Whose Dad was drunk every day of their upbringing?
Whose father did not tell him fuck all about the world?
Who here can not stand being in their dads presence anymore?
Who here never had any of those moments that people always reflect on about how their father taught them this or that?
Whose father belittled them frequently in front of the public and friends because he thought it would toughen them up despite never once giving concrete advice about life?
Who here had a dad who claims he did these things but he was so drunk at the time and all the time that it was the equivalent of getting advice from 4chan?
Who here stays up at night staring at ceiling filled with rage because of this?
>>29003011
I accept my Dad is flawed. Not very affectionate and too hard on me which broke my self esteem.
>>29003011
The problem is that too many dads see their sons as competition instead of a child
That's why they treat their daughters so much better
I came to the realization this morning that he has not taught me one fucking thing ever about life and he always had to be the center of attention even when it came at expense of his family.
Not one fucking thing, no fucking advice about anything.
This is why I have a fucking substance abuse problem,
>>29003011
My dad was a drunkard. Haven't seen him since I was five. I don't even know if he's still alive or not.
>>29003082
Sames never thought me anything and yet belittles me for not lnowing how to use a hammer.
>>29003082
Kek don't blame others for your addictive behaviour you scum
>>29003011
First time i met my father after 8 years he broke three of my ribs and my jaw I got his nose and arm tho so it wasn't to bad
>>29003288
Your not going to make a comment like that without story, r-right?
Yeah, a lot of those apply to me.
And the worst part is he showed up to my college graduation acting like he did anything to help me when he didn't give me a dime towards tuition, books, parking, transportation, food, etc.
And now that I'm 23, he thinks he can bond with me by drinking. What the fuck. Why.
>>29003011
>who here had a dad who claims he did these things but he was so drunk at the time and all the time that it was the equivalent of getting advice from 4chan?
any good greentexts?
>>29003076
dammit freudyou're probably right though
>>29003076
>That's why they treat their daughters so much better
My dad started calling my sister a bitch and slut when she was in middle school, and after she saved enough money to buy a car for herself he would spit on its windshield every morning. One night I had to call the police after they got into a fight and started beating the shit out of each other, and nothing was done about it. She moved out as soon as she could and whenever the abuse is brought up my dad pretends to not remember doing any of it to her. I know she makes him feel like shit now though because she wound up becoming pretty successful when he constantly berated her for her life choices.
He also used to hit me in the face, wouldn lock me out of the house while I was taking night classes at college, and once slammed my mother's hand in a door. Some guys treat women like shit on their heels.
My mother broke her femur while my she and my father were out downtown drinking. It's really thrown our family for a loop but when I drove my dad home from the hospital he was suddenly the supporting and loving father I'd needed my whole life. It seemed like he knew exactly what to say and it kept me from crumbling under stress.
I almost feel kind of cheated. He was drunk then, how come he's never been that nice all of the other times he was drunk?Fuck people who have good relationships with their dads. ;_;
>>29003082
You can over come it. I believe in you.
>>29003329
I'm at work and its a long fucking story m8
but it involved my 19th birthday and me fucking 2 black strippers and my dad finding out through the grape vine and driving 8 hours to come beat my ass
My dad didn't really teach me a lot. He wasn't around much since he's always been a truck driver. I guess the thing we bonded most on were diesel engines (it was his job I wanted to bond with him) so by doing that I didn't realize it then, but now I'm older I think I'd do well as a diesel mechanic. So thanks pops.
>alcoholic
>frmr heroin addict
>still a cocaine addict
>house always smelled like weed
>can't hold down a job
>the house I grew up in was filthy
>drunk every night
>stole $1,000 dollars from my savings account when I was 16
>never showers
>manipulative
>drove drunk multiple times when my brother and I were in the car
I wish I could go back in time and prevent my birth
>>29003365
sounds like he taught you everything you need to know about how to treat women
That would mostly be mine.
