Can anyone tell me if the "dont be a slut, remain a virgin" meme is real?
>19 year old girl
>average (maybe slightly above average) looks
>i could most likely hook up with a guy at a bar or club if i wanted to
Thing is, im horny, like most of my day. I wanna have sex but at the same time i wanna save it for a guy i love and see my self with for a long time. Question is, is the whole "save yourself and dont be a slut" meme true? Most guys on here and /adv/ think that any girl who isnt a virgin when they meet them is a slut.
Shaquita has some decent trigger discipline.
>>29131090
If you're a virgo and get a nice enough man it's less likely he'll pump and dump. Just watch out from cocky douchebags, if you go for them then might as well slut it up.
>>29131090
You should meet up with a guy from /pol/
They also believe in the superiority of virgin brides thing. They're always telling femposters to stay virgins
>>29131090
buy a vibrator
no meme is true
decide for yourself
Don't bother. Casual sex isn't worth it, the guy won't even try to get you off. If you must have sex find a bf who really likes you, if not you will just regret it.
It's a little bit of a meme, you won't get rejected for not being a virgin as much as many places would have you believe.
That being said, the vast majority of good guys would rather you save it for a guy you love and want to commit to. You realistically don't HAVE to be a virgin, but just going and hooking up and shit like that speaks about what kind of person you are to most people. Don't let it be meaningless.Just get a dildo or bullet or something. We're horny most of the time too but we just jack off a lot.
remaining a virgin until marriage is completely idiotic for women
once you finally marry and have sex with a guy, you will likely never leave even if you are unhappy and suffering. that's because the moment you leave you're now a used up roastie that lost her virginity. this gives the man all the power in the relationship, which is why people insecure with their ability to deal with women (/r9k/, /pol/) fetishize the idea so much
also notice how it never applies to men. lol!
If you be responsible and find a quality man with similar values, it will be a good thing for you both.
You will statistically have a more stable and longer lasting relationship
>>29131090
>is the whole "save yourself and dont be a slut" meme true?
It's not a meme. It's real.
90% of guys don't want a slut who does one night stands or has/have fucked more than 5-10 guys.
Most of this board don't even like girls who have fucked 1-3 girls, but rule of thumb is that almost all guys don't like sluts (Save for porn stars who go through women like candy, and those chads who always ask for the 'experienced' meme ladies).
so yea.
10% don't mind.
90% do.
Keep that in mind. I'm being as HONEST as I can without sperging like the other robot faggots.
>>29131288
t. remorseful slut detected
>>29131373
not a slut or even a roastie
>>29131203
This. I met my bf from /pol/ and he was my first and we're planning on getting married soon.
I myself will not marry a non virgin. No hymen no diamond.
She will expect me to pay for her shit, work so she doesn't have to. In turn I expect an untainted wife. I've spoken to a lot of people and it seems to be a common mantra; 'I can't feel real love for a woman that isn't a virgin'. Something special is lost. As soon as you cash in your V card, no real man will respect you, roastie. Think carefully.
>>29131338
Yeah thats what im planning on doing. When i find a guy who i like and is really into me then i feel it would make the relationship stronger imo
>>29131436
Would you marry her as long as she lost it to you? Because what if you guys dont have a compatible sex life, but you have already gone and married her
>>29131238
This.
If you want to enjoy it do it with a guy you're dating
Don't listen to these guys. Hardly any guys care if you're a virgin (outside this site).
Just live your life and do what you want. Waiting or not.
I'm telling you this being 23 and still and female virgin. No one cares, no one is impressed, and I almost wish I wasn't a virgin because now I would feel jealous dating the 90% of guys who have been with someone else, when I haven't. It doesn't seem fair that I have to be "their next gf" who gets their dirty dick. When they are the only guy I've ever been with.
Almost all virgins, male or female, feel more bitter or disappointed about their virgin status than proud. Don't aspire to this life, because the Prince Charming meme is a lie.
Most of these guys almost nail it but...
Guys LOVE sluts. Why wouldn't they? It's low effort sex.
But
We don't want to COMMIT to a slut. Put it like this, would you rather have a coke or a coke with 10 dicks in it?
>>29131090
That looks like Viper in drag. I wouldn't even be surprised
>>29131527
Lmfao that analogy tho...
>>29131524
What do you feel has lead you to be in that situation? Do you have more well adjusted friends?
>>29131527
You really shouldnt quote cleveland brown m8....
>>29131507
Ideally it would work like this. I want her to try really hard to stay celibate but then cave into urges, and upon the first nut we realize we'll be together forever
Or maybe the dream is dead and I'll die sonless
>>29131090
Here's the thing. It's not for the guys benefit. It's for yours.
In fact, in our current culture you might even be better off lying and saying you had sex with one other partner in the past. Because people are scared to death about lack of interest in sex on the woman's part.
Being a virgin will allow you to go into a committed relationship baggage free and with your self-esteem intact. It is best for your mental and, consequently, your physical well-being.
If you're with a partner who truly cares about you and loves you, they will care about your sexual pleasure. It may be awkward and even unpleasant at first, but since that's what would have happened the first time anyway, better to be with a partner who is invested in you and will be there to comfort and grow alongside you rather than get it over with with someone who cares only about that one sexual encounter and little else.
>>29131652
Your situation is pretty difficult desu. Remember you're coming from a position of weakness as a male virgin- chastity is a desired trait for women. What will you have to offer a woman in return for her virginity? Are you a shut-in? Where will you find this virgin of appropriate age?
