Fembots, do you actually like the idea of romance from your boyfriend/husband or is it just movie memes?
If so, what sort of romantic things do you like?
I like the kind of romance where both people are totally comfy with each other. I don't like grand gestures, I just like cuddles and pillowtalk laughter, those mean much more to me.
>>28996610
If a guy talks about a girl who used to like him a lot, and how he wonders what happened to her, would that make you nervous?
>>28996585
this is literally romance!
look the guy bought you new earrings a dress and dinner, so romantic!
this romantic stereotype is literally whoring.
this is propaganda to brainwash men into thinking that romanticism is providing money for a woman.
wake up
>>28996637
Depends on the context. If it's just one random comment, then no, but if it's something that is constantly brought up and he seems really concerned, then maybe I would get a bit...worried. Like what if he still loves her or he thinks I'm not good enough, hence the continual mentioning of this other girl.
Meh, really depends though, idk.
>tfw going to cinema alone
maybe there'll be a pasty nerd I can show my breasts to.
>>28996637
not at all, that sounds pretty normal
>>28996695
This other girl is someone that, deep down, I have feelings for. I mention her quite a bit, I've even asked my current girlfriend (after showing her a picture) if she thinks this girl is beautiful.
I think I pushed the envelope a bit too far and now she's upset.
>>28996610
Pretty much nailed it in the first reply. Emotional intimacy is the most romantic of all.
>>28996663
That handwriting is pretty girly, though. She probably did it all herself and uploaded it for attention.
>>28996727
In that case I really feel bad for your current girlfriend, especially if she has deep feelings for you. It sucks to like someone who still loves someone else.
It must be really painful for her, but the fact that she's staying with you implies that you mean a lot to her. Treasure her.
>>28996610
>>28996738
Agree, I love the idea of dating your best friend. The problem for me is that I get too shy around straight boys, so I haven't had a male best friend since I was in like 2nd grade.
>>28996755
then its even more obvious hat she is trying to get men to do this.
>>28996610
>>28996762
>>28996790
>>28996712
If you found violent porn on your boyfriend's computer would you be upset?
>>28996585Dropping in to say that fembots do not exist no matter what.
>>28996712
Why don't you show your breasts to /r9k/ instead? You don't even need to leave your house to do that.
>>28996814
Would depend on the nature of the violent porn and whether or not he'd told me about it ahead of time. I'm okay with my partner having porn but I want to know his kinks and fetishes and not feel like he's hiding anything from me. Some violent porn is fine by me, other stuff is not. Mostly depends on the attitude of it and which angle of the violence is his fetish.
But I also would never be using his computer for anything, I have my own.
Chad here
Who wants fucked?
>>28996844
Think facialabuse type stuff, where part of the appeal is in the girl crying or whatever.
>>28996828
I never understood this, there are so many pictures of breasts on the Internet, why are people here so insistent on pressuring random girls to show them theirs?
>>28996585
No, I am paranoid and get nervous easily so if I had a boyfriend who did this I'd probably just not bring it up/acknowledge it and ask him to just eat at home.
That picture is pretty obviously fake though, because the handwriting is that 'clean feminine' style.
>>28996875
Because it's more appealing if you know it's some awkward qt nerd girl doing it.
>>28996876
One of the cute things about girls is their handwriting and neatness. I remember at school when all the girls would painstakingly change colored pens when writing notes.
>>28996855
Deal breaker, would break up with him.
For reference, knifeplay, choking, whipping, punching, and most other kinds of violence are fine by me, but him getting off to the high degradation levels in facialabuse type stuff means that we will simply not be compatible.
>>28996891
I've never liked it, but that's probably just due to jealousy because my handwriting is fucking shit.
Plus it's nice being able to tell people apart by their handwriting, but it's hard when it's all the same.
A lesson for robots here.
You DO NOT want a female who is obsessed with romantic gestures and crap like this.
I dated a girl for 4 years who always did this shit and I could not stand it
>Basically forced me to write her letters every 2 weeks or so
>Always wanted me to do some fucking big romantic gesture very weekend
>Complained when I I had nothing romantic to say
>Complained I did not say anything romantic during sec
>Complained about EVERYTHING
>Compared a real life relationship to movies
>Literally would watch french movies any free moment expecting me to be like a movie
You do not want it anon.
I did to a lot of romantic things but the problem is... enough is never enough. They always demand more and more and fucking more. Woman are like taller children.
>>28996892
Why is your face a sacred temple?