>drinks a 30-pack everyday
>gets mad if my mom doesn't cook a 3-course dinner for him everynight
>wastes money on a gym membership he doesn't use & then wonders why he's so fat
>spends 2 hours solving puzzles & another 4 drinking beer every Sat/Sun & then complains that he got nothing done
>can't remember things me/my mom said to him only 36 minutes ago
>gets irritated/threatens you if you tell him he has a drinking problem & a memory problem
>makes a fucking joke out of everything when you're trying to discuss a topic seriously with him
>makes fun of me for liking anime
>has made fun of every music genre I've ever been really into
>barely even knew I existed until age 16, just there in the background
>the dumb boomer can't even turn a computer on
>has difficulty even pausing a movie he ordered on demand
>still thinks you can just walk in, shake hands w/ the manager & get a job the same day
>me & my mom dread him coming home everyday
>tfw still not sure whether I was born a sadomasochistic edgelord or if it was due to putting up w/ him
>>29003011
My dad and I dont have any sort of relationship.
He has a good heart but has terrible temperament. He is the most high strung person I know and wont listen to anybody.
All he talks with me about is how miserable he is with his low paying job and how he hates my aunt.
He cant function with other people because of hus temperament so nobody respects him.
I dont hate him. I am just embarrassed of him. I never brought home my bf of 1 year because of my dad.
I wish I had a father figure to look up to but you dont get to choose your family :/
>>29003011
>never taught me anything, like most of you fucks
>didnt talk to me unless I talked to him
>didnt work but spent, put our family in debt
>mom divorced him when I was 9
>he got visitation tuesdays and every other weekend
>tuesdays we'd just go to mcdonalds or something. every other weekend he'd take us to his place then go work on his computer
>when he did spend time with us it was something we didn't even want to do
>he moved in with alcoholic girlfriend
>still just picked us up and left us at her place every other weekend. she hated us.
>he moved to oakland years ago, only see him once in a blue moon. Tells me how much he misses me and takes me out for food/gives me money. We talk but it's all surface level. He's bad at connecting with people
>calls me every couple weeks, the conversations are always awkward but I don't think he notices how awkward they are
>He made some shitty comment about how a recent surgery I had was an excuse to not work over the summer. Might've been a joke, but
>I've had a lot of medical issues and he's never been supportive/helped mom with costs in any way
>after that comment I hung up on him
>Haven't returned his calls in a while now
>I think I'm gonna just stop talking to him but idk if it's the right thing to do
>father's day is approaching
what would you do in my situation robots?
>>29003707
Try to tell him that petty comments like that don't exactly form relationships.
>>29003011
My father willingly married a woman that already had 2 daughters from her previous failed marriage with an alcoholic shithead. He also left a wife and a daughter, i think they hated him enough to leave him. Somehow this retard decided that it's a great idea to have another fucking child in eastern europe during the crumbling of socialism worldwide and failing economy. I grew up in poverty, 5 people in an apartment for like 2. At some point i remember mice running around and my sister and mother killing them. I ate like shit, often sick and had to wear the old clothes of my sisters. I remember them dropping me at my uncle's when i was young and i have some memories of sleeping and cuddling with him, which looking back at it and having in mind how weird my father and uncle are, is pretty scare because i probably got molested and i blocked it out of my memories completely. My father never taught me anything at all about life or what i should do to succeed in any way, he just scolded me or was apathetic when i started failing in high school. My mother and sisters were helicoptering heavy and just made shit worse. To top it all off my mother had me much later than my sisters and i am most likely mentally and physically ill, as well as scrawny, short and ugly.
Now i live a bit better thanks to the boyfriend of one of my sisters, but this support won't last much longer since they just had a child and i will have to deal with life on my own. I don't know how to do that since i am a 26 neet and ex drug addict.
Worst of all was the constant fights of my parents and all the depression and anxiety they gave me. I can never forgive them for that but most of all i hate my father, i just wish he dies so i won't have to look at him ever again.
Hating things out of your control is ridiculous and only self destructive. The only thing you should compare yourself to is your own personal idea of success, not other people. The second you rely on other people and raise them up on a podium you set yourself up for misery and disappointment.
