Only people with exactly zero friends are allowed to post in this thread. People with more than zero friends may read if they wish, but not post. Anonymous posters with zero friends may post in this thread about any subject relating to having no friends, for example the reason why they have no friends. Observe my example post below if you are unsure on how to behave
>tfw unable to maintain friendships because you get the desire to socialise once every couple of weeks
>>29121274
What should we even post here? I have no friends because I lie in bed all day.
>>29121274
I have no friends because people are shit
>>29121297
>>29121300
Interesting posts my friends, keep up the good work
>>29121274
This says nothing about your ability to socialize or if you are one of those people who titles them all aquaintences or how easy it is for you to leave your house.
>>29121274
I have no friends because I have a serious problem keeping in contact with people or replying to people
Slowly stopped enjoying them, deleted my social media and not switched my phone on in 3 months, still go to work, but don't have contact with anyone otherwise.
I've cleaned my NEET nest, I've shaved my neck beard, I've got a job. But I am unstirred to form relationships.
>>29121324
You're right, I should've clarified. I am insanely socially awkward and feel comfortable only when I'm alone in my own room. I never felt comfortable around people, not even close family members. I am unable to relate to people who are not in a similar situation to mine - most days I feel outright hatred towards these people. When I do talk to people, I can't help but constantly make sarcastic or mean comments towards them, even if I do like them.
>>29121325
>>29121335
Good posts, keep it up
>>29121324
Friendless loser here.
Haven't spoken to anyone outside my family in months, deleted all my social media a few years ago. I grew more and more withdrawn as I went through high school, I'm 21 now and haven't spoken to or seen anyone since I left, nobody has made any effort to contact me.
I struggle to make eye contact and conversation with most people. I only leave my house to go for a walk on my own or to go to college. I can handle about 30 minutes of socializing before I get mentally exhausted. Whenever I see groups of friends or couples I get depressed.
How pathetic am I?
>>29121514
You're better than me if you can socialise at all. Were you popular in school?
Literally zero physical friends here. I do have at least 2 people I regularly talk to online but that's all.
>>29121561
>Literally zero physical friends here. I do have at least 2 people I regularly talk to online but that's all.
can i be #3
>>29121514
this - socialising was just exhausting, got health problems which means I shouldn't really drink alcohol anymore and without it I hate my "friends".
>>29121274
just pick up a video game that actually requires other people
pic related has low entry requirements, literally anyone can pick it up and play.
Go to your local tournaments/friendlies and you can make friends there, or if you don't want to, you can make acquaintances to play a game you like with
I have no friends because nobody wants to be my friend. I have no social value to offer.
On the bright side I think it makes me stronger as a person.
>>29121686
>Anonymous posters with zero friends may post in this thread
You broke the rules, you must leave now.
>>29121541
I had a handful of "friends" and played some sports, but I was never really popular, no, never invited to any parties or anything like that. I was just invisible most of the time.
>>29121634
Sorry to hear that m8.
I don't relate to anyone at all.
I used to have friends but we all lost contact
>>29121274
I'm 33 and I have no friends, no job, no life, no career, no savings, and no skills. I suffer with psychosis and am probably assburgers. I hated school due to all the bullying. I hate my parents for giving me life. I can't wait to not exist.
I had friends
but then I decided to BEE myself
and now I don't know what to do because I've known them for ~9 years and didn't try to socialize with other people
How is an honest young lad in the UK supposed to kill himself painlessly without a gun?
>had friends in high school
>alienated all of them
>now in college
>have 0 friends
>someone adds me to group chat of all my old friends and they're all talking shit about me
>block all of them
>mfw
>>29121992
if that happened to me it would hurt but I think I'll understand since alienation hurts on both ends. Can you forgive them at least? They did invite you back after all.
t. friendless sympathetic beta virgin
My solitary circumstances came about out of choice not necessity. I decided to become a recluse after realizing that the people I considered to be my "friends" didn't actually care about me at all. Just got fed up with the fake smiles and pretense behind every social scenario. This was last year and I've not met up with anyone since, though some of them did try to contact me. Nowadays I just stay at home and invest my time in my interests: Anime/Novels/Games/Movies/Music etc. Can't complain since it's /comfy/ but only a select few individuals are cut out for such a lifestyle.21
>>29121322
Irony aside. Would you really expect interesting people to have no friends?
>>29122610
Didn't mean any offense, I was just replying to every post like that to keep up the hilarious "look at me I'm so autistic" bit
>>29122610
It is not unreasonable to assume as such. I believe that the loner types are the ones who are truly interesting and unique since they don't fit into the mold.
I'm just weird as hell. I've never had friends when I was a kid, a teen, and in my 20's.
Now in my 30's I fixed a lot of my problems so I'm talking to people and trying to make friends. But my social skills are so poor that I come across as really odd. So ultimately I just weird people out.