>>28996892
That's a shame, I love all of that stuff but I like degradation too.
>>28996957
Well it's obviously not my face he's jerking off to, so I'm not really concerned about that. I'd be okay if we were roleplaying or something and he punched me in the face as well as long as we were both in-character and had limits and safewords established, etc. I'd also be willing to hit him in the face if he wanted.
So it's not the face part that bothers me and it's not the violence that bothers me, it's the degradation element which is so rampant in facialabuse porn.
>>28996996
What's your relationship with your old man like?
>>28996712
Can you take me to a movie?
>>28996828
Yeah, seriously wtf happened to tits or gtfo? Is it just not a thing on r9k?
I value the time more than anything.
We don't do Valentines day and we don't get each other much for birthdays and Christmas. He takes me skiing twice a year (I don't like it, but he does and I like the scenery) and I take him either to my parents or on a city break. We went to Riga last. He isn't romantic, but he cares for me and I love him.
What else do you want to know?
>>28997337
>What else do you want to know?
Why does he take you skiing?
Are you both Brits? Riga is popular among Brits.
What's your background and his?
>>28997337
That's my ideal relationship ;-;
>>28997393
He's skied for most of his life and has friends in Lech/Zurs that we stay with. We are both British, he's a former Army officer turned school teacher and I'm a photographer. /p/ is how I ended up here, purely by chance today.
>>28997422
>He's skied for most of his life and has friends in Lech/Zurs that we stay with. We are both British, he's a former Army officer turned school teacher and I'm a photographer. /p/ is how I ended up here, purely by chance today.
Sounds like a really sweet, traditional relationship.
Not disgusting race-mixing.
>"yeah im totally not like other girls! I dont need you to buy me anything, I just want you <3 :)"
>"wow i cant believe you didnt get me anything for our anniversary, flowers aren't good enough and you know that, I dont care if you have to pay rent and make ends meet, but i want to be spoiled when the time comes!"
>"yeah Chad? he's just an old friend of mine, nothing to worry about"
>"uhh yeah he's flirting with me, so what? i like it"
>"i totally told you its just how he is"
>"sorry, we aren't working out, we can be friends though! :)"
romance is basically buy her shit and take her places for a possible chance for sex. At least with a prostitute you know shes straightforward
>>28997337
>He takes me skiing twice a year
literal fucking prostitute who gives access to pussy for traveling
get cancer
>>28997472
If I wanted to go somewhere else he'd probably take me because he can, but I go along for the skiing because it's something he really enjoys.
In turn, he sits through weekends with my parents and brother asking him stupid questions.
>>28996848
I do want to not get fucked
>>28997471
This has never happened to you, has it?
i want a gf pretty please
Honestly I think grand gestures like that are really cute, maybe just for things like valentines day or an anniversary?
But yeah, I agree with the others that usually it's best to just be very close and warm with someone you love.
why do grills like wearing their boyfriend's work shirts?
>>28997711
smells freaking amazing, feels comfy, makes me feel close to you and a bit like I belong to you, looks kind of cute.
>>28997700
Why do women get so upset if you forget anniversaries/her birthday?
>>28997769
Because it makes her feel like you don't care about her / your relationship together, and girls really really like feeling cared about.
>>28997769
How upset would you be if your parents forgot to buy you anime and videogames for your birthday?
>>28997814
The one common theme I've encountered from all women I've dated is that they "want to feel special".
>>28997837
My parents don't buy me anything for my birthday, my dad just gives me some money.
>>28996943
haha, only 2 weeks? I had to write one every other day... and she got me into gardening, which I still haven't shaken off. Still, got a nice bushel of Raspberries coming in august.
>>28997863
I've actually met a couple of fembots who are really into hand-written letters.
>>28997863
I'm sad to hear about your ex but that's freakin' adorable, anon.
>>28997841
Yes. This is correct.
It feels really weird being romantic with a non-white girl. Not sure why.
It only feels right if the girl is white.
>>28997863
2 weeks is an estimate. Its been 3 years since I left here.
Started with one every other day before you run out of stupid crap to say and run out of shit to copy and paste from google.
>>28997878
This is very bad
>>28997890
>I'm sad to hear about your ex but that's freakin' adorable, anon.
No it's very stupid
>>28997890
>Yes. This is correct.
What sort of special things do you enjoy?
Certain presents which, while not expensive, are very thoughtful?