>>29131090
>she wants to pick up guys at bar
>she seeks the cock carousel
>she believes that guys won't want her because she's not a virgin
Quality guys won't want you because you're a vapid cunt deep inside. The cock carousel is not the thing that makes you undesirable in itself, but rather a symbol of your internal garbage self.
Also fantastically trolled.
>>29131150
First post best post
>>29131599
I didn't date in high school and almost none of my friends did either because my school was small and there weren't many options. In college I had no social life and lived in a new city and was soon wanting to leave it, so I didn't date then either. I probably won't date for a while now still, because I have to many things that I have to do instead like look for a job and help out my family.
>>29131747
I'm not a shut in. I'm working to apprentice for a lot of skilled people, learn stuff. I am a virgin because there are no quality women and because I don't prioritize cum.
I don't think that I'm doing anything wrong. If I keep working I'll be in a great position.
It's funny how the perception has shifted in only ten years.
>>29131090
do what you want but at least don't be a lying piece of shit who tries to keep it from a future partner because you think you're entitled to determine what he's allowed to care about
>>29131789
Not so much as me being a slut, (havent even let a guy grope me because i know it would lead to sex) but as a human i do have sexual desires. If you were around a female for at least 5 mins you'd know that.
>>29131409
HOW? Are you a girl? I didn't know you could meet people off /pol/.
>>29131090
Yes, it's true. Really though, I don't think most people are as bothered if you'd had a boyfriend or 2, they just don't like it if you slept with a bunch of random guys. Just masturbate desu senpai.
>>29131203
I met my husband on /pol/ four years ago.
I was a virgin and so was he. He works a good job and I work from home. We are very happily married for 11 months, our anniversary is in ten days.
He doesn't let me talk to other males, or do things unsupervised. I'm not allowed to curse or act unladylike.
I love it, it's the control I need. I would do anything for him.
>>29131090
Its a sign of self discipline and control especially if youre attractive or atleast acerage. Plus it gives a man a sense if self satisfaction since he is the one too "plant the first flag"
>>29131883
We met in a chat and found out we lived close to eachother.
I knew one legitimately 11/10 pure qt virgin in highschool, she was cool as shit by virtue of having an absolute trash family that she rose above and was staying a virgin until marriage specifically to avoid ending up in the situation her mom did.
So yes, they exist, but they're rare and, let's be honest, deserve someone better than you.
>>29131966
is he your cousin?
>>29131883
I'm a girl desu original>>29131966
>>29132001
No he's my brother XD
>>29132027
Also what chat? Just by talking on pol or what?
>>29131881
You can fuck guys all you want without being a slut. It's your desire to receive-and-dump/one night stands that makes you gross.
Also whatever makes you feel better, kiddo. I'm not gonna get into a cock size contest with you sempai-dono.
yes
>taking r9k seriously to the point where you wont have sex because 4chan will insult you
damn son
>>29131090
Just hit up facebook and find a guy your maybe used to like in high school, establish a monogamous relationship with him, than fuck his brains out and only his.
>>29132114
I never said my desire was to "recieve and dump" i dont know where you got that impression. Humans have the basic desire for sex. Btw i never said i fuck random guys at the bar, i said i have the option to (which i refrain from)
>>29132444
>>i could most likely hook up with a guy at a bar or club if i wanted to
That's where they got it from
>>29132533
Yeah, IF. Idk how many times i have to make it clear that i am saving my self, not for marriage but fora guy i actually see myself having a long term relationship with. And if that leads to marriage then so be it.
>>29132444
I know this feel but as a guy
Im not perfect but im attractive and funny irl enough that if i went to college parties and drank i could hook up with *some sort of* a girl.
However i see that kind of behavior as really fucking shallow and would really rather not drink tb h.
So instead i keep trying to have a relationship first, before i lose my virginity, which is pretty hard in college because there are vapid sluts everywhere and all the good girls seem taken/not interested.
>tfw told by female sexting-friends i have a nice thick cock
>tfw for misc reasons i cant date any of those female friends
Listen
I've spoken to many older people and many people my own age (20s) about how they've felt about having lots of casual sex.
The responses? It just comes down to you, that's it. Some older girls/guys loved having tons of casual sex in their younger years, same with girls/guys my own age. Some of them absolutely regret it and wish they had been with less partners or even saved themselves for the person they currently love and are with.
It all comes down to YOU and the fact that, 20+ years from now, you might regret making either decision. That is life. I don't want to act like I know the answer, but I do trully believe that it's up to you.
You might think that the future (and your future thoughts/feelings) are irrelevant right now, but remember that you're only going to he young once, yet 'old' for the rest of your life.
THAT DOES NOT MEAN "YOLO" OR WHATEVER. It simply means that, regardless of which path you chose, it's going to have an effect on you later in life. None of us can predict what that effect might be, so you're going to have to make your own decisions and deal with the consequences, just like everyone else.
Not to sound harsh, but that is life. We don't know how we'll feel later on.
at least she kept her finger off the trigger
she must have proper training
>>29131090
idk i got my bf on /pol/ and we both virgins when we married but he makes 100k and i just stay home
>>29133285
meant were still both virgins waiting for marriage(engaged now though)
>>29132597
Or you could come out with my girl and I and we could have a steamy threesome. We'll put that pussy in lower earth orbit by the end of the night.
>>29133322
Shoo shoo normie scum leave reee
