how do i lose all sex drive/desire for intimacy? i want to ascend these primal feels, as i know they will never be fulfilled
bump
oregano famiglia
>>29018767
Castration
I used to ponder this all the time when younger, hated that crazy sex drive. Now when older I actually miss being that horny.
>>29018870
>castration
is this really what it has to come to...
>>29018767
I had my balls removed. Killed all desire for sex.
>>29018902
but do you still want intimacy (cuddles etc)
>>29018767
People come, people go. Caring is also not an advantage and won't do you much good, like anger. Although, there's a time and place for everything.
Been like this from a young age, maybe I'm just autistic. I'll collect my fedora on the way out.
>>29018986
what the fuck does this have to do with my question, kys scum
>>29018767
Nofap for long enough will do it.
I've tried to get back into porn -- vanilla stuff, hentai, ecchi, alternative. Used to be it all did the job, but now none of it does. It's kinda cool.
I was most attracted to a girl the other day because the shape of her shoulders.
I still fap sometimes now I've been reset, I just don't do it to cumming 98% of the time.
Intimacy would still be nice though. Guess you could do drugs for that.
If you quit masturbating for long enough, your body forgets what it is like to masturbate, orgasm and ejaculate, and you stop wanting the sensation. In this respect you can actually overcome your biology to some extent. But even though I consciously don't want to have children, and not risk it by having sex, I still have a deep seated desire to impregnate someone, an on the surface, I still desire physical intimacy. I want lots and lots of cuddles.
On the other hand however, there is none of the sexual frustration that comes when you quit fapping a short while and still want sex. I used to rage when I saw women in skimpy outfits showing beautiful legs and ass, but now I can calmly enjoy just looking at it without expecting anything. Even just looking at beautiful women's faces is pleasurable to me now far more that it was when I fapped to porn. Perhaps this is like doing the same thing I did online- spend hours admiring pictures of beautiful women, but by walking aoruhnd populated places int he city and looking at cute/sexy women in real life. Sometimes the even smile at me, and once in a rare occasion actually meet someone, but nothing comes of it since I'm NEET and don't have money/car/home/social life to make anything happen even she's interested. What am I gonna do, ask her out to a IRL movie, hold hands with her in the theater and hope she wants to kiss me goodnight before she gets into her car and I go take the bus home?
>>29019058
>>29019093
>>29019093
>physical intimacy
you see that's the main problem, i need to remove the desire for that
I'm afraid the only way is to have sex. Now I know from experience that it is nothing worth obsessing over and I don't do stupid shit like orbiting and being a thirsty fuccboi in general. Sorry.
>>29019201
but we know passionate sex is un-obtainable unless you're attractive, so i need to remove the desire completely
it's the only way
Save up money to get an escort.
>>29019226
I'm not sure what you're looking for then. Even eunuchs want a hug. Everybody wants to be loved unless they are something like sociopaths or crackwhores (in which they want crack).
I guess opiates would kill the desire, temporarily.
>>29019266
i can afford to see escorts, i won't though because im 18 and it would be weird
>>29019267
i want a permanent solution
>>29018767
Get it into your head that women just aren't attracted to you
>>29019341
that's the whole premise of his question you stupid fuck
>>29019319
Marriage. Or off yourself.
The desire to be accepted is what drives people to do most the things they do in socioculture. It's part of being human.
>>29019226
The human being is empirical by nature. Life spews sex on you from multiple different sources every day. Also it's not like advertisement for a soda, it's the number one reason you're alive "according" to your genes. Procreation. In order to function normally you should have sex by the age of 20 at least once. You could also remove your balls, but that would fuck up your testosterone levels and not only your body but your personality will change too heavily. And you would still miss something because the media, the people, everything still wants you to have sex. And you could never have it.
tl;dr have sex or kill yourself. No other way.
>>29019364
>telling an 18 year old to off himself
wew
>>29019386
alright i don't want to kill myself so i guess i'll just go to escorts, luckily it's legal where i live
>>29019186
You can come to a peaceful acceptance of your heterosexuality and desire for intimacy without letting it control your life or feeling bad because you lack it.
I have several audio clips on youtube regarding voluntary celibacy and breaking the illusion of emotional intimacy:
https://www.google.com/?client=opera#q=ask+a+monk+celibacy
https://www.google.com/?client=opera#safe=off&q=thinkingape+male+mother+need
>>29019319
you are fucking retard, kid. Go to college and get into some clubs before its too late. It only gets harder with each passing year
>>29020026
i'm in my university snow sports team, going to a lodge with a bunch of chads and staceys in a couple months. Going to be hell
>>29018767
I lost them so easily I don't even remember how.
The funny thing is that I'm 7/10 at least so I could find someone if I wanted to but I don't, fuck the normies
>>29020056
keep going. I believe in you. Leave this place and never look back
remove your testicles or take anti-androgens
>>29018767
alcohol anon, lots of weed and alcohol. It's the only answer
>>29018767
You must become schizoid master race
>>29018767
Realistically, wait until you get to 40.
>tfw no sex drive
I'd take yours from you if I could so I could be a normal, complete person.
>>29020140
Stop wasting your rare and precious gift longing for the same desires as any other lowly human animal. Go invent something, master many foreign languages and musical interests, start a business, become an economics and finance savant and make millions. Be grateful you aren't thinking about sex (or cuddling) every 6 seconds like the rest of us.
>>29018767
>tfw no sex drive
>tfw no energy or motivation at all
Pretty sure I'm low test. How do I talk to my doctor about this? I'm so tired, always.
>>29020092
thanks
origami
>>29020218
*musical instruments
The only instrument I ever played was the skin flute.
Also, do you feel good if you were to hug a naked woman (or man) and just don't get tingly feelings in your penis, or are you completely asexual with no physical attraction whatsoever?
>>29020140
>>29020222
Or perhaps I stand corrected, because energy and motivation is inextricably tied to libido. Like how I have more energy and motivation than ever before in my life now that I quit fapping, but I also have preoccupation with women and intimacy even though I've no interest in actual coitus
you must embrace them feel the feel out to the end of the feel. you must burn out what has been burned in.
>>29020218
I'm already a silversmith and my teacher has been taking about getting me into goldsmithing. I'm starting a business with some friends for board games. The story I'm writing is probably going to be 1,000 pages soon. I take fencing lessons and practice archery at home. I paint, sometimes. I've been starting to practice languages around the house with my parents, Spanish with mother and ASL with father. When my schedule calms down I've been thinking of trying the accordion, I'm the only one of my friend who doesn't know how to play music.
But I long for emotional intimacy with the same burn people describe the desire for sex, and I know I'll never have a long relationship without sex unless I find someone else with a broken brain. Everyone else can feel things I have never and might never know. And because I can't make people feel sexually attractive, how can I expect someone normal to believe I love them? Wouldn't it dig at them, wondering if something else is going on? I want the baser urges, Fapoholic Anon. Your burden might be my salvation, if you were able to foist it on me. I feel like a freak and pretend I'm interested in sex ever since a doctor tried pushing meds on me to make me want sex when I was a teenager. And I hate snobs who act like they're better than others for not being interested in sex. I don't want to be one of those.
Do you really look at people on the street and want to have sex with them? Do you really think of sex that often? I'm honestly curious. How do you think having no sex drive would change your life?
>>29020252
I can appreciate when someone is attractive... But in the same way I might admire a painting or sculpture. I've drawn live nude models and they did nothing for me.
Sex doesn't disgust me, but as soon as the idea of me doing anything comes up, it feels wrong. Suddenly something nice between people who love each other is dirty.