>>28997878
The thing is I told her I liked to write, but she miscontrued my love of writing for "I love to write about me and my feelings and people around me." God it felt so narcissisitic to sit there and write hundreds of letters over a few years about how I was feeling to her and having to reaffirm my affections for her all the time.
She lived in a "The Notebook" fantasy.
>>28997932
>She lived in a "The Notebook" fantasy.
I know what you mean. Anons inexperienced with girls will think it's cute, and at first it is, but these girls are difficult to deal with. They become incredibly dependent on you and I'm someone who will keep a dead relationship going just because I worry about a girl's mental health.
Someone in this thread who is desperate for a man should be my girlfriend. I'll treat you well.
>>28997890
Oh no doubt she was qt. 5'2, ("and a half!" she always cried out when her taller family teased her) blonde blue eyes. loved the outdoors, actually genuinely hilarious and for better or worse, possessive of me.
Then it turned out she was an undiagnoised bi-polar disorder case, which I tried my best to help her through, but the relationship collapsed. Years after, she got treatment we made our peace but it was never going back to how it was. ;_;
>>28997924
Well, I got a sketchbook as a gift once, and it had a little note in the front saying something along the lines of
"I hope you can fill this sketchbook with lots of your pretty drawings! I like looking at them so much, don't put too much pressure on yourself to make them perfect every time, I think they're amazing."
Anyway it was kind of silly and cheesy but it made me cry soooo hard, I felt so happy that he listened to me and understood how I felt.
And he encouraged me even when I'd kind of given up on drawing.
So although the book was only $15 or so, the thought behind it made it a really priceless gift to me?
>>28997990
Goalsss
Why am I so tall and unblessed in the hair and eye department
man fuck genes
Fembots, do you consider a girl who a guy doesn't know IRL sending him nudes on Skype to be cheating?
Would you break up as a result?
>>28998102
Not cheating per se but definitely a breach of trust. It might not directly cause a break up but would surely contribute to one should something similar happen again.
>>28998102
I probably wouldn't break up over something like that, but it'd be a fight and then some tension for a while,
and we'd have to introduce some rules about the kinds of people he's talking to on Skype, and what we sharewith each other.
If he wouldn't be down to have that conversation with me or didn't seem sympathetic
>"I didn't do anything wrong!" "I don't even know her in real life, it doesn't -mean- anything!"
then it'd be time to move on.
>>28996585
>put this on
>be ready
sounds like a douchebag telling her what to do
>>28996585
My husband knows that I have some autistic tendencies and cannot handle surprises or sudden changes in schedule such as OP pic.
I guess understanding one another and acting accordingly is the most romantic thing.
>>28996790
>date best friend for 4 years
>love them
>break up
>have to choose between giving up my best friend or keeping my ex in my life and watching her move on to better things
dating your best friend is great but it puts a lot at stake
>>28998131
>>28998139
Pretty reasonable to be honest.
>>28998160
What's wrong with you?
>>28997724
So what you're telling me is the combined smell of oil, grease, and sweat is amazing?
>>28998200
one nothing wrong with me
two nothing wrong with me
reeeeeeeeee
>>28998244
I don't make the rules buddy, I just tell it like it is. It smells so freaking good, somehow.
>sweat is amazing
yes this is very true yes cute boy sweat yes
Girls. What should a guy do when you have one of those "I'm crying because of my period" moments?
>>28998297
Don't mention it. Let her cry herself through it - she's been doing it for years; she's used to it.
>>28996996
Is punching someone in the face not degrading? Most of the girls I've been with have been fine with degradation and insults, but scared of most kinds of pain.
>>28998280
>cute boy sweat yes.
Well I'm fucked
>>28997472
>hey anonette, I wanna go skiing
>Ok
>FUCKING ROASTIE REEEEEEEEEEEE
>>28998297
You can leave her alone, if you like, which is 0 boyfriend points but it's not losing you any either.
Sarcasm, telling her to get over it and every girl gets it, touching her, getting snappy, will all lose you boyfie points.
For added boyfie points please bring hot beverage of choice, cold water, pain medication, chocolate bar, romcom, blankets or pillows and ask her if she wants you to lie in bed next to her or if she wants to lie alone. I mean, any of the above would be really thoughtful and kind.
Just let her know you love her and be patient with her.
>>28997847
My parents forget my birthday usually
>>28998179
I understand this a lot. It's hard for me to do spontaneous romantic things because I like to have a plan set out for everything at least a week in advance.
>>28998346
Sweat caused by physical exertion generally smells better than sweat that accrues from stagnation and uncleanliness.
Also, the smells of the person you love are comforting.