It's hard to explain and no one seems to understand.
>>29122646
No problemo anon.
>>29122725
This may be true, but these people may not be able to properly express themselves. So even if they are truly interesting, they seem bland and uninteresting to most people because they keep everything inside.
>terrible social anxiety disorder
>feel much calmer when I'm with a friend
>only friend randomly cut off contact with me a year ago, won't respond to my messages
>have dreams about hanging out with him again
>I am completely and utterly alone
After a year of working in a restaurant i finally bit the bullet and accepted one of my coworker's invitations to hang out after work
I had intentions to bail after my shift ended because I was getting pretty nervous. I was too nervous to bail so I went. Ended up being a good time. The alcohol really helped and we had a good night playing beer pong. I dont think I embarrased myself too bad but it feels pretty good to have finally socialized with people that arent my family for the first time in years
>>29122795
Agreed. Possessing an introspective mindset has its fair share of perks but there are certain drawbacks that must be taken into account.
I'm boring as fuck in real life, I actually bore myself when I talking
The only things I do in my spare time are shitpost and play degenerate porn games, and I can't do either of those in public without potentially getting arrested
>>29122725
>tfw considered myself as a non-nihilistic intelligent weirdo with a wicked sense of humour
>tfw never shared my cunning detective-like observations with anyone IRL and only appeared determined and optimistic but probably looked pissed and insecure
>tfw eventually become depressed loser with no personality at all and of course no friends
Friendless but interesting friends, I hope you don't follow my path
>>29122885
Ironically, having a very introverted personality means I'm really good at reading people but terrible at talking to them. It's like being a great composer that's deaf.
I have maybe 2 friends who I don't even see often
>>29122908
It's usually the way you tell 'em, not what you're telling, that counts.
>>29123042
Kindly read the OP and then lurk.
>>29121514
That sounds just like me.
I don't enjoy social interaction and choose not to have friends. I'd always rather be alone than with other people. Other people always just seem so boring and not much fun, I don't see why everyone puts so much importance on friends.
>>29123171
you'll realise how important it is once you start looking for a job. No friends= no connections = resume straight to the autist bin
>>29123247
Not necessarily. Academic credentials and past experience can make up what you lack in the social networking department.
>>29123171
>everyone puts so much importance on friends
Just look at social media to see the sycophantic extents people go to to be positively perceived. The trick is to remember that most people are shit.
>>29122855
Can I be your friend, anon?
Apparently unoriginal
>>29123339
>past experience
and how will you get that if you lack any sort of social support?
im literally an auitist, who has no social skills whatsoever
>>29123247
>>29123339
>tfw no friends, NEET, never worked
JUST
>>29123410
By doing internships and jobs that don't require you to have specific social connections. The job market is not as bleak as you think anon. You don't need to "know" someone at your preferred position or industry if you can prove that you're adequately qualified.
>>29123496
el justo
jajajajajaja
JUSTO
>>29121851
heroin, readily available across most the country
>>29121274
Does a robot cousin count? I cant get him to do anything more than going to the movies once in a while. He wont even join a gym with me.
Oh and Im a NEET kv btw.
>>29121274
I have physical defects that other people are aware of but it's really hard for me to see them.
I've been told I seem retarded and that I talk funny and have weird posture and don't have a chin, things like that. I don't notice this stuff unless I really focus on it.
No ones wants a defective person in their social circle. You have nothing to gain by hanging out with a weird person. So I can't befriend anyone because they don't want to hang out with me.
When I realized that most of my peers glide through social life because they were given everything they need at birth, I get pretty fucking angry.
Why do I have to be defective in the one life I get to experience while they get to be happy and healthy and have everything working out for them since birth? Why should they have happiness given to them when I have to work so hard to barely have anything?
I know that's just how life is. Life is unfair. But fuck, it's just awful.
And everyone thinks I'm like this because I don't try or I'm lazy or I'm a bad person. No one is ever going to admit they got a free ride while I was made to suffer, randomly assigned.
>tfw you've been friendless so long and have made so many attempts to be in the social circles that you just gave up, and feel almost reluctant to put forth any effort in being friendly with anyway because no expectations
Just fuck my shit up, I wasted years in high school trying to be liked and welcomed and got nothing but sitting alone at lunch and realising i probably have aspergers.
>>29123544
Not him and not in the UK but if I knew how to get it I would LOVE some, but I'm afraid I'd become a pic related instead of doing the right thing by OD'ing on it.
>>29121514
>Whenever I see groups of friends or couples I get depressed
I'm sorry, anon. That's me too. They just got lucky.
>>29123608
Cousin = Family
Family =/= Friends
Yes you can stay. Enjoy the cynicism and misanthropy.
>>29123662
I can attest from personal experience that you don't become a junkie just by shooting up once or twice. It's actually not akin to a coin toss in which one side is addiction and the other is death.
