I have no long term plan so it all just dies off.
I'm hoping that moving out is going to give me some confidence but I really doubt it.
>>29193670
>not dicking her down when you had the chance
you should know better pham
>been on okcupid for months
>only 3 girls ever messaged me
>despite them having 99% match with me, all of them were severely fucked up in some way
kill me
>>29192883
I've had better luck with Craigslist ads, here's the usual dating site
>message girls within my range
>we talk a bit
>agree to meet up on my off day
>day comes and they won't respond or cancel
>they drop all contact with me
Then on Craigslist
>post an ad, no picture just text about me and what i'm looking for, age and stats
>get a response from a real woman interested within 3 days
>meet up and go from there
Dating site women are simply too entitled because of the constant barrage of dicks thrown at them. A woman from cl picks you out and is more commited to actually meeting.
I've gotten two gfs from doing this over the last year and a half.
>>29196698
CL is pretty useless if you want a girl less than 350 pounds isn't it?
>>29196800
You'd be surprised, neither of them were skinny but i'd put them at chubby level. I like my women a little fat though so that was perfect for me.
I'd put both of them at between 180-210 lbs. The first one had gigantic tits, very top heavy, the second one is more evenly proportioned though. And smaller and cuter.
>>29194618
>asian bf
Asians aren't white.
>>29192883
>message qt girl on okcupid
>shes pretty cool
>we exchange phone numbers
>text for about a week
>meet up to get coffee
>hang out the entire day
>next day go to the cinema
>go back to her apartment, have sex
>quickly goes from possible relationship to physical only
>eventually she starts bringing in feminism bs, a little at a time
>have sex less and less often
>i stop texting her
>she blows up my phone
>i say "stop texting me. go away"
>she curses me out
>never hear from her again
>a few months later i go to her normiebook page
>she gained a lot of weight
>face is blotchy, lots of acne even though she was 26
I'm glad I stopped seeing her when I did. Who knew women can get so fucking ugly in a short period of time.
>message girls
>get no replies
Here's what happens for 90% of lurkers on this thread
>>29197270
Oh shit, how did you know I was here?
>>29197134
>eventually she starts bringing in feminism
>Who knew women can get so fucking ugly in a short period of time.
There's your answer
Women in online dating sites are only there for an ego boost from other men or the possibility of finding a man that's at least a 2+x/10, with x being her beauty rating. If you're a 6/10, you're very unlikely to find a 6/10 that wants to fuck you.
Trust me on this. I'm a very passable 7/10 and very rarely do I hook up with other 7/10 girls, and only twice got with 8/10s.
Also this >>29197434
Good fucking luck finding a girl that won't try to shove liberal bullshit down your throat.
I got messaged from a girl and asked her why she thinks that the earth is bigger then the sun
Wtf she looked so cute but is dumb :/
>find adorable chubby guy
>message him
>seem to hit it off
>ask him to go on a date
>no response
>one year later
>still on OKC
>when we were chatting he gave me his skype
>same username as his profile on an autism support forum
>I'm autistic too
I know this is so silly, but I think we'd get along if he gave me a chance.
>>29196966
are you a white dude? 6ft+?
>>29197656
she's right though, she's talking about rasmussen's corollary.
>>29197656
>Female
>Intelligent
>Attractive
>Mentally stable
Pick 3
>>29198415
great now even memes have to have a fag-friendly version.
nearly all of the profiles fall into one or more of these;
>very overweight
>liberal, feminist "and you better be too", dyed short hair
>"I like netflix, food and traveling!"
>"i'm studying liberal arts/ psychology / i'm a writer"
even after finding the 0.0001% of girls that aren't degenerate feminists they'll just ignore you entirely or view your profile and ignore cause you're not chad
If I'm trying to find someone to hook up with, should I target older ladies? They all seem to say "not here for hookups" I take it it's just something to ignore? Or look for someone that doesn't have that shit?