>>28996585
>that pic
hhnnnnnngggg
ITT fags pretend to be fembots
>>28998421
so much this this is exactly the feeling yes
active-cute-work-boy smell is just about the best smell in the world
>>28996892
>>For reference, knifeplay, choking, whipping, punching, and most other kinds of violence are fine by me
Fuck off whore.
Pic related is bloody awful. I wouldn't like that at all. I do like getting or writing personal notes though. Or just cuddling. That's it actually.
>>28998446
Im oberweight, ugly, and have severe mental problems. Does it still count? Also sweat is still from physical exertion
>>28998426
Be my girlfriend please. I can make you happy.
>>28998446
How about gardening sweat? I do a lot of gardening at home and get sweaty from it.
>>28998357
Are you ok with a guy occasionally just spending an evening playing video games?
The way I do it with my girlfriend is: I'll cook for her and then retire to my PC for the evening, if I'm in that kind of mood.
![bald[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/BpaaVQ5.jpg "bald[1].jpg")
>>28998426
This is the guy behind it, still want him?
>>28998608
>women aren't allowed to have physical preferences
My boyfriend is slightly skinnyfat and really pale.
I still love him. You people will accuse any female of being shallow for even the most minor physical preferences.
>>28998534
>Pic related is bloody awful. I wouldn't like that at all
Why not? Do you feel like he's trying to buy you with his romantic gestures?
>>28998564
u just showed why u cant be her bf by asking in such a manner
>>28998577
I don't know, I haven't smelled cute boy gardening sweat. Sounds like it would be good though, like sweet kind of grass smell and cute boy warm t-shirt uhghghhh yes plis gibb
Is this still if I was crying and on my period? I guess it depends, I get mood swings from really insanely clingy to please-leave-me-alone, so in the former I'd want to cuddle up and watch, and in the latter I'd be fine eating my food and watching netflix alone.
If it's a normal day scenario, yeah, of course that's fine. Every now and then we all need our alone time, and it's healthy and good to take an evening away from your partner, as long as it isn't 'cause you're angry at them.
>>28998649
>>28996585
grill here, the op pic is obnoxious as fuck and makes me cringe. its like someone took the advice of neckbeard PUAs and applied it to a relationship. like no, taking advice from the internet on how to be alpha is literally the most beta thing you can do
>>28998649
Too pushy, I don't like going out for dinner. I don't want someone to buy expensive gifts for me, makes me feel guilty.
I would love to be with someone to be comfy at home with and just be happy with each other without all those gifts and stuff.
>>28998685
What do you consider a nice romantic gesture?
>>28996585
Why stop at buying her junk and telling her what to wear? A real man would put on her clothes for her, brush her teeth, change her bedpan so she doesn't have to walk all the way to the bathroom, etc.
>>28998685
im not into any pua related but i dont see how getting advice online is "beta"
people online are a lot more harsh and upfront which is a good thing and not everyone is surrounded by alpha chads that they can get help from. you kind of sound like a bitch just because a guy wants to improve himself to your kinds standards.
>>28998685
Why are you trying to shame a man doing something loving for his girlfriend/wife?
Bitch.
>>28998817
>people online are a lot more harsh and upfront
Except towards women, in which case they are ten times as shameless and fawning as usual.
>>28998826
same reason id shame a man for being a disgusting fat neckbeard NEET, its fucking pathetic and repulsive.
>>28998102
I would only consider it cheating if he'd FLIP THE FUCK OUT if you did the same. It's petty to begin with, but if he's hypocritical about it then it'd be a BIG FUCKING DEAL.
>>28998742
Not her, but for gifts, small things that reference something we have done together or something one of us has joked about is best. Thoughtfulness and sentiment are most important when it comes to romantic gestures, but "gestures" always fall flat to true, every day romance, which would include (like other girls have mentioned) cuddling, meaningful conversations, genuine feelings of comfort and love, etc.
>>28998846
lol you gonna be alone for a long time, cunt
>>28998643
So the answer is no then?
>>28998870
I would be fucking livid if my girlfriend did that with a guy she knew online.
>>28998846
>repulsive
There's nothing repulsive about it. Masculine women like you without a soft, romantic bone in their body are what's repulsive.
You are a man in a woman's body. Gross.
>>28998102
im a guy and im surprised at the responses to this post. obviously if you're getting nudes from someone on skype you're pursuing it them some ways and that seems completely inappropriate when you're in a relationship and if I cared about my girlfriend I wouldn't be able to do something like that. seems like im in the minority for that being total grounds for breaking up imo
>>28998918
I've received nudes from a lot of other girls, sexted and so on, but I've never actually physically cheated on a girl I've been dating.