>>29123523
Maybe the job itself may not require social connections but just getting through the interview stage or even resume stage (no referees) is a tough thing to do if you appear like the autist you really are.
>>29123543
Does anybody want to explain what just means?
>>29123662
seriously, if you want it, you can find it.
As for dosage, google is your friend.
>>29122738
>my social skills are so poor that I come across as really odd. So ultimately I just weird people out
iktf. I was bullied during the formative years, so I'm so far behind in social skills I just can't catch up. People will start a conversation with me and then I'll reply and they give me this thinly veiled disgusted look and stop talking to me
And all the socialites got their skills for free. That's the worst part. They didn't work for it, it's just randomly assigned
>>29123641
>no one is ever going to admit they got a free ride
This. They don't realise the actual effort to just live what they consider a basic aspect, and just hand you "one time i moved to a new school and had no friends for 3 days so i know how it feels" advice.
The problem here is not so much you or my (aspergers) problems, it's that we're just self-aware of them and unfortunately just too "smart" for a lack of a better word. I've been to a counseling thing where I got to meet other aspies, and they were all massive autists who probably grew fucked up from all the rejection and lack of acceptance, like literal neckbeard meme people.
>too normal for the autists, too austistic for the normals
>>29121992
fuck the situation you described doesn't make me want to contact my old friends at all
But I really should one day though
>>29123797
dumb Reddit tier meme only used by underage memers
don't worry about it
but since you will worry about it anyways look up just fuck my shit up or Brendan Fraser meme then read the know your maymay article
>>29121324
I used to have a group of friends that I hung out with all the time, I started dating one of them (still together), and slowly I sort of drifted apart from them. Then I moved 30 miles north and now I never see any of them. They've pretty much become acquaintances of mine now because I don't really know them that well anymore. All of them got girlfriends or boyfriends and now I'm pretty much that guy that's dating one of the girls in the group.
I know a lot of people, but they are just acquaintances to me because I only talk to them where we met (ie school or work or the gym).
My life is pretty much usually just me sitting around on 4chan or playing games all day until it's time for class, work, or I go to the gym.
I'm probably a normie compared to you guys but I call you guys some of my only friends, even if I don't know you guys personally.
>>29123797
I've been wondering too. Is it related to "just fuck my shit up"?
>>29123792
That's a little too presumptuous don't you think? Having no friends does not always equal to zero social skills and a lack of confidence. As suggested by many fine individuals in this thread, some people actually choose to lead such a solitary lifestyle.
>>29123814
Bullying is one of the worst things about our society. Schools say they have 'zero tolerance' but if that were logically true these kids would be expelled on the second incident.
>>29123994
I agree that some people may choose to be friendless in the short-term but if extended, there is a good chance that whatever social skill they had will collapse. Especially so if the individual develops some form of mental illness.
>>29123830
>too normal for the autists and too autistic for the normals
And in my case:
Too mixed race for the white kids
Too upper-working class for the poorfags, too poor for the richfags in my school
Too feminine for men, too manly to be gay
>>29121274
I used to think being alone was cool and i enjoyed it so i would push away my current friends and really close ones for attention in hopes when i pushed them away they would want me back, turns out i was a shitty human being and none of them wanted me back and here I am completely alone after 3 years cutting everyone off.
>>29123994
This, I'm socially confident, no problems at work - have to deal with lots of different people, work with learning disabilities (specifically autism) and they can be pretty in your face. It's just over time I've lost interest in my "friends" to the point I'd rather not switch my phone on. I feel like a massive cunt for avoiding "friends", but the last time(s) I've been out socially I've fucking hated it and just wanted to leave. Just mundane bullshit conversations about sport/tv/etc.
>>29124152
How can a healthy and physically stable young man 'develop' a mental illness?
>>29124429
>what is a failed normie
Social isolation easily creates pressure on the young man's mind when he realises that the desire to advance in life without any close relationships is futile against the desire to settle down and have a family. And really, any kind of existential crisis could potentially result in depression and other mental issues plaguing the middle-aged. Personally, if I grow out of my autism I would keep a good group of friends that would at the very least be a precaution against degenerating socially.
>>29124602
i greentexted wrong
>what is a cyborg
0 irl
0 online
true isolation
I'm not replying cause I have no friends, I have friends, I'm replying because you are using a stale meme.
The Man Who Sleeps. I recommend everyone here to watch this film. It's a true reflection of the way we live as the protagonist is a quiet socially isolated young man and extremely introspective. Still remember how it hit a little too close to home when I first watched it.
How did friendless shut-ins survive before the internet? At least now we can communicate with strangers on message boards
>>29123071
Well it's like having no friends because I don't see them often and one of them is a dick
>>29124941
I will watch this, thanks.
