Advice thread, "sorry I had to leave unexpectedly last time" edition.
Hey /r9k/, resident normie here. If you want to ask some questions, get a normie's perspective or just vent for a bit, come post here. All questions welcome, no matter how silly or trolly.
>inb4 normie reeee get off my board
>>29049334
1. Have you always been a normie? If not, how long did it take you to get there?
2. Why are you spending your time here instead of doing normie things?
you're not even a normie. You're a fucking autist just like the rest of us, you're just in denial. Normies don't fucking come here and they especially don't make these dumbass threads everyday. How about a fucking reality check mother fucker, there's some advice for you. Go ahead give me some mind blowing advice that will fix my life, you fucking can't. All your advice will be shit that everyone has probably already thought of so why even make these threads?
>>29049392
1) No, I was a robot as a teenager, but I had a goal to learn how to talk to normal people and live a normal life, and I believe I reached that goal. It took me a few years, but it's doable.
2) I come back here for nostalgic reasons. Also I feel like advice threads help some people, and it feeds my inner altruism or whatever. And normies still chill in their rooms playing video games and whatnot. They don't spend ALL their time going out.
>>29049427
I guess you could argue that there are various ways of classifying a normie, so you can't really definitively say that someone is one because it might not coincide with someone else's definition of it. However, in my eyes, I am a normie since I have most of the normie qualities (gf, friends, lack of spaghetti when talking to people).
Yeah chances are I won't say anything new. Some people just want to vent for a bit and have someone listen to them and reply to them. Why are you so frustrated at that? It's just one thread, my friend.
If a girl get's drunk and talks somewhat explicitly about her tits and pussy with you, is she interested or just mental?
>>29049491
What advice would you give to someone with very few remaining social opportunities? I'm still relatively young compared to a lot of /r9k/ but I feel if I don't amend my situation soon it'll be practically impossible to get back in the game.
>>29049549
Almost certainly interested. I like to think that a drunk person's words are a sober person's thoughts.
>>29049334
are you actually happy being a normie? Is your search for social acceptance based on a preconceived notion that being social = happy, or is your search for external activity based on the fact that you have so little internal activity?
>>29049334
What would you think of a guy who is 23, friendless and is a kissless virgin?
>>29049556
What do you mean by that? No matter how old you are, there are always clubs and such you can go to and talk to people there, especially considering they'll all be involved in the same hobby as you are. Otherwise, make use of the limited social circle you do have. Oh, and don't believe what /r9k/ tells you - they're far too pessimistic and defeatist. You'll be fine, just don't sperg out too much and you'll have plenty of friends.
>>29049605
But it wasn't really in a sexual sense, more about the general biology and shit. The fact I wasn't able to turn it into something sexual should prove my beta prowess, but I dunno, I can't tell if she's just the kind of person to talk about that kind of stuff to someone or she is laying down not very subtle cues.
>>29049334
How well normies see through fake persona? For example i have to fake my carefree and positive attitude but deep inside i worry and i'm pessimistic.
>>29049623
I think I am? The thing is, even as a robot I was always extroverted, and being a shy extrovert doesn't really work. It's not like normality is a state of permanent bliss - I still have depression, and that doesn't go away just because I have some people I can call. However, I really do enjoy spending time with my gf or my friends, and in those times all of my problems just go away and I'm mentally in that world of socialisation.
>>29049651
I'd feel sorry for "that guy". What were the circumstances surrounding this? Did you not get with people in uni or something?
>>29049653
Oh, I see. Um, I'm not too sure, I believe it could go either way. She MIGHT be interested, but it's not a very clear symbol.
>>29049671
Depends on the person - just like robots, normies aren't just different versions of the same person. I personally can see pretty well through it, but that's partially because I had to go through the same stuff so I can see the signs. Plus people like that generally drop hints by making offhanded sad comments. However, I don't think that normal people can really tell all that well, especially if your persona is decent. What do you worry about, anon?