>>28998942
What does this post prove other than you're a scumbag
>>28998942
yikes, and does your gf know about this? that sounds awful man
>>28998988
I don't do it anymore. I realize it was wrong but I don't want the fact I did it in the past to ruin the relationship I'm in.
>>28999003
She doesn't.
>>28998880
Best gift you've ever received?
>>28996585
I like it when my bf buys me food. I always think that's really sweet and nice. We both show each other love that way, but we're somehow both not fat yet. We probably buy each other food because we both know that we need to fucking eat. I like it when we actually spend time together and both enjoy it. I don't like extremely expensive gifts, either. I also don't like it when he asks permission to buy me a present... That's kinda weird and defeats the purpose, it's no longer a surprise. I don't know why he does that, I always tell him not to because money is tight anyways, but if he didn't ask me I wouldn't be able to tell him no and I'd enjoy the gift / gesture as long as it wasn't more than 40 dollars.
Anyways, as previous posters said, actually bonding and being playful with each other and good sex is the most important thing. If you're not having that then you feel like you're invested into a relationship for nothing... and you forget why you even love their ass, and why are you bothering ignoring other men's advances? Because the man you're paying attention to isn't paying attention to you...
..he's playing LoL...
This went from 0 to 60 real quick...
>>28996585
Did a chick write that to herself and post it? That handwriting looks way too feminine to be a male's. That outfit and accessories are tacky, and who the fuck has a cheetah print bedspread? Disgusting.
To answer the question, I'm an absolute sucker for movie-tier romance, but too much of it too often would be suffocating. I'm sappy and like the idea of doing cutesy, romantic shit for my bf/husbando, and spoiling him, buying him the occasional watch or whatever else he's interested in. I really love the idea of wining and dining a guy, but I feel a little weird about it because it's usually the men that wine and dine the women.
>>28999082
Trouble in a relationship you're in now?
I wouldn't put good sex at the top, that just means you're going to get used.
Women are too obsessed with sex these days to be honest.
>>28999082
>>
>Anyways, as previous posters said, actually bonding and being playful with each other and good sex is the most important thing.
haha this why would u even be with someone if he doesn't give you best sex u ever had??
>>28999108
I like sex, whether I orgasm or not. I get a rush of dopamine and comfort and a feeling of "love" and closeness from it. Sex isn't at the top but it does help a whole lot and can fill in the gaps in other areas of the relationship that aren't doing so well. That's the way it works for me, anyways.
>>28999179
>can fill in the gaps in other areas of the relationship that aren't doing so well
This is why you're doomed to be 30+ and childless.
Slutty.
>>28999146
Because sex isn't the most important factor, but it helps keep things together. The sex isn't bad, it's actually quite good and emotionally satisfying if we're both into it. It's not about the sex itself, it's the closeness that results from it.
>>28999197
How is wanting to have sex with one person and stay with them slutty?
>>28999241
Are you in the upper 5% of women so you actually deserve a Chad who stays with you or?
>>28999241
Robot logic. Everything you do will be construed as slutty, even being in a monogamous relationship.
>>28997174
Literally could not be better.
>>28998297
Let it happen.
>>28998102
Not cheating but would break up with him. I expect my partner to have no sexual interactions with anyone but me, even on the internet. If he'd just used porn sites to find naked girls that would have been fine since there is no personal connection.
>>28999256
I do not want Chad. I want my bf of 2 years and some change still, but with some literal change. He's trying the best he can for now, and I've been trying too. I just hope it consistently gets better and neither of us fall off track.
>>28999343
So you want your beta provider to turn into Chad magically, gotcha.
>>28999502
duh, best of both worlds
>>28997894
Are you white too anon?
>>28999738
Yup, very white. Why do you ask?
>>28999764
Just wondering if you were of another race but felt that white girls were more "pure" or something. Never mind then, that's just natural.
Hey guys if someone could add my skype and give me some sort of company during this time of loneliness I would be very thankful. I don't really care if you're a fembot or not.
skype name is kafkaesque6 please help me
I like unusual romantic things like, if I got a boyfriend I would like to taste his blood imo thats the epitome of romance
>>28999799
Are you female or male?
I agree non-white male obsession with white females is odd.
>>28996585
this shit is staged for instagram
>>28999999
linking myself