>>29198415
Female
Attractive
Mentally Stable
I'm smart enough for the both of us :3
>>29198557
Not unless you have a good paying job or are asupreme gentleman
I've messaged loads of women, even one who seemed perfect for me, and I got nothing. What I did get was a wonderful conversation (she initiated) with some fucking sub 80 IQ troglodyte who couldn't comprehend why I was fucking irritated when she started talking about some guy in her college who is apparently "really hot though". This is really fucking with my self-esteem.
If you aren't tall and white don't bother with okc.
Entitled vapid whores.
The closest I ever got was with this Japanese girl. She actually wanted to meet too, gave her number and everything, then I had a panic attack and stalled until she moved on.
Never got that far since. I still regret it, she was pretty damn cool and cute to boot.
>>29194618
>Waaahhh I'm desired
Get the FUCK off of this board roastie. LEAVE.
>try online dating
>never receive a single reply even when messaging fat single mom and like 3 people view my profile in an entire year
>>29198501
You forgot some
>"I'm quiet until you get to know me"
>"I'm a foodie"
>Sarcasm
>>29199220
I'm tall and white. I had no luck. If you aren't Chad don't bother with okc.
ok cupid and POF are the r9k of women
hot girls are on E harmony or other paid services
and some are also on tinder hot girls aren't desperate enough to go on ok cupid
>Be in middle school
>Talking to friend about how a girl rejected me
>Fucking says "maybe you could wear a bag on your head"
Holy shit
>>29200203
POF is the absolute bottom of the dating barrel. I have never seen a woman on POF who wasn't obese, a single mother, or both.
>>29192883
All I really find are chubby tumblr girls or crazies. The rest go for chad or sugardaddy.
I hadnt checked my okc in about a month. I havent dated anyone. people ask me to be their live-in masseuse. people ask me to do threeways. some people say I remind them of their ex and they want to replace them with me. Mostly everyone just says hi and then nothing else.
>>29200533
Get the fuck out of here Chad. Why are you here? Like honestly, this place is for sad people who failed at life. What brings someone like you here?
without giving the thread a read, im gonna quickly sum up my last experience on okc
>be two weeks ago, move into my new apartment
>message qt on there and ask directly "lets kick it friend"
>doesnt reply right away, but i fall asleep that night and wake up the next morning to see her reply
>"sure where do you live"
>immediately give her my number and tell her "text me"
>she starts texting me cat pictures and generally the conversation steers off
>fast forward a couple days
>tell her i'm bored and ask what she's doing
>again, no reply, and i fall asleep and see her late night response the next morning (last saturday)
>dont text her till saturday night and tell her "if you wanna hang tonight, let me know"
>replies back immediately "where do you live, etc"
>says shes coming over, lives about 30 mins away.
>she gets there, knocks on the wrong door, but eventually we find each other
>invite her in, just general chatting about our day and lives and family life
>get some drinks out
>she starts vaping
>i offer her some dude weed and we smoke in my car out back
>we come back inside and i can tell she is steering the conversation towards sex
>see the look in her eyes
>she gets another drink
>i go to sit on the couch, presumably to cuddle and watch tv
>out of nowhere, starts making out with me, clothes start flying and we start banging
>continued?
>>29200896
fuck no, don't continue. thanks for your contribution.
>>29200689
I think its just cause im listed under women. Im like average at best.
>>29192883
I'm currently screwing around with a chick I met on OKcupid a while back. We dated but now are FWB.
Now I'm talking to two other chicks who want my dick. Hoping to get 3 FWBs at once out of this.
These girls are all between 3.5 and 4/10 btw but hey, cumming is cumming
>>29192883
This didn't happen to me but to a friend
> be my Christian friend
> has a girlfriend for about a year
> she moves away
> they break up because of distance
> he tries online dating
> starts talking to another 'Christian' person
> they start to talk real dirty for weeks
> this girl is in love with him
> decide to meet up
> they watch Star Wars
> touch each other everywhere
> have nandos
> go to his car
> this guy has a bag prepared full of condoms, lube, everything
> they start to have sex
> he breaks down and starts crying after a little while
> they both don't finish
> goes home and blocks the girl completely
> he is sad over his ex gf
> messages her 6 huge paragraphs
> she doesn't want to get back together
> blocks her too
It's weird how rebounds work. He was completely over her until their date.