>>29049721
uni is all nice and good if you have social skills.
even me i consider myself good enough to fake them but what i could get is some forced invitation to some birthday, and being rejected almost everytime i aproach a girl, i just do not ger instant reject when they use me to get drinks, which a bail.
>>29049805
>What do you worry about, anon?
I'll have to start wagecucking pretty soon and i hate forced socializing at workplace. I'd be quite comfortable in all-male environment but females scare the shit out of me. I just want to avoid them as much as possible. However, i'll have to create persona just to function in work.
>>29049652
No job, want nothing to do with school 'friends', need to spend all summer revising for resits, only have acquaintances at uni. I would just try harder when I went back, but this is probably the most difficult year and I'll have no time for uni clubs or any shit like that.
>>29049816
There are all sorts of people in uni though, including robots who can't talk to other people. There's this one guy in uni that I occasionally play Dota with who's a total sperg and a complete vidya nerd, and I'm pretty sure he goes to board games society and has several friends there.
>>29049855
Hey man, I was in the same position as you once. I went to an all-boys school and I couldn't talk to girls for shit. However, a good fact to remember is that girls are just essentially boys with boobs - pretty much anything you say to a guy you'd say to a girl. Either way, best of luck with your job, anon.
>>29049903
>However, a good fact to remember is that girls are just essentially boys with boobs - pretty much anything you say to a guy you'd say to a girl.
>>29049868
Well are you living with anyone, or do you study from home? If it's the former, just try to chill more with your flat and try to occasionally do stuff with them, like on a weekly basis or something.
>>29049721
I barely spoke to anyone in uni. Too awkward, anxious and ugly, slowly distanced myself from the few friends I've ever had because I felt pathetic and unworthy of their time.
>>29049903
>girls are just essentially boys with boobs
I just scared by them, maybe something happened in my childhood that i dont remember but i just want to keep my distance. Different alien species to me.
>>29049914
>"outing" me as a redditor
m8, I'm a full-blown normie. I don't just go on reddit, I have my own tumblr and shit.
>>29049334
I would really like to get a summer job before the new college year comes around. I have about 3 months to work. Any ideas on a good temporary summer job where my employers won't get pissed when I leave in the fall for school?
The only thing off the list is a summer camp counselor. I have bad anxiety and I'm willing to push myself, but that would be jumping into the deep end before learning how to swim.
>>29049917
The latter, if it was the former I probably would've been fine desu, but the shekel situation made the whole thing seem not worthwhile
>>29049958
Link?
Original you stupid fucking cuckbot
>>29049925
I think that your biggest issue is a lack of confidence. The fact that you've had friends shows that you CAN talk to people and be a fun person to be around, it's just that you can't see it yourself. I'm not sure how you increase your confidence, but just know that you're fine as a person, all you need to do is just believe it.
>>29049945
That's fair enough. My first ex, who is a full-blown tumblerina, told me that she didn't feel comfortable around guys anymore so she's just going to stick to talking to women (this was a while after we broke up). I argued with her for ages trying to tell her that guys aren't that bad, that women are just the same, that she's being misandric, and so on, but in the end I realised that she has her own world view, and I have my own, and while they're different it's not for me to try and change theirs. Same for you, do whatever makes you comfortable, I won't try to convince you otherwise. As for the work persona, yeah no-one will be able to tell. You'll be completely fine.
>>29049962
Literally any "temporary" place like a pub or fast food restaurant or whatever. Those places don't expect to keep all of their employees, and I've had people leave after 3 weeks at the pub I worked in and no-one really care about it. As for the summer camp idea, I'm not a psychiatrist so I can't give actual advice, but I personally think it's a good idea. You will pretty much learn to socialise with people there, and after that it should seem a lot less scary.
>>29049334
Do you think there's anyone on this board beyond saving?
>>29049981
Ah fair enough. Yeah desu I think societies might be your best bet, just cut some time out of your own relaxation time. I used to study from home as well, but it just wasn't the same so I dropped out and got into a place further away from home so I'd end up in halls. The difference really is day-and-night, so just prioritise being social a little bit and go out for a bit.
