>mfw the only way to become better is to change
>>29002095
How do you even do that desu
Whenever I want to change I'm socially conditioned to return to my roots again
People can't change. We're all slowly drifting to hell.
>>29002138
that's what I'm trying to figure out
>>29002180
there are those who drift and those who paddle. I'm looking for a pair of oars atm
>>29002095
Thats complete bullshit imho.
If you try to drastically change yourself you are just trying to escape your previous life, which almost never works.
The only way to become better is realize your true potential and apply it to your life and work your way up from there.
If you try to force change, you will most likely realize midway that you somewhere went wrong and come crashing down to an even worse life than before.
>>29002312
how am I supposed to apply my potential to a life where I have no base? anything I pursue will just be noise
I feel you OP.
I started lifting and fucked up my arm in an accident so I can't for a while, my running shoes arrived a week or so ago and I think I've mustered up the balls to go running outside even with my chubby body.
Other than that I'm trying to make new friends, getting a bike on the road and entering education again and I'm hopefully getting to university or the RAF depending on how fit I can get.
What are you trying to change?
>>29002239
You change whether you want to or not. Currents might pull you somewhere but how you act while it's happening can make a difference.
What I usually do is come up with great plans that I can't execute due to some reason, or fairly good ones that I want to put off.
Sometimes you just need to start doing shit and change how you go about it as you're doing it. The more you do it the closer you are to changing and how you change what you do when you do it is actually something like changing itself. Been working for me so far most of the time when it doesn't it usually isn't actually my fault entirely other things were at play. Look up what Bruce Lee had to say about being like water.
>>29002239
>>29002138
I have two friends who are Aspergers. The only way to get them to change even a little was over years of getting them to understand others points of view. One is more of an NEET manchild Autist, with morbid obesity, loliphilia, and an MS in programming. Only way to get him to change was over like 5 years, getting him to realize he's continuously toxic to himself and his parent, and that he CAN actually function if he would put any goddamn effort into it.
I think something that might help is reading The Games People Play, and maybe watching the SICP videos, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Op3QLzMgSY . I'm more of a psychopath, but those two things helped me organize my thoughts into a framework I could build off of. Unfortunately to a degree I went further into my extremeness (ADHD and depression), but I can understand and communicate far better and work better in more situations as a result.
>>29002382
Figure out what shit interests you the most and where you can legit apply yourself.
I couldnt give a fuck if its something as retarded as video games or rocket engineering.
Just look at people that make living doing that, look at their education, friends, how they became who they are. Join clubs and groups and stuff.
Just dont pursue something you dont believe in. There is nothing worse than realizing you wasted 10 years chasing something that looked good on paper.
been reading the thread. only one person offers practical advice. here's mine
stop fucking masturbating and watching porn, it corrupts you
whenever you give your word, fulfill it. after you've done so, you may do as you wish.
exercise and push yourself regularly, physical fitness is a part of hygiene.
most importantly, HAVE COURAGE.
>>29002723
b-but rocket engineering is pretty smart work anon
In the spirit of >>29002772 I want to give some advice as well.
Since about a year I started following 4 fairly simple rules I developed over time.
-Never be late for anything
-Never leave the house unprepared
-Never leave a job half-done
-Never deny an invitation to a social occasion.
i have some advice to add as well:
jagg off more, jerk to futa and /e/ more. go on /aco/ at least once a week.
use silicone based lube when you're too lazy and not busting out the onahole.
if you're reheating tendies, the oven is your friend, also, the power button on the microwave is your friend.
drink soda made of only real sugar, no HFC.
have a good day.
>>29002992
terrible advice anybody who follows that would lead a pathetic life