Deal with the fact you had a shit father. I did too. He actively abused my siblings and myself and then walked out and took my mothers car and the roof over our heads. Nobody gets what they deserve, they just get what they get. You got what you got and the only two options you have in life are to rise above your situation and become the sort of person you wish you had in your life or kill yourself. Either is viable. Pick what would make you happier, not which is easier.
REEEEEEEEEEE
My dad would boss me around like a fucking drill sargent and if i did something wrong he would get madder.
As in
>anon get me the uh uh thing from the uh uh place
LIKE WTF NIGGER IM NO FUCKING PSYCHIC
>GET ME THE YELLOW WIRE FROM THE UH UH UMMM CLOSET
>go get the wire
>multiple wires tangled
>no yellow wire
>too afraid to tell him that
>eventually he gets angrier and angrier i keep taking so long
>tell him there is no yellow wire
>yells at me for being incompetent
>goes and gets the ORANGE FUCKING WIRE
>THEN TELLS ME SOME SHIT AND MAKES ME FEEL LIKES ITS MY FAULT
RRRRRRREEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
There were points in my life were i fantasized stabbing him or myself multiple times
>>29003782
I think he thinks that we already have a good relationship. I'm 100% sure if I told him how I felt about all of it he'd be blindsided. Unfortunately if I did that he'd get even more awkward. He's not one to keep it real
>>29003011
My dad wasn't drunk all the time and he did tell me stuff and all that, but he acted more like a friend than a father, before promptly ditching me at 16 and moving halfway across the world because in his eyes his work was done.
>>29003348
My 13th birthday or some shit, he decided to take me to a pre season football game prob cuz he got free tickets.
After always being over protective, sheltering, etc....
He decided to get drunk at the football game.
The game was over and we were walking in parking lot to the car.
He figured it would be fun to hide while I was looking away and see how I would react to being ditched. I remember just being like wtf, where did he go.. a few minutes later or so he showed up.
I also was given the responsibility of driving back home that night despite never driving ever before.
It was a 2 hour drive back home at night.
I cant remember my youth that great cuz i Guess i blocked a lot of it out.
All i really remember vividly is like walking on eggshells since like 5 years old or so and fights between parents that featured cuss words only truckers use on a regular basis.
>>29003874
best advice ITT. kill yourself or become who you wish you had in life
>>29003885
What a fucking control freak.
Feel free to turn the tables on him after you move out.
>>29003916
Well he's obviously wrong about that, isn't he?
Some people need that sort of wake up call though, you know? And why would he make it more awkward? He's fully grown, isn't he? Not mentally, of course, but that's besides the point.
>>29003011
>Whose father did not tell him fuck all about the world?
This, I don't get it at all. If I ever have a son I will make damn fucking sure he gets that sweet dad-wisdom hookup. I know so many things now that would have been so useful to know about the world.
>>29003076
This too, it's fucking insane. Ever since I got ripped my dad is literally jealous of me and tries to act like he used to be swole too (he was never). It's pathetic.
>>29004076
but it isn't besides the point. If I say something and it doesn't change things what was the point? And why continue talking to him?
My dad was an alcoholic. He'd always be out in bars, hitting on waitresses. I'd always have to wait out in a parking lot with my pedo bus driver, waiting for my dad to come pick me up. My mom is severely mentally ill and my dad would never come home when she was going psychotic, smashing windows and trying to hit me and swinging knives at us and that kinda stuff.
I pretty much never talked to my dad until I was around 17 or 18. After that, he started seeing me as like one of his bar buddies and he'd take me out to bars and have these really awkward conversations with me about different stuff, like the Vietnam War (one time he broke out in tears talking about it, even though he never served in the military and had no involvement in the war at all) or music or literature.
My dad was making like $300k a year at one point (so he says), but I never saw any of that. There was never any food in the house. I didn't have a college fund. I've got no clue what he was spending all that money on. He got fired from that job after he got a bunch of DUIs and couldn't get hired after that.