>>29049917
Ok I'll continue
What are your thoughts about going to a nightclub alone? Is it a bad idea for anyone, or just robots?
>>29050004
It's the faggiest shit ever. It's literally just me writing letters to girls but not actually sending them off, just posting it there. It's therapeutic though, so I do it anyway.
http://2357letters.tumblr.com/
>>29050182
Depends how you define beyond saving. Probably, but I think that it's a very small minority. However, a lot of people on this board WON'T be saved, unfortunately, despite the possibility being there, due to a lack of motivation or apathy or whatever.
Hear me out. I cracked the case. We don't need Tinder or putting effort into a relationship. With hookers, a pillow to hug at night and fapping (onahole optional) we're covered. My dog gives me all the affection of the world, so I'm out of here.
Now that I've graduated from cyborg to normalfag, this is the last thread I'll be posting in.
Kudos for the normalfag giving advice. You're good in my book.
>>29050205
I'd say bad idea for anyone - I personally wouldn't do it. I think to have a good time at a nightclub or to meet anyone, you need to go with at least one other person, and even then you need to be the right kind of person for it. For example, I like indie music, and when I drink I talk rather than dance, so I don't really ever enjoy nightclubs, even though I do occasionally go with friends. As for a place for meeting people, I think it's even worse. It's too loud, and after the nightclub people will go home, and it's a lot more awkward organising something the day after.
>>29050204
Ok cheers dude, hopefully I'll have some time to unwind but this is a really fucking tough year
>>29050242
lol
At least it's not SJW/HP/fanfic shit so w/e
>>29050291
But this is the problem, isn't it?
How do you help people who are so desperately masochistic?
And who will take their place if they DO somehow make it? Somebody even more pathetic, in all likelihood.
The cycle just goes on and on. There's always a bitter loser somewhere.
>>29050418
Yeah these are pretty much my thoughts sadly. It's not all bad if you're drunk and can just go along with the music, but as a venue for meeting people it's pretty fucking shitty. I dunno, normal conversation doesn't tend to do anything for me, but that's probably because I'm a raging autist.Also I don't want to encounter shitbags from my youth who would just make things more awkward for me
OP here.
I'm so sorry, but a friend of mine is having a minor crisis so I have to help her out. I'll make this a longer conversation next time, but for now I'm sorry, and godspeed to all of you.
So what would be the best way to approach a girl who you've kind of had a fling with years ago but don't talk to much anymore? There is definitely sexual tension when we are near each other or look at each other, but we're both reluctant to approach. We both ended up going to the same college so we see each other often...I really want to establish ties with her once again but my crippling autism prevents it. Please help
OP is back, sorry for leaving this thread bros.
>>29050434
I guess that's true, but that's not to say that most people don't want to be helped, I'd say it's a small minority that are desperately masochistic, and that a lot of people do reach out, they just never quite make it.
>>29050512
Alcohol is a good social lubricant. Essentially the reason you want to go to social clubs is that everyone is expecting to be alone there, so they talk to people and make friends and just chat for a while.
>>29050713
Talk to her. You can't be in a worse position that awkwardly staring at each other. At best you get another friend, and at worst you lose nothing. If she wants the same thing then she'll be easy to talk to and if not then you wouldn't have gotten anywhere anyway.
>>29049334
I dont know if it's possible to change but is there a way to become more assertive and dominant? I just dont have confidence in leading or doing anything traditionally masculine. It almost brings me to tears that others seems to do it so effortlessly but i just cant do the same. I know that if you dont have the looks or status, you have to compensate it through personality but i just cant get over others directly. I understand manipulation but direct matters are out of question. Is it possible to completely rewrite your personalitysorry for blog post
>>29050633
>her
you know the drill boys
>>29049334
Some cam girl send me two packages and my mom and sister are on front pourch. How do i intercept or whaf do i say when they ask about package
>>29049334
Why do people shout things at me in the street? Both yesterday and the day before (first time I've left the house in a long time) random strangers have shouted insults at me from a moving car and from behind a fence.
>>29051463
>Shglee