>>29121274
I don't have any friends right now because half of my face is scarred horribly, I have a glass eye that was basically a waste of money because that part of my face looks horrible anyway, but >>29121686 is right, pick up a multiplayer game and play it. I recommend Steam games, like Team Fortress 2 which is free, CS:GO, whatever, and MMORPGs. If anything, you'll build up confidence and at least that's a good thing.
I wake up every morning and the first thought that pops into my head is "I'm so lonely".
>>29125373
I guess they either killed themselves or were forced to become as normal as they could in order to survive.
I have no friends because I don't know how to hold converations
>>29124941
Right. Great taste desu.
I have no friends because I'm a NEET that never goes outside and I have no social media whatsoever. I used to have 1 friend in high school that used to be a fucking loser like me but we stopped talking.
I only talk to my mother these days and she doesn't even listen to me most of the time.
>>29124808
I know that feel bruh. I haven't had one in almost 6 years and I'm 20 now. I honestly feel like I'm too far gone as far as social skills/experience goes to even get back in the game.
I have no friends but i wish i had. Yet still i cant even imagine having any. I cant picture myself as someones friend. But i dont blame anyone but myself. I understand very well why people dont want to be my friend. I know that i wouldnt be friends with someone like me.
>changed schools during senior year of high school
>the few friends I had at my old school gradually began to forget about me and hang out with their other friends instead
>I made no new friends at my new school
>by the time I graduated the only people I ever talked to were my mother and sister
>I'm now 23 and haven't had a real converstion with someone outside of my family since I graduated
I don't really miss it desu
>Arive in new social environment
>Make "friends"
>"you're cool/so nice anon XDDD"
>time goes by
>"I HATE YOU" and/or ignore
>No friends
shit nigga, what do?
>>29121274
Reporting in,i have zero friends because the ones i had were even more beta/autistic than me,so i dumped them.Also,i rarely leave the house,so meeting new people is not easy (but i'm working on that,tho.)
I don't have friends because I have trust issues. I always think people have hidden agendas and I can't relax around anyone. At jobs I've had in the past, I've always been that one person who didn't get along with anyone. I've been isolated for a large majority of my life and it's fucked me up good.
Haven't been "out" with people in 6 years. The concept of friendship totally bewilders me at this point, I don't even know what friends my age do besides go out to bars. So at this point I've kind of just accepted that I'll be alone forever.
the reason i have no friends is bcuz im a homosexual
3 years no friends am I too far gone
I don't know anymore
I want to make friends but everyone I meet is also a loner.
I need someone with friends so I can join their group but I'm also disgusted with normalfags.
How do I overcome this situation?
Is someone automatically a loser if they don't have any friends?
>>29121274
I'm a narcissist that unintentionally offends everyone
>>29127792
What kinds of things do you fap to?
>>29127792
>changed schools during senior year of high school
hey same
I think I can pinpoint this moment as the start of the end of my social ability
>>29121274
Never had friends.
Never wanted friends.
Never will have friends.
And honestly I don't give a fuck.
>>29128811
hentai/ecchi stuff usually
>>29128836
me too. the friends I had in high school were all people I knew from back in middle school and those relationships took years for a social cripple like me to foster. when I left and stopped talking to them that basically hit the reset button on almost 8 years of work trying to build some semblance of a social life for myself. i'm 23 now and have only regressed when it comes to my social skills.
>>29121274
I wish I could make friends but I hate bonding with human beings this has to be a mental illness.
How do you get a job when you have no friends? Don't you need references to get one?
>>29129007
>same
I like the way u think man
I had friends in high school, but they were all people that I had been in school with since elementary school. It's been a few years and I've lost contact with all of them. I'm hoping I can make some friends this fall, but until then I'll be frogposting alone on r9k.
sup man
>>29128546
I went 2 years /nofriends/ and it took all the determination in the goddamn world and a couple more years to crawl back to just one or two good friends I could socialize with.
I have zero friends, it's not even a joke.
I never had more than 2-3 close friends, and never more than 5 (Meh friends)
After i turned 16 it all went to shit, i just gamed all day, even while were camping i had to fucking go to the computer to chat with a girl i was horny for, on the german myspace back then (schueler vz)
Well after 16 i didn't really have any friends, my gay fuckfriend Jan came from time to time to play with our dicks, but we never really fucked us in the as, we just fapped each other, we didn't even suck.
After 17 everyone was gone, i was alone til now.
Im 21.
Life sucks, im a neet, Highschool dropout, depression, anxiety, no father since age 12, the usual neet stuff.
Now i am seriously considering to go to the Bundeswehr, german army.
Everything is fucked up for me, if you don't have clear as fuck record for your life in germany you are fucked and jugded for eternity to get welfare.
Welfare isn't bad here, it's actually awesome, but i wan't to be indipentent someday.