I kinda feel pity for him, because he's completely fucked up his life. He has to work shitty jobs at department stores and fast food, even though he's got like five prestigious degrees. He's obviously become physically dependent on alcohol and he's always shaking when I see him. He can't attend any important events in me or my siblings' lives because he gets so sick going too long without drinking.
>>29003885
>>29004076
hes an alcoholic but he did treatment and shit and takes pills to not drink
He found out he has brain damage from all the drinking
his tendons on his knees are deteriorating or some shit like that...the pain has made him cry
we once got into an argument after i got suspended for doing some shit off school grounds(idk how that is even possible)
that was the day i blew up on him
he was so angry he said he was gonna call the cops so i just yelled at him and said GOOD YOU FUCKING FAG
he stopped hitting me after that
kek even child protective services came to my house
hes still a cunt thought but im just waiting for one day for him to fuck up like hit my mom so i have an excuse to JUST his shit up
>>29003082
>muh father never taught me anything
>muh father always center of attention
and that's why I have a drug addiction and it's all his fault
>>29003375
Im gonna need the rest of that story.....
>dad is alcoholic construction worker
>starts to abuse me around age six or so until I'm taller than him, still emotionally abusive after that, always a complete asshole
>gets touchy feely when hes super drunk and alone with me in the room
>when sober he just yells at me and calls me names, kicks me or slaps me to vent his frustration
>now gets mad at me for not calling and not visiting him
>actually do call and visit a couple times a year, to avoid even more drama and bullshit
>my whole family pretends that abuse never happened
>wanted to die since I was in grade school, don't even know what it's like to not be mentally ill
Top upbringing, my mom told me to appease him so there would be less conflict, and that it's all my fault. Except he hated me for being me, not for anything specific I did or said. I sit on the table eating silently and he works himself into a rage because I don't talk to him about my day right then and there. After years of abuse. That level of stupid shit. I'm going to completely cut him out of my life once I move to another city.
>>29004736
You're going to have to wait till about 6pm EST for that story
>>29003707
honestly senpai, at a certain point you have to just cut someone out of your life
when you realize that a relationship is only wearing you down, it's best to accept your losses, even if it's your father, brother, etc.
i know some of you are all desperate to connect and salvage that bond, but you have to move on
I'm glad to be a high school teacher.
>kids show up every day
>show interest in their lives
>tell them they're doing a good job
>find their strengths and maximize them
>help with their weaknesses in a constructive way
>don't judge, just have a good time with them
>go to their sportsball games
Tfw I could literally butcher a prostitute in third period and none of them would say shit because I'm more of a father to them than their fathers ever were.
>>29005991
>teenagers respecting a robot
good one
>>29005991
i always hated the thought of being a teacher
having to deal with all the edgy teenagers and drama
not to mention the troublemakers
>>29005991
They only respect because they're afraid of you.
>>29006499
Just the way a father should be.
>>29003011
You are me this can't be real
My dad used to drink a lot, and yeah he was distant and never satisfied, but I love him still. He was a bot. He is a bot. Not in the sense that he is angry at the normies and chads, but that he wanted to be one. He was the bot that Chad took under his wing. But, he never left that oddness behind. My brother somehow got the Chad that was bestowed upon my dad by his friends, I didn't get that though. He was always at work, but he wanted to hangout with me and my brother all the time he didn't have work. I just wish I want such a terrible person, cause he didn't deserve that. He just has bad ways of communicating his love, so I took it for not being loved. I wish I could talk to 8 year old me, just so that I would know all the shit he was doing for me and my brother back then. My dad has a lot of the same traits and actions as what I've seen in this thread, but it want meant to be harmful, he just didn't know what to do a lot of the times. He adjusts had the best intentions in mind, I know that to be true.
I guess he just didn't know what to do a lot and stumbled. He made mistakes but he atoned for then and I can't hold genuine mistakes against him, especially when he atoned for em.
